There is this girl named Kylee who is extremely rude to me (Male) whenever I defend myself she always acts like I attacked her and everyone defends her. She says rude shit about me to her friends where I can hear, some of which includes telling her friends to harm me. How do I deal with her? I don't even want revenge I just want her to stop. Help an anon out.
shoot up your school.
but really, is op afraid of a girl? she's picking on you because you look weak and incapable. maybe you actually are. just ignore it really. if it gets real bad then you can do something about it. maybe talk to someone else about it and see if you can get anyone on your side.
talk to her in a respectful way. never raise your voice to an unreasonable volume.
many liberal minded college kids are so far to the left that it hurts everyone. this is just something our society has made. you cant say one opinion to someone without them crying that their feelings are hurt.
we live in a world of victimhood. dont give her that attention she wants. dont make it seem like youre the one at fault. hopefully by acting like a sweet young man people will notice how idiotic of a person she is.
this is how i completely rekt a far left muslim girl in my class. long story short i said that most muslims want jews dead. she said no, i stated my reason, she exploded with so much hate for 20 minutes that people realized how retarded she was. it didnt even matter if i was right or she was. these liberals make a fool of themselves by screaming about anything
>>16925336
>I don't even want revenge I just want her to stop
Don't associate with her.
If she comes around you, walk the other direction.
If she says something to you, don't answer.
If she, or anyone else physically attacks you, you kick the shit out of them.
Don't let the shiny, technologically advanced skin of our society trick you from the fact that we are animals, and in the animal kingdom if you are not a predator you are prey.
Obviously, our interactions are more complicated than just two groups but the point is in order to make in this world it is perfectly okay to be a pacifist and raise yourself above petty quarrels when the situation calls for it but if you turn your back to these people and show them that they can walk all over you without any consequences they will.
Be logical, be firm, separate yourself from situations and people that have no upside or positive outcomes, but DO NOT be a pushover. It will set a very dangerous tone for how people treat you when you let them know that they can do whatever they want to you and have no consequences.
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Basically, get to know them through friends. Then, try and spark conversation with something broad and generally easy to talk about, "What's your theory on Trump". If you're looking more into asking them out, same as above, just bring convo into asking them to a movie or something, "Hey, we should continue this conversation over coffee some time."
Scoot up next to her and ask her if she wants to get coffee sometime
Worked well enough the 5th time I tried it
>>16925287
Step 1: Take a piece of red construction paper and cut a heart out of it.
Step 2: Attach a red string and a message that says, "PICK ME UP AND BRING ME TO MY OWNER".
Step 3: Throw it at a girl you like and pretend to "reel" her in.
If this doesn't work for you, throw an autistic fit in public. Make sure to be so loud that the cops haul you to a psych ward.
ive taken care of all my responsibilities and now i have nothing to do for a few hours before i gotta sleep
im kinda bored
what should i netflix or. just do in general. something cheap
>>16925238
whatever your hobby is.
>BUT ANON IM BORING
time to explore
>>16925238
I hit the video juegos in times like these.
Idk what's on Netflix, I'm net savvy enough to steal specific movies. Last one I got was Hellraiser 2.
You could read I guess. I tend to save books for work though.
>>16925238
Wank it like a monkey
So it seems that I can never be dedicated to one thing or see it through to the end (or at least, to where I desire to be in).
I always end up involved in 10 or so different interests or hobbies and I never get respectfully skill at any of them. Whenever I start a project it rarely gets finished
Anyone have advice so that I can actually see things through to the end, or maintain the dedication so I can get decently skilled at things?
>>16925231
stop worrying about being good or great. focus on getting done. greatness comes along hte way. it develops. but you actually gotta do it. and finishing something is a good indicator.
start small. wanna be a godo artist? sit down and write a one issue comic. then draw all of it. its finished. your done.
now plan a six issue mini series. plan to do one issue every two month to be done in a year (but each little issue finished will feel like another victory)
>>16925231
1. pick one thing
2. make a schedule of when to do this thing
3. Stick to this schedule, dont over work or underwork at it
4. Slowly increase time you spend in hobby over a large amount of time
5. Set small, attainable goals towards that hobby
6. continue on until hobby is mastered and or set into daily life
it's the motivation-discipline dilemma. simple answer is get both. people who love running still run even when they don't really feel like it. people who are in marriages don't love each other as much as they did when they started but that doesn't mean it has to end in divorce.
it's a pretty common thing for this generation. instant gratification, failure to delay rewards, "do what you love" mentality that looks down on exerting effort, accepting mediocrity, you get the idea. it might be connected to you being spoiled in some way. maybe you spoil yourself for doing nothing. you're a middle class first worlder so your life's always been full of safety nets.
you've got to stick to your goals and remember why you wanted to do it in the first place. set your own standards and stick to them. actually try to feel bad when you fail. feel good but not content when you make progress. just keep moving.
So my father tells us he should've abandoned me and my siblings and my mom a long time ago.
Every other day, my dad gets into a brief exchange with my mom and after I break both of them up he goes on a 20-30 minute "mope-rant" where he talks about how he should've not married my mom and had us and what he could've done instead in the most morbid way possible. This makes my 12 and 13 year old siblings and I(18) feel pretty shitty. He's also on kidney dialysis and has sleep apnea which also contributes to our worrying about him and possibly to his mood... If any of you guys can help me with dealing with this situation I would be truly grateful; even then, just typing it all out makes me feel somewhat better.
>>16925194
thats lame but with the dialysis hes probably having 'greener grass' syndrome.
normally people have these thoughts in the back of thier mind but htey bottle them up, cuz in just 6 more years all the kids will be 18, and while they wont necessarilly be out of the house, he could go ahead and do a lot of the stuff he couldnt when the kids were underage (like rape them (but no really)).
but with dialysis comes the idea of mortality. even if he has a 100% guarantee that hes going to be fine after this (idk his story, but lets pretend) hes still doing this horrible fucking thing and thinking about why its happening all the goddamned time. until he starts to reach that recovery place where life goes back to normal, hes seeing himself as dying, and the stress and pain and everything else of dialysis is also happening.
talk to him about the things he wanted to do. suggest he do them. offer to pitch in or help where you can, but back off and let him do his own thing for what he wants. offer to be an ally.
he took care of you, maybe you can help cross things off a bucket list.
>>16925220
Thanks, that really helped. He also just had his 61st birthday 12 days ago so the whole "mortality" thing makes sense. I'll try that
>>16925233
ouch yeah, my parents had us young so they are only in their 40s and still go do stupid shit like cliff jumping and whatnot for fun. 61 doesnt leave nearly as much opportunity to do the no kids things.
mortality it is.
How do I make good on my ambitions?
I get super hyped and start planning on how to accomplish things, but then I lose interest and never follow up. I might take the first couple steps, but never go any further. I'll buy some workout clothes and join a gym, then two weeks later I'll stop. I've also bought an expensive computer mic cause I'm gonna start a podcast with a friend! Then stop after three episodes.
I'm a great planner, and I'm good at breaking down the steps into small ones, but I don't keep at it when I know I need to in order to make it a success.
Honestly it comes down to will power.
If you push yourself to exercise regularly you can push yourself to do other things.
Get up earlier and go for a run, if you can do that 3-4 times a week for a month you'll be amazed at how much more positive you are about things.
The way I see it is I've already accomplished more than most people that day before I've even got to work.
>>16925121
Thanks
Anyone else?
>>16925121
this guy is more or less correct. mos tof my tips break down to
>buddy system
>good scheduling / lists
at the end of the day if you dont have the actual motivation to do something, you dont have the actual motivation to do something.
Medfags?
I have some weird not-very-specific symptoms I can't reliable trigger that seem to vague to bug my doctor with, but I'm still curious if anything stands out to you.
Basically, my extremities get tingly, my tongue gets tingly and feels swollen, and I get really shaky. It becomes hard to speak without stuttering or lisping and walking/standing feels weird but itsn't really challenging. My head eventually gets light and I feel sort of like I'm going to faint, except I never do. I've tried eating, drinking, etc, which doesn't seem to help. Generally I lay down and fall asleep, and wake up fine. Don't know if this is because of the sleep or just waiting it out. Once when this happened, I almost blacked out and then threw up. It doesn't happen often, used to happen MAYBE once a month, bit it's scary when it does happen. It's been happening less now, but yesterday broke a 4-month hiatus. No meds other than birth control, happens even when I go months without taking them.
What the fuck?
go to a doctor, or go to r/AskDocs
>>16925074
This is spooky as fuck senpai. Doctor. Now.
>>16925074
doctor here, sounds like herpesyphorhea
>tfw I've wanted to break up with my girlfriend for nearly 6 years but I've never been able to bring myself to do it because she's basically designed her entire future around the idea of me
>tfw I'll probably just stay with her forever and just endure it like fucking whatever
>>16925021
Is your first initial B?
Question?
>>16925025
Most relationships fall apart, they fail.
When one half thinks everything is perfect and the other all of a sudden ends it it would result in catastrophe.
What the fuck do I do? The problem is that I know her and I really do love her but forever all I've wanted is simple independence and free reign. It's not about anything other than wanting to be on my own. So it makes it harder to go through with it, if I didn't love her in the first place I'd probabaly be able to do it.
I am a student and am hoping to get into the air force. I have taken a practice ASVAB at the recruiter's office and received a predicted score around 70. I am trying to work out more because sadly I can't reach the fitness standards yet. At the end of the month I am possibly taking a physical and ASVAB. My question, any tips for training and future in Basic? Anything helps. I just want to be prepared in case I get in.
>>16925015
>>>/fit/ and READ THE FUCKING STICKY.
The fitness test for the military is basic calisthenics anyway (push-ups, sit-ups, pull-ups) and running. Nothing complicated. Just run and do basic calisthenics. I can't remember if there's swimming, too, but going for a swim can't hurt.
Regardless, you should've been getting into shape a lot sooner. You're only giving yourself two weeks. You are likely to fail.
Lol you'll have 7 weeks to pass their standard. If not you'll get put in get fit and your ambitions will be gone
>cant pass air force fitness test
You not eating enough Cheetos?
Can anyone give me some good advice on how to pass an interview in terms of answering their questions?
I've had 3 interviews for technical positions in the last 4 months and so far I have yet to pass one. The last one in particular really made me feel like I have no clue what i'm doing.
A simple Google search will yield the correct answers to common interview questions.
You're welcome.
>>16924916
You need to know your stuff and be able to communicate them well
In addition, they are also getting a feel for you. Most likely, they will be your co-workers so first impressions matter
>>16924916
I've done that, but I really don't think what I have looked at helped. I get one or two questions that are as common as "What are your weaknesses"
>>16924978
I try to be friendly and approachable, I guess I never really thought of the interviews as co-workers though
Hi adv,
I posted this a while ago but i would like to explain my situation a little bit better.
I have been to the doctor more than i like for all kinds of things so id rather ask here first.
I have a lot of trouble with staying awake when i feel sleepy.
If my eyelids get heavy i have about 5 minutes before i fall asleep, how hard i try to stay awake.
One moment i feel very energetic and then suddenly i feel sleepy and i fight and i fight to stay awake, and after 5 or 10 minutes i just close my eyes and im gone.
I have tried everything but i cant fight falling asleep when im tired.
My friends think its pretty weird because when they are feeling sleepy they can stay awake for hours if they want to
I have a couple of examples:
>hanging out with a friend, watching a movie and half way in the movie my eyes start to get heavy and 5 minutes later i am gone and impossible to wake.
> i get woken up by my father throwing a glass of water in my face because alarmclocks dont wake me, i just dont hear them
>sleep through fire alarm and my bose sounddock on max volume( you could hear the sound a block away)
>if i get a ride from someone and im sitting on the passenger seat i fall asleep no matter how long we drive, after 5 minutes i just fall asleep
>got home from work one day 2 weeks ago, collapsed in bed and slept for 15 hours straight
>cant keep my eyes open when my eyelids are getting heavy and im driving my car
I can keep going on about this
Does this sound like narcolepsy?
I always thought that people who have that shit just collapse and sleep in the blink of an eye..
Anyone got some ideas?
I go to bed at 22:00 and wake up at 06:00, i dont use my computer or phone, the room isnt warm and its ventilated.
How is your diet? Are you a fatty? You might be diabetic.
>>16924888
It certainly sounds like it might be narcolepsy to me, but I know nothing about the actual disease.
In popular culture its portrayed as falling asleep without warning. You describe falling asleep suddenly in the car or watching a movie.
Talk to a doctor, dude.
>>16924888
Sounds nice. I work 12 hour nights and I find it really fucking hard to sleep unless I run myself ragged beforehand.
And even then, I sleep like 5 hours and I'm totally at the mercy of the doorbell or phone or just the fucking sun being too bright.
You got a good thing going man. Shame it doesn't work for you.
I wanna put a finger in my ass but I'm too scared. How hard is that first hurdle?
First ass entry stories I guess.
>>16924757
not that hard. just make sure your finger is wet.
>>16924757
cont. first time i fingered my ass, i used a ear buds. was pretty amazing. the orgasim is intense.
>>16924773
>>16924761
Thanks guys. I'm gonna do it. I'm unemployed so I've GOT to do it really.
Why can't I remember anything? This has bitten me in the ass time and again, this time around I blew a job interview. It was for a junior part-time programming position(Java), but they asked me about a bunch of other things like Turing machine and networks as well, because I said I took courses about them at school. I passed both those particular courses, but I could barely remember anything at the interview a year later; I just had some vague picture of the TM from a textbook in my head and I squeezed out some words that I suspected pertained to it; same with networks, I babbled out something trying to answer one of their questions but then I fucked up with the layers of abstraction and said a total nonsense. They, on the other hand, knew their shit perfectly, even the manager who said earlier he wasn't an IT guy. I'm first year of a CS Master's on poor-tier school.
How can I be this retarded, /adv/?
>>16924688
If you don't understand the layers of abstraction to the point that you can't verbally explain it to others then I don't even...
for fucks sake I'm an idiot truck driver and even I can do that
>>16924688
Do you actually use this knowledge for anything? I'm working as a programmer right now. I've forgotten pretty much everything I studied about during my university time 5 to 2 years ago except what I have or make use of at work. There are some things I do remember from my security courses as well because we did elaborate experiment assignments on those things. If you've been ass-blasting your brain with concepts you're not going to make use for and all you had to do was to memorize them for an exam I'm not surprised you forgot about them.
>>16924731
Yea, but how come all of them knew it and I didn't? I mean, they studied this shit same as I did, and probably haven't use use since they left school.
How do I get out of the "fresh start tomorrow" mindset? I'm trying to create some change in my life with simple things like exercising more, eating better, using my time more productively etc. But I have this problem when I fail at doing something (like say eating junkfood when I'm supposed to be avoiding it) easily lapse into my old habits and tell myself that I'll give myself a fresh start the next day to begin a new streak. The problem is I have a ritual I usually go through
I think you at least know the mindset you should switch out of. Try to start thinking of everything in terms of denying yourself the pleasures of your bad habits right now. If you lapse, instead of giving up (or possibly even punishing yourself, depending on how you feel about it) just try to think about what the next "good" thing is that you can do to improve your day over the last one.
Don't passively accept your failure to do what you wanted to do.
Using your junk food example, whenever you find yourself eating something unhealthy, stop and think about why you chose to eat it. Understand what made you fail and learn from it so you can prevent it in the future.
It takes a lot of will power to break habits. Once you break those habits it gets easier though but it's still a struggle. It's a real battle just to get over that hill though. Start with one thing at a time. Don't try too much change at once. It will be too much and you will most likely fail.
I'm about a year into my fresh start. It took a little fumbling and backsliding every once awhile but it literally took a year to get it all together.I run 15 miles a week. Lift 3 times a week. Don't eat fast food. Don't drink beer. Don't drink soda. Don't smoke. All those vices were things I had done for almost 13 years daily.
I didn't cut it all out at once. Took it slowly and one thing a time. I still drink beer once every couple of weeks. I'll eat out about the same interval but I don't eat fast food, just dine in stuff. I'll have a soda maybe once a month but I don't even want to finish it.
Anyway, take it slow. Don't expect to change over night or even in a week or a month. You can do it though.
Is this sentence with two woulds grammatically correct?
"As easy as it would be to return to Christian patriarchy, I don't think most people would be delighted."
Or is it better if I say: "As easy as it was to.. ?"
it's redundant but if anything it's "delighted" that's the poor choice here.
I think it should be 'the Christian system of patriarchy', and delighted sounds wrong in that sentence. You also haven't explained why it would be easy.
You can have "would" twice in the same sentence. There is no reason against it. Using "As easy as it was" would give the sentence a different meaning.