I'm at my first year of uni. Last november I broke up with my gf and was bad about it until I met this absolutely great girl this semester. She doesn't even know it but she helped me to get over the break up. We are having fun everytime we are together. She's the best person I have in my life right now and I'm happy that she's a part of it.
It was just a month but we really got used to each other, it's like we know each other our whole life, as cliché as it sounds. She has a wild past, her parents are hardcore punks and she was living out of her home since she was 14.
She did some drugs recreationally but she only smokes weed now. Same as me. Last week we were talking and she suggested that she wants to try lsd with me, after she remember we talked about it in a bar. I never tried it and she didn't try it either. When I was talking about it with her for the first time she was hesitant and fearfull maybe, but I wasn't even pushing her to do it. Just talking about it.
Are we going to fuk?
>using permanently mind-altering psychedelic drugs
Degeneracy of this order belongs on Reddit, friend.
You're probably not going to fuck while on LSD, no. I mean, it's possible to do, but ... a bit of an odd choice for sex. It does sound like she wants to spend more time with you.
>>16955754
>LSD
>permanently
Misinformation of this order belongs...right where it is. But still, you're wrong.
You're about to embark on a potentially life-changing (or maybe just neat, idk what dosages we're talking about or what your biases are) trip, and you're worried about pussy?
Hey Anons. I really need some help because im confused.. Im 18 and have always had an attraction to girls.. For as long as I can remember.. But I've had male fantasies over the years and when I think of having gay sex it excites me so much to where my body tingles and my heart pumps.. Ive done anal masturbation a number of times and its enjoyable. Thing is when I stop being horny I lose interest.. And another thing. Over the years I'd watch gay porn and it would disgust me.. Only when im horny I could watch it, but recently in the past few months I've looked at gay sex and it gets me hormy beyond anything.. Where my head is just tingling and i start shaking.. And im not sure what to think.. Thanks in advance
It's almost as if being horny makes you consider things you don't usually find all that hot, and that sexuality isn't always clear-cut black or white, wow.
Sexuality can be fluid. Maybe you're attracted to both. You don't need to "think" anything, just do what you want, fap to what you want, fuck who you want. No need to find a label, this doesn't define your identity.
I totally get ya, OP. Some days I'm REALLY into dudes but other days I don't even want to think about a guy in that kind of way. I've always been attracted to girls 100% though...
Because labels seem to make things easier (for some fucking reason idk) I labeled myself as bi and moved on with my life. Been pretty happy with that choice so I wouldn't sweat it ;) just do what makes ya happy.
I had terrible ADHD as a kid and was prescribed medication to help calm me down but also didn't fix some of my other issues like not having a filter or obsessively rifling through drawers so people found me off putting and bullied me as that quiet kid that did that weird stuff. I started to quickly outgrow those quirks in middleschool yet was still medicated too much and continued to be way into highschool. As a result I was socially inactive in highschool, not bullied anymore and had friends but rarely getting out. Now I'm a boring 21 year old with no longtime friends, fun stories of past experiences, or romantic experience what so ever.
Im just a boring person and while Im getting out more now and having fun like a normal person its still hard to compensate. I missed out on my teen years and am a virgin as well. The only things keeping people from realizing how dull I am is a friendly and excitable demeanor, and having niche hobbies while also being open to new things. Its hard to get out there and meet people when your personality is an awkward but fun outgoing guy but really youve spent years as a introverted video game geek and have has less fun experiences than most people around you.
>>16955594
I really appreciate you sharing your experiences with us. It sounds like you are starting to create some good memories involving other people, and really, it's better late than never when learning to become social! For some people, it is indeed a learning process, and you seem to be willing to explore your options which is how new friendships are discovered. It is also healthy to be able to spend time content with yourself, so don't worry about being well adapted to going solo. Don't feel like you have to overachieve at friendship. It's just one of those things that, when it happens, at whatever speed or level of enthusiasm it happens, it is a good thing to hang onto. If other people can enjoy your company and relate to you in some way, and you also enjoy being around them, then it is all worth the effort for sure.
>>16955594
It may be reassuring that you are not alone and not especially far from the norm.
The very, very complicated and subtle rules of social interaction are learned largely in the teen years, with the horrible-for-everyone complication that you have to learn while doing - you are immersed in the games you're expected to be expert at even while you're trying to figure them out.
EVERYONE struggles through that. Some are lucky enough to learn the rules quicker than others and therefore SEEM more adept. But trust me, they're treading water as fast as they can, trying to stay afloat.
There is no question that you are now behind the curve just because you weren't part of the games at all as a teen. But so is everyone who wasn't a social success at 15, and that's a lot of people.
Fortunately, accelerated catch-up learning is not only possible, but relatively easy. You already see that friendliness and having some skills people admire can carry you far. Build on them. Just keep practicing and learning.
Okay, how do I do dating?
I finally have a qt interested, now I have no idea what to do.
Do we just, like, go to different restaurants each week and talk about our uneventful lives?
>>16955447
Find stuff you have in common that you might do with a close friend and then do that together.
The only real difference between your girl friend and your best friend is one of them has sex with you.
Presumably you have some hobbies you both enjoy, they could be as simplistic as:
>watching netflix together
>seeing a movie together
>going to museums together
>going to the park together
>making dinner for each other
>playing video games together
>going out drinking at the bars together
and so on...
Just do whatever you would do with your close mate, just follow it up with flirtation, making out, sex, etc. instead of "Yea man good chillin' I'll catch you later."
>>16955447
If your lives are uneventful, do eventful things together.
Does she mention liking the country? Have a picnic.
Do you both go to a gym? Try an indoor rock-climbing place.
Do you complain about the restaurant food? Take a cookery class together.
>>16955493
I guess it's so hard because I'm a boring, depressed dude. My hobbies are browsing internet forums and... that's it.
So basically the only way this is going to work is if I pretend to like stuff I don't like?
I have about 3k saved in my bank, what's the best way to invest that?
Silver or gold.
Put it in a savings account or retirement fund.
>>16955464
Don't do this. If you don't know what you're doing speculating on commodities is how you lose your shirt.
>>16955499
This. If you don't know what you're doing, put your money somewhere safe that doesn't require you to micromanage it (investing in fixed income etc.)
I feel like I'm doing a Bad Thing but I don't know why.
Some people just ignite in me this desire to totally eat them alive. It could be a person who won't look me in the eye again after a fight, a person who is dramatically tired all the time, a person who is a big fish in a small pond and doesn't seem aware of it, a person who has prissy habits etc.
I just get this physical anger that makes me want to destroy them. Physically, mentally, I don't care.
I'm not implying I have that ability or I'm a badass. Quite to the contrary I'm a pretty normal person with plenty of flaws myself.
What the fuck is going on?
Toxoplasmosis
YOu are evil.
iktf anon
> naturally see the flaws in everyone around me
> instinctively drive conversations in directions that help uncover more weaknesses
> sometimes push people's buttons for kicks but sometimes just on accident or compulsively
there's nothing wrong with you you're just an asshole like me. I know I'm an asshole though and try to turn myself off sometimes. I've been this way for years and I don't see it changing. it used to worry me but I just accept it now.
>Dating girl for around 2-3 years
>We have several break ups but get back together
>Break ups were usually her breaking up with me some were short but a few, 2 in particular, were really bad
>Eventually I break up with her and she gets super pissed
>Spend several months kinda bummed out but overall feeling better
>Get closer to my friends who all admit and explain why they didn't like her
>Eventually my now ex messages me offering to give me back something she borrowed
>Part of me is 90% sure there's more to this than a simple pick up
>Literally all my friends and my own mother who I mention this to tell me not to go and are so against the idea that they offer to go with me or just flat out pick up my item for me
>Go it alone anyway cause I'm overly optimistic at all the wrong times
>Pick it up and of course she starts talking to me
>Tells me about how rough its been for these pass months, how much I meant to her, how much I still mean to her and how much I messed her up
>Feel so shitty that I go home and cry for a bit
>I start wondering if maybe I messed up and shouldn't have given up on the relationship
>Go back to her and decide we should try to work things out
>We start dating again
>In less than, I wish I was fucking exaggerating, five days she decides we should just be friends and that maybe somewhere down the line we can try again
>She says that she stills considers me one of her best friends and hopes we can still talk to each other
>Once again my misplaced optimism convinces me to try this out
>For the next couple of weeks I try talking with her from time to time but she's either distant or just flat out doesn't respond
>Decide to stop trying to talk to her and move on
>She message me asking if everything's cool between us
>Don't bring up my complaints about her actions contradicting a lot of what she said and say yes
>Turns out she started dating another guy the day before
(continued)
>>16955360
>She's suddenly super cool with talking to me and thinks the break up(the one from the beginning where she got super pissed) was for the best and that it worked out in the end
>We continue talking and she's more responsive than before and acts like we're best friends
>Eventually I realize she still doesn't talk to me that much outside of when her friends are busy or sleeping
>After everything I still feel like I'm her plan B
>I decide I should probably stop talking to her for a while but feel bad because we've been through a lot together and I shouldn't just cut her off cause we stopped dating
>Wrestle with the thought for a while
>One day she messages me that her boyfriend doesn't he like us talking and that she can't talk to me anymore
>I say ok and we say our good byes and wish each other luck in life
>After a few days I think about what happened and remember how she constantly said I was one of her best friends and how glad she was we could still talk to each other
>Despite all this she decided to stop talking to me because of someone she's been dating for 2 months
>Think back to the warnings my friends and mother gave me when my ex first texted me and beat myself up for not listening
So yeah I've got a lot regrets and bitterness from that whole situation. I feel like an idiot for not realizing that wouldn't end well and hate myself for not even telling her how pissed I was about it. I guess I should be glad she stopped to talking to me since its probably for the best but its hard know that someone you were so close to for so long is just no longer a part of your life. I've considered try to find someone new and start dating again but it just seems like a waste of time and I'm not sure I'm ready to go through the stuff I went through with my last gf with someone else.
Any tips for getting over this whole thing and any tips for getting back out there and moving on?
>>16955360
>>16955410
You didn't listen to friends and family, so why would you listen to any advice we have to offer? You're never going to get ahead in life because you're too unrealistic, you let things slide, and you allow people to walk all over you.
Block her, delete her and never talk to her again
Worked for me
I'm really really fucking up and in a fucked up situation
Two weeks ago my bf of 3 years broke up with me because he "wasn't feeling it" anymore, which devastated me. That same day I came back to my room sobbing and my roommate (another girl, lesbian) was there for me and comforted me and I guess I just felt vulnerable and in vulnerable state because I just said "fuck it" and we slept together, even though I'm straight and hadnt even been interested in girls before. That entire week we got really "friendly", there are text messages and pictures from work and everything, I just wanted to forget and maybe get a new life
Then a week after breaking up my bf comes back and apologizes like hell and I take him back without telling him anything, the problem is, I still haven't "broken it up" with my roommate and dont know how to. Ive been with her twice since getting back with my bf and she still thinks I'm single or trying something with her. I dont even seek it, she just comes to me and I can't refuse, I suppose Im still angry at my bf in some way
How can I solve this situation easy for everyone?
>>16955292
Why not have both ?
I'd say your boyfriend sucks and your girlfriend is taking advantage of that, and of you.
>>16955292
I'm so sorry to not give advice here anon but this is unbelievably hot.
I like this girl at my school and I want to start talking to her except I have no idea on how to start an actual conversation with her. I want to just go off and ask her name but each time I get the courage to do so I either have no opportunity to do so or something makes me feel like shit and forget the whole thing. How could I start off a conversation with her?
"Ah have nevah done this before, but what's your name? Mine's ___________"
>>16955237
I start it off with a comment or question. Something clever that is around you. talk shit about the lecture or teacher or subject or whatever. Comment on her shoes or style. Compliment it but make a little fun of it at the same time.
Honestly, I'd see if there were any tells of what she is into (music, hobbies, etc.)
Take one of those topics and run with it. If it's still smooth sailing, ask her the classics:
What's your name? What are your passions? Etc.
Then, if all of that was golden, strike while the iron is hot, and ask her out!
Honestly, my best relationships have always stemmed from just going for it!
Good luck, and god speed OP!
I'm not racist personally, yet I can't stop myself from judging every person I meet almost immediately by it. I don't remember how it's developed, but now whenever I'm in a public area and I have nothing in particular to think about, my mind automatically switches to making assumptions based on race. I've stopped going to places like /pol/ or /int/ which would reinforce those thoughts, but these have stuck around and are very difficult to shake off.
Any advice on how to get rid of this? Is it a meditation-type thing?
I've never really heard of this problem come up for a lot of people, so if you're having trouble envisioning it, it's sort of similar to playing The Game.
Youll lose very little by sticking to your own race especially if youre white
>>16955148
>The Game.
>>16955172
In what, dating? I live in the South, every place is incredibly diverse. It's not as if I could pick and choose between homogeneous communities. It's sort of fucking with my mind wherever I go.
>>16955177
It was unintentional, lol.
>recently discovered I am ugly
>realize that I won't be happy until I "prove" to myself that I'm not a complete failure as a man
>part of that requires me to have sex with a lot of high quality women, or just get to the point where they want me and it's obvious
>have gf who is not "high quality"
>love her, but will never shake the feeling that I settled/gave up because I was afraid to try
Anyone else ever felt like this?
Make $$$ bro and get a personality. Beauty/attractiveness is subjective. #first impression
and workout
>>16954862
I feel the same, OP. Except I think I am one step further, I broke up with my gf because I think I need more challenge.
I really want to try this out but im afraid that i will never be able to go back to have normal sex with women.
I also think that it will make relationships far more complicated (pegging, wuts dis?). Like sex with women is okay but i literally cant mastrubate without some extra... fun.
>gayy
nope. I would never be able to have sex with another man or tranny. Theres like a mental barrier in my head. But the idea getting taken by a hot girlll is just too damn good.
wut to do?
>>16954823
youll go back to regular sex when you realize actually getting fucked in the ass is uncomfortable
>>16954823
Hey check it out another gay homophobe>>16954823
>>16954848
>not wanting to get fucked by a dude
>OMG HOMOPHOBE XDDDDDDD
hetrophobe
My girlfriend is 46 years old and still making dumb choices, the current situation is she is in Community College with plans to transfer to a University School to get her actual degree from. She's persuing a Bachelors in Accounting with a minor in International Business and learning French as a foreign language.
We argue almost every day, I tell her shes pursing a garbage degree and to study for a Medical profession job or something worthwhile, i tell her Accountants in Los Angeles where we are from is a $13 to $15 an hour job if she can find one and Accountants are being replaced by Computer Software and that regarding an International Business Degree its as useless as toilet paper.
I tell her its not worth the time or the student loan debt shes going to take on once she transfers to a University. She feels i dont know what i am talking about and that i just dont want to see her make it.
*sigh*.......BAKA
>>16954759
The fuck do you care for? Are you paying for it? Not like you are married to her.
Besides, nobody is safe from the ass fucking to come with where AI will be in the next 5 years.
NOBODY.
Everybodies job is at risk. The next big bubble is education. It is going to crash down as nobody will be able to afford it with increasing unemployment and less skilled jobs paying a living wage. Education debt may be partially forgiven or even completely forgiven. Same will be true for extremely expensive healthcare. Wages will go down dramatically for medical workers as the glut increases from people thinking like you. Doctors will be less and less needed with predictive AI already being extremely accurate on medical diagnosis. Robotics and AI are being developed so that surgeries can be completely automated too.
Times a changing.
>>16954783
... cont
I don't know if you noticed what is going on. Savers are being punished severely all across the world and people that take risks and debt are being rewarded. They are doing everything in their power to keep the consumption engine going but it will come crashing down soon. We are starting to see it already in Europe. They are trying to go to a completely cashless society not because of efficiency and crime, but because of the ability to control peoples money and incur negative interest rate penalties on peoples savings.
The house of cards is coming down. It will all be finally culminated in the inability of the US government to service its debts any longer. With a complete lack of faith in even bonds, they will issue a new currency, absolve all the debt, and any money that you have will be transferred to the new currency for maybe ten cents on the dollar. The people that win though are people that hold lots of debt.
Your gf is taking debt that for now she can't escape, but an education can't be repossessed. It is not the worst idea in the world considering the apocolyptic scenario we are in store for.
>>16954759
What the fuck do you know? Studying medicine will take years and a shitload of cash which means loading up on more debt than she'll likely shift in the next 10 years. She'd have to work fucking hard and long hours for the next 15 years just to be in an OK position, by which time she'll be at retirement age.
Let her study Accounting and Business Management. It doesn't mean she'll be an accountant--she could find a job in any of hundreds of Finance jobs with such a degree. (e.g. Financial Planning and Analysis, Treasury, Tax Accounting, Tax Advice, Revenue Accounting, GL Accounting, Commercial Finance, Pricing, Reporting). There are shitloads of jobs out there for people with degrees like that, and will be for her lifetime.
I feel like I'm trapped, and I need help but I don't know where to start.
>I've always been a loner
>I wasted most of my childhood staying inside and away from people
>I never bonded with my brother or father
>My sister basically took over part of my life
>I didn't talk much at all, and I was always lonely
>The only thing that I did was stay inside my daydreams
>I tried to learn many things, but I've never mastered a single one
>I've tried to start many things, but after a day or so, I completely lost interest
>In my own head, I was a great man, but on the outside I was a nobody
>I was told that I was a good friend, but no one seemed to want to be around me
>I've been in a constant state of depression ever since I was a kid
>I've only recently learned how to manage it
>There are still times when I breakdown, but I make sure to hide it so that nobody is suspicious
>I've never admitted to anyone (except for a few) that there was even a problem
>Now I'm expected to be the best of the best
>I still have some of these tendencies, although not as severe
>I still haven't told anyone
This is the most sincere I can be. I honestly am lost and I don't know where to go.
Don't really know how to to respond but I read the post and I feel for ya my man.
There there? Sorry!
Find something you like doing a little bit more... or that you find a challenge (might help) and force yourself to stick with it at least for month. Seriously. It´s doable. You can find some TED talks on 30 days rule or challenge or however is it called.
When you find something you stick to, it helps with everything.
Depression (or similar) is workable too, but if you want to avoid doctors etc etc, you will have to start with yourself. You must like yourself a bit more, so force yourself to be the person of your daydreams (or alike, you are adult now)
Really 30 days challenge... take up a hobby... or five :)
Martial arts, Gym, any sport, anything creative, anything with people, the possibilities are endless and in some of those, you may actually find more than only a hobby :)
Hey op you still around and looking for help? I can chat with you and sort some stuff out with you, I have 1st hand experience with what you are dealing with
How do you resign yourself to having no choice but to work five days a week, every single week with little to no breaks, for pretty much the rest of your entire life? I can't do it. How do you do this without going insane or killing yourself?
The only way I've seen people do it is by working in a field they're passionate about. Other than that you can numb yourself with liquor and drugs or just use whatever free time you have on a hobby that could possibly end up getting you money one day.
>>16954554
Are you kidding it's easy as fuck.
Idk maybe I've just mastered positive attitude magic. One of the five magics.
You choose to be happy instead of sad.