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Hey guys so I have a bit of a dilemma.
I have turned 18 recently enough and have planned to have an 18th birthday party st a local bar. Quite a few people are attending. Around 100. Basically I think my friends have hired a stripper or a prostitute for it. I'm a Virgin and just find theses kind of things sleezy and do not want a bloody STD. Any advice on how I approach this situation.
I don't think you can hire a stripper, and definitely not a prostitute, for a public place like a bar. And you won't get an STD from either, since strippers won't fuck you and a hooker will make you use a condom.
>>16895685
strippres are fine, you dont fuck em. cant get an STD from a lap dance. whatever they get just say 'no thanks, but you guy senjoy'
chances are they havent actually done this you're all 18 yo
>>16895685
You can't get STDs from her butt
Godspeed
I know you guys like giving heartfelt advice and I need some.
> be me
> 17
> taking care of house, 6 and 7 year old siblings
> also taking care of 13 year old that comes from an abusive house
> have depression and anxiety like no other
> get overwhelmed
> parents don't come home from work until 8 pm and leave at 4 am
> have a mental breakdown
> attempt suicide
> mom finds out
> get hospitalized
> hospital is poppin with kids under 18, the youngest two are nine
> every five days a bunch are discharged even if their problem hasn't been fixed
> have birthday in hospital
> for most of them it was their second or third time being hospitalized
> two weeks later I get discharged
> I'm put on some small doses of lithium and lexipro
> they work for like five days
> older sister tells me that only weak people commit suicide
> her definition of "weak people" is "shouldn't have been born"
> timetodie.jpg
> mom constantly has me under watch
> somebody is always here
> months pass
> I get a counselor
> tell counselor that I feel like shit
> blood is tested
> my lithium level is 0.2 and I tested positive for RA
> fucking losing it
> call me therapist and she says I'm probably just not taking my meds
> she hangs up
> halfway through meds
> mom makes sure to order them
> therapist refuses to order more meds
> mom's pissed
> go to family doctor
> she uses her magic to get my meds
> I only have about ten days worth but it's still good
> today I'm seeing my therapist or one of her assistants
> forgot to mention that I've never really talked to or seen my therapist
> I'm hoping it's her
What should I do? We have a dog that sheds a lot so I want to take his hair and spread it around her office.
>>16895675 hum... What?
Brother you make 0 sense
This situation is ALL sorts of fucked up.
First, you don't need fucking pills to help your depression - these meds usually cause more harm than they do good. Depression - your depression - is very specifically a response to your stressful home environment.
What's worse is all this hospitalization, meds, extended stays, etc are probably going to make the home situation worse, rather than better. You need to treat the disease (your situation), not the symptom (depression).
What you should be doing is finding some sort of social network for support to help you take care of your family while your parents can't. Extended family, friends, whoever. It sounds negligent as fuck by this hospital staff to put you in the situation that you're in (unless you're still a danger to yourself, which, it does not seem like that's the case).
Go home, talk with your parents about your situation, find real solutions instead of pharmaceutical ones.
>>16895724
my parents aren't really here and each time I try to mention it just starts the same argument over and over again.My moms parents never cared for her and they find us as embarrassments. My dad stays away from his parents due to the fact that grandpa used to be an alcoholic. He's gotten better now and I really want to help but I'm afraid of dad. He's always been emotionally abusive and has come close to being physical. I really want to move out but I'm worried about the kids.
All in all I'm afraid of making it worse, so I just hope the meds will at least take the suicidal thoughts away.
How do you personally deal with this? Is anyone in a same boat?
I work in a company where I'm easily the youngest person of the permanent employees ( I'm 25 ). All my coworkers are at least 30 to 40 years older than me. I have nothing in common with these people. I have active social life and act quite normal within my social circle, but as soon as I hit work it's like entering bizarro world where you can not even understand 'standard' humor.
I don't speak to anyone at work, tend to take all breaks only with myself and refuse to discuss anything else, but work-related stuff. People there generally have started to think I'm total asshole, but I rather be alone than listen fucking retarded baby boomer sheltered conversation and TV soap fucking opera analyzes.
>>16895659
Most of the days I just keep going thinking that most of them will be dead or retired within 10-20 years.
I have a similar experience with my current workplace. The way I deal with it is mostly by pretending to be shy/awkward so my co-workers won't necessarily dislike me if I don't participate in their bullshit chats. Unfortunately within the last year two of the people I actually liked have left. I only really discuss work-related things with my co-workers.
At this point I've been there about a year and a half, and most of my co-workers seem to understand that I don't really want to have a conversation with them.
Also, avoid work social events (obviously).
If you're a normal person, you can work around age gaps. My coworkers range from a few years younger than me to about 40 years older than me. I have no problem getting along with any of them. Same with the organisation I volunteer for, where the majority of other volunteers are retired.
I'm not even the most extroverted person in the world either, I'm actually pretty introverted. I like make an effort to get along with people I have to work with, because it's best for everyone involved, and it's lonely if I don't. People think you're an asshole, because you are an asshole. It's not them, it's you.
So this is the second time I try zoloft for depression and anxiety. I took 25mg and at the second week I felt an increase in mood and the depression needless to say decreased immensly. The following week however brought me back to depression but a lesser form. I called my Doctor and he said up the dose by 25mg. I did that but the same happend to me and I am in the 3rd week of 50mg. This is fucking frustrating and idk why the medicine is not relieving the depression altogether. P.S Zoloft blunts my emotions a bit
Not sure why this is happening, but have you tried adding lifestyle changes? Excercise, sunlight, hobby you enjoy? I know doctors start you out at ridiculously low amounts, so it could be that you just need more. Or maybe you need a different type. I'm sure if you talk to your doctor he can help. Best of luck to you. Depression sucks.
>>16895638
Zoloft did not relieve my depression, but made a gigantic difference in my ability to my let the things people say to me affect me. Like if someone was screaming in my face, I previously would have broke down as gone silent, but instead it gave me the mental clarity to keep calm and defend myself (or just smile to their face and tell them they it bother me, which was a genuine response).
There is no magic anti-depression pill, OP. The medication is supposed to make you feel "okay enough" to be able to start working on your depression on your own.
Btw I used to take 150 mg at my highest but currently am down to 75 which makes me functional. I will have some really, really bad days but I have not been non-functioning since I was started on my initial 100mg dose two years ago.
If it matters, I was previously on Lexapro (20 mg for three years) that had bizarre side effects. It would make me start laughing when I wasn't actually happy or found something funy. It was a weird, uncontrollable physical response. And it didnt't help my mood. It made me not feel emotiona at all. So I was basically a laughing robot. So compared to that, Zoloft seems pretty helpful for me personally since it does seem to do it's job at the right dose. The only Zoloft side effects I've experienced are slight loss of appetite and tongue-tiedness (yes, look it up, some people on Zoloft experience difficulty speaking when on higher doses) and although that can get weird sometimes, I just take new effort to speak a bit more slowly and enunciate better and people pretty much ride it off as shyness on my part. And not many people experience that. I'm just one of the unlucky ones. But again, it's a good trade off considering my body responds to this med well.
Good luck, OP. Don't lose hope. You might need to adjust your dose with your doctor, and never expect a pill to do the work of alleviating your depression for you. You need to be mindful of your own thought processes and recovery.
>Zoloft blunts my emotions a bit
This happens with most of the antidepressants.
Lifeboat exercise /adv/
Ship is sinking. There is one life boat to fill that can only contain six members of your boat.
You are captaion, you decide who lives
>medical doctor
>CEO of a drug company
>Barber
>a scout
>chef
>wheelchair vet
>accountant
>teacher
>Octomum
>85 year old
>Nurse
>15 year old crack addict
Go
Sink the boat. Either we all live or no one does, it's what Jesus would do.
Is a hamburger a sandwich?
I would put all hamburgers on this boat only if they're not sandwiches.
one for myself, obviously - and then I'd auction off the remaining seats to the highest bidder.
>not being a capitalist
>saving women and children
>2016
Actually, I'd never let octomom on regardless of how much money she had. guess I'm a socialist after all!
I made out with this girl last month and cuddled/slept together (no sex). Afterwards we started spending a lot of time together and kind of became best friends. I will meet her boyfriend in about 2 hours in a pub and I don't feel so good about this.
>>16895605
For some reason my post got cut in half.
So the question is, how should I play this?
>>16895605
>meet her boyfriend
nice b8
>>16895613
Something serious please, I could use some advice. I don't know whether I can keep my cool or not.
Okay /adv/, I request your help.
So I'm 19 years old in college and I have this chick that I really like and I feel like I have a good chance with her but I was already turned down once by her. Heres the story though.
>College stuff, party ect.
>Mid year, this girl starts to hang with my group of friends
>Shes kinda bigger, but I'm into that, plus shes beautiful
>We start to talk a ton
>We hang out in the same situations and such, I guess she starts to understand the type of guy I am
>I'm very immature and joke a lot and take a lot of things and put them into jokes. I make people laugh, but in that I seem very immature and such.
>Over break, I decide to tell her I got a little crush on her.
>she turns me down due to her "having too much on her plate blah blah" it was a friendzone.
>friend tells me she woulda gave me a chance if I wasn't so forward and wasn't so immature
>time passes, second semester, we start talking again
>some dude asks her on a date
>she talks to me about it and is all excited
>she gets friendzoned back and is now so upset
>I offered to hang out with her more and distract her
>I want her so badly.
So yeah thats basically whats going on. I have been listening to her problems and have been providing advice and moral support. I have also been showing the side of me that doesn't come out much, which is my more sensitive and deep thinking side. She tells me a lot how good of a friend I am and how much she appreciates me.
What are my chances of possibly just waiting a bit before her thing with that guy blows over and me asking her on a formal date (instead of telling her I have a crush). I'm really hung up on her.
TLDR: I liked girl, we talk a lot, i tell girl, girl said nah your too immature and im busy ect. Girl get friendzoned, wants to get closer to me, I want to ask her on a date now.
>>16895582
I don't see you having any chances at all, mate.
No indication that she's even remotely interested in you in "that way".
Drop the bitch, you have no chance. Go put your dick in another girl to get over it.
>>16895596
>>16895601
Ight. Points taken. I guess I have another question.
Her best friend is super duper into me and wants to fuck but I was restraining because I liked her. Should I now go fuck her bff now?
Hey /adv/, junior in high school here (turned 18 a couple of days ago) and I have a question about applying for colleges.
I have a pretty decent GPA, around a 4.0 weighted, and I was planning on applying to somewhat elite, but not totally unreleastic schools. If I don't make it in to any of them I would go to community college for two years and reapply to the same schools as well as some more releastic ones. I really don't mind going to community college because of money and family reasons, so that's not an issue. But I'm afraid there's still stuff I'm not taking into consideration.
Is my decision wise? Am I doing the right thing?
>>16895569
This is pretty much my plan too. Community college probably won't be necessary for you with a 4.0 GPA, especially if you can apply for FAFSA or one of those organizations.
education is a waste of time in the current system, which is primarily designed to take money from students (and their parents) and leave you in debt so you'll be desperate enough to settle for being a wageslave all your life.
There aren't really many better options, though, so if you have some specific job you want to go into, then pursue it through education. But I'd first look outside of school for a path into the field (you can always get your education later, most of my friends got their degrees while already working for the job they were getting their degree for)
What are your non-educational opportunities?
>>16895592
Eh well I'd say mine has quite a bit of emphasis on education. I'm thinking about something like civil engineering or some other math/physics/bio related subject. I'm good with computers also so there's some opportunity in that in maybe learning coding or some 3D modeling.
I'm not all too aware of non-educational and extracurricular stuff, I'm working on it, so I don't know all too much about stuff I can do outside of school yet.
Hey, weird problem I guess.
I have this weird paranoia about my girlfriend getting pregnant. I really don't want kids, she doesn't know if she does or not. We're doing four different types of contraceptives (Condom, spermacide, brith control, pulling out) Which sounds excessive but she doesn't believe in abortion. Not having that 100% gurantee that no kids will be born keeps me from wanting to have sex with my girlfriend. It's been 2-3 weeks since we had sex last and she's had her period but she wants to have sex again this weekend and I can feel the anxiety coming back.
What do I do about this? I'll be here if you need me to elaborate. I'm not the best at expressing myself.
>>16895567
Its almost like the penis was designed to get women pregnant
>>16895567
You're both paranoid about it because you guys keep thinking about it. You guys keep thinking about it because you both have a latent pregnancy fetish. Not the kind where she actually gets pregnant, but the kind where you "knock her up" without her getting preggo, aka a creampie fetish.
Skip the spermicide and the condoms, flush her pills, and blow a glorious, risky, unsafe load in her cunt. Do it multiple times for maximum fun. Then go to your local pharmacy, pick her up a plan B for around 40 dollars, make sure she doesn't throw it up, and enjoy her not being pregnant while you both discover the hottest sex there is.
A lot of women love getting creampied
>>16895567
Go get a fucking vasectomy.
There is really nothing you can do other than dump your girl and find one who is ok with abortion. Maybe you should get some Xanax and stop being a huge pussy.
hello /adv/, technical question here:
Lets say I'm trying to upgrade my toaster's graphics to a VR-capable state. What is the cheapest dual-card setup I could run that would have equivalent performance with the GTX 970/R9 290X?
>>16895542
Dual card solutions are not cost-effective
Just get a non-reference model high-tier card
>fighting with girlfriend because I ignored her for two days because I'm terrible at talking and sharing how I feel
>she comes over we talk and she starts crying so I hold her
>talk for another 30mins more talk more holding her while she weeps
>eventually I say it would be easier if I jump off a bridge
> she gets defensive saying all the stuff I'd miss out on
Then she says
> you don't actually feel like that do you
I tried to say something but when I opened my mouth I couldn't speak and I burst in to tears
And she was the one who had to hold me
> I didn't think I was that broken I told her how could somebody love me when I can't even love myself
It was an eye opening day for me
This isn't facebook. What exactly is the advice you want?
>>16895527
Nice blog faggot
what's the actual problem here?
I mean you tell us you're sad and you're communicating it with your girlfriend, and that's good, but you're glossing over what the issues are.
One of the options under "Loan Forgiveness and Discharge" that my student loan company lists is "death".
Should I do it? I'm unemployed, and probably going to default.
>>16895506
Alternatively, fake your death and move to Morocco
>>16895514
do you think that's far enough?
do it faggot
I am torn bewteen loving two women at the same time and i don't know what to do.
First off, i'll explain my situation in the last few weeks.
I spent a weeks vacation with my gf with my family. They really liked her, and that made me happy. I also lived at her place for a week after that. Now comes the complicated part: This monday she left for a camping trip and i cheated on her with my best friend.
I fucking cheated and i feel like a piece of shit
They are both great women, and they both make me very happy.
My gf is my first gf. I entered a relationship at a time of great loneliness and emtional distress. I could say i kind of rushed into it. Also i met her on tinder, and it's starting to show. Our personalities are lacking in compatibility, most of our time spent together is either watching movies, playing vidya, having sex or sleeping.
Then there's my best friend. I am convinced i will never find a woman with which i share as many interests and a personality in general. I genuinly believe me and her are soul mates. Me and her have been "joking" about raising a family together for a long time. And on monday she told me that she's always been in love with me. That she wants me, and is jealous of my girlfriend.
I feel like a fucking piece of shit for cheating on my gf, and i know it's wrong. I am a young horndog and i was drunk at the time. It doesn't excuse anything though.
My main concern is that i'll ruin my gf's emotional life. I don't want her to be sad. And i don't know how to break it off in a proper way. It's tearing my heart out and i'm hating myself.
I need help here. I am falling apart.
>>16895505
choose one. its not going to be easy but you will lose both of them unless you choose. i was in an affair with a married women, she loved me and her husband. She was torn between me and her husband as you have probably guess. She wasn't really happy with her husband, he was abusive and distant with her, however she felt sorry for him because he was abused as a child.
I suggest choosing the one that makes you happy. Dont stay with someone because you feel sorry for them, you will be living a lie.
>>16895531
Thanks dude
My friend makes me more happy than my gf currently does. I just have all these memories and moments of pure joy with my gf stuck in my head
But i do not think me and her will be together in 5 years time. On the other hand, me and my friend have expressed thoughts about that sort of future for years before i met my gf
I just don't want to hurt her, and if i tell her i cheated i will ruin her probably for a long time.
It's her birthday in just 8 days....
>>16895547
Don't tell her you cheated. Just break it off
How often should I masturbate to keep strong erections? I jerk off 1-2 times a day, and they never feel solid enough. Should I cut back to once a week?
good luck with that
>>16895496
Never really. Ive been doing no fap 2016 and my erections are pretty good with no stimulation other than my imagination. So I know if I were to touch my penis it would be diamonds.
n o f a p i s t h e w a y o f t h e f u t u r e