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It's not necessarily bad to have a gap that shows you went out and experienced life.

Cons: it fucking sucks to get back into the groove of school. Your classmates tend to be younger (sucks in a number of ways, annoying shits).
Pros: I'm glad I took a long break. I'm more confident, more comfortable.

Make sure you have relationships with people who will write recommendations. Let them know what you are thinking and that you'll hit them up later for letters. They will need examples of your work and a resume to be able to recommend you a few years from now.

>>16960088
As I was writing my post I began to feel pretty confident that the gap is the way to go.

I already have 3 or 4 contacts at university and a lab I worked at who I'm sure would be willing to provide recommendations. I'll talk to them.

Thanks for the reply. How long did you take out and what did you do?

>>16960123
I was ill and then started at the bottom. By the time I was ready to go forward, it had been 7 years. If I can explain that...you'll be good. And having good mentors made it easy--on my own, I wrote a paper and presented at a conference, then sent my updated resume and work to my mentors and started moving forward. The hard part after all these years is motivation. I work, I have a family, and writing falls to the side.

Alternatively: painless suicide methods? Quick and easy, preferably

Bump
From the view of a not depressed person, who has a pretty good life.
Life is not worth it.

>>16960059
No, it wouldn't be painful. Morphine is a strong pain medication which is depresses breathing. You will fall asleep and stop breathing.

>>16960087
An alternative would be an insulin overdose. With an high enough dosage you will fall into a cetoacedotic coma and then die. Insulin is also very difficult to be proven in your blood circulation by a coroner.

It is normal. When you're horny you want to fuck anything you're sexually attracted to, even that girl you don't actually like, but since she's available and tells you she is, you'll just do it because yolo.
Since you're asking this, I assume you're quite young, so be careful. Don't do anything you'll regret later. If you feel disgusted after having fapped to her, maybe you'll just act out of horniness rather than actually liking her.
Although it will also be an experience, so you can also do it and have fun.
Just be careful.

>>16960082
I also think deep down I'd rather be in a relationship than just have sex. And this girl is a bit on the wacky side and I wouldn't wanna be in a relationship with her. However, she is pretty forward about sex with me. I am just wondering if I should dive in head first despite knowing what I really want, or should I avoid this all together?

Use a condom. Don't trust that she's on bc

Have you tried bringing it up with the manager?

>>16960061
hes incomptent as fuck and hes sleeping right now.

literally has me working the entire day by myself in the store and gets mad when everything isnt finished.

>>16960050
Don't even confont the manager, just show your evidence directly to the owner.

>>16960035
No, me too, a lot of people hear them as well. Sign of a really low self-esteem.

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>>16960035
mootykins pls don't kill yourself
Everything will be daijobou

>>16960035
I feel this way all the time. I also hear thoughts which tell me to kill myself, pretty much constantly.

also I should add to this: We can temporarily close the gap by her coming to the Netherlands for Erasmus Exchange, but this will be in September 2017 at the earliest.

Works about 1% of the time. Do you have the tenacity to accomplish this and relationship to build upon?

Give up now and enjoy being young.

>>16960013
Well I enjoy it a lot. Every time we see each other there is a lot of passion between us and it gives me something to look forward too. I'm not interested in other girls besides her and we developed a deep emotional connection for each other.

Think about it like this, a flight from new York to London takes 6 hours. Your only other option to get there is to take a ship which takes 7 fucking days, and surprise those things go down sometimes too, same with trains busses and cars.

>select all boats

Flying is a boring, smelly, cramped (in steerage anyway), loud affair. It isn't fun and it isn't scary. The fun part is getting out on the other side.

I focus on breathing and being in my body--I tell myself this same flight has happened thousands of times and it's all good. I then distract with books, music, hobbies.

I take anti-anxiety tablets on ships as I'm even more certain those are going down. I've always believed I will die by drowning--which is just me fucking with myself.

If you need medication for flying, then you do. I always take anti-nausea medicine for flights.

>waaahhh girls don't pay attention to me when I think they should

Ask some more out and you'll eventually find a taker.

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Since you're asking for advice on 4chan your probably a massive beta, boring, socially award, have terrible game or are unattractive.

Pick one or all of the above.

It's a numbers game man.

Meet as many people as you can, when you find one you get along with well, make sure you let them know exactly how you feel as soon as possible and take them out on a date etc

Meet lots of people, Put yourself out there, be confident and have lots of charisma.

Honestly there is no advice anyone can give you to help you in this situation, im 24, jobless(and have been for 2 years), a drug abuser, and i've managed to jump from girlfreind to girlfriend for the last 6 years.

21 years old here and I also never consumed alcohol as of yet (I'm also an atheist so it's not for religious reasons). As a matter of fact, considering it's a drug that could only degrade your conscience and warp your reason, thus throwing you into a risk group for an early death, I assure you you've done the right choice. Not only does the consumption of alcohol and its effects elicit behaviours that make you look legitimately retarded and dumb, it's also a factor for violent deaths in accidents and it tends to cause violent conduct on some individuals. Just don't listen to the degraded retards who want you to put yourself down with drugs. Only retards consume drugs and most of them are compelled by the cultural hive-mind over it (Europe consumes the double of the global average, USA is not in much of a good condition either), which means they are incapable of real rational thought given that the pernicious and deleterious effects far outbalance any good that could come from it.

But getting fucked up is great, OP.

Yeah, it can be dangerous, but there is such a thing as responsible use. A couple beers isn't going to make you retarded and ruin your life. You just have to be enough of an adult to keep it to a few, and on occasion.

>>16959942
All right, but how do I stop disliking ever person who has bastardized alcohol amd only used it as a drug. Alcohol used to be a cultural thing, but that's long passed. I have a friend in Austria who occasionally drinks tropical alcohol things, and while it's legal, it just bugs me to no end. Of course I'm not a spaz and tell her though.
>>16959950
Well first I'm going to wrokf for a gov agency, so I need to be clean. Second, I don't need to fuck myself up to have fun. Everyone else seems to think otherwise though.

Yes call the police.

Video. Report to police to save his ass and yours.

>>16959886
she's stopped hitting him and he's asking her to leave after it's daytime but she's being an asshole

It ends

>>16959869

42

whatever you want it to be.

>>16959862
Everyone's adolescent years sucked, you're hardly unique in that.

Here's a thought, you're 18 now how about you move the fuck out and make something of yourself far away from your old man. You would never have to see him again if you don't want to.

Join the Navy, that's what I did to get out of the shitty hood I grew up in. Half of the guys in my crew when I was in HS are dead now because of stupid shit, ifi hadn't left I probably would have too.

>>16959880
How could I leave my mother alone? I just can't,she is the only one keeping me from disappearing. My adolescence wasn't the issue,it was just a plus.I don't want my father to get away with it,I need a choice.

>>1695>>16959862
Find a way to ruin his business. Leak personal stuff. Put CP in his computer.

Bump. Would like to know how to build myself up again after this screw up

Your PUA chucklecucks don't have any advice?

Seriously, it was only your second approach. You gotta keep at it.

>be me single
>clubbing with friends
>all of them obnoxious
>me chill
>girls be rolling their eyes at idiot friends
>then they look at me
>just chillin, not trying
>two girls climb in my lap
>well hello ladies
>you're a quiet one
>yea it's too loud in here
>wanna go somewhere quieter
>bow chicka bow wow

>>16959824
Do you WANT to kiss girls or have sex?

>>16959824
Don't be afraid, it's nice

>>16959825
YES! But I'm scared.

>>16959823
You don't. You can't learn to like something you don't like.

I've never wanted kids not because I'd be a shitty mother- I wouldn't be the best or the worst- but because I want that 20 years to live my own life, not raise/pay for kids. I want to explore the world and build a career and do what I want. I don't even like being around kids for more than a couple hours at a time.

As for a spouse, couples who have been married for a few years never seem happy to me. I mean you get the rare one that seems super happy, but that's definitely not the norm. I'm not strictly no relationships, but I just kind of let them come and go with no intent to stay together forever or anything. It puts a lot less pressure on things. Besides, I get bored easily.

I just like being free.

>>16959831
Good luck telling that to your biological clock.