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Two months isn't really that long to get to know somebody, although a click is a very important thing to have, especially in the beginning of a relationship.

How is she acting around you? Is this a confirmed relationship or are you still just seeing each other on a casual basis? Does she seem into you?

And with the sex side of things, what exactly do you like that is different? Is there anyway she would try the things you want to do? Have you tried discussing it with her?

>>16916410

You're not going to click with everybody you meet but this is probably the reason you don't end up in a relationship with everybody you meet. How did things end with your ex-gf and how long ago did they end? It may be that you still have feelings for her and you're not ready to be in another relationship. Also, would you mind me asking how old you are now? Your attitude towards people tends to change as you get older. I feel a lot different about my current girlfriend to ones I had when I was younger because my priorities have changed.

Overall if you're not happy, there's no point in prolonging things. However, if things are just continuing nicely then you may want to hold out and see where they go.

>>16916432

Confirmed relationship. She's definitely into me which makes the idea of breaking up with her even more difficult. She acts fine around me but, we've had a few issues with communicating recently.

Well she doesn't like giving BJ's all that much (and her technique is bad) and dislikes my favorite sexual positions. I'm also slightly kinky/dirty, whereas she appears to be the opposite. It's a lot more restrictive than what I've had in the past.

>>16916504

She left me for someone else whilst spreading lies about me. It ended over a year ago. I do kinda but it was my first love. I'm 25.

Watch Mr. Nobody

Stop thinking, start doing

>>16916376
Got a link?


And the interesting thing is that I've seen myself start actually doing things now. Like, I haven't felt the drive to be something more than I already have in such a long time...

And here it finally is.

http://www.icefilms.info/ip.php?v=106845&

Jerk off.
Right when you're edging, call her.
You'll have the courage of 1000 men.

>>16916438
How?

>>16916443
How what?

>>16916326
>i haven't left my room at all.
I knew that already.

>>16916326
Did he do something out of The ordinary? Does he spy on you?

>>16916360
he's not ordinary, but today is super bad, he talks about murdering my family and stuff, and buying weapons
but that isn't alone, ive been paranoid for ages, but today made me breakdown

>>16916308
pls respond

Kinda same. Bump

I'm male but I know how this feels.
The best thing is to talk to him as much as you can and you'll become less and less interested.

>>16916334
We talk every day and have done so for years, he's the most interesting person in the world.

>>16916340

Anon, why can you never be with this person?

You're being friendzoned.

>>16916301
How do I save my honor from this embarrassing situation? Do I just disappear without saying anything? A rejected woman is 100 times worse than a rejected man and I don't want to make him feel important and I'm scared that he tells everyone that I wanted him and he friendzoned me.

So how do I disappear without him thinking stuff? I never confessed myself to him by the way but he still said stuff like this and I feel humilliated.

>>16916315

Here's an idea.
Get a dude to stand in as your boyfriend and ask the guy and his girlfriend out on a double date. That will communicate that you feel the same way about him without saying it directly. If he and his girlfriend happen to accept, cancel and lie about some shit that came up. Don't reschedule.

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bump

You dont have any pull on her.

Just kill youself and save us from reading your threads as you spiral into depression.

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>>16916416
How do you mean?

Also

>implying girls have any effect on my wellbeing

epic projection 8)

>>16916272
Dead relationships (relationships with a set end date) should all have a built-in clause that you are free to break it off at any time should you find a better relationship, on the condition of immediate notice to the other party.

There's zero point in passing up on a good potential relationship in order to keep a dead relationship staggering on for a few more weeks.

>>16916272
I forgot to mention, howdy faggot, go fuck yourself you little whiny bitch, thank you for posting.

>>16916197
what I want to know is, why aren't you asking animal control these questions? are you afraid that as soon as they pick up the phone and you say "hi I got a problem with the neighbour's dog" they're gonna drive over there and taze it to death?

just call them, explain the situation, tell them you don't want for anything bad to happen to the dog but you want to know what your options are.

or you can just call the police. if there's a noise ordinance in your town they can write your neighbour a ticket or at least let them know to keep it down.

just thought of something else too. if you get the cops involved, but the dog doesn't get taken away, the barking might stop for a while but then start back up again because some people are just ignorant fucks.

if that happens and you find yourself calling more than a couple times, consider getting some of the other neighbours involved too. they're probably as sick of it as you are, and if there are multiple people complaining about the same person, it carries a lot more weight and it doesn't look like one person just bitching to make trouble for someone else.

I had a similar problem last summer: neighbors left their dog chained to a tree and it would bark incessantly, only for the owner to open the door and scream "Shut up!"

I called county animal control and left a message explaining the situation, including the owner's address. The next day a town cop pulled up, listened to the dog for awhile, then talked to the owner. Haven't had a problem since.

Just call your local animal control office and pray.

P.S. I'm not looking for satisfaction from others, I'd just prefer to not feel lonely anymore and always have friends there for me and be able to make a great first impression on others without a problem.

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>>16916194
Just be yourself. Take a deep breath.

>>16916883
I mean I am myself. But that doesn't fix me feeling lonely.

How long has it been since the breakup?

>>16916227
11 months

>>16916170
Learn from this.

>>16916170
Sorry to hear about it. It's my fear that my current bf will break up with me for the same reasons.

But fuck them clingy emotional bastards. You'll find one better

>>16916170
It is the nature of all relationships to end. To have expected anything else was to have expected nature not to occur. You wanted an impossible outcome, and now you must accept the fact that only things that are actually possible ever happen to you.

Fortunately, you'll find fortitude in this experience, and wisdom too, and you will not be so surprised next time, nor so devastated.

This happened to me today. My bf dumped me because he said I could do better and he has to fix his life and stuff. It made me really sad and upset.

>>16916151

do you mean get over the break up? go out and make friends.

>BUT HOW

hobby shops. meetup.com. taking a 'fun' community college class. etc.

if you mean how to break up with them
>havea friend (err... family member) drive you over to her place
>go inside and say you only have 15 minutes to talk cuz you got an important XX event going on that you have to get to
>explain that you are breaking up with her, this is why, its no hard feelings but it wont work
>she will ask follow up questions, and try to argue you into staying with her
>DO NOT ENGAGE
>simply repeat the same thing, say you dont ant to argue about it, as your feelings are what they are
>leave her with ice cream and/or a token of your relationship, a keepsake if she chooses to keep (or perhaps destroy)
>15 minutes your friend (err... family member) comkes in and extracts you

boom.

>>16916184
Ordinarily I would say it just sounds like an excuse, but can confirm it feels really fucking shitty to know you're bringing somebody else down.

>>16916187
The former, and thanks. I'm socially awkward but I suppose I'll never get anywhere if I don't try fix that.

>>16916091
>find gay men
>ask for cock
It's just that easy.

>>16916091
Go to gay bars or something?

>>16916091

its eaiser to find gay guys and just experiment with them.

if you are only interested in experimenting with straight men its pretty difficult.

if its someone you know you essentially have to seduce them. begin by initiating closer contact then you are used to. invinte them to do increasingly 'manly' yet homo erotic things. spontaneous wrestling. nude spas. skinny dipping. getting really drunk with just the two of you and then cuddling on the couch.

but theres no guarantee so you always risk that person being weirded out, the dynamic changing, etc.

if looking for straight guys you dont know to experiment, your only option is really to just use the gay resources (grindr, craigslist, etc) and go around asking if anyones new to this and wants to dip the toes in with you. but 99% of the guys who claim to be straight or just bi curious on there are actually hardcore faggots who roleplay as being straight for their own security / fetish