Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 5945. page

>>16903872
Keep the idea open in the back of your mind that she might have been born a man...

>>16903908
thanks anon, will do.

>>16903865

You want help because...you might someday be stalked, even though it hasn't come close to happening to you yet?

that's some pathetic wishful thinking there, dude.

>>16903865
>browses 4chan

Stop right there

>>16903873
Yes. Poor me. I demand pity. I'm getting advice for just in case, I've heard she bad stuff. She's hitting on me, I'm just trying to be proactive

>>16903863

Sounds like you just need to move on, man. With time, you'll realize that there's two types of people in this world: People who look for excuses for their problems, and people who look for solutions. The first type of person tends to pretty much stay stuck in one place, so if you're the second type of person, you're eventually gonna have to leave them behind when you're ready to go places.

I know that's cliche shit, but it's true. Some people just don't want to change because it's too much work, and as you grow up you'll find less and less space in your life for that type of negative shit

>>16903881
yeah, if I do go back to school (which i'm like pretty damn sure I am, I make good money now but I want to make more and have a career) I'm gonna have to cut these people off. When you start looking down on people for having a career and starting a family to the point where you talk all edgy about how people having kids aren't living their lives correctly, I no longer really have time for you. If you don't want or agree with that lifestyle thats completely fine, but when you live like a 12 year old man child, thats just assinine.

>>16903905

Yeah I feel you. Everyone gets fucked over by life sometimes, but you can tell someone's hopeless when they just want to drag everyone else down with them, instead of building themselves back up

It's on him, at this point. Maybe someday he'll change and pull his shit together. But yeah until that day comes there's no reason to put up with that shit

>>16903843
You're in high school, none of this fucking matters. At all. Fuck whoever you want. Nothing you do will last longer than a year.

But, you're a shitbag for going behind your girlfriend's back like this. You'd feel like shit if she was doing the same thing. Don't do this kind of bullshit. You're going to bargain and reason with yourself that it's okay, but it isn't. You'll form horrid habits and keep doing it down the road, ruining people's self esteem and trust along the way. So knock it off. Want someone? Be single first.

thanks bud, soooo it doesn't matter at all, but I'll ruin someone forever

>>16903854
Your high school relationships don't matter, dumbshit. None of them. People matter.

Telling yourself it's okay to be a cheating asshole is not okay. Those behaviors last longer than high school relationships.

>>16903829
>i like a lesbian girl who wants to be a straight but she's a little bit confused


That's not how homosexuality works. At all.

Cut your losses and invest your time in someone who is sure of their sexuality.

>>16903829
Thirsty/10

>>16903829
>so, i like a lesbian girl who wants to be a straight but she's a little bit confused.

What other anon said here,

>>16903836
>That's not how homosexuality works. At all.

Let my tell you about something similar:

My best friend is gay. Somewhere towards the start, we started hooking up at one point, and at the time i (and probably she) thought it was casual sex. But as time went on, she started dropping more and more jokes about being a couple, saying how it'd make both our parents happy, and stuff like that. One night she just awkwardly pushes me off and basically asks if we can start over, if we could try for dating.

We're both pretty tispy and not at all sure if she's serious and just take it as a joke, and we have sex. The next morning I revisit the topic and she instantly changes the subject and too quickly, too nervously tells me she was just kidding.

It was at that moment it hit me that what was going on was she was questioning her own sexuality.

She'd been through a pretty rough time of it before she met me.

She's a pretty introverted person, that has problems trusting people. She lost her dad pretty young, had lost all her friends recently during a bad break up with her ex, had nearly died in a car accident that left her hospitalized and forced her to move back back with her mom for the first time since high school. A mom who tried to understand, but was always awkward and was skittish about her being gay every since she came out.

And I was her only real friend. I was quickly becoming one of he closest friends she'd ever had, and that was something she'd always, always yearned for growing up--a friend with which she could share everything with.

And that reality hit me that week while I was mulling things over.

Do you actually want to kill yourself or is it just a lingering thought that's in the back of your head? If it's the latter, it's nothing to worry about.

If it's the latter, it usually happens because of something similar to this:
>One day random thought about suicide thought appears in your mind
>You make a conscious note of it and go "Don't think about that". Or anything similar to you trying to stop thinking about it
>Because of ironic rebounding and you trying to suppress the thought it comes back stronger each time
>Because you suppressed and it still came back you get the impression that it's something you really want to do

How do you counter it? Let the thought in and objectively analyse it. Do you really want to kill yourself? And then point out reasons why you wouldn't and how there's no logical reason for you to want to, and then brush it off as bullshit.

>>16903846
Actually, the thought is exciting, I start to think about what could possibly be after death, what fun ways I could use to kill myself and start smiling like an idiot because of it. I think i'm just being stuipid.

Anyway i'll try to let the thought in and analyze it like you said, thanks for the advice.

>>16903892
jeez that sounds awesome, just slip into the afterlife with no regrets and all and with no other reason than to see what's on the other side

fuck you op now im having suicidal thoughts too

You kind of have to fail at a couple relationships to learn to think like that. Or have some personal project you care about as much as your SO.

>>16903824

I have a relatively busy life, more than one long term relationship and I have a good job. I thought I was past all this but I'm clearly not.

Thank you for your response anyway, anon.

>>16903813
OP you and me are the same. When I have a chance at a relationship I end up retarding out and freak if her out.
Life is good in all other aspects.
I think the solution might be to not say much and not try to keep doing things to impress her.
It's hard though cause of the overanalysing.
Ps.. I think I just fucked up chances with the first girl I've really liked in two years. Feel like shrinking away into obscurity from her so I don't embarrass myself more.

Could somebody help me out please?

Wait till someone actually interests you enough to feel like you should take action.
If the current ones doesnt make you feel that way, then either they arent your type, or you are jaded as fuck.

It happpened to me recently as well, spent one and a half year alone since my last breakup.
Only in the last two months did the urge come back to get to know someone new.
Since then, i was on a few dates, and it looks like im back in the game. Just take your time anon, and it will sort itself out.

Short answer: Eat below your maintenance

Long answer: Go to /fit/, read sticky.

5 small meals instead of 3 big ones. Sport activity of your liking once a week for 2 hours at least.

Should work if your meaning of "little weight" isn't 20 kilos or more.

There's no easy shortcut, but it's not complicated.

Regiment your diet. Consistently work out.

It's really that simple. It's just a pain in the ass to actually do

Dedicate yourself, or don't.

What specifically do you hate about yourself?

>>16903787
the way i look, act, react and generally think.

Oh, this is the thread I was looking for.

>>16903744
>WALL OF TEXT

tl:dr or greentext.

just some advice.

uhhh your friend sounds like a psycho

well,if he looks at messages then you should writte him and tell him what you are thinking and you are worry. But you only can help him if he want to help himself. *bad english*

bump, no body?

Audacity

Actually, any good video recording programs, too? Good quality, so not fraps

>>16903724
your younger brother is more mature than you.

>>16903745 op here

amirite though? He doesn't know about the malice of life and he wants to help old ladies walk the street while holding her groceries. Gross Amirite?

I'm not tryinna be rude be he posts on 9gag and he says he believes in the power of love. Isn't that a frog-face-shit-eater-edgy-bald-faced faggot? Amirite?

Help me bros.

>>16903745
/thread
Go post this on /b/ OP.

I should also acknowledge the usual advice I get thrown at me like "Do well now or your regret it later when you have to get qualifications alongside shit work" or something to that effect. I appreciate this, but you have to understand that I can't really think that way considering there is no future me to regret not doing well. I could die tomorrow or some shit. I'm not really trying to get out of working harder, it's just hard for things like that to motivate me when it's just some arbitrary, vague, meaningless idea of the future

>>16903728

Can't help you on this topic in general because I have no idea what the UK is like at all

But I'm in my late 20's and know that almost every single kid who thinks that really does grow up, look back half a decade/a decade later, and wonder, what the fuck? Why did I waste so much time? I should have just sucked it up and finished my schooling (I speak from personal experience and from knowing other people in similar situations).

Hedge your bets.

>>16903728
What do you want out of your life?
What would that demand from you?
Will a university education make it easier to land a job on the field you seek?
Can you get the scholarships? (They give them to those capable enough anyways)

These questions may be the ones you need to ask.

What >>16903753 said also is important. Your attitude may help you or make you sink.

>>16903713
Too hard to judge with that little info.

That you haven't been a turbovirgin for long enough.

>>16903721
The Virgin cycle goes
>reject girls out of spite
>accept anything that moves
>reject girls out of apathy

OP sounds like he's on step 3