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This is the closest I've felt to being castrated, /adv/

Your testosterone lowers after puberty and so does the sex drive. Start lifting if it bothers you. Also orgasms from masturbating arent as good as real sex ones (both in velocity and mass of the projectile)

>>16921221
>Lift
Is that all I need to do? I thought there would be more I could do

My guess, no. You're not on the radar.
I did this shit to a girl in college and she followed me around all the fucking time.

Was probably super into me but I didn't even notice at the time. I was just being polite.

Start calling hang outs DATES and see if he catches on.

Unless they're confident and actively hitting on you pretty hard, signals can seem mixed because you're more sensitive to the possibility of any signals being negative when you really like someone.

Try upping your flirting if you like him and think he likes you, make it easy for him to know if he should make a move.

>but he kind of sends me mixed signals.

Generally, when a guy sends mixed signals, it's a firm "no". The best you might get is a pity fuck, but even though he might stick his dick in you, you likely wouldn't get anywhere.

OTOH if the dude is SUPER shy maybe he's just afraid of you, in which case you should ask him out.

>>16920925
I know these types, she is leading you on.

You need to figure out how to get over the crush, otherwise this will ruin you.

She likes the way you like her, and the fact that you want to be with her gives her enjoyment. Problem is, she is like this with every guy, whether you see it or not. And its because she is a master manipulator. Trust me.

>>16920925
>Turns out the girl I've been crushing on since October planned an elaborate birthday celebration that lasted the whole day, during and after work.

That's fucking adorable.

You gotta be straight up with her.

So one of my best friends had this chick who would flirt/tease him and turned him into a blabbering betafaggot because he was so into her, he did some real autistic shit around her, he was a totally different man. Fast forward a few months, I told him one day while we were playing csgo I suggested he bring it up with her, get to the bottom of why she's so flirty and ask if she wants to go anywhere with it. She says she didn't mean anything by it, but here's where
it got weird, even I didn't see this one coming.

She did intentionally flirt with him and she did have feelings for him, but she was really nervous around him at the same time. She, apparently, experienced some sexual harassment in her life which lead her to act this way. But they worked it out and now they're dating.

Just goes to show that there's usually always a reason for everything, just talk with her anon.

>>16920984
sorry for typos i'm a little tipsy

me too thanks

good thing every human browses and posts this board huh

>>16920718
me too thanks

>>16920085
where do you live?

why can't you make friends? you go to school, friends are easy to make.

do you want to meet these twitter koreans?

>>16920196
NY, I live in a white ass neighborhood

I finished school unfortunately

I do. I'm just wondering what's the right answer. Should have they contacted me by now and invited me to hang with them or should I invite them out at a place to eat/drink so they can get to know me? I feel like I'm in a place of less power so I need them but with the concept of friendship I don't know if that's the case I should be feeling

>>16920246
like, how far from the city? you want korean friends just go to Flushing.

finished school. now what do you do?

>should have contacted me by now and invited me

why are you under the impression that they're meant to make an effort to bring you out rather than you having to be proactive? invite yourself to the shit that they do or make plans and invite them. it's like you're sitting on your hands and waiting for them to drag you out of your room.

also, western koreans are so fucking fickle and fake. sure, they're nice but it gets so tiresome.

>>16920056
Go pick up your free shit! But first google maps the access point and make sure it's actually a UPS address and not...something else.

Seen this happen before, turned out the persons account was compromised and the scammer ordered something to test if he could charge anything to the card. Go get the package and possibly contact your financial institution.

Do you have a tracking number, reference number or info notice number? You can find out details about the package on their website under tracking.

>>16920036
Talk to her dumbass. In person not on social media if it works out there add her then.

>>16920040

I would but I only see her on campus when class is beginning or when it's over. How would I approach her?

>>16920057
Start with "Hi, I think you're cute want to grab a together coffee sometime?" Some variation is allowed. If you're too much of a pussy to flirt with her just ask her to get coffee.

>>16920020
First ask her why she didn't respond around White Day. Then if she acts sketchy, tell her about the Italian guy. Honestly sounds he like was trying to scope you out, not just "oh lol whoops, accident!"

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>>16920101
Shortly after I messaged him, he posted something about boarding a plane from New York back to Italy. I'm not sure what that means.

I'm worried that *maybe* I'm looking into this a bit too much. A huge part of any relationship is trust, isn't it?

She also *just* messaged me saying that she was busy the last few days, and asked if I would like to skype this week with her.

I definitely feel better.

>>260953
Perhaps you have yourself a gaijin (foreigner) addict. Similarly to how over here in America we are addicted (fetishized practically) to attractive foreign girls, especially Asians, you are in a relationship with an Asian with the similar mindset. If that's true she probably has numerous relations with other foreign men. Sorry, this may hurt.

"I'm still reacting funny to that drink you gave me. I need you to tell me what you put in it. This is important."

No need to be all subtle or baitey or crap like that. If she's freaking out like this, then something happened that wasn't supposed to. She's in unfamiliar territory, and that's to your advantage. Press it: confront her head-on, with an implication that this could be dangerous for you (which it could, since you have no idea what was in it). She'll break down.

>>16919831
tell police? they'll do bloodwork and a toxicology screen at the hospital. something shows up then your story fits with date rape scenarios.

>>16919831
"Hey, what do you mix together to make that drink? I may be having some sort of allergic reaction"

Accept the fact that even if you make friends in college, they'll always leave you (Unless they choose not to, via internet).

I've had 18 friends already via entering my toxic world of schooling, and only 2, to this day, remember my mug. Of course, we're all cool, but it just shows that it's unusual for that to happen.

Moving onward, you don't exactly force a friendship, it only forges on its' own. One of my new buddies regularly talks to me about his shizz and I talk about my stuff (Oddly enough, we had lots in common. Right down to certain shows, such as Jojo's BA, and Lost).

It just happens when you forge a bond. Like romantic love, forcing it only makes it seem artificial. It'll only happen if you just don't expect it.

>>16919691
I know you can't force it but that's what's confusing me. I don't remember ever forcing anything between me and the friends I'm closest with now, it just happened over the years. But I have never had that with a single other person since high school. Not one. No matter how many people I talk to.

>>16919672
I don't think you can ever make ac close friends as in your adolescence. Back then you had a lot more free time and you were exposed to more people your age. Everyone wanted friends back then so people just connected in another way.

Please help me guys.. I feel like contacting her so bad for closure but my mind is telling me not to

Can't really be over if there was nothing to begin with. I know it's hard dude, but given the fact that you really had nothing in the first place, you should move on. If she texts you, great, but don't reach out to her. There's really no closure to get other than if you ever had a chance, but from the looks of it, it doesn't really matter. I'd suggest not asking her about anything related to the closure, but that's just me. In any case, you'll do what you think is best for you, so best of luck because I completely understand where you're coming from.

>>16920194
Thanks man

Ugh. You had all the red flags. You chose not to listen to any of them. Your own fault man. :(

Genuinely curious

How did it go from
> Gave her massages after her work
> Cook for her
> Be for attentive to her in bed
> Was willing to die for her and stood in front of a group of shady goons making fun of her for being Asian and told them to leave her alone while looking at the man who was much bigger than me in the eyes
> She moved to a new apartment that had a ruined dog piss ruined floor....so I learned how to professionally remodel a floor for the whole day. Went to home depot and bought all the equipment I learned about. I worked 10 hrs on this floor and it went from disgusting to beautiful magazine tier.

to
>She was complaining to me and telling me nasty things the whole time.
> All of my frustration with how much I give to someone who doesn't appreciate me gets the better of me. I start punching myself and hitting myself in the face. I call her bad names.
> Convince her to pierce her nipples and don't even like it, tell her we're through on facebook a week before her birthday

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>>16919596
I agree with you. She was my first girlfriend, so I was inexperienced but I still chose to ignore the red flags.
>>16919597
She was always in a bad mood. Never said thank you for all the things I did for her. Shook off my affection and was distant. Would rather be on her phone than sit on my lap and watch a movie. She was an emotionally distant and ungrateful girlfriend. Having sex with her was very demeaning. She would never act like she wanted sex with me. I gave her oral sex probably 100 times more than she gave me back. I know we shouldn't give only to receive...but when you give everything you have to give and the person doesn't even appreciate you...you end up with nipple piercings and a self-inflicted jaw fracture sometimes.

a job in a factory.

>>16919522 at The morgue would be perfect

>>16919522
You are not a loser

you should ask her, that will probably help end anything if it isn't working for her

she might wuss out and say "oh no anon i still want to be with you" and the only real way check that she does is to ask her about spare time that she has, if any. or if she's going through something.

>>16919509
ok, lets do this. I'll post what came of it, if you are interested

if she is too shy to say it, and you make her confess instantly, that's it sadly anon. no real need to further discuss.

if she disagrees with the statement, post it for us. might be able to decipher her real meaning for you. remember to ask her about any personal problems and any free time she may have.

Don't bother.
If they can send these signals to someone outside of their current relationship then they're perfectly capable of doing it to you.
A relationship based on a foundation of betrayal never lasts.
Maybe I'm just being cynical but there you go.

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>>16919450
this happened to me awhile back:

>be 18 year old kissless virgin
>suffer from oneitis since freshman year of high school
>cute, cheerful, intelligent filipino girl
>close friends, talk on the phone/text often, flirt on occasion
>but she moved from relationship to relationship and i never took a chance (close mutual friend stated that if i had taken a chance that she would have gone out with me, that she was into me, etc)
>her long-term boyfriend is also a close friend so i finally made the decision to try and move on
>i suspect her boyfriend was getting tired of us flirting/communicating and she also pulled back
>start college and high school friends are still close so we meet up at the big state school for parties on weekends
>one frat party followed by two house parties and we're winding down
>everyone's a bit fucked up, i'm largely sober since i don't really drink
>we're at a local pizza place to grab a bite before we head back to the dorms
>i'm talking to her and i'm still very attracted to her but keep conscious of my decision to move on
>we have to stand really close since the shop is packed, essentially just leaning on one another, and we're away from the group who are seated 15 feet away
>she looks at me with her big, doe eyes and tells me that she loves me
>i feel a rush of butterflies within me but i don't know how to respond
>i had no idea what she meant and it was so out of left field
>i think about it for a split second and tell her that i love her too since it was the truth
>she's smiles at me and leans closer

i stopped communicating with her entirely after that. i still see her every now and then and she's still with the same boyfriend. when i see her i don't really acknowledge her. i don't make it a point to speak to her or interact with her. she strung me along for all of high-school, knowing full well that i was infatuated with her (everyone knew it), and then college starts and she tells me she loves me? fuck you.

They're just toying with you.

People in relationships like to know they're still wanted. The person that is 'giving you signals' is probably doing so for kicks, and simply wants to know they've still got it.