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People in general not liking you

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I've been unpopular in pretty much every social circle I've ever been part of. At work and at uni, I'm 100% sure that most people dislike me because of all the weird passive-aggressive behavior I encounter.

I'm the first to admit I don't have a really pleasant personality: I'm anxious, shy, aggressive, and just a weirdo in general. But despite that, even when I make a good "first contact" it becomes just a matter of time before the person starts hating me. Usually it's because I could no longer sustain the "act" I'd put on when we met, or because my real personality, which the person may have found interesting for a few days, becomes tiresome.

I really don't know what I'm doing wrong, I've tried different approaches (being the quiet guy, the extrovert, the funny guy, being me, being someone I know who is popular and well-liked) and none of it really works. I'm at the "read popular social psychology books" stage of despair so I don't really know where I can go from here.
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>>16927203

>put on acts
>people don't like it

Maybe your problem is that you're a fucking tryhard? I'm a dick to everyone I meet, and I've still cobbled together a group of 5-10 lifelong friends post-uni.

Being yourself only works as a long-term action. If you keep having new personas, no one is going to stick around to find out which one is real.
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>>16927203
>I tend to be unpleasant to people.
>They tend to be unpleasant back.

Can YOU see a connection there?
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>>16927203
Start by not being an idiot. Calm the fuck down and just chill out. Learn to relax and shut the fuck up from time to time. I know many people that just won't stop talking and say random shit to see if people like them. Improve your voice aswell. People with annoying voices tend to be unpopular.
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