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Hi everyone. I just had the worst day of my adult life yesterday.
Here's how it happened:
>I'm a 21 year old American studying in Japan
>I'm pretty hot, even by western standards. Good shape, weight, ect
>Tindering out of boredom.
>Japanese girl on Tinder messages me that she's horny and wants sex.
>I take the train and visit her the next night.
>trudge through the rain, finally find her place
>she's even more beautiful than her photos
>she sits me down, we strike up some nice conversation
>we have sex, she tells me she really likes me and that she loves sex as much as most guys
>we have sex a few more days, start getting really close emotionally
>we go on a date. I ask if we're dating.
>she smiles and says, "Yes"
>we spend many nights together.
>our love grows stronger, we gradually get more and more intense
>I have one month left
>We go out to a korean restaurant in Kobe, she visits me and we cook together, we go out to the city and have wonderful dates
>One morning, I walk her to her college
>We sit in the grass. She tells me she is scared of me leaving and that she wants to get married eventually
>I had this question asked of me before by another girl and it scared me. This time, I am filled with an overwhelming feeling of love
>I cry a lot. When I am with her. When I am working. When I am sleeping. I cannot imagine leaving her to go home.
>It is the last day I am with her.
>I hide a love letter in her cabinet with some presents. She hands me a card and tells me to read it on the plane home.
>we agree a long-distance relationship would be too hard and that we should separate.
>I cry in her arms. She cries. I get in the elevator and watch her disappear.
>I read the letter on the plane.
>It is absolutely beautiful. Filled with hearts, the words, "I LOVE YOU" in the middle.
>I literally die on the inside, start sobbing the moment I read it
>I return home. I parade around my house with the card like a child. I want everyone to see it.

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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

Avoid asking these common questions:

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.

>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.

>Brandon
Fuck off

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Why do men have to do all the work in dating?

Adv loves to talk about how badly girls want a relationship but you never see them do any heavy lifting.

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How can I meet girls if bars and tinder are out? All my friends and coworkers are males.

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How do I stop thinking about Donald Trump?

I want to watch every rally, I want to read all of his tweets, I love the Trump threads on /pol/. I think I'm really becoming obsessed with Donald, every time I feel upset I think, "What would Donald do?" and think of things he's said.

I'm so inspired by him, I honestly believe America can become an amazing country. I feel like I want to be a better person, I want to be a positive force in Donald's America.

I wish I could meet people who share my enthusiasm, no one seems to understand. People seem even more confused because I'm black, like "Why do you want to vote for Trump? He's a racist!" People don't understand, Donald isn't a racist, he loves all Americans! I can't wait for Donald to become President, Obama was such a letdown and I didn't even vote in 2012. I've started reading Art of the Deal and constantly try to think of how I can model my behavior and actions to be more like Donald Trump's. I want to learn how to channel his lessons into my own life to better myself.

Am I just going crazy? Is this normal? I know lots of people have fallen under Donald's spell, I want to go to a rally to see him in person.

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>got a 0.13% BAC DUI
>court tomorrow
>no lawyer
>dad has a letter detailing depression/ADD/suicidal tendencies for me to give to the judge
>that's it

should i plead guilty or nah?

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I'm going to jail in three weeks, /adv/
I'd rather not give specifics, but I will say that I am unlikely to be out for over a decade, and where they're putting me is not "white collar". I haven't been in before, so I have no idea what to expect.

Have you been inside before, /adv/? What was it like? Do you feel that it did help rehabilitate you, or otherwise improve you as a person?

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...to date/hook up with other girls than guys to date/hook up with girls.


My sister recently discovered Tinder, and I told her to do a social experiment and set her profile to both boys and girls to see what came up, so she did.

Her results were a bit of a shocker to me. My sister is rather attractive, probs 9/10, and within a week she had 3000 unread matches on Tinder.

THREE.Thousand. in a week.

Anyway, ofc the majority was beta/chody dudes, but a fair number of girls sent her messages too.... like, a lot in fact. Quite attractive girls too, all asking if she was into girls, etc. I'd say about 1/4 were girls. That's around 750 girls in a week man.

A lot were also sending really lame openers too, like "Hey."

You know how girls bitch about guys online sending them unending lame openers? "If you simply say, "hey" I won't reply." Double standards, yadda yadda.

Anyway, by comparison I'm a reasonably attractive dude. I'd say about an 8.5. And while I get matches with average girls on Tinder often, NEVER do I get girls open me unless they're ugly as fuck. The ocassional hottie I get through Tinder rarely replies. Chalk it up to game, or what have you, but the point is:

If you're a pretty girl, hooking up with/dating other pretty girls is easy as fuck, wheras if you're a dude, your shots are much harder unless you dedicate time toward learning pick up, or get a shitton of money. And no, looks won't help you unless you're famous. They give you a leg up against average or ugly dudes, but even a 10/10 dude won't be getting 750 girls in a week wanting to fuck.

Fucked up init?

When I really stop to think about it, I just think "hell, if I'd have been born a girl, I could be fucking more girls completely effortlessly, no bullshit, no pick up, whatever, just switch on any darlting app and they come in droves."

Insane dudes...

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As a woman, I don't understand why guys don't approach me or try to seem interested. I am known to be very fashionable and put in plenty of effort to look good. Everyone says I'm pretty but it's hard to believe because I'm in my 20s and has never been intimate or in a relationship. People have responded it's because I may seem intimidating and shy. Do guys find it hard to approach a pretty girl? Am I ugly or just overthinking it?

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Ok, so here it goes: my bf is a neet. How do I help him to become productive member of society again?

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I am too depressed to make a very long detailed thread. Here is how it works.

I am 30 years old and alone. Parents died a long time ago, no siblings. No friends other than a few colleagues. No girlfriend. The last part hits the hardest. It has been a couple of years ever since I had a stable relationship. I am lonely and crave for some affection.

Want to know the reason that girls are apalled by me? It's the same reason why my last girlfriend broke up with me. I own a funeral house.

Yep that's right. I inherited a funeral house (or however you call them) from my uncle some years ago. You might think to yourselves: "so what?". Well I live in Greece, so it is possible that we have different cultures. The majority of people are superstitious here. To the point where they might even avoid looking at the general direction of me or my employees. As if this wasn't bad enough, people who work as such places are casually called as "grave diggers" or "dead men carriers". I don't know if you have a similar saying. What I know is that nobody wants to have a "grave digger" or a "dead men carrier" husband/boyfriend. Oh boy, if only I could count the disgusted amount of faces when I say them what my job is...

Abandoning the business is out of the question. Neither do I feel comfortable with lying about my job.

Help.

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Hi /adv/

I want your opinion about this;

I'm 23 years old and still a virgin, i have money to spend should i or should i not go to a prostitute?

If not could you also tell me why?

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Recently opened up the relationship with my fiance. We've been together over a year.
The open relationship is because of my high sex drive and his performance anxiety. Of course the idea is that I'll fuck guys, but how, when, why is still a mystery to me.

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I've been dating my gf for eight months now. I'm 40, somewhat obese, definitely not attractive & bald. My gf on the other hand looks young (she is Asian), has a nice body % a sweet face even though technically she is average-looking. She is 36. She tells me that she loves me, but I sometimes ask myself whether she truly likes me. I sometimes think that she only picked me as she had no other choices (she is 36 after all) and that she tells me that she loves me and that I am sweet just to make me happy.

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Hi /adv/
I'm a 23 y/o male that had never had issues when it came to sex. Quite the contrary, I always kinda prided myself in my abilities despite being a failure when it comes to other parts of my life. But a couple of months ago I went through a tough breakup with my ex.

Now I've tried to have sex with 2 girls an I can't get hard at all. Like not even with hands.
This last one was a stunning pro. (22 year old vietnamese model, legit one of the hottest women i've ever seen, 10/10). I felt so embarassed. And i feel like it might be more than just a psychological issue now? I'm too young for this, how can I fix this??