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Put towel on pillow

Also, it's not a matter of blowing my nose. I've been blowing my nose nearly nonstop and yet my nose is always 100% plugged. Can't breathe though my nose at all.

>>16954234
I guess, I just roll around a lot when I sleep and I know I'll feel it dripping down my face and wake up from the cold, wet feeling.

plz respond.

So explore.

>>16954441
I guess part of my problem is I have a bit of nihilism going on. I feel like everything is pointless. I want purpose though. I want purpose and meaning in my life. I guess part of that is I don't care to help others though through basic charity (as shitty as that sounds), due to complicated views I have in regards to humanity. But I still want to do something to help, just not through basic charity work.

I just feel like all my old values were corrupt and now I can't seem to know how to start building a new foundation and with that foundation, what I should focus on/where I should be going. I'm lost.

I would just tell her that you've started seeing someone and it's getting serious. No one likes getting ghosted, I'd rather someone tell me a white lie rather than leave me hanging with no closure.

Someone is doing this to me right now. Unbeknownst to me I got on the wrong side of a local little drug kingpin and ever since he's been doing all this:

- When I am in a club, he makes a big show of leaving (with his pussy posse in tow)

- He's been telling everyone that I'm insane (even though he's a convicted felon and I'm a stay-at-home mom)

- He's been getting his cronies to act like they like me and then dump me in the most humiliating way.

I know someone who deserves this, too. So I'm interested in knowing how.

bump for interest

>>16954148
What did you do?

>>16954158
I don't want to explicitly say what I did, but I had a porn addiction and I would say I've been addicted to porn since I was a small child, and when I was a teen it ventured into other explicit porn that is normally looked down upon. I literally was never really into it, I just looked at it for the sake of lookin at it and I just didn't care because it was the Internet and I felt I was doing nothing wrong. But when I got older I felt different and I was more disgusted at myself

>>16954186
Is it illegal? I mean I dont see how it can affect you now.. if its just a moral thing then stop being a moralfag you already moved on just stop wasting your time feeling bad for being a horny teen.

Also any anecdotes about anyone experiencing similar thing would be appreciated.

Do you have depression/bipolar disorder? Sounds similar to mania. I don't drink, but there are times that I'll have an out of body experience, similar to what you explained while working out, and depending on how I take that experience I'll be hypermanic or depressive for a week tops.

>>16954135
Not to my knowledge. Usually working out makes me feel more relaxed than anything afterward.
I do have generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder to an extent though(actually diagnosed) but it's usually more of a nuisance rather than an all consuming thing.

It's only been two months.

Tell her what you told us.
If she flips, not a huge loss.
If she takes it to heart and gets off her ass, great.
In all likelihood it will just make her feel bad and she won't do anything about it. Leave her. If it's only been 2 months and your this annoyed about it, it's not going to work out. You're different kinds of people.

She sounds like a piece of shit, OP. You can't make her change she has to want to. Also, if she doesn't want pictures circulating of you together she's either embarrassed of being seen with you or has other guys on the side.

>>16954123
Ive been friends with her for almost a year before that, I knew she didn't have much drive but I thought that she would change for me. Its also pretty awkward since we both work together.

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>>16954118
Same. My mothers side of the family are made of fucked up sociopaths and there are numerous suicides. My fathers side had an advanced intellect, my grandfather was apparently known for memorizing books and retelling entire stories throughout a few days or weeks to children with complete accuracy.

That resulted in me, a not quite average but not quite genius person with a variety of mental issues.

I would be a terrible, terrible, terrible father. I wont get a vasectomy since I won't be having sex with anyone anyway.

So yeah. I feel you OP. I was an accident anyway, quite literally unplanned and unknown until six months in.

>>16954130

I was an accident too. I have a loving mother and stepfather (mom struggles with depression, was really abusive when I was younger) and my bio dad was out of the picture for a majority of my life, but he has OCD and bipolar.

I seemed to get the worst of all the disorders along with shitty eyesight and asthma and shit, so passing that on to a kid sounds really awful. I can only imagine how heinous it would be to have a manic episode and want to leave the house and be by myself for a couple of days while being responsible for a kid.

I defiantly have some maternal instincts, but taking care of another uman being when I'm hardly able to take care of myself sounds terrifying...
Everyone always says you're never %100 ready to have a kid, but I truly believe I'll never ever be capable of taking care of one.

ALSO not being on meds while pregnant/dealing with extra hormones while pregnant could literally kill me. Most shcizo/bipolar medication can't be taken while pregnant.

>>16954118
ITT: People who have no clue what they're talking about.

You don't have multiply personality disorders. "Sociopath" isn't a thing.

Here's a much more realistic piece of advice: brush the sand out of your vagina, Daisy. The rest of your life is going to be full of horribly awkward experiences. EVERYONE'S LIFE IS. The difference is that we don't let it get to us. It's the equivalent of a mosquito bite. It's uncomfortable as fuck but you keep on going, not asking how to walk around in a mosquito-proof net for the rest of your life.

>>16954012
What you want is irrelevant. If you want to go out with girls, you must ask them, and you might get rejected. Sometimes you'll misread signs, sometimes you'll read them right but she's otherwise tied in a relationship, and sometimes she'll just be in a bad mood and reject you to be mean, when the day before she seemed into you. This is the deal. It is not fair, but it is the hoop you must jump through to slay that pusspuss.

>>16954012
you're already better than my first date, she bailed for a month, came up with excuses and just went on the date to get it over with, and then immediately started dating another guy.
I just don't try anymore because I know the outcome, I don't have enough confidence to look a girl in the eyes, nevermind get her to trust me.

I don't know shit all about the age of consent, but being old enough to understand legalese, and looking at your states laws, you're misunderstanding things.

UNDER the age of 16 there is a two year grace period.

Meaning a 17 year old is fine with a 15 year old.

However a 18 year old cannot be with a 15 year old, both because that is more than 2 years, and because at 18 and above you MUST wait until the age of consent (16 unless you're a coach/teacher/supervisor, at which point you must wait until 18)

In your state, at the age of 16 and above, you are old enough to grant consent to ANYONE (as long as they're not a teacher/coach/boss/etc).

>>16954036
Sweet. So we're golden.

I'm gonna make love to this big booty Russian teenager. My state is actually pretty cool.

>>16954003
You can speak to the local authorities about this kind of thing, it's not something that is frowned upon.
And no, this isn't a bait or troll. In general cops are here to protect you and make sure you're safe, and don't want you to get into trouble. It's not at all a big deal to go into an office to ask about your area's laws and regulations.

>>16953929

HERE'S MY QUESTION.

Have any of you had this kind of situation? Have you actually ever lost a girl to a guy because the competing guy appealed to the femininity of the girl? Do girls find femininity attractive, and if so to what extent? In the words of everywhere else on 4chan, did I just get "cucked" by a beta? And lastly, how do I counter this absolutely horrible, unexpected turn of events?

Girls only like dominat alphas if they are subs and are actually attacted to the "alpha" betas get laid all the time 2 man, and he seems closer to her than you, quit trying to define as alpha or beta its not a binary trait.

Yes, it's worth it. Even if you wanted to die of lung cancer, saving the money is totally worth it. Anyone who tells you it isn't a lot of money is doomed to be a poorfag forever. The richest people I know are the stingiest, with good reason.

Also, I've watched 5 people now, of various ages, die of respiratory disease and I'd fucking shoot myself first. Painful, no fucking dignity.

Exercise (cardio is excellent for this) and go to a sauna for the next two weeks.

Once you detox your body, you won't want a cig. & if you smoke one, you will have toxic feels.

I smoked for 10+ years and the above worked for me. That, and thinking, "do I really want to be a /smoker/ my whole life?" Also: old women that have smoked for a long time. Their raspy voices are gnar as fuck.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyVLKHEqTu0

Every day cravings will be gone soon. You'll probably have your first easy day the next time you're busy with stuff.

The intermittent cravings will be with you forever. One day you're going to be standing around somewhere, maybe having a cup of coffee, watching some birds shit on a car and you'll suddenly think "Man, I could use a smoke right now."

Of course it's worth it. Cancer sucked. Gonna suck some more if it comes back.

Stop getting so down over relationship issues. You have plenty of time to live and love and there are plenty more amazing people out there.

People drift apart. You're too young to be worried about this kind of thing. Trust me: I wasted 3 years of my teenage years on a girl I never got to keep. Get out and have fun with your friends. Find a hobby. Life goes on.

...
>I ask her: well you don't want to do this anymore do you?
>"well it doesn't make any sense like this anon"
>of course she is right, but I'm sure she fell in love with someone else, wich is normal with 17 years if you don't want a long distance relationship
>next weeks were horrible for me, I still love her to death
>apparently she had a boyfriend bout 2 month later, but they didn't stay together very long
>half a year forward
>decide to send her a package, with chocolate and all the stuff she loved inside, as well as a little letter about what I still feel for her
>she's charmed by that, probably known has ever done this to her before
>start skyping again every night, feels like old times
>old story continues, except we're not meeting in person for about 4 months
>she asks: hey anon there is that festival again, you will come don't you?
>of course I do, I have other friends in this town so I don't stay at her place
>she's like I'm happy to see you again
>I don't believe we are together at this point, I just wanna go there to talk it all through with her, because I couldn't do that on Skype
>I just wanna make things clear and ask her in person what she feels and how she thinks this should work out
>I can only spend a weekend there, so only two nights at the festival
>decide to meet in the evening
>meet her, almost can't say anything when I'm in front of her cause I realize how much I love her
>my friends are still around and she says she has to meet her friends again so we decide to meet later in a bar the evening
>didn't happen, felt like shit the evening, but I knew there would be tomorrow
>Next day same thing, meet her in front of a bar, she's already a little drunk, just wanna have a fucking personal talk to her offering her my feelings
>she say's she has to go lets meet later
>didn't happen
>this breaks my heart apart
>never been so sad before, literally cry every second on the 250 miles home

will continue...

I've been told by 2 psychologists I have depersonalization and I still don't fully understand it. Best bet is to get advice from a professional, not on 4chan.

From my experience, I tend to 'zone out' and feel like I'm not really there. Pretty uncomfortable desu

Anon who has did here. Sounds exactly like depersonalization. Did everything seem unreal or look weird to you? That's derealization and I always get those two together. It can be scary so make sure you don't lose yourself. Just be calm and relaxed. Do you suffer from any other mental problems?

>>16953867
>>16953875

Everything does sort of seem unreal and weird. I do have other mental problems, obsessive compulsive disorder and depression. Another thing I should say is, I've just come back from living and working in Japan for 7 months. I've been back for almost 2 weeks and I'll admit, life hasn't seemed "real" to me or joyful. I thought it would be a wonderful reunion, but it feels strange, like I don't actually belong here.

You are getting fucked.

Go to main boss. Tell him you have 25k job 35hr week starting in two weeks. See what happens.

Head Chefs of multiple locations don't make hourly. Let alone 7 hourly.

You pretty much tell them you are not working another minute until they give you the wage increase they promised.

You aren't a charity, and the amount they are paying you for the responsibilities that you now have is essentially them trampling on you and treating you like shit.

They will have to cave if you are the only one. I'm surprised they are expanding as you say they are, as they seem to be fucking retarded when it comes to business if they think it's a good idea to not only have one single chef that makes the food you do, but to also treat you like trash and ignore your inquiries.