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It does.

Me too OP ):

I'm in the exact same situation with my bf. We broke up a week ago. I love him so much. We're often unhappy. I feel like he didn't meet my emotional needs much, and it was so shitty to want that and not get it. It made me really resent him. I'm absolutely terrified of leaving, I feel like once he moves out that's it and it's over and I can't ever have him back.

I know from past relationship experience that even when youve been crushed it will always get better with time. So that's good I guess.

>>16916455
Hey OP, can feel where you're coming from. Me and my gf split in october and then hooked up over the holiday season.

As far as I know, shes now seeing someone regularly which hurts like hell(similar to when we broke up). Honestly though, the question I always asked, and what you are asking, is it worth the risk?

Its hard to define but in the end all, it is. You have one life op and sometimes you have to realise that you are better off without each other. Being down and sad is a great time for self-reflexivity and development.

I can only imagine you two are your early 20s. Everything feels frightening and confusing but thats life, sometimes you have to take the plunge alone.

I'm sorry because its never easy, but one day you may look back and remember how scared you were and how you could've never imagine what were to happen next. Keep a chin up, it'll be okay.

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>>16916439
Be careful with then fellow /k/ommmando.

I've just broke it to my girl that of she got counselling I'd have to break it off with her because it would mean it would be harder for me to get a firearms license... She is not happy to say the least.
If you're from America which I'm presuming you are, just spend money on rifles and care for them, they rarely fuck you over compared to women.

As my dad says "if it's got tits or tires it will give you trouble" guns have neither, wish I'd taken that advice on board

>>16916505

>be in dicey situation
>be acquiring OPFOR
>be depressing the trigger

>nothing
>OPFOR acquiring you
>OPFOR laying down fire on you
>you forgot to disengage the safety
>you're dead
>you just got fucked by a gun

I didn't think it was gonna happen to me, but it happened to me. Luckily I didn't die, but dayum, never say guns can't give you trouble, especially when it counts.

>>16916523
Guns generally don't bitch at you down the phone for 3 hours, they also won't ever take your kids, car, dog etc and fuck off with Chad, guns don't become annoying little child like neusances when they don't get their own way.

I'm a combat situation sure they can fuck you over but when I'm in my back yard plinking my .22 they never give me shit and life is enjoyable. When I'm with my girlfriend its 70% moaning, 10%crying 10%shouting, 8% threats then 2% peacefulness and maybe sex.

Would trade my entire experience with women just to live in the US

>>16916398
Tell her now and ask for a month to look for a job. Make sure you actually look. Then take the first job that comes along that's even remotely feasible. As in, don't take a job you know you physically can't do, like a with heavy lifting if your back is fucked, or a job where you have to drive a lot if you have some condition that makes it painful to drive. But don't invent reasons not to take a job just because it doesn't sound like fun.

What are you studying if I might ask? Why do you think you're not motivated?

>>16916514
Finance. I'm just too used to lazing around and just surviving as a C student, and that transferred badly into college

Tell your mom I'll move in and get straight a's if she lets me live there for free.

>tfw can't afford to finish college because no parents to pay for it or give me free room and board

Bet you'll feel motivation when you're on the street begging for a minimum wage job

c'mon

>>16916282
the hardest part is getting started. not to say it's a cakewalk after that, it's not, but you'll be all right. just try some stuff out, if it doesn't work out or you feel like you can't do it, try something else. maybe start with a part time job and then once you get the hang of it, ask for full time if they offer it. or if you're doing part time but think you should try something else, maybe get a second part time job.

and everybody fucks up. as long as you're not catastrophically fucking up, or fucking up everything you get your hands on, you'll be fine. just stay calm, ask lots of questions, learn everything you can about the job, and do the best you can every day. that's all you can do.

then when you get that down, you can work on learning when you should be giving it your all and when you just shouldn't give a shit. but one step at a time.

>>16916616
Thanks anon, this really helps puts me at ease.

That's not a thing, unless you're talking about hiring a hooker. You can have the best wingman in the world, but if you can't seal the deal yourself, then you're not going to get laid.

I can't believe you actually thought having friends would get you laid.

>>16915943
If they can't make it happen them selves then they can at least teach me how

>>16916225
so ask them. "hey chad I need some advice. you're good with the ladies, can you help me out?" if they're actually your friends then they'll be happy to help you out. if not, ditch them.

Definitely not sexy.
>Crooked teeth
>acne on my face and back
>always greasy hair no matter if I shampoo them everyday or every few days
>super hairy legs, ass and pubic area
>skinnyfat
>hair around nipples
>pale af
>one eye is higher on my face than the other one
>patchy facial hair
>big, protruding forehead

I can't think of anything more right now but I'm sure there is more stuff about me that's ugly.

>>16914876
So are you a guy or girl? That's relevant to stuff like patchy facial hair or hairy nipples.

The greasy hair isn't really that noticeable, and you probably just need to find the right shampoo.
The hair you can deal with.
The pale is good if you're F
The skinnyfat you can deal with, although it's harder

how old are you?

>>16914883
22 year old dude, believe me I went through like tons of different shampoo brands.

I'm a white male, and I'll bang you sight unseen.

>>16910726
your problem may be the fact that most people on 4chan have very little understanding of the world beyond memes.

I'm white. I dated a 8/10 waaaay to hot for me Ethiopian girl in highschool. Shit was so cash.

Anyway you're probably fine and should stop listening to people online. 99% of it is bullshit

>>16910739
Not all of it is bullshit. Society and culture bends the way we see things.

thanks OP now i'm wet

>>16920449
I know I'm extremely submissive in bed.

>>16920449

you can have my current girlfriend

I thought she was a prude before we fucked but dayum she likes to get spanked, scratched, whipped, tied down and fucked until everything's slick from sweat and pussy juice - the average session lasts about 3-4 hours and if it didn't leave a mark it didn't count.

on the other hand I fucked a slut and she was super exclusively vanilla in bed

what I want is a dominant one, or a switch even, but they're hard to find.

>>16910863
Guys have the same issue about the size of their dick.

Would you date a guy with a small dick?

At least they're not saggy like mine.

>>16910870
Seconding this question. Come on, OP, answer.

>>16924340
Are you a part of her life? Should you be? That's her business, and I'd actually be more inclined to NOT get involved with her if she's had TWO ABORTIONS since you were with her.

What could you possibly get out of someone who's done that twice? Leave her be and find someone worth your time, if she wanted you to talk to I'm sure she'd talk to you.

If you want to, go ahead. A little compassion never hurts in life.

Just don't do it if you think you'll get sucked back in.

You're broken up for a reason.

>ex had two abortions since being with me
>(not mine BTW)

So she cheated on you twice while you were together? And you want to start talking to her again? Holy shit, stop being a cuck.

You don't. Move on to another girl.

>>16923858
>How bad is this and how do I recover
you done goofed, faggot

recovery is impossible

Serves you right normalfag

>>16923819
You're the fag

Please leave

Friend #1 is a hypochondriac and an idiot
Friend #2 is lame

Find Friend #3. As long as they have a job and aren't an asshole they'll eat stuff.

>>16923827
What third world nation do you live in where you haven't learned about cross contamination?

First of all you don't know if he actually killed himself, maybe he's been busy with life and stopped going online so much. Don't jump to conclusions without proof.

Maybe you should have been more direct instead of just blocking him and told him why you didn't want to speak anymore, however I wouldn't say it's your fault if he did kill himself.

Most people who are suicidal have other stuff going on too and a lot of factors that contribute to the final act. If he couldn't move on after a year that's his fault - not yours - and most likely he simply failed to get the help he needed.

>>16923811
Nice going, OP. You fucked up, poor guy needed some normal fucking attention. He didn't ask for nudes or love. Just a fucking friend and you couldn't even be human and honest with him. He's in a better place knowing you're not there.

>>16923828
We have treads about dudes who wanna kill themselves because some girl dumped them almost every day on here. Dude's most likely dead if no one has heard from him and he hasn't been online in over a month.

>>16923555
Just start having sex with your mom

>>16923567
what? I mean human relationships with your friends and family for gods sake, and I'm asexual

>>16923577
>asexual

back to tumblr you go

It would be cool if you could get the girl the stuff she needs and not give money to the mother at all. The mother has hid this from you to suck the money out of you knowing she wouldn't get shit if you knew she cheated. Don't hide the fact that you know what you know. Tell the woman you love that child and will provide for her but you will not be giving the mother her shopping money. At least, this is what I would do if I was able to take care of another person.

Tell all family members and friends casually over time, don't seem spiteful. Who knows maybe a lot of people know already. Does she know you know? I can't believe you still want to be with her. You can't really trash her in front of the kid but maybe tell you know in the most insulting way possible and in day to day conversation try and slip in phrases like "maybe it's someone else's" or "I was going to tell you in two years".

>>16923193
She's not really sucking money out of me, we've got a joint account that we use for paying for my daughter. I pay into it monthly and she's occasionally paid into it when she's earned some money. I can also see the transactions and its all been things that she's bought for her.

>>16923200
No one knows that I know, I only found out a few weeks ago.