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The number one rule of helping someone is to shut up and listen. You're not supposed to figure out the way to help them. You're supposed to provide what it is that they're looking for. That's help.

Seriously, imagine if you needed help moving and I just barged into your house to start packing and relocating your belongings. Would you be saying "Thanks for the help!" or "Who are you, why are you in my home and stop going through my shit I'm calling the cops?"

Take a moment to reflect on what the word "help" means. It's important when it comes to being effective and respectful.

>>16915524
My ex has MS. I would stay in the hospital with him. He was also a really shitty person and used it as an excuse to guilt trip me into everything
>but I'm dying
>I'll be paralyzed soon
Literally when I didn't want to FaceTime him at 1am or get out of bed to send nudes when I had the flu

>>16915539
I'm always ready to hear what she has to say to me, but that's a good advice. I want to understand her better and provide what she needs and will be looking for.

>>16915562
Fortunately, my gf is a really good person and I enjoy staying by her side living together. She don't make any of these excuses at me.

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>>16915494

What do you need help with exactly?

Vetfag here.

Better looking girls are bigger sluts.

There's nothing hard in getting a moderately intelligent 9/10

>>16915450
What part is that on pic rel? Looks like a beeenus

Thanks OP, I've been waiting for one of these.

I've just started seeing someone who has a very big dick. I've never had bigger than five inches before and I am extremely tight, to the point where I struggle to fit even small vibrators inside me. I like this. It works for me.

So after a few separate attempts at sex, he finally manages to enter me fully which starts off as painful but then becomes the best feeling ever.

A few days after, I felt like everything down there had "changed". I can't explain it, it just didn't feel as firm and perfect as before. My clit felt like it moved around a bit more which I know sounds weird but it's the only way I can describe it. It didn't feel as apparent either.

I've spent the past few weeks doing my normal kegel exercises and things are now back to normal but I'm a bit concerned that regular fuckings might turn my tight, well-formed vagina into a hideous roastie cavern.

Am I right to be worried about this or should I just enjoy it and continue with the kegels?

>>16915472
Pic shows a cross-section of the vagina connecting to the cervix on the right, the donut-looking thing on the left is the frontal view of the cervix.

The red dongs hanging off it are the polyps, which aren't supposed to be there. They're kind of like sprouts, which is why their 'roots' are tapered (they root in the small cervical passageway leading to the uterus) where the 'bulbs' are considerably larger and rotund (because they grow out towards the vagina or uterus depending which way).

>>16915493
You're too worried. "Roasties" happen because women or their partners tug on their vulvas due to sexual pleasure or curiosity. Just don't pull on your vulva and nothing should happen.

Have you tried looking for tears?
A few years ago I had a fwb with a massively thick dick. One time he fucked me so hard and dry the bottom part of my vaginal opening teared a little. There was bleeding involved.
It did heal but the skin slit is still there, I noticed I don't feel that delightful skin pull as much with my current partner anymore..

>max of 2 years
>is it worth it to pay a lawyer?

looks like intoxication isn't responsible for the retardation

>>16915461

Well shoplifting also has the same max. It would be nuts if they were seeking jail time fir these charges. Im gonna get a lawyer but its like throwing away 1500 to 2000 dollars.

>>16915439
>retard in public
>paying to get out of jail time
>lawyer=wasted money
Step it up familia

>dating while insecure

nope, better yourself first.

>>16915465
How can i do that?

Just be yourself i guess.

If he really likes you He might just don't care if you are not as extrovert as he is.

Movies are still good

>>16915396
She wants you to take the lead. Do it.

>>16915396

shes a woman and wants to be passive. its nature. sure some women like to be the one in charge, but most dont. or they at least wnat to pretend you are in charge.

idk what the issue is. she confirmed she wants another date. she just wants you to choose it.

Because I'm insecure and afraid that my time will not work for her and ill take that as a rejection

no its good for u

>>16915379
>is water in your rectum deadly?
No, it's an enema. Doctors use them all the time, as do some BDSM practitioners. They're not something you'd want to do often, but they won't kill you.

>>16915387
>They're not something you'd want to do often
why

Your first problem is believing in God OP, but I can applaud you for trying to do something good. How old is he?

>>16915359
> "I try and be Christian"

Fuck that shit. Just go out and do something sly, like give a tip to the cops about a drug dealer ;).

>>16915359
What the hell is a fuckboy?

1. do a little bit every day
2. don't throw shit on the floor, always put your clothes in the hamper, garbage in the trash can, dishes in the sink, etc
3. get rid of all the extraneous clutter shit you have; goodwill or garage sale, or throw it in a box and stuff it in a closet somewhere. The less junk you have laying around, the easier it is to clean.
4. do a little bit every day, faggot

it's not THAT hard to do

Generate less trash, get rid of stuff that makes an unusual amount of clutter and make dedicated spaces for putting things when they leave your hands. All of this is designed to make it easy for you. You have to realistically weigh a dirty home against all of these impulsive conveniences you currently practice.

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Get one of these if you don't have it, put all your dirty clothes in it.

One trash can / bag is enough. In the kitchen, below the sink. Put all your trash there. Go several times a day through your home, pick trash that you see laying around and put it in the trash bag. As soon as trash bag is full, take it out and replace it with an empty one.

Also vacuum once / week.

>>16915291
Are you getting any help for your depression, anon?
It gets better if you fight it. If you let go to it, it gets worse.

>>16915301
I was getting treatment, but I've stopped going, mostly due to my fear of going outside. It's almost physically painful for me to be seen by people.

I know I need help somehow, but I don't exactly know how to do that in this situation.

>>16915331
Some therapist come home to see you. Some therapists offer help on the phone.
Look online if there is one in your area!

I went through the same shit you're going through and I am still trying to get better, but things improved so much since 3 months ago.
I swear it gets better, even if it's scary.

Do you want to do it? Why not?

may as well. careful he doesn't try your backdoor when you're not looking tho.

>>16915289
I think I want to do it, I'm just nervous because I've never had sex with someone else closeby (or watching).
I'm also afraid that this will fuck up my life and I will become a freak. Currently studying at Uni.

>>16915290
He's straight ;^)

>>16915267
do you call them to review your application?

I doubt you're doing anything wrong, competition is rough out there senpai.

>>16915273
Call them? Am I supposed to call them? Shit I didn't know that.

>>16915276
Very true, but I would've expected them to at least go through my portfolio (I do graphic design, video, all that adobe shit). But I didn't get a single view. I mean, maybe they see my CV and see how I'm inexperienced and that sort of shit but I think they'd at least check my work.

keep it on the down low and bang the mom.

>>16915264
i knew i could count on you for quality advice

I'm sorry your vagina hurts ~sempai~

oh the cert btw is a quality assurance one. i've completed most of the classes under my main plan but the two that are left are at some inconvenient time slots(late night or other weekdays i'm not at school meaning more driving and expenses).