Ever since my ex broke things off (2 months ago) I've been feeling empty and weird inside. I've tried to go out and meet people, hang out with old friends, it makes me feel even WORSE than before. I even got more fit/lost weight, still feel shit. Me and ex argued a lot, partially me being a cynical person and not in a good place at the time. He wasn't perfect, would say shitty things sometimes especially when drunk.
Fast forward I was the pathetic one to text a lot saying basically "pls respond". I thought he would get back to me this time since we had a similar fall out before. Nope. He saw me in person 2 weeks later and when I said "let's talk pls" he said "fine this weekend message me, and IF you want to get back together you have to change your attitude". Fast forward, no response.
He saw me the other day at a bar with another guy. Ignored me/didn't look at me. According to one of our mutual friends that was with him that night, he could tell "he was bothered by it, but he knows it's bound to happen".
I saw a snapchat of him singing "wonder wall" all drunk (kek) yesterday and it made things worse.
My last message to him, after a bunch of them, was like a month ago saying basically "alright fuck you, have a good life". Not sure if I regret it or not or if it made a difference.
I really want to get in touch with him again. What to do? (more in comments)
Also, thanks in advance for anyone taking their time out to read/reply.
I've just been so sad and feel like everything is so mundane. Despite weight loss, getting a new job, trying to meet new people, nothings worked.
That mutual friend of ours did say my ex was kinda bothered to see me with that guy, but then that friends also started to hit on me. And another of my ex's friends have. Makes me wonder if they know my ex doesn't care and they just wanna go in for the poon? Or if he would be mad knowing his friends tried getting at me?
I know the common responses are typically:
1. Move on, he's over it other he'd get back to you.
or
2. Forget him and better your life and have fun and he'll see that and come around when you least expect it! Promise!
but it all makes it worse. Especially telling me to "forget it". Because only I really know the situation, but then obviously outsider perspective is less skewed and more realistic.
Was thinking that maybe my last message a month ago sealed the deal and he thought "oh ok cunt lol good riddance" and if he saw me with a guy, maybe he was thinking of me but didn't want to be a piece of shit and message me while I've seemingly "move on"? So maybe if I sent a simple "hey" or "hey how have you been" or something maybe it would ignite things again, OR just continue to show him how pathetic I am/turn him off.
I could also go to the bars he normally goes to and go WITHOUT a guy and see if he approaches me.
>in b4 how sad lol
I know, guys. I know. I really do. I'm just a hopeless romantic pos. But everything feels so "limbo" and I miss everything about him, including all the people and fun things we used to do. It was like another world.
TL;DR miss my ex, it's been 2 months and I want message him or something. Any ideas, stories, experience in a similar situation that worked for you?
I was thinking the best course of action was keep getting more fit/losing weight and dress well until I look really different and have a clearly very thin/fit body, seem like I am having a good time on facebook, doing well, etc and then when another month has passed I can try to contact him? But then he still might be like "LOL really 3 months later and she's still hung up, feelsgoodman.jpg" while he's fucking another girl.
If you want to get back with him ask him to meet somewhere to talk/hang out /whatever. Then talk about why you broke up and whats bothering him about you. Communication is the nr1 thing in a relationship.
Me and a couple coworkers were bored and sitting in the break room during lunch, when one of them mentions I look like the Latina version of mila kunis. He googles a picture of her, whips his phone out to compare me and her side by side, then he says "guys, guys, which version looks better? ..The white version!!!!" I just sat there and smiled without saying nothing while the other people laughed and said "oooohh burn"
Is my coworker implying I don't look as good as she does because I'm not white? (***the person who said this to me is also hispanic but has stated many times he likes white girls with blonde hair..)
He sounds like an ass. Ignore him and his childish ways.
>>16920705
yeah he sounds like an ass. that's just insensitive. you don't say shit like that, even to men.
>>16920705
your coworker sounds like a tool
How do I learn how to fix cars?
I'm a cpsc major about to start a real job that I want to be able to drive to eventually. My dad was a mechanic back in Poland but never taught me anything other than changing my oil. I want to be able to repair my own car and know how it works.
TL;DR: What's a good book to read to start how to fix cars and how they work?
>>16920607
the repair manual?
just follow the wires and track the bugs, it's like a piece of software, except that you can actually touch it and don't have to stab in the dark the whole time.
>>16920616
I kind of want something more general though. Something to teach me how to work on any car, not just a specific one. Maybe some conceptual based stuff
>>16920807
best way is to take a car apart and put it back together. if you don't know something just google or join a forum.
a book's not gonna get you very far.
How do I paint French girl like French girl:
I'm a junior in High school (oldest in grade so same age as French senior), and I recently met this girl in a grade above me. We have been talking for a few months, but I am afraid I totally fucked up. I'm usually about as alpha as it gets (190 cm tall 64 kg in pretty much all muscle) and I have been called an 8/10 to a 9/10 by every girl I have dated. This girl isn't particularly attractive, but she is so nice and her mannerisms make me swoon. I finally worked up the courage to tell her how I felt, but it came out as the most ridiculous aspergerish thing I have ever done. She laughed it off and told me I was sweet, and didn't even friendzone me. She told me that she didn't really care about me either way and that this just divided us more. I have not felt this fucked up since I was diagnosed as a clinically depressed piece of shit so many years ago. What do I do?
>>16920602
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OP here,
/b/ trolls please don't start with that "just anhero" bullshit
>>16920602
>What do I do?
Grow up and get over it. She's just not into you. Be thankful that she was upfront about it, instead of stringing you along.
>>16920631
I guess you are right. This was a while ago though, and more recently she has been engaging me in conversation. I was thinking she might have changed her mind since she wants to spend more time with me. Any ideas on how to cultivate a better friendship before I make a move?
So i'm 24 right now and going to university to get my bachelor degree. There was some trouble with my drivers liscence so i'll take the bus and train for some time.
Anyway, today was the first day with public transportation. Had a short first day and was chilling at a bus station with some highschoolers.
B-but it was so different then i thought it would be. They were acting all noisy and hyper active and were talking about stuff that seemed so inappropiate for their age (some 13 year old screaming "DILDO" "DILDO").
I always thought that there was no big difference between being 24 and a teen but they seemed to be like little kids :(!
Is this how it feels to get old? Younger people seeming to be kids?
B-but im still young and have a lot of time. right? RIGHT?
>>16920562
You've already lived 1/3rd of your life. ONE. FUCKING. THIRD. You're not getting any younger.
pedo pls go
>>16920570
my life expectancy is 120.
I don't live in africa.
I am not OP though. Maybe OP lives in africa
The fact that she'll never feel the same way about me as I do about her makes me want to blow my brains out.
How do I go about accepting this and moving on, like everyone always says.
u dont
she will always be there u just learn to accept it until you can control the thoughts
>>16920558
I don't feel the same way about my gf as she feels about me
and it makes me feel like an ingrate little shit
just so you know that there's two sides to this fence.
Quit thinking about her. If you were in a relationship all the memories will turn into corrupted thoughts. Even the perfect happy memories will some how turn into fucked up warped versions. You will think every male she ever talked to is fucking her. Yes, even that fat fuck that held the door open for her.
Stop now before its too late and these thoughts turn you into a stalker just to verify the warped thoughts aren't true. Mine got so bad I started to think my great uncle was fucking her. I wouldn't be surprised. She is a fucking slut.
How do you socialize with british girl and british guys?
I'm a european and I'm studying abroad, but I literally can't for the life of me understand what to talk about and how to socialise with these people. I've met people from Asia, Africa and other european countries that I can more or less have a nice chat with, shoot the shit etc.
But then when I meet someone who grew up in England I literally can't think of a single thing to say and so can't they. If one of us does end up saying something, it usually leads to a misunderstandment and then an awkward as fuck silence.
the weather, repeat every time you see them again
>>16920466
Pubs. Most people will be awkward and not very great at conversing until you get them in a pub with a couple of pints.
might be different in England, but where I'm from it's pretty true
>>16920561
what if someone doesn't drink?
Anyone else ever made something physically freeze by touching it via focusing pure rage upon it whilst tripping on acid?
Or is this just me?
Also ever since taking acid i cant seem to feel the extreme rage i felt whilst on it nor would i had ever suspected such a feeling possible pre acid.
Anyone else got any batshit insane drug stories to help me guage just how fucked up i am atm.
Are you saying that you have some kind of weird superpower that only works when you're tripping?
>>16920409
yeah man I press my fingers together and squeeze and suddenly everything is smoking white
you experienced 'rage' on acid?
nah mate you cant have been on acid lol
adv i fucked up and the consequences could be huge
>please respond and put my heart at ease
im a pretty normal guy (19/m), i'm well rounded, i do well in school, etc. the only thing a bit off is that i have a really weird sexual preference: im really into older asian ladies that are in their 30s.
since i'm a college student, there is no realistic way for me to meet this demographic, so in a moment of horniness i posted to the craigslist relationship section with something akin to "student looking for sexual relationship with older asian woman".
i forgot about the post until i got an email a few hours later from someone saying that they were 21 years old, asian, and interested. we talked for a bit, she guessed what school i was attending, and told me she goes to a school in a nearby state. she sends me a picture, and i reverse image search it and it comes up with 0 results. so, i respond with a (normal) picture of me.
a few minutes after sending, i reverse image search it again, this time using google, and low and behold the picture was actually of a semi-famous model. turns out i got baited.
few questions:
>1. What's in it for someone to put up a fake conversation like this on craigslist? It was extremely premeditated.. in her 3rd response she (he?) told me she was half thai half swiss, and the model she ended up sending me in her 7th response was indeed half thai and half belgian (close enough).
>2. What is the likelihood that this is someone from my college fucking with me? If they share our email chain with other people it would be extremely awkward for me
>3. What can i do to minimize the damage? I already took down the craigslist post.
please help
>>16920363
What's embarrassing about wanting to put your penis in a woman?
>>16920377
cmon
i posted on craigslist looking to fuck a mature asian woman
You should be fine OP, there is nothing they can do with a picture. Hopefully you did not send a picture with your penis out or some shit. Next time ask for time stamp.
Hey /adv/, I'm feeling lost and gloomy. I just graduated college this past December, resigned from my retail job (and first job) that I had been working at since starting college and started another job but quit right away.
I didn't want to work the new job even though it'd be my first full time job and I'd be getting paid decently because I'd have to work with at risk youth. They become very violent and I didn't feel safe working there and possibly having to restrain them.
So presently, I don't have a job. It's been about a month. I've been applying to places but I just feel so discouraged. In all honesty I don't know what I want to do. Or if I will use my degree (Bachelors of Science in Sociology - yeah not the best field). I don't know what I'm passionate about or what really calls out to me... but at the same time I need money if I want to move out of my parent's house and live on my own. Which I desperately want to do... I don't know... I feel stuck between two paths.
I just wanted to vent and see what anyone else had to say.
Sociology is a big subject, is there a type of field or job you can study to with your degree?
To be honest housing is expensive, so start saving up and scrap that plan till your on your feet.
>>16920342
do a mission in africa or some shit to get out of the house and get some perspective.
talk to your old professors, see if they can hook you up.
>>16920361
That's reassuring to hear. Usually I'm a bit timid to tell people what I've studied. One of my sociology professors who joke that all of her students would end up working at Starbucks which was never really... well motivational.
Human services and law are the most common fields people will go into with a sociology degree. However, I'm not sure I want to work directly with people who are in tough situations or are mentally challenged/disabled...
I like comforting people but also informing them. However, I don't think I could be a professor. It's difficult because I feel as though it's a pressure to choose ONE PATH now and stick with it!
So I'm 27 and been working since I'm 23 (went back to uni for 1 year at 25).
I realize I want to date only girls who are at university currently, and not working...
it just feels more fun to be with someone who has more holidays, and is living a more "interesting" life than working the same job all day.
On the contrary I'd feel old and living a sad boring life if I was going out with a girl who was working a regular job (like I do), it seems like reality would hit me in the face and I'd be basically become the same as my parents, or just live everybody's life where each person works a job and only has free time during evening and week ends to do shit and see your significant other in the same position (working, no time, etc)
Am I the only one feeling this?
Am I fucked up?
>34
>making 25$ an hour
>bullied in the workplace for 11 years
>about to be unemployed
Wtf are you complaining about?
>>16920461
whut
how is this related?
>>16920528
It's not. I'm merely comparing work relations.
Here is some of my best pron for your viewing.
/b/, help me pick my job please.
Long story short, I ran my own small business for 3 years. Was able to because of the house I lived in with my gf at the time. Late last year we broke up so that dream is dead.
Now I'm 21, no college education, and need to figure out what this year is going to look like. I have 3 job options.
A. 1-800-got-junk, at their top 3 franchise, the people there are amazing, time goes by quick, money varies but on average $17, but its a labor job as well.
B. Catering company. They do corporation catering and are very large scale, expanding very quickly, and could possibly be a career. I would only make $14 an hour though.
C. Delivery Driver/receiving for a "Precision Parts Cleaning and Refurbishing Solutions" company. Interviewing with them tomorrow. Don't know what the pay would be like but I imagine pretty nice.
I already got offered jobs A and B, interviewing for C tomorrow morning.
I love driving. I love fast paced work places. I love people. I hate downtime and feeling like theres nothing to do.
What is the best option here? I really cant decide.
I say go for the one with the best advancement. Neither of the jobs will have huge downtime, tho there are them rare days.
I would go for B, as long as there was nothing serious I needed a lot of money for quickly.
>>16920281
>/b/
Why do people go to bars to flirt and to find someone?
I don't understand the concept of it. I assumed that everyone that goes to bars and nightclubs are just want something not even stable and seriously. But where else I can meet people except for going there? This is insane.
>>16920279
If you're good looking you can meet people anywhere
If you're not gl then why even try?
i mean there is social media and parks and even the workplace sometimes, along with organization's and groups where you can meet people you might like
>>16920279
Are you employed? Meet someone at work?
Are you a student? Meet someone in class
Are you religious? Meet someone at church/your place of worship
Are you interested in music? Meet someone at a concert
Are you really interested in one specific thing? Meet someone at a club
It's not hard to meet new people. It just requires you leaving your house and being friendly. You can even meet people on the bus or the train or in a store or something if you have something in common with them and don't come off as a creep.
Ex: hey- an NC State shirt! Did you watch the game last Thursday?
Ex: oh man, that has got to be about the cutest dog I've ever seen! Is it ok if I pet him? What breed is he?
Ex: do you live around here? I'm new in the area and I'm trying to find somewhere to eat.
Just start conversations in an earnest and nonthreatening way, and if you're good at building at conversations, it might actually go somewhere.
I complimented a girl's purse the other day while I was shopping at francesca's and we got in a conversation about how she got it on sale and it almost got stolen from her in London, and I had been to London too so then we started talking about travel and we were chatting for like 25 minutes and then she gave me her phone number and invited me to go to this youth group thing with her.
In short- just try.
I have a scat fetish and I don't want it anymore. What should I do?
I have a urination fetish, it's stuck with you mate. You could try cbt but accepting it helps.
There's really nothing you can do about fetishes except try to ignore them if you don't like them.
You are attracted to other things, right? Most fetishists are.
>>16920241
I'm also interested in getting rid of a fetish I don't want
Hey guys I made this thread yesterday but didn't get much help. I've been looking at an apartment and I finally found a place. I went yesterday and filled out the application. Once I had turned it in the secretary calls me and asked me if I could get her the number for one of my previous residences so they could call and verify that I lived there. The problem is that I wasn't on the lease and I was living there with my ex. Would I get myself or my ex in trouble if I told the lady that I wasn't on the lease?
>>16920226
What I personally would do is give them your ex's number or someone else's and have them pretend to be the landlord and say you were a good tenant. The lady isn't going to care enough or check enough to make sure you're not lying.
I wouldn't have them call the landlord directly, unless he some how knew you were living there and didn't care. You won't get in trouble and it's unlikely your ex will, but they could potentially evict your ex for having you live there, assuming they care. Even if they don't, your ex-landlord will probably say you weren't on the lease, and then you won't get the apartment anyway.
>>16920261
The place I'm living in right now has my name on the lease. The place before this is where only her name is on the lease. If the worst thing they can do is deny me the apartment then I'll just tell the secretary.
So long as you had a good record of paying rent, there wasn't a bunch of awful property damage or anything like that, and the landlord and your gf ended things on good terms, I don't see a problem with giving your landlord the info.