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I should be able to work this out because I'm a postgrad psychology student, but I don't know whether I'm depressed or have something else wrong with me.
It all started 3 years ago when I got dumped. I had the typical reaction which is similar to depression - loss of appetite, difficulty sleeping, loss of motivation, and frequently being upset. Naturally this passed over time, but I was still suffering and I turned to philosophy to try and understand what was happening to me (I know that makes me sound like an edgy teenager, but hey, it's what I did). I managed to get enough insight to not feel the emotional pain so much, but also reached a series of conclusions that made me think a happy life is only possible if you deliberately 'live a lie'. I don't want to explain this too deeply in case I convince anyone (it's not a fun mindset), but basically it comes from the fact that I don't believe in God, patriotism, eternal love, or any of the things that people use to give their lives 'meaning'. And so I live a life with no purpose.
And so my days pass and I don't feel as sad as I used to, but I still feel completely unsatisfied with my life, disappointed that I'm not able to connect with any real sense of enjoyment, and I think my state of mind is entirely logical (if unhealthy). I can't imagine any future circumstances that would make me happy, at least while I have this mindset (and I can't change it, because I believe it's logical). I can still laugh and joke with friends, and still go to the gym daily and get high grades out of habit, but I don't really enjoy anything I do. I have occasional suicidal thoughts but no intention of acting on them - life just sort of goes on, whether I like it or not.
So do you think I'm depressed, or is it something else? Any advice greatly appreciated.
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Same here.
Can't enjoy anything. I do things I don't want to do and I don't really have a target in my life - day after day I get more tired with being a cynical fuck who just hates everything in this world.
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Sucks. Do you feel like you've got depression, or is it something else?
also, bump
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>a girl dumped me
>i turned to philosophy to try and understand what was happening to me
>i know thats edgy, but this next part isnt:
>TO BE HAPPY YOU HAVE TO LIVE A LIE
>i dont believe in literal fairytales, SO I LIVE A LIFE WITH NO PURPOSE
maybe try existentialism. the concepts vary, but its essentially boils down to two ideas
>life is inherently meaningless
>nothing is pre determined (we have choice)
therefore, it is our choices that give our lives meaning. when we pretend we dont have any choices, we stop being human and start being 'tools' that an indifferent universe uses to carry out its intricate plan.
I was with a guy who went behind my back to try and be with another girl during our relationship. He refused to try to make what we had work, I wanted to put more effort into it, try and fix things, and he just will not have it. The break up came out of nowhere, the day before we broke up he called me 'baby' and said that he could wait for me, he never talked about how he really felt or his concerns... I had to pry the truth out of him. Eventually he told me that if he would be with me, then he would just be settling. I was second best.
He still wants to be friends because, well, I'm a good friend. I'm not stupid, I know what my assets are. I'm too loyal for my own good. I don't think it's fair that he gets what he wants without even considering what I want, but I'm still a stupid bitch. I still love the person who loved me and I don't want to lose him. He knows I still love him, he doesn't care. It hurts, all the angst, the usual.
I've been trying to figure out why he doesn't love me anymore and he says that there's no reason. It just 'happened'. We've been constantly fighting over this for two months, now, ever since the break up. I've been trying to make sense of things and he just shuts me down, telling me that it's stupid to think that way. He expects me to just deal with losing the love of my life, and he can't even deal with me thinking a certain way. It's not like I'm searching for some life-altering event, I just think that certain factors might have led to this and the only thing he gives me is just 'nope im not in love with you anymore just because'. I'm just trying to find peace with this and it's like he can't allow that. He can't stand me thinking a certain way.
Am I being stupid? Am I making too much out of this, taking this too harshly? Or is this whole thing just fucked, and should I bail out now? How many of you are still friends with your ex?
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I haven't seen it work out with exes before but maybe someone else has. I don't think there's a lot of luck with something like that.
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Lol absolutely not. A new start for you.
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>>16915574
>Am I being stupid?
Yes.
> is this whole thing just fucked, and should I bail out now?
Yes.
This whole thing was fucked from the start--or rather, from your end as a couple--and trying to be friends would never work out.
Closure is a myth.
Get out, move on, live your life. That is how you get "closure". Not by scrambling to try to find a why--you will never get one and it will just keep sucking you back in.
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okay guys im back to do another small questions thread. if you have a question that you think is too small or not important enough for its own thread ask it in here and ill do my best to respond to everyone.
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How do do a home run with a girl? (Straight sex)
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First of all you have to get her phone number. You work on her until she is wet enough and then you ask her to meet. Then you bring her to your house and she will be horny enough to fuck with you
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are college certificates worth much? i'm trying to finish an AAS and found that i can squeeze in a certificate on the side. it's not too much extra work but it still is a bit of time and cash that i rather not spend if i don't need to.
the two that I need for the cert are at some inconvenient time slots(late night or other weekdays i'm not at school meaning more driving and expenses) but at the same time, more is better right?
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I started dating a guy, and he keeps asking me out but I hate going out.
I said yes once and we went to some cafe and it was okay I didn't die obviously but I would have way more fun eating at home.
My idea of fun is going on a run/hike together or going to a nice park, or staying home and playing video games...
I really don't like going out to restaurants/bars/karaoke things, especially if it's a "date" it just makes me uncomfortable. Yes I have social anxiety but I was treated for it and now it's not as bad.
I don't want to be a bitch to the guy and just say no to everything he suggests though...
What to do?
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Jesus, you are a female version of me and I hate you.
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There's nothing bitchy about making your own suggestions in place of his. It only sucks when your date shoots down an idea *and then offers no ideas of their own.*
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Those sound like legitimate date activities...just suggest them.
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I'm Mexican and my girlfriend is a Trump supporter. 2016-03-14 15:59:25 Post No.16915197
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I'm Mexican and my girlfriend is a Trump supporter.
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So my girlfriend has recently started becoming involved in politics, and has really become a fan of Donald Trump. She says that too much Mexican immigration is ruining the country and that we need a wall to keep the "dirty wetbacks" out. The catch is, I'm actually of Mexican heritage (I'm a chicano), but don't look like it as I am more white. She also doesn't know because we've never discussed our ethni c makeup.
What should I do? I feel somewhat offended but I've been dating this girl for six months.
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if you are passing for white shut up
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Tell her. Tell her that you're an X gen immigrant.
Likely she will respond (well you know better) that you're an exception or every X gen immigrants are different. A state had to control it's borders or something.
Regardless I question her sanity as a Trump supporter unless she's not seeing the political environment in the US to be the problem.
Trump has said many times its not about the ethnicity. It's the nature of the immigration. He puts it poorly but it's not hard to get that that's what he means.
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Uncontrolled immigration does ruin a country. Just aks if that is the only reason why she supports him and let her think about the bad sides of him as president.
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have a female friend trying to make me overhear she's seeing someone but wont really tell me that when i ask what she's doing
Overheard her say to a friend that the friend shouldn't have told me that she found someone
Is planning on dropping that guy
She overheard a bro and i talking about chicks who were into me
Wtf
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This is the most high school shit I've ever read. Let's get some god damn confrontations going on ffs
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>>16914355
1) learn how to english
2) come back and make a coherent post
3) profit
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>>16914375
What kinda confrontation?
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Drunk
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What is a good name for a man who loves or is in touch with nature? Preferably a name that is uncommon, unique, or is rather old. The type of man who is a free spirit who roams around barefoot and fancy free through the woods?
Please help me out /adv//
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Darwin.
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Christopher
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Is it possible to be happily married to a guy with kids? 2016-03-14 03:38:18 Post No.16913551
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Is it possible to be happily married to a guy with kids?
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People tend to dislike single people with kids/baggage. They point out that he will always have some sort of contact with his ex, his ex will probably say nasty stuff about you behind your back, chances are the kids will dislike you as they will think of you as stealing their dadd's attention, the kids will always be his priority, and you will just become a member of an incomplete family.
Is it possible to be happily married to a guy with kids?
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Bump
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>>16913551
Possible? Yes. Less likely than normal? Yes.
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>>16913863
Let me rephrase this then. Is it IMPROBABLE to be happily married to a guy with kids?
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i got her number she didnt get mine
I texted her and she texted back
Is this a good start?
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Next time this question comes up, don't ask someone else if this is a good thing.
Tell yourself "Fuck yeah, they dig me"
It seems retarded, but this sort of cocky confidence will alleviate nervousness, make you more playful/ fun to chat with, and make you stick out from the crowd of other "unsure guys"
Women very much don't like unsure guys, so always jump to the positive assumption every time.
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>>16906675
Not OP but I needed to hear this, thanks. I get really insecure because the girl I'm talking to is far beyond my attractiveness and I always feel like she is just replying to me to not be mean. One time I jokingly said something about bugging her all the time and she said "you don't bug me :)" I still wasn't even able to take that as a compliment lol. But yeah I will try this.
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>>16906675
What question?
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
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So I have a female friend who's gone through a lot of stuff. Something like 3 months ago her grandmother died, and she basically spent the night at my place and I tried to comfort her while she kept crying. Throw in a bunch of inheritance drama on top of that.
She rebounded in the next couple of days for the most part, but I still see her crack now and then. I'm not really sure what I should be doing here. Is it a good idea to even try to broach the topic?
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>>16922178
There's not really a good answer for this, because people react in different ways. You could try asking her how she's doing the next time you see her cracking. She might say she doesn't want to talk about it, or she might appreciate you showing you care. If she's a very good friend, you could make her a care package (with tea and relaxing things), but she might get the impression you like her.
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I'm a male turning 20 this month, I've recently come to understand a lot about taking care of my body and confidence and all sorts of shit that should better me as a person. I believe I'm relatively attractive or at the very least without a terribly unattractive, eye catching flaw. I'm 6'1 155ish (+/-2lbs).
I'm not concerned with learning how to talk to women or get in their pants, I think I can handle that. I just need to know where I can go to meet women close to my age that isn't "go to concerts other expensive shit", I'm not willing to spend $90 to go to some venue alone and finger some slut or get head in the bathroom, I want to meet women. I also live in the middle of fucking nowhere, though I have truck, not living in a city makes this real fucking difficult proposition. So femanons, where would I go to meet you and what is a good ice breaker for that situation at hand?
I've gotten a lot of numbers from girls behind the counter of fast food and some stores, but I want something less generic and time to talk before I'm asking for digits. I've thought about grocery stores (seems like I might come off a bit creepy if I go about it wrong), bookstores and libraries but have gone to none specifically with the intent of meeting women.
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We're here for you
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Why do you keep doing this
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>>16918063
Because I love you guys
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When was the Women of The World Convention that had the meeting during the which you decided that I was unlovable? How many votes were for, how many against?
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Get it off your chest 2016-03-13 08:13:54 Post No.16910208
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Watch your mouth, damn it. You vampire.
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All vampires are MADE, not born. And so I was made and so I am.
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I know I can't please everyone, and probably make others mad at me.
But I never thought that you, that I consider as good friend, talk shit behind my back and blocked me so you won't have to deal with me.
Holy shit dude, I thought we were cool and you have no regrets for that? Oh fuck off. I have lost all my respect for you.
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>>16910479
Dude. I know right? That builds so many more issues in trusting new people. Sucks so much.
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
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How can I make a virgin (girl) more comfortable during sex
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Take things slowly and go at her pace. Don't pressure her into anything she doesn't want. Lots of foreplay and oral. Be slow and kind the first few times.
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So a friend on mine was is a hard core amateur porn connoisseur as he puts it. Last night he sent me a link to a video of what appears to be my gf having sex with 2 other guys. Ive probably watched like 30 seconds of it total because I get filled with rage the moment I turned it on. The hairstyle in the video is similar to what she wore back in college so it was at least 3 or 4 years back.
This morning I asked my gf about the link and at first she tried to say it wasnt her, but then I called her on the hair style and she broke down and says she doesnt want to talk about it.
I sent her a text while I was at work basically saying I understand how she isnt happy with her past coming out like that for the world to see, but I cant really be there to comfort her and I dont know if 'we' are going to make it through this and said we'll need to talk about our future when I get back.
Now Im off work but Im avoiding going home because I dont really want to talk about this. "Whore" keeps playing in my mind as background noise and I know that when we do its going to turn into an ugly argument just from the mass text shes sending that Im ignoring.
Right now Im heavily learning towards GTFO my apartment.
tldr; GF is a slut in a porn vid and Im pissed. Should I end things now?
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It happened a few years ago and obviously she isn't happy about it or proud of it.
If you're that upset over it, end it I suppose, there's no point in staying with someone you are now disgusted by.
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>>16915626
>slut shaming
Grow up. Everyone has sex.
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>>16915635
while on cam for the world to see? Fuck off, this is a solid concern.
What do I do if I have a shit ton of stretch marks? Can I just get laser surgery and tattoo over them? I have them all over my arm so I can't stretch my arm. I have them all over my legs and pelvis so I can get a blowjob or anything. I have them all over my stomach and sides so I can't go swimming.
It's ruining my life
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>It's ruining my life
no, YOU are ruining your life. you can stretch yuor arm. you can get a blowjob. you can go swimming.
>BUT ANON IF I TRY TO GET A BLOWJOB THEY MIGHT BE GROSSED OUT AND STOP
yeah but any girl who is actually worth a damn will like you enough (or be slutty enough) not to care. even if its 5% of them not running away at the sight, thats still 5% of the blowjobs you could have if you werent avoiding getting a blowjob at all.
as for how to get rid of them. google it. consult a cosmetic doctor or dermatologist. ask for the more aggressive options. save up for them. boom, free.
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>>16917432
Mederma.
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Stretch marks are natural because you are an animal