How the fuck do I deal with sexual frustration in my relationship? It is the ONLY problem in my relationship and it keeps coming back. Largely because I keep making it come back.
I want sex literally every day I see my girlfriend. 1-3 times a day. Today we took a day road trip across the state and I wanted to have sex all fucking day but she didn't. And the day before as well but we never did anything. I was sexually frustrated and that led to me being pissed off. I tried to hide it but then I started getting tired from being up all day and I started getting visibly upset and my GF felt like shit about it.
We talk about it civilized but we can never come to a solution and it keeps coming back. My GF says she has a high sex drive ( wants sex 2-3 days a week ) but I want that shit every fucking day. I love this girl but this just keeps effecting our relationship. Who is at blame? Or is just something we have to work out? How?
Please help
>>16959015
> Today we took a day road trip across the state and I wanted to have sex all fucking day but she didn't. And the day before as well but we never did anything. I was sexually frustrated and that led to me being pissed off. I tried to hide it but then I started getting tired from being up all day and I started getting visibly upset and my GF felt like shit about it.
And I want to say that today was suppose to be a happy day for us. It was actually until the drive back home where we were both upset at each other. It was my fault for acting like a dick due to getting turned down 3 or 4 times. I don't want this shit effecting us.
>>16959023
Tell a doctor about having a high sex drive. Believe me, you can be stripped of that very easily. He might be thinking of dozens of medications that do that.
>>16959035
Is there any other way? That sounds like some cuck shit man.
>Meet girl online lives a few states away
>We've been talking for about 2 years now
>Pretty great friendship and eventually things get hot.
>We are very attracted to each other.
>Eventually it's unsaid but we kind of love one another.
>I tell her after college maybe we should move in together at some point.
>She tells me it's unrealistic.
>She makes a painting of me, she really loves me.
>We both fear long distance relationships
>It kinda reminds me of Steve Buscemi and Thora Birch's relationship in Ghost World.
>I want her happy. Her parents want her to have an arranged marriage yet she doesn't like the guy at all.
What do I do? I want to love her but this distance is awful. I've tried saying maybe we become an item but she's scared of the distance too... What can I do Anons? I want to love her and I don't want to be lonely again.
Did I misread that or did you really try leaping from online friend to "let's move in together!"? Have you two actually met in person yet?
>>16959006
Oh sorry forgot some MAJOR info, we've met before. Skype and call on a weekly basis.
Why would women find men intimidating?
I work with 50+ workers in a factory type setting... all the guys get along with me fine. And maybe 2 or 3 females talk to me like they've known me for ever. Yet the rest of the females that when ever i start a conversation with them (and i always have to be the one)
i have to run the entire thing, i can see how uncomfortable they feel.... They all give me one word answers and can't keep eye contact. yet they all smile and come across as friendly.
Only thing i can think of that makes them uncomfortable is i'm a solid guy. 6'4 and very broad shoulders.
How do i make people feel more comfortable around me without forcing it?
pic unrelated.
What's your posture like? And if you're towering over them with wide eyes and a huge smile, I'd cower in fear too. Try taking a few steps back and talking with a soft tone and smile. Not too soft a tone though, that'd be a bit creepy.
Congratulations OP
you've discovered that stereotypes are stupid.
hard to believe that not all blacks love watermelon isn't it.
all women are not created equal, most are nothing like your mother.
now that you've unlocked this achievement, you may move on to the next level.
>>16958998
I do tower over most people. But i dont smile with my teeth. And i cant stand people in my personal space. And unless im deaf pretty sure im not yelling at people.
But because they give off an uncomfortable vibe i dont try speaking to them any more than once a day. Tbh some of them ive given up on and only smile and say hi or "hows it going". Feel like if i ask them questions or make refrences to work to start a convo theyll file a harrassment charge.... its painfully obvious how uncomfortable i make them. And i missed a lot of branches falling iff the ugly tree so im not freaking them out like the elephant man. I cant wrap my head around it.
How do I get a gf who is into anime? Yeah, I know going to cosplay conventions would be one way, but what else?
>>16958953
>NEET actually believes he can get a girlfriend
You can't, but I know a way you can get a boyfriend who loves anime.
Be Japanese
>>16958953
>go to meetup.com
>look for all the anime groups
>go to them
>also all of the general geek groups
same goes for the craigslist discussion section. just post aorund there, ask about meetups and see what happens.
also
>go to a hobby shop that is geek oriented
>talk to girls there
>go to their special events
if a girls into anime shes likely into other geekdoms as well
>INB4 GOING OUTSIDE IS STUPID
Any tattoo artists on here? How do tattoo artists feel about last minute requests? I have a simple tattoo that I want to get, pic related, but I don't know if it will annoy my artists to have to draw up the line work the day of our appointment. What's the etiquette here?
Just one bump!
I think I'll probably bring it up during the session as a tat I'd like to get sometime-- if he offers to do it now, wonderful, if not, I can wait.
>has to come to /adv/ because he is worried that the tattoo artist will judge him
how are people this pathetic allowed to live?
>>16959111
What? No. I just don't want to ask something from him that will make him feel obligated to do, and couldn't find the answer anywhere else. This is less about his judgment of me, and all about being a good client.
how do I stop getting butthurt about my gf clubbing?
My gf went to vegas with her single friends and they go clubbing every night. I was going to take her on a trip just us two, but she decided to go with her friends instead. Granted I didn't tell her about our trip before she agreed to go with her friends.
I've never been to a club but I imagine there's dancing and alcohol consumption involved.
I just can't help but feel like I'm gonna get cucked. Like she's all dressing up and shit in ways I've never seen before. She dresses lazily for me, but apparently goes all out for her fellow club goers.
I don't want to worry about these things, I miss being a loner. Someone advise me, or at least tell your personal thoughts/anecdotes
You should start going out, too.
For the record, I don't think she's doing wrong. I have friends who like to party. When I was out enjoying life with them, my relationship was stronger. I wasn't interested in other dick, just drinking with friends. He liked to go out, too.
But you should go out, too. Go to bars, tell her you're going out with your buddy. See how she responds.
>>16958931
Well I don't go out because of a combination of being an introvert, being extremely shy, and having no friends.
But now that you bring up her response, I do remember one time I was invited to a karaoke night/club night where a lot of girls were going to as well. My gf freaked out over text when I told her this so I ended up just going to the karaoke and not the club.
I'm not sure if it's bad that her clubbing makes me upset. I feel like people in relationships don't usually mingle/dance with single people
>>16958925
Sounds like she's not ready for the same kind of relationship as you; or it could be that you are dating each other for different reasons because you are both in different stages/places in your lives.
If she likes this lifestyle and you like her, then you have to find something about this to like. Otherwise, it's going to bother you.
This happened a lot in my 20s. In my early 30s, the women I date do not do this (partying in LV with single friends).
Turns out that the problem was me not trusting and imagining things because I was more depressed than I realized.
The answer is not to date older women--not necessarily. The answer could be that you need to learn trust. If either of you doesn't trust the other, then you need to resolve that issue first.
Cuckers will cuck, regardless of what you do--so don't try to tell any GF how to behave because it's fruitless. If this is a serious relationship for you, consider: she's not going to be going to clubs forever. You might not date her forever. Why not let it go and sort-out whatever in your life makes you hesitate to trust romantic partners?
The dressing lazily part is inevitable in most relationships.
Good luck and get some sleep.
>Woke up an hour ago, sitting in front of computer, urge to fap appears
>Did it three times yesterday, wasn't really that great, mostly just felt tired afterwards
>Meeting long-distance fwb in a week (we see each other 1-2 times a month), want to be able to cum from her handjobs/blowjobs this time, ego takes a hit when I can't and I'm pretty sure it doesn't make her feel great either
>Been telling myself "Alright, not gonna fap today" for four days now
Anyone else dealing with this shit?
Nah. I just fapped every time I received the urge. You grow out of it after a while. I do it once every few days or weeks or so. Just fuck her until you cum. That's really all there is to it. You gain sex experience as well
Fapping can be a serious drain on life. If you do it too much it can stop feeling good, even, and just make you tired constantly.
Best solution is to get a hobby, whenever I get the urge to fap I just play videogames like the loser I am and stop browsing 4chinks for a little bit until I stop being horny.
>>16958906
No problem cumming while fucking her, but when girls (it's not just her, been like this with everyone) become reluctant to give handjobs/blowjobs because I never cum from them and usually don't even stay fully erect during them, it feels bad man.
Also, "once every few days or weeks or so" sounds a lot more reasonable than my habits. We're talking 15 times a week, at least.
I need to join the Illuminati.
I am not financially qualified but my circumstances are extraordinary.
It has been five years since I was last able to join, and I have made amends where applicable. I was only contacted once.
How do I re-establish contact? I am sick of looking at the average citizen, fodder, people who have no had the same "experience" as me.
Could it also be that I was just used?
The website is a hoax to sell books and cheap jewelry.
Please go get a life and Find Jesus Christ.
The Illuminati probably doesn't even exist.
It was probably a prank.
Make your own Illuminati. With Blackjack, and hookers.
>>16958871
Go back to the place we discussed the first time.
Leave the finger underneath the vase. It has to be Egyptian.
Take the veil cerpin taxt, and we may consider.
After a long 2.5 months of no response or contact from my ex (we had a shitty break up and i was like "pls respond x30" and he never replied, but it was for the best as i've grown over this time and etc) well I noticed him looking at my snap stories and saw him the other day while I was on a date... so I messaged him and he replied. The conversation has been simple, I said hi he said whatsup I asked how he's been he said ok how about you and that he's trying to get into grad school.
Should I go ahead and ask him now if he wants to hang out sometime and catch up, or give it a few days?
You are infatuated with the idea of him, especially since you think you can't have him. If you really showed you cared and they said no, you either did something unforgivable or you shouldn't be dating someone who cares that little about you
>>16958864
.... wot
we used to date and we were into each other. Then we fought a lot toward the end because we weren't in a good place, er I wasn't.
I haven't asked him out anywhere yet after texting him right now, but I was thinking if i should wait or maybe he's responding because he misses me and I should just say "lets meet up"? or maybe he's over it and is comfortable replying because he thinks we're both over it and it's been long enough ;_;
thanks for the response anyway
Im supposed to take care of this plant until monday, but it doesnt look so good.
What do? I already watered it and Im doing it every two days. Should I cut the dying flower?
youre in luck, anon. i love me some plants
is the flower crunchy? or floppy?
Mist flowers?
feed it beer and see hee beeeeeeeee drunk
Are you dealing with unrequited love? What's your story?
Im in love with my roommate whos twice as old as me. But, mostly i think im starved for affection and she is currently the only female in my life. So maybe not. Im just lonely.
me:
>"I'm in love with you..."
her:
>"...I know."
>>16958932
damn :(
I'm in a bit of a conundrum.
I finally got some freedom from my parents so I'm more able to do things with people in my age group.
The problem is I'm not really sure where I stand at the moment, socially and with women.
I have a long history of being awkward and anxiety ridden in High School, and I've successfully gotten over most of my issues now.
I have a few friends and we're pretty cool, I go out like every other weekend, I'm okay looking and pretty social.
The thing is I dunno if I'm doing enough I guess. I feel like maybe I should go to more parties so I can interact with more people and more girls because I'm finally in a position to do so!
I guess I'm stuck inbetween my past as a nerd and the options I now have available to me. Even though I'm meeting an enormous amount of people everyday and I'm more confident and social, I feel like it's 50% not real and it's 50% not gonna last, either because this last few weeks and months have been a fluke, or I'll do something to fuck it up like I've done in the past.
I still remember people talking about how weird I am and girls being turned off by me, and now I'm out talking to men and women alike and going to parties and it's a huge cognitive dissonance.
Any tips or advice for me?
Bump
Just one last bump. Gonna go watch a film.
>>16958675
Are you familiar with the term, "You can't please everyone."? It really is the nature of our social lives. Those who come to understand and abide by it are content with who they are and how they behave, as they've pleased the only opinion that matters. Their own.
Sometimes we're not content with ourselves, however. Self realization of how we present ourselves can cause discomfort. People perform self-audits and reajust their ways of life to help themselves overcome. Similar to what you've done.
Ask yourself now, "Am I cool with where I'm at?". If you feel any hesitation keeping you from honestly believing "yes", time to make an adjustment.
If you need to make an adjustment, try different things. Go to more parties. Talk to more people. The key is to continue introducing healthy dynamics into your life that have made you feel improved in the past. If you still feel the same, or worse, try something else. It's up to you to find out what will and won't work unfortunately.
Don't focus on trying to make everyone your friend though. Life really isn't about getting the social approval of everyone. You need to be on good terms with yourself above all.
I think about suicide several times a day. It's a combination of the philosophical purposeless of living and crushing loneliness. Should I actually do it or not? I feel like no-one will ever love me and my dad died recently, my mum will probably die relatively young too because she has a disease. My one friend said he'd miss me if I did it but I imagine that most of the other people I know would just be surprised more than sad. I've been single for more than 2 years and my only relationship before that dissolved because she cheated on me. I feel like no-one is ever going to love me again, that that was just a fluke and that I'm actually just a shitty person.
Yadda yadda yadda
Listen boy, you are limited only by the appetite of your ambition.
If you want more in life go out and get it. Nothing will ever fall in your lap, even more so as you become more and more lonely. There will be no reprieve, no calm before the storm, and no divine intervention.
You can either relax and die or work to live.
Choose your destiny.
>>16958604
Sometimes I wonder why people like you even bother posting your inane drivel, and then I realize that your head is actually so far up your own ass that you actually believe someone will read these facebook-tier platitudes and be inspired. I'm torn between hating you and being sorry for you.
>>16958709
Who cares if it inspires them or not. I have no investment in these people. They can take it however they see fit but I don't see anyone else posting advice here.
I'm 24, I have a degree in Japanese language study and linguistics and want to move into marketing but don't know how.
I live in Japan, fairly fluent at the language (business level) but without experience/education I'd never be able to move into marketing right?
How do you do a complete career change into something you have no experience in but ultimately want to end up in?
>>16958586
Why not talk to a career counselor for a marketing program in-town?
I'm not saying that you need to go to college/uni again. I'm saying that you could talk to a career counselor in the field and tell them that you're thinking about the field and where do you start locally.
Good luck.
>>16958586
It is a myth perpetrated by business schools that you have to major in X to get a job in X.
Apply for marketing jobs. Your language skill plus your personality (assuming you have one) will outweigh any absence of book learning.
Ive noticed a tiny/small moth lookin fly came out of my penis. It appeard right when i urinated.
This happened 4 months ago.
Until today i have noticed it appeard again.
I havent shaved my pubic hair
I do get stings in my testis
I get sharp pain in my kideys,liver, and utera.
I dont shave my pubic hair.
Espeacially the doctor hasnt found anything.
Need help!!!
Yeah your sperms have evolved to fly as they realize you will never get laid. They must fly to find that pussy.
Evolution in action
>>16958589
Well played
>>16958589
lol