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>>16901748

>I know I should see a psychologist, and I'm going to start seeing one on campus week after next, after Spring break, but do you have any other tips for me?

No.

You and everyone else. It's not even a mystery - things get exponentially harder for less and less tangible improvement/gain. You also start coming up against your natural limits, and the requirements to specialize. Specializing takes up a lot of time, sometimes what seems like your whole life, suddenly a lot more is on the line, and you don't know if you want to commit, especially given the effort and the questionable reward. It's easier to just step back.

The answer seems to be that you need to just pick something, though after careful consideration, and focus on those things. There are exceptional people throughout history who can excel in various fields, but most just don't fall into that category.

>>16901748
Have you ever sat down and learned how to practice? Because, what I'm getting from this isn't that you're insecure, but that you don't know how to systematically approach developing a skill. Most people's conception is simply repeat an action until you get it, or slow it down if you're having particular trouble. There's no getting around practice, but you can get more out of it.
>Block out time
Find a consistent time to practice something. Even if it's 30 minutes. Set aside a chunk of time where you will have no interruptions, or distractions. When you feel your brain start to wander off and go to other things, you need to force it to focus on the task at hand, because when you make those kinds of demands on your brain, you're telling it "hey, this is important. Pay attention"
>Take things slow
This is important, but there's more to practice than just this.
>Break things down
Usually, tasks are a few skills piled on top of each other. If you can break things down step by step, and rehearse one part at a time, or one aspect of it, instead of trying to do the whole thing in one go, you'll see more progress.
>Set goals
If you set tangible goals, you'll see tangible results. Let's take a card trick for example. Maybe your goal could be to do the entire trick from memory. Maybe the goal for the next practice session would be to do it without any hesitations, or maybe your goal is to practice cutting the deck perfectly even four times in a row
>Come back to old skills
Foundations are important. Even when you've practiced a skill, and got it down, you need to come back to it. You can start off a practice session by going over what you learned the previous day, and if you got it, move on to your next goal, and maybe three or four days, check back in and see if you still got it. Seeing new skills built, and being able to retain old skills helps keep motivation, and also keeps you from having to relearn things when you move onto more advanced stuff

>>16901927
One more thing: if you can, find someone who will help hold you accountable, and keep you motivated. You're going to be told to do things for yourself, but having someone there to appreciate your hard work is always nice and keeps you motivated to continue on

>>16901730

Status and being exceptional at things.

>>16901736

P.S. Irl it's a lot more complicated than that. Irl most successful people you will meet lucked into it one way or another. That doesn't mean they didn't work hard or couldn't have fucked it up, but there is usually a clear chain of circumstances that most people will try to retroactively take credit for, though it wasn't initially much of a conscious decision.

>>16901726
Is her name "Lux?"

( I will continue here) so... all my life I have been a complete failure in everything I've done, I've been harassed, and also I feel like a completely useless, I had only one love affair In my 18 years and was ephemeral and empty
(I will continue here) so ... all my life I have Been a complete failure in everything I've done, I 've been harassed, and also I feel like a completely useless, i had only one love affair In my 18 years and was ephemeral and empty, I am currently in college, but I feel unmotivated and I have no courage to live, I don't find meaning in my life, (I forgot to mention I'm bulimic too)

>>16901769
what would you like to be?

>>16901700
Bandaid

tattoo!

>>16901700
sleeve

You're a twat

>>16901703
No, I'm not. A jobless count? Absolutely.

>>16901727
Nah you just seem like a twat
Pretty sure I can sum you up in 5 sentences

>>16901689
Grape.

>>16901692
shes gonna grape him in the mouth

Grace

>>16901684
Damn that ass. You've got a really nice big ass more than me. Jealous

>>16901702

It's not me in the pic. Are you a guy or a girl?

>>16901672

Worksafe board, dipshit.

>>16901672
Nothing wrong with it.

Most people can't handle it but only you know your relationship well enough

>>16901655
What kind of girl asking this kind of question? About yhe sex life of a guy she never met? If so i guess you shouldn't lie about it,tell her the whole truth. She kust comes to you for fuck apparently.

>>16901663
This is a liability, I'll never tell anyone

>>16901655
tell her you used to hook up occasionally but it wasnt fulfilling so you stopped.

>>16901642

You can always get your illusion shattered. Do it, it will be good for you.

>>16901650

More so is from what friends notice, not really my own perception

Should have mentioned, I am more so asking about how I should go about asking her.... As I am stupidly awkward socially

dude... what? hahaha most girls nowadays are on BC, which is great for you since it implies no condom and the anti depresents mean she'll be chill

Antidepressants do not necessarily effect your sex drive. It really depends on the person, and the drug.

They can make it very difficult to orgasm, though.

>>16901595

I know a guy who is like 5'5 or something and gets mad cute girls. They are all short Asians though, but still. Take that as you will.

Yes. My husband has never dated lower than an 8/10 in his life and he 6'4". My brother has never dated lower than a 9/10 and he 6'7".

So do it for all the stupid bitches out there who go under the knife every day just to please you faggots.

>>16901604
Funny thing is, Asian girls are the only ones that talk to me. I think I might take the plunge. Thanks anoy!

>>16901587

Double major in accounting and CPA.

Don't do it.

...accounting.

dont do it. do something in tech that is where the money is.... and the financial stability for that matter.

>>16901570

1. Exercise.
2. Spend a lot of time solving problems (actual problems).
3. Study and learn a lot of information to make up for your IQ with crystallized intelligence.
4. As a rule, learning chess, a new language, or an instrument will increase IQ by about 5 points and stave off age-related decline.

P.S.

Come at me:
http://en.lichess.org/cBjXoA1Z

P.S.S.

I don't really recommend learning chess OR another language unless you are really young or have your life together.

read wikipedia
watch mental floss
bookmark pol
become atheist

>>16901554
If anything, that's a crazy red flag

>>16901559
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>>16901559

he's probably going through a tough time and just using you, a stranger, to unload on. i'd say it's most likely just the timing, but also think it's a little inappropriate for the first time talking to someone.

you either ignore him or change the subject but keep in mind he's probably going to use you to unload emotionally on again.