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no, you arent crazy

That's nice of you, i think he will appreciate that.

>>16900791
The gift is nice.

Get a new bag. It isn't middle of winter and you're at a formal. Go get a season-appropriate purse.

>>16900790
Save as much of your part time earnings as possible and purchase a junker car for about a grand ASAP. Cut back on school hours and take more work hours if you can't make it otherwise. Sorry, shit sucks. Life gets tough like that sometimes. Gotta give up other things and take on different things to make ends meet.

What's wrong with your car? If you're a mechanic in training you should at least be able to diagnose the issue.

Do you have zipcars nearby? Can you uber?

Never trust biscum

>Two Approaches:

>The noncreative one.

>try to talk to her about it.
If you have a good relationship with her, talking this out might be the right decision.

Find out if her friends are bi or even homo, then talk to her about them. If she loves/likes you dearly, then she will open herself to you and be sincere.

>The Creative Approach:

>try to have a threesome.
If she gets attracted to the other girl, then try to have a triple relationship. Date two girls at the same time, with their consent, and their love, while they date you, and each other.
...
>if the sex is great, imagine it double. With passion instead of jealousy, things will be great.

And finally..:
>just because she's bi, doesn't mean she's a bitch.
She might have gotten it out of the closet with you because she thinks you should know this, because she loves and trusts you.

>>16900840
Never trust biscum

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>>16900716
We sharin' mixtapes senpai?

https://soundcloud.com/lordsizzle/sets/the-numerous-aromas-of-lord

Check out my debut album.

>>>/mu/

>>16900716
Otter Creek had good athmosphere, but it didn't build up to anything. This seems to be a problem with all of your songs though. Also, get rid of those random gangsta "yo" sounds and cringy gunshots. Under the Sea would be better if the ambient sounds wouldn't be cut so randomly. And that "trap" or whatever drum beat just plain sucks. Go for something basic and effective.

Summon brain, you need it more

>>16900687
how do you even know its real? was thinking about getting into black magic/occult a while back but decided against it, i didnt want to waste my time studying something that could be bs.

>>16900687
>>>/x/

>>16900647
>she's so useless and poor she can't afford to move out and support herself

Try not to be so desperate, and you won't have to ask 4chan if your ideas are bad or not.

If she lives with her ex boyfriend, chances are she's relatively safe to remain there for the time being (unless they've had a huge fall out).

Why not see how things go and end things if she asks to move in?

I don't know, I guess I'm afraid to real commitment

Don't try to change your passion. That never works. Besides, you don't have to.

Instead, accept that, like most musicians, you need a day job. Pick a job you enjoy, and continue pursuing your passion -music- as a hobby. Let it recharge you for your job (because we all need to be recharged for our jobs from time to time), and let the job you enjoy recharge you for your music. This is how to stave off burnout.

>>16900773
A day job of course. I get by quite well working at a grocery store but I want to have nicer things and the money to support a family someday. For that I'd need a career, which takes hard work and dedication, finite resources that I feel more comfortable devoting to my hobby.

>>16900641
I can't tell you what you should do. Whether you go down the music path or not is up to you.

Here's the thing: if you want a career in music, then music cannot be a "hobby." People mean well when they say make it a hobby, but that's an incredibly insulting view of it. It can't be a hobby; it needs to be your job. Wherever you work in the meantime to make an income, that's your second job. If you want a job in music, you gotta treat it like one. Make connections, find venues, make tracks to sell, learn how to make a professional looking portfolio. Cultivate the image you want to sell. If you're working at nightclubs, you probably don't want to have your portfolio picture be of you in a business suit.

This is all IF you want to pursue music as a career. If you find that it's not for you, that's fine.

>>16900635

no. just stop worrying. she will likely never bring this up to anyone ever again.

Does she have aspergers? Serious question.

>>16900635
Well nah I don't think she'll tell her friends, but yeah true about the creep part.
I'm like her. I don't like being touched. I'm going to be honest here: you really fucked up and this is going to probably take a very long time to fix. Keep your distance from now on or else she'll just find you more and more repulsive. Don't get too physically close to her and keep your hands in your pockets or something so no accidents happen. Be a bit more reserved so that she can see you're sorry and are trying to make up for being (what she believes is) "overly familiar".

>>16900633

>is my dad a bad person
>spend the rest of the post talking about why YOU are a bad person

it depends on your definition of a 'bad person'. there are so many different definitions and contexts even in modern times. if your dad hasnt gone out to physically harm someone who didnt deserve it, its hard to judge.

we all live off the tears and sweat of slaves. does directly hurting someones 'feelings' really tip the scale? is being a bad authority figure the same as being a bad person?

we dont know. we dont care. its strictly up to you to decide and what to do with it.

You had a bad influence in your life which helped shape who you are now. But you right now are perpetuating that. While he definitely contributed, you cannot blame him for your actions in the present.

You want to blame your dad because you have a reason for it and it's more comfortable than feeling like you did something wrong. People naturally want to place the blame on someone else because fessing up to the fact that your behavior was shitty is a damn hard thing to do. But it's still something that you need to do if you want to be a mature person. You need to take responsibility for your actions.

You've made good progress, you're starting to see that your behavior wasn't right and feeling bad for what you did. Embrace that. We are capable of self-reflection and self-improvement.

I say do both. You've already taken the first step, now you just have to continue it.

>Is my dad a bad person
Yes
>am I a bad person
Yes

>>16900631

anything but the third one. 'can i take you' asks like you are asking permission. thats like starting the conversation with 'sorry if this is creepy, but you wanna go on a date?'

act like its creepy, or act like you need her permission to ask her out, and you will get a bum rap. id try to take the question out of the scenario all together.

people think aggressive means being a dick, but it doesn't. instead of saying
>wanna grab a coffee?
its more of a
>we should get coffee this weekend. are you free friday?

operating under the assumption that shes interested helps. it doesnt guarantee anything. nothing does.

the big question is what kind of basis are you on with her? have you talked before? are you able to go up to her and strike a conversation? if not you gotta build your way up. you can do that in one conversation.

but walking up and just asking to go out to coffee is weird. go up, say hi, talk about what you just studied, try to make a REAL convo, then cut it short 'shoot i gotta get to class' or 'shoot i gotta go play some epic frisbee'

followed by a 'we should hangout sometime. you free on saturday? lets grab some coffee.'

>>16900659
Thank you for the advice.
We've had a bunch of conversations, and she smiles when she sees me.
She laughs at my jokes, and we sorta gravitate towards the same group when we're workshopping.

>>16900671

nice. so yeah just go and strike up a bit of a talk, and cut it short. its a good way to get her.

GANBATTE.

>...but it looks a bit like this
What did he mean by this?

>>16900590
Fuck that nigga. He was using you.
I can't tell you how long it'll take for you get over this guy but it'll pass.

>>16900590
Using you X2, Find better friends.

I'm trying to get over it but still I sometimes wonder about it. Maybe I needed to get it off my chest or something. Another thing I missed is that my other friends think we still hang out but they don't know about this... I'll just tell them the truth, I guess

>>16900578
Sadly, let him and his family grieve. You're not married so you're not obliged to him or his family. Seems toe regards and that's it.
It's going to hurt him more if you stick around.

Should be fine. I'm on the pill and have had my boyfriend cum inside and never ended up pregnant. Don't worry about it.

>>16900559
If she's taking the pill correctly, you should be fine. Just don't do that again because you can't know for sure if a girl is doing it right (or is even truthfully on it at all).

>>16900559
If she took all her pills like she should, no.
Make sure she keeps taking them at the same time of the day, doesn't feel sick, doesn't take other drugs, etc.
With the pill, you DO NOT ovulate. It is rare to get pregnant while you're on the pill if you use it well.

You should read something about sex ed before fucking, man.