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>>16957784
deffo wouldnt study music at uni if you dont already know an instrument, ive studied music and the idea of someone going who hasnt at least some prior knowledge is unheard of really

>>16957796
I've been playing guitar for five years. I just want to get into Cello as well.

>>16957784
Music theory major here. What do you want to know?

Yes, unless you yourself are already cheating on him. In which case, I guess it is only fair albeit you have a very unhealthy relationship.

baka he might bring home unexpected gifts.

>>16957595

>let

Christ above.

There is a difference for bringing up feelings and "a declaration of love"
Girls dont give a fuck if you love them right off the bat, thats weird yo.
That shit will never fly and she'll think you're creepy af for continuing to have feelings for her even though you dont speak often.

>You like her and think shes attractive still
Cool, just talk to her, passively flirt. Get to know her more.

Do not declare shit unless she brings it up first. Jesus.

>>16957586
Dude, I'm not declaring anything, my question was more in the lines of "do the pass of time give me a new fresh start with this girl or am I doom forever" I don't care whatever happens to night, I'm already fucking another gilr, just want to see if I can enlarge my harem.

>>16957567
>I declared my love to a girl in a very beta way, and of course, I got rejected
You can't be in love with someone that you aren't romantically involved with.

>what are the chances of her bring in up my delcaration of love? Am I doing something stupid? can I end up being lucky?
Unless she wants an awkward conversation, she probably won't bring it up.
That said it has been 10 years, she might want a beta provider now she has fucked every guy she ever wanted.

>I honestly don't have anything better to do to night
Learning to spell tonight might be a start

Basically OP, talk to her, hit on her if you want, but don't declare your love for her or anything stupid.

She's got fetishes, everybody does, she just isn't telling you, so here's what you do: chloroform her from behind as soon as she walks in the door from wherever. While she's out, you tie her up and strap her to the wall ontop of a sybian. Leave her there for the rest of the day. Bring food and water occasionally. Maybe whip her a few times if she won't shut up.

>>16957485
Ignoring most of that post, i've asked her plenty of times if she had any fetishes or anything she'd like to try and she said no. Maybe she needs more time to learn what she likes, since i'm the only person she's ever slept with. She says she has never masturbated either, but I remain unsure of that since many girls say that. She's a pretty innocent girl really.

Any suggestions /adv/?

dude this shit happened to me, basically you have to ditch all those shitter 'friends' you have atm because they are just training you along. theyre genuine psychopaths, fuck em

>>16957439
Well when all of the genuine psychopaths are you co-workers and brothers in arms at a life and death job, you can't really get rid of them. They are good people for the most part, I honestly believe the issue is me. I wish I could breathe confidence better or something.

These are guys that I will know and work with for the next 30 years, I want to be known as a good guy, not that weird dude.

Please help me /adv/

nobody gives a shit famalam

kill yourself

>>16957306
You don't give a shit, but you're taking time to reply? Makes sense. Thanks for the tip.

>>16957289
You, like myself and my father 'feel a sense of guilt' for seeing multiple girls at once. Despite being clear and honest about things, it just 'doesnt feel right'. Now, we don't hold this silly ideal against any other male ever - it's just what we've felt. I do not know what causes it - but my guess guess, in my case. is catholic/conservative upbringing, putting future hopes on dreams on your 'best partner at the time' and the pair-bonding chemistry associate with being intimate with another person. Being able to mindfuck your way out of it is the only way I think..

You already have your answer - what I'm doing right now isn't at odds with those goals. Until there comes a point where you think seeing these women is affecting your personal development, I see no reason to cease seeing them.

However, it is clear you still have feelings for your ex - you wouldn't have to remind yourself that she was a traitorous whore.. so tread lightly. Continuing to see her and having unrequited feelings could prove detrimental to your selfdevelopment.

good luck,

>>16957230
>something wrong with me?
Most likely yes. Your curiosity stems from a lack of love and nicer things in your life. It also is most probably a way of venting stress and frustration that occurs in your very own life.
I'm sorry for you anon. Hope you won't need to do this anymore because you'll receive the love and care you deserve.

>>16957230
not at all, its pretty normal, hell even normies spread around videos of people getting beheaded by cartels.

>>16957222
>living alone
that's where you fucked up
>moving states
that's where you cemented your fuck up

as for back pain, yeah, i've had that before. it fucking SUCKS. so i feel your pain. i had it for 3 years, herniated l5-s1. i just powered through it because i sure as shit wasn't quitting work.

i did a mix of stretching, massages, steroid shots, and painkillers. rest as much as you can. if it's sciatica then look up streches to relieve the presssure. this shit takes time to heal. you can go to specialty doctors butmy experience with the neurosurgeon was shit. nigga barely even talked to me or gave me reccomendations and billed me for 1600 dollars for one visit.

first things first is to get an MRI of your back to really see what's going one.
if it's a herniated disc then try to treat it as best you can before it becoems ruptured, that's where you're fucked.
don't do weights or impact exercises(like running), swimming is highly recced for herniated discs.

but who knows whats up with your back, that's what you need to find out.

What state, because medical weed

Are you overweight?

>>16957000
*how likely is it

>>16957000
Details senpai, what kind of college are you tranfering from? In state or out of state? Any ECs?

>>16958040
Linguistics department, international

W0w story of my life.

Start lifting. Yeah, I know it's an exercise. But when you see how much a fucking weakling you are, doesn't it just make you wanna do something about it?

>>16956787
it doesn't. I'm not the world's strongest woman but I'm not the weakest either since I already exercise. lifting isn't going to improve my health any more than it already is so I have no reason to do it

I feel like nothing will ever fix this :(

>>16956177
More detail, what makes your weird and strange?

>>16956196
I don't know what it is but I always manage to get people to hate me.

I have no real friends in general let a lone ever have.

I'm not even sure what it is about me, but how do I even get into the friendzone? Or if it is possible I'd like a gf too.

>>16955263
>What do I do?
Go with what will leave you with less regret. If you like him, and he likes you, you'll kick yourself in the ass for not taking a chance on him. Especially if you have an emotional connection. It's hard to find people that can be your romantic interest and your friend at the same time, and they typically turn out to be the best relationships.

>I'd catch never ending shit from my friends/family for dating a guy
Then don't tell them unless you feel like it. I'm currently in a hetero relationship, but I still don't talk about my personal life to family unless I'm serious about someone. It's not their business unless you make it so.

that's gay dude.
you can't have equal rights with women and men. they are nothing alike

butt with two men, you can share everything equally if you have equal penises.

don't be a prick and just tap that hot little ass, fair is fair, you have to let him put his thing in you too.
playing husband and wife is stupid

Ignoring all memes I'd say you go with it as long as there's nothing you haven't said that is bad. The fact that he's patient with you and you implied that he's a genuinely cool guy is probably the reason you feel that way. Not so much about attraction as you like him a lot. Regardless of your choice keep him as a friend.

>>16957998
Get a friend

>>16958005

I don't understand.

I have a few scars on my right arm from nail scissor gouges. Never did let myself get bad enough to cut, but I'd basically just dig back and forth with the point of them until I had a pretty deep bloody furrow. They weren't even that sharp. I'd also starve myself to the point of passing out a lot.

Nah, I don't regret it. It kept me from killing myself or making any actual effort besides a couple halfassed little things. And the scars aren't exactly recognizable.

>>16957940
I have some shallow scars on my left arm, and I lately found burning myself with cigarettes for every important mistake I made. I find the burning weirdly appealing, but also, it keeps me from killing myself.

I attempted suicide about 1.5 years ago, and I only regret it for the hospital bills. Otherwise it was a learning experience.

How can I start living life

You already tried to talk to her and struck out.

Unless the dynamics of this non-existent relationship change, you best devote your energies to more willing recipients.

>>16957856

Your chance is over, move on dude.