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Friend is Retarded with Money 2016-03-11 22:04:48 Post No.16904249
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2016-03-11 22:04:48
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Hi /adv/:
One of my friends runs a fairly successful lawn care business with two of his friends; he operates in an affluent zip code with lots of big homes with expansive lawns, so he has pretty much an endless supply of high-paying clients. Business is booming. The problem isn't how much money he makes; it's what he does with it that bothers me.
My friend does not trust banks. At all. He's 25, almost 26 and he has never opened a savings account, let alone a 401k or anything like that. He has a checking account, but only so he can accept checks and credit cards as payment and to pay his employees. Otherwise, as soon as a payment is received, he withdraws it in cash. In his opinion, any money that's not physical cash is "fake" and he likes to have his money "where he can see it" instead of trusting a bank or credit union. To this end, he has a locker in his house that contains, at any given time, between $20,000 and $30,000 in cash. He pays his bills in cash, or writes a check when he absolutely has to. He makes all his purchases in cash. If he wants to buy something online, he has another friend do it and then repays him in cash. Whenever we go out he goes to his safe and just takes a brick of money out and carries it around everywhere; he claims he never has less than $400 in cash on his person. He buys tons of useless shit and plays up the rich asshole persona to the letter. I've tried explaining to him that money kept in a bank is insured by the government and that it's much safer in an account than in his house, but he just sighs and laments that I've "fallen for the scam." The money isn't even in a proper safe, it's literally just an old school locker kept in plain view secured with a padlock, meaning anyone with some bolt cutters from Home Depot could rob him of his entire life savings. The thing isn't even secured to the floor, so actually someone could just walk in and carry it out and worry about cracking it later.
How do I knock some sense into him?
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I like him. Leave him be, it's his life.
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>money kept in a bank is insured by the government
this is true. It's also ACCESSIBLE by the government if he has any loans, debts, unpaid taxes, child support, etc etc.
I mean he sounds like a douche, don't get me wrong
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>>16904249
>meaning anyone with some bolt cutters from Home Depot could rob him of his entire life savings.
Where does this guy live OP? I bet I could have a talk with him about it.
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Ok I need help,
>Bullied through highschool bad childhood ect
>Start uni
>Nobody knows me, fuck yeah!
>New confidence, hold head high funniest in class, teach loves me
>Be mature, smart kind to others going good, getting compliments
>There's a QT in my class, I want to get to know her
>Chat a few times
>Size of class, it's rare we sit closely together. she is always close to me, but just a bit too far to chat
>She leaves class uses her phone a lot, looks at ground
>Other students always get in the way so I can't walk out with her
How can I make casual chit chat to her when we're leaving class??
The last time I approached a girl I walk up from behind and waved my arms around, so I am worried I'll repeat it.
I'm a total aspie and she seems to like me and I want to get to know her
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>>16904247
Just start talking. And walk out with her.
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Say I manage to get a classmate's number. What are the chances that she's interested? I feel like I just got it cause we're classmates seeing as how I'm not really date material at all, not to mention the fact that I've got a bunch of other numbers from classmates (though those are all guys).
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>>16904241
She must be at least a bit interested if she gave you her number, but you won't know till you ask her out.
Just ask her out, what's the worst that could happen?
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>>16904290
I guess you're right. I've just been hesitant to try due to a lack of success.
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>>16904290
>She must be at least a bit interested if she gave you her number,
And that's the exact line of thinking that leads to so many dudes on here crying foul.
You said it yourself anon, classmates is a valid reason to give numbers. Hell, I'm a dude and I give out my number even when I'm not interested, because fuck it, why not?
> but you won't know till you ask her out.
>Just ask her out, what's the worst that could happen?
I do agree with that part though.
Nothing ventured nothing gained.
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So I've gone through a recent gauntlet of job interviews and so far I've gotten five offers. I'm not exactly sure which one to take as they all sort of appeal to me:
>Environmental field tech
>small company, 16ish an hour, basically I would go out in the field and test for asbestos
>Regulatory Associate
>middle sized company, 15 an hour, desk job where I just tell the customer what's in their product
>Lab tech
>Massive company, 17 an hour, it's like right next to my house but I really fucking hate working in labs
>Tech applications scientist
>huge company, 19 an hour, essentially I'd trouble shoot issues for customers but again I don't really like lab lab work
>Mircobio tech
>tiny company, 13 an hour (part time until may), essentially someone would bring in samples and I'd test them for so many bacteria in the sample
I recently quit my other job at an other bio company because I really didn't enjoy it so I'd like some advice before I jump into another job.
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Two questions:
1. which one has the better career prospects?
2. which one is what you want to do with your life?
Ways to stop looking at porn?
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2016-03-11 21:47:44
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>>16904180
close your eyes
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1. Stop going to the 4chan boards that have lots of porn.
2. Stop looking at pictures of girls online, even if its not porn. It's a slippery slope that leads to you eventually looking at porn
3. Whenever you feel like looking at porn just go rub one out.
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I've suddenly taken a dislike to a lot of my friends. Is this a normal thing in your early twenties? I'll have fun with them for a while, but then a thought will just hit me of "I don't even like most of these people, they're really mean, etc." It's happening to one of my friend's especially, I can't even stand being around him.
Advice on how to deal with these thoughts, cut friends out of your life gracefully, finding new friends, etc.
Maybe I'm just changing.
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>>16904167
You don't so much "cut them out" as much as you just get new friends. Simply stop going to activities with them. Stop talking to them. Focus your time and energy into meeting new people. Be your own person. The sooner you become comfortable by yourself, the less you'll care if you're losing anything by growing out of your old friends.
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>>16904167
We all go through that constantly to be honest. Life changes, your priorities change, the circumstances you deal with most change. People come and people go, it's natural. If you came to the point that you really don't see any other options than to cut the ties, do it, but do it with dignity. Straight up telling them all the stuff will only get things worse. Parting ways with people is the most hard thing to do because none of us handle rejection well. I agree with >>16904172 that you need to focus on yourself, but before making any actions think about how would you feel if somebody you cared about did things the way you plan to do it. They were your friends and it would be better they remembered you for all the good things that you had together instead of how you handled the goodbye.
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>>16904167
I went through a similar thing when I was 18/19. I kinda just got sick of hanging around with them and realised that they're actually douchebags that never made the effort to keep in contact when we finished high school.
I've ended up just cutting them out of my life pretty much. It was quite hard at first but I've pretty much gotten over it and have made new friends at uni that are actually decent people.
Like >>16904172 and >>16904213 said. Be yourself and focus on meeting new people that accept you for that. They're true friends.
Hey so I think depression is creeping up on me again. I just don't feel as happy anymore and I'm really quick to anger.
I really don't want to be medicated again so what are some things I can do to naturally be happy?
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>>16904141
Masturbate
Think of things that you appreciate, every day
Don't isolate yourself; talk to people, your loved ones if you have those, new people for a change
Write little to-do-lists of even mundane tasks and try to complete them by a given time
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Medication can actually be really helpful. It's kind of a pain but it's better than being depressed.
You can always go to therapy and see if that alone will make a difference, but it doesn't always.
Finding a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
Finding a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
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>>16904141
If you're quick to anger, it means you aren't depressed.
Depression is the crushing of all emotions.
You feel like a shell.
Anger is a real thing.
If you can feel real volatile anger, then you aren't depressed.
Sad maybe.
Disappointed, maybe.
But not depressed
Depression is when you wake up and see life as a rerun of an old Adam Sandler movie.
Have you ever felt such indifference?
That's depression..
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I've decided I'm going to tell my crush how I feel about her. I want to stress I am NOT asking her out. Not yet at least. However, it may be hard to find a good time since we're both kind of busy and don't always have a lot of time to talk. My mother has suggested simply texting her to tell her how I feel, but I really hate that idea. I'm worried I'll come off as cowardly if I tell her over text, and thus I'd much rather tell her in person. What do you think, /adv/?
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>>16904136
do it in person.
oh and find the right time to ask them out. i didn't.
-_- i regret not waiting
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>>16904136
Tell us the results later today, OP. I am intrigued to know.
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>>16904217
OP here. Sadly I won't have a good time to talk to her until at least tomorrow. But I'll try and post on /adv/ what happens when it does. It might be tomorrow, it might be next week, I don't know when I'll have a good opportunity, but I'll let you guys know what happens when it does.
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How is working for Wall Street? Is it true that working for it is pure hell? Second year in mechanical engineering, and I'm motivated a lot by money. I'm thinking of trying for a big corporation like Boeing, or Lockheed Martin. Does anyone know a good route for a MechE?
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>>16904131
>Boeing
I work for Boeing, though in a marketing capacity. I can tell you that the company is fantastic. Corporate structure is very strong, rewards justly and managers are collaborative with employees. I work at the Seattle/Everett division. You won't find a better state to live in than WA.
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>>16904140
Noice, if I'm lucky, I'll be able to work in the aerospace industry at Boeing. But, I live one the east coast and there aren't any Boeings over here.
I'm thinking of taking LSD tomorrow. I've taken 50 mics and had very little response(Or it wasnt LSD which is unlikely due to good supplier).
I'm thinking of taking 200 mics tomorrow but not sure if it's a good idea or not.
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sure, seems fine. Just make sure you have a sitter to watch you.
..and if it tastes of anything spit it. 25I-NBOMe is horrible stuff.
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Go with 150. You will notice it for sure if it really is 150ug. I personally think that 200ug on someone who hasnt experienced much of a trip can turn into a way worse experience. Play it safe, no hurries.
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I want to make my ex cry. You see, we were together for a couple of years, then apart from one another due to visas... and she secretly got married, all the while telling me she still loved me. It's been a couple of months since I found out and now I'm finally feeling angrier than I do sad. I want to send her a message that makes her really bawl when she wakes up and reads it, so her brand new husband asks her why and she has to admit what happened.
All I've got is this, but it seems a bit emo:
>I want you to know how you made me feel. My heart breaks a little more every time I think of you, and everything makes me think of you. You can't imagine how much you hurt me. I can't believe you didn't care.I used to go to work every day and think it was a step closer to being able to able to earn enough so we could marry and you could stay in the UK. Now I don't know why I go. You were all of my dreams, and now I have none left. You'll never know how that feels, because you don't care enough. The girl I loved, whom I thought cared about me, is gone. She doesn't exist any more. To me, it's like she died. And you're the one who killed her.
Any suggestions?
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It seems like she was using you to get a visa and found that she didn't like you enough to go through with it? Did she marry someone from your country? If this is the case the liklihood of her caring about your feelings is low, tell her you had a "sleeping" or host STI that you didn't tell her about when you were dating, she'll freak out and get tested, something her new husband will probably find out about.
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>>16904097
Sending her anything will only show her that she still can get a hold on you. Learned from experience, don't do shit. Bitch's not worth the time.
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It's a bad idea and it loses you the high ground. What will give her a deeper, achieve sadness is if you never talk to her again. In a few months, maybe years, she'll remember you and try to rekindle something casually. Give her nothing. Act as though you two never happened, like she never existed. If you let her know she got to you like your faggy message she won't give a rats ass. Give her nothing.
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Alright, help me out bros.
Ever since I've gotten slightly bigger (still just dyel) some girls (not very good looking) start to seem interested in me & i feel like I can eat the world.
And there is this one girl, 3-4 years older than me who is in my class & usually hangs out with the other girls who I really wanna tenderly kiss & turn into my gf.
I'm friends with most of her girl friends but I don't know how to transition from "hey did you do that form last week?" to "hey i think you're good looking, wanna hang out?"
Any tips for a man in need?
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try to ask your target separately from her circle of friends
people are assholes in crowds
so even if she turns you down, it won't be as embarrassing and soul crushing
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>meet bf online, it's kind of long distance, we meet maybe twice a month
>most of our get-togethers are just chilling at his place and sex (he lives with his brother and his brother's wife so yeah)
>the dates he plans usually involve his friends/co-workers
>he asks me if i want to plan the date this time, so i happily oblige
>really want to spend some time with bf alone, since we never really get any alone time
>ask bf if he wants to go to the aquarium with me as a date
>he really wants to go, never been there, would be his first time
>think this is an awesome opportunity for us to do some cutesy stuff and make memories
>bf ends up talking about this date with some of his friends
>now his friends want to tag along with us
would it be rude of me to ask him to tell his friends not to come? it's kind of sticky, since according to my bf, they're the ones who kind of invited themselves. (which my bf seems to have no problem with)
or should i just let this one go, and plan another date with him that i specifically specify that i'd like to spend time alone with him?
his friends are alright people, but my bf usually gets caught up talking to them about their workplace gossip. something i can't really relate to or join in on.
in any case, it's something i'll be addressing with him... just trying to figure out my plans for the moment though.
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Just tell him that you like his friends, but he did tell you you could plan the date, and you rarely get to see him so want to spend some alone time with him.
That's not at all unreasonable
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>>16904086
>bf
>online
>a few dates
Just how fat and autistic are you?
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>>16904090
thanks, i was scared i might appear like i don't like his friends and want to exclude them or something... i still want to make a good impression on his friends, i know how important they are to him.
>>16904091
neither actually. mostly our schedules make it hard for us to see each other. he works graveyard shifts, i'm a full time student. we're usually both exhausted so we opt to just chill and have sex. dates are when we both have the time and the energy to go somewhere nice. plus it's been pretty cold out, but with the weather warming up, i'm hoping we can go on more dates.
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How do I stop romanticizing things and having the "grass is greener on the other side" way of thinking?
>NEET while romanticizing what it must be like to work and take the good with the bad
>romanticize rural living
>not close to family and wish I had family to be close to like Asian friends
>romanticize big city living, wish I lived somewhere like Tokyo
It goes on and on.
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>>16904069
Actually go to college for stem and then go live and work in Tokyo and then retire and go to the rural side
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>>16904082
You forgot:
>get married to Japanese woman and be close to her family
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I want a date tonight or tomorrow. I don't want sex. Just a date.
Where do I go right now to meet girls? It's spring break and nobody's around but I'm still in town looking for someone to spend my Friday Night with. Normally, I can pick up girls through my regular life, like class or work or church, etc. But when I feel... intentional... I don't know where to go.
Advice?
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>>16904046
If there is nobody around where do you expect us to send you?
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>>16904046
Tinder. Say you just want someone to hang with this weekend, no hookups.
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