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Is it wrong to want to feel like you're not being judged?
Lately I've been drifting without any idea of what I want out of life, but I feel like I can't turn to my friends or family without someone saying 'well you should be doing this, when I was your age etc.' or 'you may as well do it, not like you have anything better going on'.
Even with my closest friend, I feel embarrassed to talk to him because eventually he'll offer me advice like 'you should be more proactive and doing this that or the other', while he's doing great at his developer job and I just don't have the same motivation that he or my peers have about their jobs.
I appreciate they're only trying to help, but to me it feels like life is a giant river, and everyone else is going at full speed in a certain direction while I'm just paddling around wondering where I should go.
Even then, waiting around trying to work it out makes me feel like I'm being coward and that everyone else is disappointed in me.
I might be getting a few job interviews sorted out soon, but in the back of my head I'm just thinking, 'What's the fucking point?'.
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>>16952546
i hate when people measure me by what job I have, it makes me want to kill myself
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There's a balance to be struck. Sometimes people are just being inappropriate and it's best to avoid them. Sometimes the feedback you're getting is actually worth putting into practice. There's misery to be had in tipping too far in either direction, though. In your case I think you're in danger of tipping too far toward "I know what's best for me" at the expense of what will realistically be the bulk of your social relationships in your life. People in your life will sometimes be right, in the sense that you would actually be happier if you tried what they're suggesting.
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Idk what it is with women. I just get really uncomfortable when talking to them. Its like nerves but there are no thoughts going through my head. I can know they like me and still get nervous. It feels like I can't approach them no matter how hard I try to fight it. I'm not gay BTW
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>>16952535
It's fear.
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>>16952535
For some people it's easy, for others it's not, sometimes people have sisters so they can deal.but in general guys cannot figure out what is going on in a females head and it unsettles them, that's where the fear stems, just realize that women are just as confused
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>>16952535
Work safe board
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Advice is appreciated. I was new in town and approached this QT on the streets for directions. Long story short we ended up spending the whole afternoon and evening together while later dryhumping the shit out of each other. We made tentative plans to meet up next week since she'll be gone for a week. I tried meeting up with her before but we both lacked communication to make it happen. Now last night after a failed attempt she texts me at 4 am writing long paragraphs basically saying I'm coming off too strong and that we should just stay acquaintances. I know I fucked up big time rushing in but she's a really cool girl I really dig. Now I'm sure she'd still be up for the trip to the Zoo we planned on the first date. Is this salvagable?
>Jesus.. I'm cringing at myself right now. Wtf was I thinking
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You don't even need to be here asking this.........
She told you back off because you're coming on too strong, do it.
Boom there's your advice.
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>>16952534
you probably regrets going so fast with a guy she just met
jesus man you don't dry hump a girl you just met
what did you say when she sent you all those long messages?
tell her she is right and see if she still wants to go to the zoo as friends, apoligise for being so forward
be brief, she's already evidently a bit overwhelmed
showing that you know how to back off is a plus, as is showing that you respect her wishes
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My question is if it's still salvagable since she said we should only stay friends or if my last chance will be at the Zoo with her. I have a hard time taking things girls say at face value...
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Hit it off with this girl last night and she said to add her on Facebook. Both pretty drunk though.
Found her profile but she lives roughly 4 hours away. She's my ideal type but my gut feeling says not only is it kinda stalkerish, but I don't think it'd be worth pursuing her because of the distance.
What do you reckon?
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>>16952521
Add her, leave it on the backburner, you never know when she might be in town again.
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Distances are small these days. 4 hours is nothing.
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>>16952561
>4 hours is nothing.
you aren't the one walking it
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I am a high school teacher. This girl likes to talk to me when I am on duty once every two weeks or so. Not that I like her or anything, but this kid seems to have feelings for me. Does she? I've began working recently and I am not experienced with these sorts of stuff.
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Who the hell cares if she had feelings for you. No. Youre a teacher. Jesus.
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Dude... If youre even thinking about this sort of stuff you have no business being a high school teacher.
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Kids develope bonds with teachers over time, just don't recriporicate any advances and you'll be fine, in other words no flirting with the jailbait
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idk if this is the right place but does anyone just want to talk on skype? not as like, a weird thing, im just lonely af and kinda wanna talk to other lonely people i guess
nervousthoughts, don't be a weirdo
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People still use skype?
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Try /soc/.
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>>16952545
what do people use now?
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I need help with some kind of bug infestation.
So far it's only one room (bedroom) and I'm killing about 10 of these little fuckers each day.
They are very small, about 2 mm in size and can crawl on walls. They also seem to have wings, but I never saw them fly around - only crawl on my walls and furniture.
what exactly are these bastards and how can I get rid of them?
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>>16952451
Looks like Carpet Beatle.
Clean your fucking room.
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>>16952470
thanks
I've read about them - do you think putting all my textiles (clothes/bed sheets) in plastic bags and freezing them overnight as well as washing them afterwards should kill them off?
in the meantime I'd clean my room as good as possible and spray some pesticide around
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>>16952513
Have you found any on your clothing etc?
If not just hot wash them and don't put them back in your room until you are sure your pest is gone.
Keep clean until you no longer find the Beatle, probably need to move the furniture out to get in the corners and along the wall.
Is it possible to be really close to an online friend?
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No.
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>>16952423
Yes.
I've met 3 good friends online, one 10 years ago, one 4 years ago and one 9 or 10 months ago. I 've met them all in real life, we talk almost daily, they're great people.
It's not the same as an "every day" relationship like I have with my best friend, but they're good guys and I'm happy I have them in my life.
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I know there's nothing I can do about it but how do I accept that I have an average/below average penis (5", not much girth) and not feel so insecure when I see larger penises?
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>>16952414
It's literally doesn't matter unless you are sub 4' and a fucking pencil dick.
Most guys are shit at sex anyway, all you have to do is try and you are ahead of like 70% the guys out there
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>>16952414
Stop looking at large penises perhaps
Seriously.. 5.5 here and never had a problem with any woman in my life that mattered.
Imagine hearing a woman complain about being a B cup. Would you think she is too small?
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If you can urinate without any problems, then thats what i suggest you use it for.
Anyone might have an idea where to find alot of iq tests?
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>>16952395
iqtest.com
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>>16952395
Anyone might know that a lot is two words, not one?
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>>16952403
Thank you for your valued input you fucking spastic
So here's the deal. After school I want to go and study film (directing, producing, editing, etc). When it comes to mathematics I get bad grades and I hate it, and I'm not sure if I'm actually going to need it for my career. Is it worth the risk to not study maths as an essential subject? I feel like I'm limiting myself if I don't study it, but if I fail the course then it'll seriosuly effect my chances of getting into a university. What do I do anons?
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>>16952371
You will use math every day of your life (if you know how to use it). You'd be severely limiting your options if you went without.
>inb4 you dont use math hurr derr
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>>16952371
90% of any film job is raising money, applying for grants, fixing budgets, and the like. Does any of that sound vaguely related to math?
Oh, and learn the difference between AFFECT and EFFECT. It might come up.
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Basic algebra is baseline for everything you do in life. Everything else is optional.
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weekend off with church group
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my gf is off for the weekend with her church group to celebrate Easter in the wilderness
I asked her what they actually do and all she tells me is getting close with god.
any religious anon can tell me what goes on in this church reunions at Easter time?
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She's going camping so she can bang hot church guys. She's going to be pumped so full of cock she'll make Lexi Belle look like a saint
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Idk about her particular group, but it's usually about meditation, music, food, and games. Nothing nefarious. All rather boring.
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>>16952354
Either this or she's gonna be told how you are satan for not being there, by guys who are either trying to or succeeding to do what >>16952354 says.
how well will japanese pen pal exchange work for me acquiring a gf?
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Your chances of getting a japanese gf are the same as your chances of getting a local gf.
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>>16952365
So zero?
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>>16952365
why
Need somewhere to talk, but I'm not the type to post about my problems on social media.
Well I'm a very unattractive, scrawny guy who Never got the girls in school, or even friends actually.
Spent my entire life alone, not even my family wanted me, and they'd treat me like shit.
A very lonely life in other words.
I dropped out of high school because of bullying which lead to horrendous social anxiety, so now I'm an an ugly neet fuck up.
There's something right with me in the head, so I would always try to imagine some kind of delusional fantasy for myself to try to make it through life, but I'm beginning to realize that I'm just a worthless fuck up.
I'm younger, and I don't have a vehicle nor will I ever, and I live in a very rural area, so I'm pretty much fucked.
I don't see a point in trying to do anything if my life is just going to be shitty and lonely anyways.
I've just been sitting here waiting for something to happen to me, even though I know things will never change, just so I don't feel the need to go out into the woods and kill myself.
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>>16952278
Don't sit and wait, go and work on yourself. It's a drag, it's annoying and tiresome. But it gets you somewhere and you will eventually feel better.
I'd ask for a picture of you to as you might just be over reacting, but then again this is 4chan and posting pics ain't the best idea. Feel free tho
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I'm about to give you some tough love bro. Yeah it sounds like you've had it rough I get it. But I live in a small rural community myself and I'm a bit of a fuck up but I always work on myself and I do own a vehicle. Start somewhere dude and make some type of goal you can accomplish short term. I know guys that are almost hills have eyes ugly/fat and they do alright and have significant others and have a normal life. Get you a job somewhere and say fuck your family, start socializing and just date a girl, she doesn't have to be a damn super model just make sure she's not crazy and you can trust her. Save up and get you a cheap used truck. Don't get a damn car you're a man you need a truck. Basically if you can't walk then crawl, then walk, then sprint. Also if your into it start lifting weights but don't become the loser who's only goal in life is getting bigger. It'll get better in time.
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Hey guys, sorry to take your time but I really need advice.
I just came back from talking to a psychiatrist - for the first time ever.
I've had depression for at least 15 years now. I never had the guts to do anything about it until just now because now the mix of depression and stress from a new job have started to make me unravel.
But my question isn't about that.
As I said, today I had my first appointment with a psychiatrist and I feel I can't trust or respect that man.
Right off the bat he started talking about my horoscope (after seeing my date of birth). I don't believe in shit like that so that was a red flag. Later on he told me to sign up for yoga and gave me a referral to his friend's class. He was saying I needed to 'get rid of the bad energies' and other spiritual bullshit.
His office was full of jesus paintings and such.
I am not a believer, nor do I mind peopole who are. For a professional who is supposed to be thinking scientifically I just don't think this guy knows what the hell he is doing and the fact he wants me to pay his friend for yoga classes seems fishy as hell.
Talking to him felt like I went to a fortune teller. He said about 10 things about me, hoping one would stick. He didn't ask me to talk much about me at all and he made a lot of bad guesses.
So... I am thinking I get up and ask for a different psychiatrist to talk to.
What do you think? Did you have similar experiences? Do you think I should give his support group a try or should I follow my first reaction and just nope out of this?
Thanks for your time.
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I haven't had a any experience in this so maybe my view is unjustified, but I 100% believe you need to get a new therapist. They should NOT be doing that shit and you obviously need help from a professional
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find a new therapist
ive found that having a therapist the same gender as you is the best thing you can do
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>>16952289
Thank you! Since he said stuff like I am spoiled and selfish (which I don't think is right), I worried this is just a knee-jerk reaction to getting criticized, but really...
I need a professional with a scientific mind. Not someone who thinks all I need to do is some yoga to clear out my chakras. :(
At least that's what I believe.
>>16952296
Thank you! Does it really matter? I'll try and ask my doctor to send me to a female psychiatrist this time around. :)