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>>16948633

Acclimation.

Same way I learned to not gag on broccoli, I put it in my mouth more. Sorry to break it to you, but that's the way your body works.

Unless you want to acclimate with him around, get your juices on your fingers and practice sticking it in your mouth and telling yourself how glorious and sexy it tastes.

theres a way where if you clench your fist and try to push your thumb in-between your fingers it gets rid of your gag reflix if your focusing on your hand. no clue about a more long term thing, but i used to have a semi gag reflex with vodka and last Saturday it was gone so idk maybe just time???

- The second therapist I "attended" was actually only for one session. She was a therapist my brother was seeing in his Senior year of HS. She was one of those therapist tied to the Troubled Teen Industry and told my brother that to fix his problems, he should attend a Wilderness Camp. My brother was interested in joining the military at this time and thought this camp would be perfect for him to gain skills he would need for the military and college. Anyways, my brother told me one day she wanted to speak with me. I was a bit shocked as to why she would have an interest in me. Well, turns out my brother had told her about me and some personal details(eg: I had bladder programs, was gay, struggled my Freshman year of HS). Why he was so open to her about me, I have no idea. He must have trusted her. Well, I go in to see her and the first thing she does to me is start saying how my homosexuality was causing my bed-wetting, making me weak, how I need "extra" help to become a more full person. It was awful and this lasted for a good 45 minutes. I left her office in tears. You may ask why I didn't tell my parents about this and the reason is that I was pretty out of it during this time and this was the last thing I needed to hear.

If you have any further questions, please ask and I'll try and answer them. Also, if you feel comfortable enough, please share some of your stories with therapists. I'm curious to see if you guys have gone through similar shit that I have.

I've had a fwe bad experiences but the main one is probably for my gender therapist. Had finally gotten through nhs system after waiting like 15 months and had been self medication hormones for ages, have some appointments with therapist and at this point i'd been living as a girl for about 6-8 months without issue or people guessing was mtf.

2 Therapists at this place, nice guy, weird lady. The nice guy is all cheerful with the "im so happy for you, your doing amazing" and stuff. Time for my decision from them and the lady one just outright says she thinks im not ready for life as a girl and to wait 6 months. Even though she had previously said she can only see a girl by my appearance.
Luckily male therapist was like "fuck her, heres your medication on nhs" but still. Was ridiculous

Your attitude controls your perception of the world. Your attitude affects how you interact with other people, and how they interact with you. Depending on your relationship, you might affect their attitude and how they interact with people as well.

You have mental illness and should seek out professional help.

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You make them share personal info, then ask further questions, also revealing personal stuff about yourself in between. For example, today a coworker was a bit wushy so i asked her what's the matter. She told me thaz her sister was meant to fly to brussel the day the bombing was. I showed empathy and got a lot more out of her. That she's originally from belgia, that she still had family there, that she visits there often, and so on. If i ever go visit brussel i will make sure to ask her for insider tipps (asking for small favors is a good way to bond). This is how you get on a personal level. Some people will click with you, some wont. But don't bother too much over this. There are enough people. Pic related

I feel really similar, I just for some reason can't get interested in people that are around me or connected on fb, everyone just seems so meh to me. Most of the people I enjoy talking to are on steam, and that's only 3-5 people at most.

There's only one person I can think of that I want to get to know better, but they are really busy and a few years older. They message occasionally and when we talk irl we enjoy each others jokes. I'm just terrible at holding a decent conversation.

Anyways, I hope you figure it out anon, I have no clue as how to help you or myself. I guess what seems to work for me is finding common interests to talk about, "what kind of music are you into?" etc.

GL

>>16948538
yeah I generally ask about music and stuff and try to ask about them/get a feel for if there's something we're both into but I think I might just be really boring or something? I feel like I have no personality and I also feel really creepy and dorky asking people so much about themselves and then having nothing to say about me

thanks tho

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They will pump you full with temesta and then use you for anal feeding experiments. Have fun. Pic related

They certainly don't prescribe adderall for schizophrenia or depression/being suicidal. They don't just ask you to name any drug you want and give it to you. Sounds like you're just drug-seeking.

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Everytime nobody is looking give her a small electric shock under the table. After a while she will subconsciously link the discomfort with your presence and stop inviting you. Pic related

>>16948472
Inviting me?

No she already hates me and makes my life a living hell. Her only son crashed a car I had just bought and she threatened to fly out and sue me if I tried to make him pay damages (she's a lawyer).

Whenever she calls he becomes angry and abusive towards me.

She calls me a terrorist and a bitch and calls up my own family (even though I am a grown woman) to tell them small dirt on me (like I drank a four loco and drove 2 min to the grocery store 4 hours later....)

She's petty and mean

I would choose germany, sounds better to me. Moreover, you get to learn a new language.

Although germany has currently its status on "cuck my shit up"

>>16948395
germany

Realize you're a piece of shit.

Realize you can stop acting like a TOTAL piece of shit.

Realize that there is no guarantee of an ideal reward for living better. But understand that if you don't live better you don't even have a chance. Live better and have that chance. If you don't land the 11/10, and you probably won't, you'll at least have maybe hated yourself a little less.

Or, better yet, evaluate why you want said woman and why that's so important. Maybe because you're an egotistical piece of shit who needs a lot of validation. So instead of just acting more in line with your goals, change your goals to something that isn't totally stupid.

I'm confused, what is it you want OP? When you say you deserve better, but don't want to settle down, do you just mean more attractive one night stands?
You seem to be getting the things that you're aiming for, if you're aiming for things you don't want and it's upsetting you... maybe stop aiming for those things?

Rigidly schedule your plans, set up a compact regimen of all your responsibilities in the workweek (informing everyone else as well) and work in some recreation as well.

I have a friend who cleans, does laundry and cooks all his food for the week in one day and puts it all in the fridge, he calls it the shit day. Basically pick a day and do everything you don't want to do.

just call them faggot

Take a vacation to a country where it's legal.

You're not "chickening out," you don't really want to die.

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>>16947725
By finding a reason to die gloriously.

It probably depends on how serious she was when she asked you out. Was it just let's go on a date? Did she say she's in love with you?

If she had deeper feelings she might still have them. If not, she still might be willing to go out. Though you said she's dealing with her own issues, so there's a chance it'll be her turn to say she doesn't want to get involved in a relationship currently.

Only way you'll know is by trying.

She was kind of forced into it, when she told two of her friends that '[I] may know', they took it as 'Tell [me]', so I knew, and she probably just wanted to know whether it was mutual. It came off as casual, but I know that it wouldn't have been easy for her to ask. However, we weren't really friends when she asked, and have only recently started to become more intimate friends, so whether such feelings are still there or not, I don't know, but I think she'd definitely be more confident with them.

Her issues are all very serious, but she tries to act as though there's nothing wrong, around people that she doesn't trust with that kind of thing (almost everyone, bar a handful). So I understand that she might not be ready for this, but I want to be someone that she can trust and find solace in, and I think that having that level of intimacy with each other will allow her to trust me more so than she does now.

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>>16947146

I feel like I will never meet a woman who will love me or accept me for who I am. I feel like there is no longer such thing as a faithful woman. I feel like I will never make a friend who will be willing to understand my worldview. Even drinking buddies, or dudes I can burn a J with and play some video games seem impossible to come by.

I've recently found success at a job. The money helps a bit, but the work is stressful, high pressure, and leaves me drained. I try focusing on my work to get away from the emotional torment, but I feel my worldview continue to warp when I do.

I fantasize about death, but I would never kill myself due to the pain it would cause my family. Sometimes I have hope, but other times there is none, and the pain is too great.

I feel like I need to see a therapist, but I don't know how that would help. If I bothered explaining to them my worldview with any sort of honesty, I have no idea how they would react. They would probably be offended, or try to prescribe me some medication. Maybe they would try to change my mind, but unfortunately I don't really see that happening.

I don't know what to do /adv/. I feel trapped and I worry for my mental health if something doesn't change.

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buuuump

>>16946874
google the recently declassified OSS manuals on espionage

Also look into instinctive shooting

>>16946874
If you are a male and live in Iraq. The odds are you are part of a militia.

Such is life. Now decide between suffering in silence or get closure and be able to move on

>>16946786
Do it. The awkwardness fades depending on how you tell them. IE be as nonchalant as possible in the right time.