How do I meet other young people my age (22,23) after college? Should I move to a city? It feels like all rural/suburban areas are just a dead end for singles.
Even in an urban setting, you can't make "meeting people" your top priority. It can work in a city but you're going to end up around desperately lonely people who are probably alone for good reasons.
The best way to meet people as a young adult is to first establish your lifestyle as a young adult. You have the opportunity (albeit not always the resources of time, money, etc.) to explore ideas and find out what sorts of stuff you really enjoy. You could spend the next decade just trying new things without ever having to settle down into a routine with any of them. There's that much out there. Now I'm talking in general terms; in rural areas there might indeed not be all that much available to you. It's up to you to milk the most you can from your setting and then make a move when you're ready for more. But you need to get to living--really living--before you add the company of other people. Not only will that provide the substance for the time you spend with these people, it'll let you cross paths with them in the first place. You want to meet people with a similarly active mindset. Those people are much better than those who socialize for the sake of socializing.
Yes. Move to a city. Then sign up on dating sites and tinder. Also go to events on meetup.com.
I want to kick this photoshopped simpering bitch in the face.
I trained to be a Programmer. Mom wants me to be a mechanic.
I graduated from College in 2007 with a Bachelors in Computer Science. However, because of my disability, my mother though I should be on Social Security Disability Income and take a part time job, and be part of some vocational program with people with worse disabilities some who never graduated high school, were on drugs, had been in and out of jail, yet for some reason the geniuses at our State Vocation Reabilitation office though I would be perfect for such program.
It has been a turmultuous 8 years later. I've been in two of those programs, one where I was kicked out and Voc Rehab didn't want to speak to me any more after I tried stating my case that I wasn't a violent person.
Without VR's help this past year, I managed to acquire a part time job with the help of my dad. Ad despite fighting with my mother for the past 8 years to tell her "there are no part-time positions in the tech industry", she has continued to push that I work at a local aircraft factory to become an aircraft mechanic despite that I trained to be a software engineer to do things that were far from the field of aircraft engineering or mechanical stuff, never went to a technical school, and despite doing well at the college I went to always seem to flunk out of whatever community college course that I take.
Yet she is persistent. And she is obstinate. And she is losing her job at the end of the month. And both Social Security and Voc Rehab want to meet up next week.
(1/2)
TLDR: I'm ready to grow up and take a full time job, but mom doesn't want me to fearing failure so she wants me to be something else and train to be something else so that VR pays for it and so Social Security pays me still.
How do I take some fucking sense into her?
(Yeah, I know I should have done this sooner, but she have a problem with this until unemployment became her problem too.)
(2/2)
>>16953418
>have had a degree for the greater side of ten years
>degree with monetary potential
>still a mommy's boy
What the fuck OP? You don't have to listen to her lol.
I had a first date in a bar with a guy from Tinder, thought I'd have a few beers and then head home. But then he says he doesn't have the money for more beer but he has rum and coke at his place and asked if I wanted to come with. Idiot that I was, I agreed.
Now, my tolerance for stronger drinks is very poor. Also, I often start insulting people out of nowhere and generally being an aggressive dick when too drunk. Yeah... I quickly got roaring drunk and kept asking him the same question over and over again. I don't remember everything, but I kept asking if he was looking for a one-night stand, even after he told me a million times he wasn't. I kept asking if he's an autist (ouch). I bit his piercing and probably did some other godawful things I can't remember.
To top it all off, I dozed in his bed till 5PM the next day since I was too hungover and hungry to leave. He did come lie next to me and we had sex for a bit in the afternoon, but later he got kinda pissed when I wasn't leaving. He didn't talk to much during the day and seemed kinda angry, maybe? I don't know.
I messaged him to apologize and tell him I don't usually pull this kind of shit. I realize that I was really, really shitty and he'd be justified if he never wanted to see me again.
Just, I liked him and we had fun for a while. Can I still salvage this and get to know him better, and show him I'm not as insane as I seemed?
>>16953396
id move on
Woah, what a mess.
Cut your ties.
>>16953396
You should seriously contemplate your life and the choices you make in it.
Promiscuity is frowned upon for a reason.
Early 20's in a new state with high school diploma, how do I start my path to serve the public?
By volunteering in your community and venturing no further into politics. Politics corrupts the mind and soul and by the time you get to a position where you are able to do something you will no longer have the desire to. If you want to help the public do so directly.
>>16953367
Avoid politics. Go into non-profit charity organizations.
I'm determined. Change needs to start from the top, and I hope to do so in the Office on day.
What are some specific credentials I would need from education?
How many things should you do when you're meeting up together on a date and the like, and how much should be planned out?
I asked this girl out to watch a movie soon. We've been close for a few months, and in the past month tension only intensified. We went to the cinema before, but that wasn't much of a date and she had her parents pick her up as soon as the movie ended. That was a long time ago, though; I don't think she'll do that again.
Anyway, I'm not sure if I'm doing this right. I'm taking the bike there because it's a pretty long distance to the cinema, I have no car or public transport in that direction, and the cinema is right in the middle between our places.
Now I've found out that it's probably going to rain pretty badly too, so taking the bike's not that good an idea anymore. Umbrellas and bikes don't mix either.
And finally, we have just the cinema planned for now. I'm kind of fine with that, but I don't know if I should be. I mean, how much of a date is that? We don't have much of a need to "get to know each other" anymore, but I would like to spend some more time just being with her. Thing is, there isn't much else to do in the area that doesn't involve cycling through the rain. Am I supposed to just stick around in the cinema for a few hours afterwards?
Please help me fix the day up a little to make the day feel a little less half-assed. Any advice?
However much you normally do and/or plan. Dating should just be an extension of your own lifestyle. You can do new or special things if you want but the habits carry. After all, the whole point is to see how your date fits into your life. You should act as typically as possible. You weren't planning on having an entire relationship where you have to act deliberately instead of naturally, right?
Do as much as you do. Plan as much as you plan. Trust me, you know how to have fun. You clearly have a sense of things like boredom and thoughtfulness (like about the weather). Whatever comes naturally to you will be good enough. If you enjoy it, she'll enjoy it. That's as far as your responsibility goes.
>>16953300
Okay, so the amount's no big deal. That makes sense. The 'natural' thing to do isn't exactly easy to think of with the problems I listed, though. What is the natural thing to do, really?
Other than that it's helpful. Thanks.
If you get a ticket, I know it adds 'points' or something to your license which insurance companies use to hike up your rates, right?
How long until these points go away though, and do insurance companies reduce them down after they go away?
I'm in MI btw. Got a ticket which adds 2 points to my record and I cant take that class to avoid the points because I took it before.
Some infractions come with points, some don't. Check your local laws when it comes to how many points come off per year after the ticket. As for insurance, it's usually for as long as the points are on your license. Your premiums may also never drop back to their original levels.
In your situation, you should consider talking to a traffic law attorney. For only two points, there's probably a way for you to show up in court for the ticket. You can probably negotiate to have the penalty be modified to a higher monetary fine but without points.
I worked as a receptionist for an insurance company and depending it can stick for 3-7 years depending. For example speeding tickets drop in 3 years but heavy infractions like DUI for example will linger for 7 years before the you can legally expunge them. If you really want to tear into this shit I'd look up an "independent insurance broker" in your area and ask them for a free quote, they'll try and hit you with a broker fee if you transfer to them but thats under the condition that they can actually save you money and initiate a change in policy. These guys are pretty try hard and depending on the CSR they'll throw information at you in the hopes you'll sign up.
read the law u dumbass, it is different state to state. they do expire after a few years.
How do I get rid of a fetish? Is it even wise to do so?
What I have gathered from various articles thus far: bury your fetish, ignore your thoughts, keep yourself busy.
While this isn't something constantly running through my mind, it is something that comes to mind quite often, and it kind of hurts to think about.
The short and thick:
I was raped as a child for years, and have since fetishized the idea of my partner wanting young females (14 & under). Worse still: he does get off on that (more-so 12-14 than younger, but he does still think of younger girls sometimes). Thankfully, there is plenty of loli hentai and other animated characters to imagine (I don't feel comfortable thinking about RL girls--though am unsure whether that's the case with him).
I hate that I like it. It excites me initially, but when I step out of arousal-mode I judge myself.
>pic not really related
Bumping with more Cara
>>16953262
trying a bump again
>>16953262
well your bf is a lucky man.
Girl I've know for a while qt kinda weird, I'm weirder. I don't talk too much, if not at all, in group settings, but a lot when we're alone. Through trials and hardships we finally started dating. It's only been about a week but we barely spend one together or interact in any way. Most of our friends are mutual, but she spends more time with some of them more then me even if she's expressed that she really really like them. I'm somewhat of a beta-fag so I haven't even kissed her much less even hold her hand, just the occasional hug. i should also mention that we see each other a lot during the day. And by that I mean we're in the same room most of the time at school, but she still won't talk to me or even make eye contact and even when I try to make conversation with her it's very one worded and she often just ends up walking away only after a few minutes. Am I just a pure beta? Plz halp /adv/.
No?
>>16953261
how old are you?
So, I'm going on a long ass trip, like extremely long, and I decided to bring my Vita and 3DS, but I don't have a traveling case for my games, and it's too late to buy one, where can I transport them.
>>16953258
anything, you dingus
get a fucking ziploc bag
or, instead of being a god damn manchild, bring some books or your laptop instead
>>16953281
This, if you need to just use your phone to play pokemon on an emulator. Or read. I just finished Dune, was excellent, would recommend.
can something bad happen if you cum balls deep in her mouth?
>>16953255
unless shes alergic to sperm nothing to worry about bruh
Well she can bite off your dick; and I suppose she could choke to death.
But besides that, not really.
>>16953394
I forgot to mention, the chances of either of those things happening are rather slim.
That's kind of obvious but I'm pretty sure if I don't say it I look like an idiot.
How do I trick women into liking me?
Sort out your responsibilities in life, take care of your health and physical appearance, develop a pleasant and confident personality and enjoy a lifestyle which is both open and inviting to other people.
Best trick in the book. Four tips women don't want you to know! (GONE SEXUAL!)
>>16953272
Are you a woman? Will you go out with me?
>>16953276
You're on 4chan. Of course I'm not a woman.
Hello's
So I need some quick advice on how I am spending my money.
First of all I would like to say, that I am not broke and not in any kind of debt.
HOWEVER
I use A LOT of money on random stuff, which I feel the need to buy.. Gaming gear, food, clothes and just random stuff I guess..
Some time after buying these things, I kinda realize I actually didn't need it for shit...
So my question is:
How do I stop spending money on random stuff, and save it for greater things later in life?
Thanks.
Think about whether or not the thing you want to buy is something you need.
Evaluate whether or not the thing you want to buy is something you'll want in the long-run, or just an easy answer for a quick fix.
Often times we buy things to feel as though our efforts in life are being rewarded.
Remember:
You are not your possessions.
You are your actions.
Only carry cash, like $40 and don't buy shit you don't need.
If you really want to dive into it write down all of your expenses in a log and guilt trip yourself as the numbers unfold.
>>16953256
This.
Only spend cash. Then you can watch the dosh slip right through your fingers.
girl from highschool 3 years ago adds me on facebook. does that mean she wants the penor?
>>16953208
1) what was the nature of your relationship at the time
2) did she send you any opening messages?
3) how many people is she currently adding?
>>16953208
no, just means she's interested in you and possibly wants your pen.
chat with her. see how she's doing. see what she wants. catch up. meet up. do it dawg
>>16953210
1 - we never talked. i shouldve added that in the op.
2 - no message
3 - nobody else currently
Is it okay to admit you're a bad person?
I'm manipulative, hurt people, scam, cheat, steal and lie.
>>16953189
It's OK to admit it, as long as you intend to do something about it.
that's just fine.
>>16953192
I don't, though.
I've tried being the good guy but I just get stomped on and end up as the one being used.
There are also just so many more opportunities when you don't care.
I applied for a job at my local cinema after I saw a notice requesting a part-time worker.
This seems perfect for me. I have an avid interest in all things multimedia, a college degree in film+television production, and have attended this cinema over 100 times in 2012-2013.
I'm in crisis-mode at this time in life. Totally broke, don't have one Euro. I'm not receiving state benefits. My family, relatives, and friends have outcast me. I need a fucking job in short. I've applied to all the local shops without success, but this seems it's gotta be it.
I sent them an email about a week ago, but have yet to receive any word back from them.
I just want your feedback. Did I fuck up the email?
Here's the email.
All the info stated is true.
>>16953186
>Here's the email.
Don't tell a potential employer you're broke.
>would prefer
No potential employer cares about what you prefer. You need them more than they need you.
Just list your qualifications; don't talk about how you feel you'd be a good fit for the job. That's for them to decide.
Hope this helps
>>16953186
>level 7 bachelor's degree
what the fuck is this? yuropoor education is weird.