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My long distance girlfriend is having a problem with someone. She had a best friend for ~14 years, and it's always been platonic between them. At the end of last summer, this "friend" went mental, first ignoring her completely, then claiming to be "in love" with her, followed by a cycle of threatening, bullying, and apologizing, and within recent months, stalking and physically assaulting her. Her few other friends all abandoned her at the time of his flip, either in his favour or for unknown reasons. She hasn't reconciled, so she doesn't have close friends anymore.
This guy wouldn't listen to reason, and I'm worried he'll rape her, or worse, because at this point he doesn't seem very far from it.
She's timid, and is afraid of reporting him. She fears that if her family finds out about it, they will become over-protective and limit her freedoms to the point where she'll be completely miserable and unhappy, and honestly, they seem like the type who would. I think she may struggle with depression relating to her family, although she has never been diagnosed.
We don't live in the same country, so I feel completely helpless. What can be done?
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If she wont report it, you should report it. I knew a girl who was going through some suicidal stuff, and she didn't want to tell anyone of it, but I got word to her parents about it. She was very upset at first, but the intervention turned her life around. Especially if there was physical assault, this needs to be stopped posthaste. This guy is wild danger, and much more waiting will lead to... very bad things.
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>>16915823
>long distance
>girlfriend
Pick one. She's craving physical attention, this guy is giving it to her, and she's going to lie to you about it to justify getting what she wants from both of you.
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My asshole brother makes so much fucking noise I literally find it impossible to handle my work.
For starters this cocksucker jumps up and down in the morning for half an hour straight, after that throughout the ENTIRE DAY he farts, burps, makes obnoxiously annoying sighs and pants, has some weird form of seizures where he says 'FUCK' or 'SHIT' as loud as fucking possible.
Literally, every moment I'm at home I'm victim to this asswipe making noise so liberally, then getting angry when I try to shut him the fuck up. I honestly can't keep my sanity or just consolidate some basic fucking information after a long's day of work
Any solutions???
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>>16915797
Go to a library
Retard
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Do I stop watching it for my health? It just feels so disgusting to me. Would switching to 2D make me happier?
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>>16915759
yeah I switched to hentai and still images of real women solo and it made me feel a lot better, real porn grosses me out now
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>>16915759
I know a lot of people who think real porn is gross. Switch over, try it out, if you don't like it use your imagination.
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>>16915776
I have found my imagination to be the best porn.
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So, how is a working couples supposed to be there for the first few years of their child's life?
My mom was a stay-at-home mom for the first seven years of my life, and the first 4 years of my younger sister's life...... now you know, I couldn't imagine not having a regular job for 7 years so that's probably a bit too much these days, but...
I disagree with sending the child to a full day daycare before like the age 5. And even then, daycare would only be necessary for a few hours after elementary school...
But before elementary school, how can a couple with two jobs be there for the first 4 years of the child's life?
Perhaps the dad would work day shift and the wife would work swing shift, so the mom is there during the day (works at 1:30 PM, gets home at night), and the dad is there in the evening? Actually, if the mom works Swing shift, that means that she'd sleep during the day... So that idea wouldn't work.
HOW DO WORKING COUPLES DO IT????
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They do it by
>having one parent work full time and the other part time and sending the kid to day care part time
>both working full time and sending the kid to day care
>some workplaces have creches
>having relatives who can help out
>working in shifts
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They don't. However there is a happy medium, namely the help of other family members. It's not so bad if aunts/uncles/grandparents take care of the kid during the day. They're still around family in familiar settings. Parents get face time during weekends and time off. That can work.
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>>16915755
Part time. Different shifts. Help from family.
My mom worked from 7 AM to 1 PM, my dad worked from 2 PM to 21 PM till I was 2 or 3. Then my mom had to work in the afternoon, I stayed at my grandparents after daycare.
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Is it a good idea to eat before a pub crawl?
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yeah you need to
dont evereat though go with something light
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>>16915731
You can eat at the pub.
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I prefer fries. Chips, if you're of the British persuasion. They're convenient, saltiness works up a good thirst and the folk wisdom is that the grease "coats your stomach" so you can better handle your drink. That last part is bullshit. Bullshite, if you're of the British persuasion.
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I'm tired, /adv/. I'm currently living with someone insufferable and that i despise the most. Everyday i'm here i feel like killing her or destroying something. The ambient is so very stressful i can't study, work or function inside here. I workout, do gym, go out, everything. But as long as i come back to this house, my life goes to hell. This person has done a lot agaisnt me and still does, yet she allows me here to keep control on me. She's my grandmother. My relatives always says they wish to help, that they understand the situation but i need to be ''strong'', yet none offer nowhere else for me to be. None. They all admit she's a lying, angry bitch of the highest calliber, yet no one does ANYTHING. And one even goes as far as to say i should endure it just because it's the way she is. I'm cringing and raging as i'm typing this.
Why can't i move out? I don't have money. My wage isn't enough, since i have a lot of debt to pay. In one month i'll receive more money, but there are still this much days before it, and i'm going insane. I can't look for apartments now since i don't have money, i don't know what the fuck to do. 10 minutes here is enough to already make me stressful, being in the same place as her already makes me test my willpower to not kill.
I've tried my hardest to see it as goodwill of her letting me live here, but she's literally doing it to control me (she's obsessed with controlling people, hence why none of my relatives stay more than 2 hours with her), my own relatives knows this. Help me, /adv/. I can't take 3 more weeks of this. I've been here for 2 months and half and there isn't a single hour i don't want to run away, but i have nowhere else to go.
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>>16915714
1) let go of your debts except for student loans
2) start saving up as best you can
3) you should always be looking for better pay, shame on you for letting yourself stagnate
4) cancel gym membership it is not in your budget
5) don't go out and spend money
your debts are not a priority. people will tell you your credit rating is important, especially when finding an apartment or place to live. this is bullshit.
having solid credit is only for people who are going to use it. learn from your mistake: don't. its not for you, and as such it is meaningless
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>>16915728
I'll have a much better pay next month, i just am not able to wait til there anymore. I can't save up now since debts will keep increasing. I already paid this month's gym, but you are right on that, should have stayed just on the diet for now.
When i go out, i don't spend. By going out i mean going out of the house, going to a friend's house, anywhere but here.
Should i look for an apartment now and make some kind of arrangement with it's owner so i can pay him when my money comes? What should i do in this situation? There are 3 to 4 weeks left, which i will only receive about 100 dollars during this period, which 25$ will already go to phone bill, that i do need since work and study.
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>>16915751
What are you going to school for?
How close are you to finishing?
How many hours do you work a week, and where at?
What is your monthly income?
What are your necessities in terms of spending?
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TFW you try to get your crush to like you but their ugly friend falls for you instead
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>>16915674
Been there done that. It is uncomfortable and you get unintentionally cockblocked by the bff.
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Been there as the ugly friend. Just tell it to me straight and I'll fuck right off. Nothing worse than having shreds of hope to go by.
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>tfw crush is sexy as fuck, but she's gay
>ugly friend likes you, so you fuck her
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Hey guys I need a bit of advice. Two years ago I moved to a different state to live with my girlfriend. She had a studio and I moved in with her even though my name wasn't on the lease. Fast forward to now, we broke up and I'm trying to find a place to stay at. I turned in an application but they want me to give them the humber of the apartment complex I stayed at. Obviously I wasn't on the lease so I'm wondering what can happen or if this is going to screw me over from finding a place.
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If you weren't on the lease and there's no documentation of it, it never happened. You'd been better off not mentioning it.
>tfw going to be getting a new apartment soon
>tfw my own little domain
Good feels OP.
Just say you can't dig the number up, can't remember the name, it was in another state, etc etc
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>>16915644
If you had bills going to the old address, then you had residency.
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So I fucked up by mentioning it? They would have asked where I was living for the first year though. Should I have just said that I was living at a friend's house?
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I can't feel happiness 2016-03-14 18:11:48 Post No.16915583
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>I can't feel happiness in my life
>I created an Okcupid account
>I hated everything about the site.
>I made a fake account for my ideal partner because I wanted to see if I could bring someone happiness.
>Get 100 messages daily. Realize these people are all kind of the same and sad. I cheer them up and know I give them hope but it's false.
>I know it's wrong but to bring others happiness feels good.
Does this make me gay or something? Why do I do this? I just like making someone happy because I feel like love is something I'll never understand.
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>Does this make me gay or something?
No
>Why do I do this?
You need human connection.
>I just like making someone happy because I feel like love is something I'll never understand.
Meh I don't think you're as bad as you think. How old are you?
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>>16915937
Give your brain 5 more years to mature before giving up.
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I saw Megadeth and Suicidal Tendencies last night with my bf, we were on the rail and at the end of the show he left to get a pick towards the center of the stage. I stayed trying to get one on the barricade, and the guy behind me who i thought was grabbing at the barricade was grabbing my waist. (I should mention that given those two acts, it was white trash and beaner central.) So meanwhile, my bf comes back and beats the shit out of the molester, and I turn around all confused. He's screaming at me and saying he never wants to see me again / that I cheated on him, which blows my mind because all I was doing was standing there trying to get a pick. Is he overreacting, am I underreacting, etc? Concertgoers (especially metalheads) weigh in.
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>>16915572
Your boyfriend sounds like a child. The guy was probably some drunk loser.
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Hes definitely overreacting. Either try to explain to him what happened and work it out amongst yourselves, or if he wont hear you out or still won't believe you, move on and date someone who will listen to what you have to say
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>>16915572
You both are perfect for the crowd
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Can't stand alcohol anymore 2016-03-14 18:06:09 Post No.16915564
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Can't stand alcohol anymore
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Hey guys, Eurofag here, I'm 22 and I've been drinking alcohol occasionally ever since I was 16. For the past couple months though, alcohol made me feel really uncomfortable whenever I drank more than, say, one beer.
I've never really had hangovers, I could drink as many different kinds of booze as I wanted and wouldn't get sick. Even when I also had caffeine, lots of food and/or marihuana, I still felt great the next day.
But now, I feel sick even while I'm still drinking. I feel dehydrated, get a headache, and it puts a huge damper on my mood each time. It made me think about quitting alcohol altogether.
Do you have any experience in this? Or do you know a reason for this sudden change?
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You could have cancer.
I'm serious. Sudden sensitivity to alcohol can be an early indicator. Go talk to your doctor ASAP and have some blood drawn.
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>>16915570
Are you serious?
I have no other symptoms whatsoever. What kind of cancer could it be?
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>>16915577
Any. Thankfully this is one of the earliest symptoms that can be caused, so if you are developing a cancer then it's probably in a very early stage.
Don't wait around on this. You've experienced a very quick and significant change to the way your body operates. You need to see a doctor when that happens. Call today and make an appointment.
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How do I cope with insults online? I know it's childish, but this one insult really got to me. It's all I'm thinking about right now.
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if it's an imageboard close the tab
if it's something like facebook where you have an identity you're fugged
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>>16915557
Tell us
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>>16915557
We need to know the insult.
Basically it hit somewhere close to home. Nothing you can do about it. They got you. Accept you lost.
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How should I handle this situation?
I met this girl on Tinder about a year ago and we went on a couple dates but nothing came of them. Eventually, she found a boyfriend and has been dating him since about May or June of last year
Fast forward to last week, I was casually on Tinder and noticed her profile on there. I was confused, so I checked her facebook and she was still listed as being in a relationship so I confronted her about it. I asked if she was really on Tinder and at first she said "No" but then quickly changed it to "Yes, but not for that reason." So, I asked her why she was on it and she said something like "There isn't anything you need to concern yourself with." I then asked if her boyfriend knows about this and she said "You really need to stay out of this. Sometimes the gender's are mixed (?) and he has all my passwords and I don't like what you're trying to insinuate."
I then said I would be notifying her boyfriend of her blatant cheating and she then told me to fuck off and blocked me
What should I do?
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Tell her boyfriend and let him decide about that. It's not cool to do stuff behind your significant other's back like that, and it doesn't seem like he knows and is cool with it.
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Not your business honestly.
For all you know they've got an open relationship or they're on the hunt for a threesome.
Either way (whether she's abusing it or not), she has as much right to her own privacy as anyone else. You're not the internet relationship police.
Just fuck off and live your own life.
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You should definitely tell him. She sounds defensive and annoyed, clear signs of guilt
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Going on 30 now, most of my life I have been met with the same problem. Almost everyone I meet and try to get to know on a personal level share the same feelings towards me. Instead of getting to know me personally, they judge and assume the worst. I get told to smile more and when I do its that I have a "creepy" smile. Despite that, I have made attempts to improve my smile over the years by looking at myself in the mirror, no luck. People also hold the opinion that I am a violent person and quick to anger and they hold an irrational fear towards me.
This is killing me inside because I am not a violent person, in fact, I am quiet spiritual and rather calm and at peace. But I think because of this, because of my quiet, clam and collective nature that it throws people off when they look at me. I can deal with being ugly or funny looking, I am 30 years old and do have tattoo's over my body minus the parts I need to keep clear for professional work.
So what can I do? How do I approach these people to persuade them away from their ignorant judgement of me so that they no longer have to use these "afraid of me" tactics towards me. I lose jobs, gain no friendships, have no working relationships with anyone.
What am I suppose to do, change the person I am?
I thought people are suppose to like you for who you really are.
I'm never going to find internal peace this way with so much negativity thrown at me.
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Every single person on the planet deals with some form of appearance-based judgment against them, stop caring about the snap judgments of others.
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I kinda know where you are coming from OP.
I'm a very calm and playful guy. BUT, i have come to suspect that people take me for a very angry person. People never ever start convos with me, and when they do they seem almost scared. This has perplexed me. I myself am quite the introvert (well duh, i'm on 4chan) and rarely start convos with people. But the only convos that happen are the ones i start. I think people are afraid of me. My outer appearance doesn't match my inner personality. Oh well, i don't care much about that.
What can you do, except be more open about your feelings i guess? Speak the truth about how you feel when you talk to people, let them know you aren't angry on the inside.
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I think you may be projecting here. I'm covered in tattoos including my hands and I've never experienced anyone "judging" me based on that. At least not anyone that matters. I'm blue collar. My girlfriend is older, a chief administrative officer of a pretty big company, has kids and a big family that is mostly business-type professionals. Her, her kids and family have welcomed me warmly over the past few years.
Maybe you want to believe people are scared of you. Maybe you are meeting the wrong people. I don't know, but something doesn't add up here.
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So I'm sitting in my car right now with a package I decided to return. The label is affixed to the package. I've done this before but not actually dropping it off. What do I do? Do I have to speak to anyone? I'm socially anxious.
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"Hi, I need to ship this back to Amazon. OK thanks."
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>>16915550
GOING TO TRY
IM BOUT TO DO IT
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wow that was embarassingly easy...
Thanks for the help guys