So, I have become very lost with myself. I don't know what to do. My ambitions for life have taken a giant shit. I have had problems in life like adhd, mother abuse (physical, mental, and emotional) I just turned 23, I have a minor depressive attitude but, deal with it every now and then. When I can't deal with it I sink my face in youtube videos of philosophy. I have a very open mind about everything that goes on in the world and is probably the least judgmental person ever. I allow myself to bask in ideas that make my mind stimulate and approach ideas for life. I just never know how to start or what to do. I don't have much money nor a very great structure for myself to start anywhere. Should I possibly run away? Leave my life behind? I just wonder if there is more to my life than being stuck in a house under circumstances I don't want to be in. It is my life right.. I should be allowed to do the things that make me happy and it seems like you cannot do those things anymore.. I am wondering maybe I am not fit to live the life I am living.. I would love to go anywhere and everywhere but, this day and age you need cash to do anything.. Is there anyone who has left their life and it has changed for the greater good?
Diagnosis : Depression
Where does that leave me? Should I go get help from a psychologist? I don't want to become dependent on drugs or pills which I currently never do.. I barely even take Tylenol... Is there really something out there that could help? I have been thinking of joining the national guard.. of all things at least they will force me to do something and I am one to do as one says so its not a problem.. I just have no idea anymore..
One of my classmates from first semester wanted to be video game friends, but I never actually messaged him once the class ended. It's been like 3 months, what's a good opener?
>>16901327
>Hey bro, it's me, Anon. I kinda forgot you existed for a few months but I just remembered and thought I'd text you. Wanna come over to smoke some dank and play games?
After a pretty good first date last week (no kiss but we got along quite well) I was trying to set up a 2nd date this weekend but was getting a weird feeling about it prior to this text. Would you say that this is the nail in the coffin for that whole situation?
Yep.
>>16901323
yeah it felt like it. kind of relieving desu, the whole situation was making me real anxious
>>16901330
*t b h not desu
My fiance and I (male) had a kind of rough start to our relationship. Mostly her sleeping around in the beginning of our relationship before things were fully defined between us. However, we made it past that point and it has been fine for many years.
Lately she's been really stressed out about what she want to do for the rest of here life and has been taking it out on me. Usually it just turns into screaming so loud that her voice cracks, but sometimes she gets physical (I refuse to fight back). A few weeks ago, she got really upset about something not even related to me and ended up cracking one of my ribs with a kick. She has been really apologetic since then trying to make up for it, but yesterday got peeved and slapped me. It's been bringing up a lot of the bad memories from the beginning of our relationship.
Do I wait for her to find direction in her life and the old her to return or do I call of the engagement and throw away five years?
>>16901298
Do you honestly think she'll change? If the genders were reversed everyone would tell you to leave. How can you be with someone who physically assaults you?
Better yet, how can you be with someone who sleeps around?
your significant other should support you not physically hurt you
It is not ok for her to hit you. Have self respect.
Don't marry her. She is psychotic. You will regret it I promise.
Hopefully someone can help me on this.
My little sister and I haven't been on the best of terms lately. This past summer she worked with me, and was generally kind of an asshole. She would ignore me, talk to other people really excitedly, and basically used me as a prop.
I decided that I've had enough of her taking me for granted, so I decided that I'm going to use the PUA technique called the freeze out, where you show no affection to somebody until they basically become so desperate for your attention that they do what you want.
This isn't working too well unfortunately: I was driving her home and she basically started crying and accused me of not caring about her anymore.
What should I do /adv/?
Working with and spending so much time with your sister sounds kind of weird to me.
Maybe you are a little too close to her?
Making her cry by not showing affection towards her?
This is a weird reaction imho.
I had lot's of fights with my sister but never did anyone cry because of this.
>>16901332
I don't know. It's all kind of weird.
I also was trying to get our younger brothers in on it, and getting them to ignore her, but I suspect they told her because she said something about turning our little brothers against her.
>>16901289
>the freeze out
nigga what the fuck its called the cold shoulder and its existed a lot longer than any pua bullshit
Anyone else got this problem?
>>16901280
Yeah, it's a problem that comes with the System 32 virus
>>16901287
>delete system 32
Whoa,it's like I'm back in 2006!
>>16901280
bump
I'm a 22 year old girl and I pee myself routinely. I have a weak bladder and I wear diapers most of the day.
Is this a deal breaker for guys?
the diaper fetish is real tho
but for a lot lf guys, yes
dont open with it
have you seeked help with it? why do you pee yourself? is it a result of a medical issue? can it rly not be helped?
>>16901279
Captain, I'm picking up a disturbing amount of piss fetishists about to post in this thread
Did you try doing kegels?
I've known this girl for awhile and I'd say we're pretty good friends. We flirt quite a bit with eachother and touch etc...
I'm looking to get into a relationship with her but is it possible to skip the "dating phase" and move straight into the relationship phase?
Why the need? Just take things slow, anon.
>>16901316
should have mentioned it in the OP but she's moving to another university (instate) in the next 10 weeks
>>16901352
Why not instead just have the best 10 weeks with her as you possibly can then let her move on with uni. Historically speaking the distance doesn't work so don't try to foolishly lock her down. Just go for that grease summer live type of thing.
Is a condom with lube and knowing how to put it on enough?
Pic unrelated
>>16901269
yes, however you might want to try the ultra thin ones as they feel a lot better.
>>16901272
What about ENZ condoms?
>>16901275
Haven't tried but most quality condoms are fit for the job and relatively safe when used correctly.
It's more about finding the one that feels best for you after that so don't be afraid to experiment.
Just make sure it's on when you're about to come as they might occasionally slip a bit if you can't maintain full erection throughout the act.
Also if you come inside her while wearing the condom be sure to grab it from the base when you're pulling out to make sure it wont slip off and leak.
After failing countless times, I've become pretty pessimistic to the idea that I'll ever be able to create substantial change in my life. I'm not pursuing anything grand, I just want to pull my life back together and commit to routines of exercise, healthy eating, learning, skill acquisition and discipline. How do I sum up the willpower and motivation to try and pursue change once more when I'm so tired of letting myself down? How do I convince myself that this time won't be like every other?
>>16901267
>Step 1: Stop coming to 4chan
>Step 2: Go to Step 1
I post the same videos everyday to every single faggot that comes here asking the same question.
Guess what, you and other hundreds of thousands of fags feel the same, big fucking surprise.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D00atlIwwPw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yx0moKyWoW8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMnMp-d5pKs
Chances are you already know what you have to do but are procrastinating here. Wait, did I say chances? No, fuck that. You ALREADY KNOW what to do. Thats a given.
>>16901378
This.
Also, stop throwing words like discipline and motivation around if they don't mean anything to you. Nobody can talk about these things like they are easily acquired, but this is a lifestyle change. You must change almost everything about yourself to transition to this type of growth mindset. Look up growth mindset if you are not able to come up with your own definition, and read up about it.
I used to be a very reserved person until I made this change, and it changed me from a shy, anxious person to a very self-confident one who isn't really afraid of any sort of failure or rejection.
The best approach is to just accept that you are going to fail a fuckton. I can't express this enough. You are going to fuck up and fail. You will also make bad decisions, and you must accept that you will make mistakes. However, you must learn from them, change your approach, and keep trying.
Find what you are talented in and work on it. If you aren't naturally talented in anything then work hard and put in effort into something until you become good at what you do.
Speak to people who have qualities that you want and ask questions that will give you insight into what their mindset, thought processes, and lifestyle is like in order to decide whether something is really for you.
Want to get in better shape and get better eating habits? Go to the gym and talk to people who are in shape or a personal trainer if you can. Want to put more effort into learning? Study more and talk to people who are knowledgeable in subjects that you want to improve in. Ask questions.
However, despite all of these things, the most important thing is to accept failure, and relish it. I appreciate my failures as much as I enjoy my successes, because it keeps me from getting a big head and teaches me how I can improve in what I do. Be willing to try new things, even if they are completely unfamiliar to you.
Is it too cliche to name your son after your father?
>>16901255
If you'r father is/was a remarkable person in your life I don't think there's really a problem. If it bothers you twist it a bit and simply give him your fathers middle name.
>>16901255
No, as long as you aren't a nigger or a spic
It's only cliche if your father has a cliched name.
Everytime a girlfriend of mine opens up to me emotionally I become disinterested completely. What in the hell is wrong with me? Is that intimacy issues?
>>16901247
No it means your'e a man.
>>16901247
WHAT ARE THE ODDS?
>>16901247
Kiss and a long hug a day keeps indifference away.
Just went out to lunch with a girl I like and got home. Should I text her "thanks for coming to lunch/hanging out" or is that too clingy? We spent like 5 hours together
5 hours is a long time man
give her time to think it all over, same goes for you too.
if you both enjoyed each others company im sure she'll be glad to get back to you
>>16901239
I think just a "Thank you,I had a really good time today" just fine. Do not say it in a too "formal" way. Do not send that like cause it does really sounds clingy. You should text her around a day after that date,but don't text her like two or three days later,if you text her few days later you better making another date than just a "thank you". Good luck.
Did you tell her you were a whore over lunch?
I'm honestly pretty distraught, I'm not getting matches on tinder. I know I'm not blacklisted because I've gotten four over the last month, but...really? I'm definitely not ugly, I'll post pics later in the thread if necessary. I know most of the chicks in my area wouldn't like my style, but not ugly by any means.
Is tinder known, especially recently, for doing things like making your profile appear less? I'm seeing girls on there that would strip on omegle for me, so I know some shit is going on here. Not trying to sound douchey, it's been a long semester so far and I am going through a dry patch since my last hookup back in like early January
>>16901236
Just ask people out in person pussy
>>16901241
Do you know where I'm from? It sounds like you don't do that much, because I do it just as much as the area I live in would allow me without being bitched out by basic bitches
>>16901236
Work on your profile picture and description. Try to make them different, interesting and playful.
Be sure to check some of the Tinder do's and don'ts when it comes to profiles as they might help you fix some of the more common problems with profiles.
In college rn. Got back from spring break and decided to take the Monday return day off. Turns out I dun goofed and missed a midterm exam and it's 20% of my grade. My teacher said he could only let me do a makeup exam if I had viable excuse like a doctor's note or something; doesn't really matter just wants to avoid having his higher ups ride him. So the hunt for a doctor's note was on. Tried the two clinic's by me. One couldn't and one wouldn't. So what's another way to get a viable excuse note for a missing a college class? The only other thing I can think of is a religious note but idunno.
there's the classic 'my grandmother died' or my cat died' excuse.
honestly though the rules exist exactly so that people can't get around them easily.