Anyone got some good ideas for asking a girl to prom? I still got like 1.5 months before it actually happens so that allots like a month of prep time if there are some crazy ideas out there.
"Hey you wanna go to prom with me?" worked fine for me.
>>16950215
Do this, and if get rejected, run to the nearest bathroom and hide in the stall. Squat on the bowl so other people can't see your feet.
Does anyone have any experience with the long fight with anxiety?
Almost in my 30s, been dealing with depression for a few years but only within these last several months have I been getting anxiety attacks. I typically have mild nausea/off stomach sensations throughout the day, very rarely does my stomach feel normal.
I've cut caffeine and alcohol, regularly take my SSRI medication, my work is somewhat active and I walk about an hour a day 5 days a week minimum. I've worked on understanding the 10 cognitive distortions and so on, and day to day it's been all right.
But when the panic attack does decide to hit, it's like my emergency benzodiazepines don't do anything to it even if I take one pre-emptively when I think I might get one. Ginger root/peppermint does nothing to ease my stomach's discomfort, and I usually end up throwing up.
It's frustrating because no matter how much I've put into this so far, nothing stops the panic attacks from randomly happening, and while I can tone down sensations of trembling/spasms, light-headedness, etc, I can't do anything to fix the nausea.
What have you guys done to improve your situation?
What are you usually doing when they happen?
I had mild shaking when more than 4 people would stare at me. The best way to combat it in my opinion is to not take meds and everytime you feel anxious about doing something, you have to do that thing.
Like, talk to a cashier, girl, do a presentation, ask someone for help, express feelings and fears openly to people etc.
That nervousness becomes a queue to conqeur whatever is making you nervous. Youll realize the nervousness has very little justification and a lot of small anxieties will go away woth your depression.
I reiterate, this is my opinion.
>>16950949
Strangely enough I'm usually out with my girlfriend, though rare times I can get them even when we're just relaxing together.
We used to go out on dates, see movies, go to restaurants, etc. As time went on I was getting really hit hard with nausea and for a long while we thought I was just getting sick off the food or something, until months later we discovered I was actually suffering from panic attacks.
It's particularly annoying because at times I'm not even thinking of anything that would be a cognitive distortion, or even negative in any means. Usually the first thing I get hit with is a hard wave of nausea that sends me to the bathroom, and it only gets worse from there.
I definitely try not to use the benzos very much due to their withdrawal symptoms, dependence factor, and their potential for abuse. I've only taken 9 pills in the last 3 months.
I guess it's mostly frustrating since a lot of the places I've got panic attacks are where nothing at all is concerning, much less things I haven't done before many times over in the past.
>>16951087
Just wild guessing, but could it be motion sickness from watching a screen or riding in a car? Is there any common factor in your panic attacks? It took me a long time to realize, but I get panic attacks from loud noises, like at restaurants. I wasn't even consciously aware that they were bothering me. Then one day I put in ear plugs and the panic went away. Maybe you have an inner ear problem or a hormone imbalance?
My toxic, lazy, habitually lying ex-boss got our entire team laid off due to his poor planning, hiring of unqualified friends, and general lack of properly reporting project requirements to us from the company's owner. (Also: not showing up half the time, stealing the petty cash, lying constantly, and so on and so on.)
All his former employees are struggling to find work, since the project failed. And yet, he just got a really excellent job at a big Bioware, despite having none of the required skills or a single recommendation (unless he's lying about it, which wouldn't surprise me.)
If he were being brought into a company I worked at, there would be no question about reporting his previous toxic behavior to HR. But I don't work at his new company... how often do companies listen to unsolicited feedback about new employees? Is it ethical? Would HR even bother taking a closer look if they saw a new red flag in his history, now that he's already hired?
I don't want to see him ruin more careers.
>>16949794
Don't bother. HR already did their "research" and they're not gonna admit to doing a poor job at it.
>>16949794
>working at bioware
i'd say he got what he deserved.
Is uni a friend where you make friends? Or is it just people to party with? The friends I have left in my hometown are all NEETs and I'm contemplating doing one or some more years in the army just because I'm afraid of not having any friends that are fun once i get home
You go to uni to meet people desu. You can bascially learn all the skills online or with text books reading them alone. University puts you in a situation where relationships and connections are made.
You can do both?
hey /adv/ I'm going back to Uni this fall (19 years old, lucky me), hopefully with financial aid covering most of it.
Have to select a major and two minors. Thing is, I have no idea what I really want to do for the rest of my fucking life. I thought that getting into bionics, haptics and the like would be really cool, so Medical Technology major maybe? And a minor in Business Admin and Music (hobby). Business admin so I can maybe run a business of my own regarding my major.
Would appreciate any help with this. Things I'd like to at least look into are life extension, prosthesis research, nano-technology, related things.
Great choice, would choose the same if I could.
Minors are useless desu
We normally speak to each other once or twice a day through text or on the phone.
Last sent her a text monday night after we spoke on the phone.
I've only sent one follow up text earlier today, and still waiting to her back from her. Don't want to spam her with texts
Can't tell if she's annoyed with me, or if she's playing games. I keep seeing her active on social media and tagging friends in videos and fb and shit, and I'm getting really wound up. Have no clue why she is doing this
What's the best way to deal with this? Wait it out and if she doesn't respond tonight just call her?
what was the text saying?
>>16949675
Probably bored of you anon, when was the last time you took her out did something fun? You cant have a relationship that is strong and long lasting just from text's once or twice a day
is it normal to feel horrible pain in my nads after masturbating 3-5 times a day?
Stop fapping 3 to 5 times in a day
>>16949655
No. See a doctor.
basically I went out with this girl on st paddy's day and had a great time, slept with her the same night and called in sick the next morning. Friday night, went out for a late dinner and slept over again, no sex. woke up, spent all of Saturday with her, vegging out, watching shows, cuddling on the couch, getting to know each other, pretty much with a beer in hand the entire day. went home that night cause one of her girl friends needed to talk to her.
so I left thinking "wow she's actually a cool chick, this might go somewhere" but I didn't wanna seem to eager so I waited until Sunday night to shoot her a text, plus I knew she was working that night (pharm tech). I asked how's work, and got some pretty dry responses like "it's good". ever since then I've always had to initiate the texting conversation, and while she did respond, it never seemed like she wanted to keep a conversation going. I'm not really used to limited text interaction so I'm not sure if she's just lost interest, or just a really bad texter. she's not too electronically savvy (doesn't even own a computer) so I'm thinking she's not too big on texting.
eventually I asked her out again for taco tuesday, but said that her friend needed her and that she'll just hit me up when she's free later this week. should I just not contact her until (if ever) she texts me? I've made it pretty clear that I'm interested, but so far since I last saw her, there hasn't been indication that those feelings are reciprocated. I don't want her to think that I've lost interest if I don't contact her over a period of time, but at the same time I don't really wanna put in the effort if it turns out that she's not interested already. kinda just wanna see this from a different angle.
>>16949625
I would say that if she doesn't contact you by Friday you should Call Her and ask her out again. If she blows you off again just tell her you really like herandhad a great time with her and that you'd love for her to hit you up when she is free. Then she knows the score and its up to her
>>16949625
idk man it sounds like she gave you a shot and didn't feel anything, like honestly what are the odds of her friend "needing" her all of a sudden the one day you picked out of a week. 1 in 7 chance. Those odds are against you my friend. It just sounds like she wasn't that into you, it sucks but you should move on and stop making up fantasies and chasing a false dream. Find someone who will want to talk with you more, who will want to hangout with you more. Move on
>>16949638
this is pretty much what I'm set on doing, I guess I just needed a neutral party to confirm it
>>16949760
this is probably the most likely scenario. the only reason I even have a sliver of hope is that we ended Saturday on such a good note, and it seemed like a guarantee that she'd be willing to hang out again. the way we've been talking so far just seems like nothing ever happened, or even maybe that she met another guy/has plans with another date that she finds more worthy to pursue. I guess I was most excited about the idea of just being able to focus on one chick rather than hooking up with different girls like I have been for the past few months. I'm not looking for a relationship per se but she just seemed like a great person to consistently hang out with.
You're probably right though. I just needed to make a decision whether or not to shift my mindset and just don't give a shit about possibly seeing her again.
feeling like my head is burning but no fever. its probably because i often put my legs up on the desk when i sit down. do you think there's a way besides standing up more to solve this?
>>16949463
You're experiencing that because your circulation is shit.
Exercise and clean up your diet fatty. Also circulation enhancing socks.
Also see a fucking doctor
>>16949491
it takes months here to get a proper examination. my doctor is also a worthless fuck. also i am not fat.
but thanks, i need any kind of motivation i can get.
Hi /adv/,
This is my first time really posting here. I've never really needed to, but I'm sure that there are anons among us that are in the same boat or have had experiences relevant to this subject.
I drink about 4 - 5 cans of Monster Energy a week. It's a drain on my money and it's a drain on my health, certainly. Although it's not as extreme as other cases where people have had caffeine or energy drink addictions, it certainly is an addiction. I go on a downer if I haven't had it for a few days. It's started to cause serious problems with my family. I've tried going cold-turkey, but that never worked, I've tried weening myself off it, but that only leads to me "treating" myself by having more than usual which just sets me back even more than before, and I've tried accepting it, which is where the problem lies in the first place.
What /adv/ice do any of you guys have for a person like me? How do I quit?
It's not even energy drinks in general: just Monster.
Your addiction is more psychological than anything and you need to tough it out.
You say weaning didn't work and neither did cold turkey.
That's too fucking bad because those are your options. Pick one.
Don't you dare replace this habit with some other unhealthy craziness.
You really notice 4-5 cans of monster in your weekly budget? Hahahahahahaha, what are you? 13?
Wtf, addicted to energy drinks lol. Just drink lemonade and stop being such a faggot. If this is your number 1 problem right now life will have a few surprises for you later on hahahahaha
Take some fucking vitamins
dating 6 years, engaged last 18 months - we go on international trip and she falls in love with someone I invited on trip - they are now planning on getting married so he can come and stay here in US - I want to report them to immigration. I want to destroy his instagram account that is so lovely to him.
>>16948905
>they are now planning on getting married so he can come and stay here in US
BAHAHHAHAHAH
Dude marrying a foreign national who wants to immigrate is about the dumbest thing a chick can do. It's literally falling for someone who openly admits they are being paid a fortune to act like they love you.
Sounds like this guy is helping you dodge a bullet by removing this bimbo from your life. But seriously, ask anyone and they'll tell you the best revenge is to move on and not give a fuck. If you fight him she'll LOVE it - trust me chicks love nothing so much as to have men fight over them.
Just give it time is all I can say, thinking about revenge will only make it worse. I'm just glad you didn't say you want to get back together.
How can I be not-sexist? I never considered myself sexist or mysoginistic at all but nowadays pretty much everything is considered sexist so I don't know anymore. I feel like something as simple as asking a girl out is objectifying women now.
Strawman.
>>16948849
Stop baiting before I slap you.
what is an acceptable point at which one could start working as a programmer? what are the essentials?
A degree of some sort at minimum.
Know how to program? What kind of question is that?
During today and probably yesterday my speakers where on without my notice. I sometimes go around and listen/watch to whatever thing that might come up, even very odd porn.
I am afraid that the people I live with might have heard everything and is just playing like nothing happen. How do I find out if anyone heard anything specific without asking them?
The only way to navigate that is by having awesome social skills and it sounds like you might not.
Option A: Apologize before it comes up "Hey, man. Sorry that my speakers were on the past few days. Hopefully it didn't bother you too much"
Option B: "Dude, i didn't even realize my speakers were on the past few days! You should have said something"
Essentially, you'll just be creating a platform for a conversation if they want to talk to you about something that they heard. If they don't, then it isn't a big deal anyway
I cannot get an erection anymore, even if I stay a whole week without masturbating, it just cannot get hard.
This is extremely frustrating since I actually have a gf.
3 months is said to be the minimum period you need to refrain
Best to not watch porn and masturbate, like any other addiction it's really bad for you and the people around you
>>16948717
But I am not addicted to porn. I am addicted to 4chan, which happens to be flooded by porn.