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>>16952241
>2006
>be depressed due to family and general puberty stuff
>insecticide
>be diagnosed with depression, break off therapy

>self improval to put it bluntly

Sometimes I fall into old patterns like paranoia or the good old ZOMGNOONELOVESME (to be fair I'm a difficult person), but in general my life is awesome, so why would I give two shits.

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>>16952241
try reading this book

it might not work for you, but, give it a shot

>did anyone of you tried to kill themself?

yes. unsure of how many times because unsure of what counts. I've thought about it almost every day for the last 14 years, started to attempt countless times, attempted so that I had to go to the ER probably 5-10, been hospitalized for suicide attempts 3 out of the 6 times I've been hospitalized, nearly died from attempting 2 times.

>how did you try it? and why?

It's pretty split between strangulation and OD. The worst one was when I was 19 and that was strangulation that led to a 5-day coma.

Why: I'm very upset a lot of the time. Child abuse from birth-18 years, first by my dad, then by my mom when my parents divorced, kinda fucked me up, and I never got help for it. Bullied in school etc. Then I went off to college and landed myself in an relationship where I was getting beaten and choked out. I dunno I guess I've just felt like I was drowning in pain and there was no way to be physically or emotionally safe. Most of the therapy I received was unskilled and bouncing in and out of psych wards only justified that I was the problem member of my family. I started to feel like everyone was evil, including myself, while simultaneously wanting love.

This is how you create a personality disorder I guess

Oh, and then I started seeing the effects of chronic illness lol.

>and why are you still alive?

I'm doing some other things than attempting suicide at the moment. I'm not gonna try again until I've given ripping myself out of my family a try. I've never been able to live independently but it's going to happen really soon.

I've also gotten dramatically better at dealing with my mental setup. I did Dialectical Behavioral Therapy for a bit and took what I liked from that. I keep pretty good records of events that happened to me so if I'm lost in whatever I'm feeling at the moment I can check back. I dissociate entirely at will, which is good for getting through a rough patch.

don't do it, think how it would feel if it happened to you.

This person is a cunt though

>Person isn't in your life
>Have been asked to control their finances?

This doesn't make any sense. I think even if you are given power of attorney over someone's finances you can't legally just take their money and put it into your own account .

That's just what someone in the closet would say haha. No srs tho, I had the balls to walk up to this fucking giant over 6ft6 guy in my school and talk to him, now we're going on our 3rd date. It gets easier real quick, talk to a girl, maybe go on a date and within a few hours of talking your nerves will just melt away, just don't start jizzing yourself and you'll be fine. Everybody makes a big fucking deal outta talking to chicks but desu we're just people with tits same as u m8

>>16952639

Women have no idea how to be guys to be honest...

> Everybody makes a big fucking deal outta talking to chicks but desu we're just people

People who like to reject as cruelly as possible. Seriously, half of you don't even treat men like people. Fuck, if you were a guy, you wouldn't be givin' that same advice.

OP, learn to fake it.
Start with casualy smiling, saying "hi" in passing.
If you're stuck in their proximity for a prolonged time, maybe make small talk. About weather or work or some shit. Smile... think of something funny you saw on TV to make smiling easier.
Don't ask anything too personal, don't get too close. The only exception to this is if she asks something personal first, then you can follow up with an "and you?".
Never ask if she's seeing anyone.

Aim for acquaintances rather than friends.

This won't get you laid, but it'll stop you being the creepy guy. It's all about becoming comfortable with blending in around women. Being invisible.

Do your own homework.

>>16952209
Please don't go to college if you think the us runs on a different year
Get a job
Make a killing ringing a church bell with your skull

>>16952269
I'm sorry, due to the lack of my knowledge, what I meant is around Oct 16 - Mar 17, from college page it's called 'this year (2017)' this exact phrase. I copied it and thought it'd be fine to put (in us) in the same brackets. Apologies for the miscommunication.

>>16952194
Do you view her as a limitation or something?

"very selective about the people I keep in my life" meaning you fucked and dumped a bunch of people as you hustled your way to the "top?"

Karma, bitch.

>>16952217

No, not at all. I care a lot about the people in my life; friends, family, significant others... I sometimes put them above myself. I don't know how to balance selfishness with selflessness, and it usually balances more in favor of the people around me. I haven't had a relationship since I was 19, but I have a very close group of friends that are like brothers and sisters to me.

>>16952208

In some way, yes. But in others ways, no.

It doesn't matter what they say, because it's hypocritical.

If you've been here for more than a day you'll know the first thing everyone says to either sex is "lower your standards". And I can tell you from experience that an ugly girl you love is worth a thousand hot girls you have no connection with other than "so hot"

She makes you happy. There is no problem. Other people's shit is their own problem.

Remember op you don't know what you've got till it's gone. Imagine how stupid you'll feel if you dump her and then can't get a hot girl

>>16952184
Hell, imagine how stupid he'll feel if he can get hot girls but can't fall in love again.

>>16952164
You just say that, unlike them, you are not so shallow that looks are everything, and you are in love with the person inside the wrapping and therefore find the wrapping beautiful.

>>16952161
Everyone who wanks always comes quicker off a wank. Do you cum in her pussy? Or want to/pull out?

I'm guessing you aren't very experienced or you are with a newish partner? If so things will get better as you have more sex.

1) Make sure you take plenty of time for foreplay and going down on her
2) Try to just enjoy the moment and her body and go in thinking "Hey, if I don't cum it really doesn't matter. She doesn't care and I can always wank about it later."
3) Get a little drunk or take a beta blocker
4) Tell her you're really nervous

>>16952170
I've fucked tons but this girl is different for me and yes new and we've only been sexting so it's a lot of pressure

But I've always lost my wood fast during sex but not jerking off its like I like masturbating more than sex

>>16952160
Go live with your sister and get a job to pay her back she'd be happy to help you as long as you don't make yourself a burden

Maybe get a job and stop parasiting on other people? It doesn't sound like your bf gives a damn about you so it would be wise to give it a go before he kicks you out on a curb. I seriously fail to understand why you think it's okay to live on someone's expense...

>>16952176
Live on someone elses' expense? I work. He is currently unemployed. Why would you make that assumption

Bumpin

I fucking need help

>>16952143
What advice we, or anybody for that matter, give you that exceeds the boring "go talk to her" kind?
If she's cold, "force" her to at least listen to you. Don't tell her that you don't love her or anything negative for that matter. Simply put out there.

If she doesn't give a shit, fucking deal with it somehow. If she does for whatever reason, move on from there.

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Tell him to stop playing eroges and obsessively watch anime.

>>16952073
Show him the money you make.

which courses are you in?

the part time job you work is only really relevant in the short term

>>16952073
your dad wants to hire and train you to do what exactly? work as a millwright? I wish had that kind of opportunity.

>>16952066
Just tell him "You still owe me from last time" or "I didn't bring cash"

>>16952070
This guy would just be like "dude I know you have money cmon" its hard to look like an ass when it's only 2 bucks

>>16952090
Naw man I didn't bring any cash. Did you bring a card?

>>16951997
Can I be CEO?

Your question is vague, we have no idea what your financial capabilities are.

Ps Before tax

>>16952006
I want to know if I can move out of my parents house making 10k.
A better wording would be "is it recommended to move out making 10k a year"

>>16951975
Now, let me say first off that I am straight. Knowing that the person you're roleplaying with might be a dude in real life kind of comes with the territory of ERP, but the idea is that so long as no one says they're a guy/girl IRL, you don't pay it any mind and just fap to the character, not the person playing the character. With S starting to act like this though, I'm a little confused how to react. Not because I'm questioning my sexuality, I know for a fact I'm straight. Why I'm confused, is because I'm starting to think S might actually be a girl. Here's the reasons why:

>S has always played a girl every time I've played with them, with the exception of when they were GMing, but that's because my character was the only guy in the group and S needed to give the others something to get off to as well.
>S has always played submissive characters. Their fetishes, as I've been told by them, include rape, mind break, breeding, maledom, loli as well as shota, petplay, and a whole lot of other things to that effect. Might or might not also be into bestiality, that one I'm not sure on.
>Has actively said they don't enjoy femdom. Says it doesn't do anything for them. Also mentioned they don't really care for yuri (lesbian stuff for non-weebs), though they never said anything about yaoi (gay stuff).
>Has said they like both muscular men and leaner, more effeminate men. No matter the body type though, wants them to be dominant.
>Noticeably didn't use gender-specific pronouns when referring to themselves in that lewd skype message mentioned above.

Now, with that all in mind, part of me thinks S might actually be a girl. The reasons for this is:
>Rape is one of the most common sexual fantasies for girls.
>Doesn't like lesbian stuff.
>Likes both loli and shota, which means they probably just like that body-type in general regardless of gender.
>That slut comment mentioned above. Can't really see a guy calling himself a "subby slut" but maybe I'm wrong.

>>16951981
So, right now I'm not sure if S is just a girl who likes dominant men, or a bisexual man that wants to dominate women while having his pooper plundered. You can imagine why I'm a little uncomfortable here and not sure how to proceed. Thus, why I'm here asking which you guys think it is. Would it actually be rude to ask them if they're a guy or a girl? If I do and S says they're a guy, how do I respond without being rude or awkward? If they are a guy, how do I let them know I'm not interested outside of the game?

Weird as fuck scenario and question, I know. If it was normal I wouldn't be asking anons on the internet for advice. My posts are kind of a clusterfuck too because I had no idea how to go about posting this, so I can elaborate anywhere if needed.

Why don`t you excercise just as your doctor recommended? What? Is it too hard for you to break a sweat?

>>16951942
Have you tried exercising every day?

>>16951952
I do, but can only manage to exercise 3-4 times a week because my muscles get too sore. Even this only marginally helps.