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It's funny, Because A LOT of guys here have same problems.
so you people could just date each other fuck like rabbits and live a happy life c:

>>16994167
Because people having the same problems means that they are instantly compatibile. Fuck off man

>>16994156
Sorry, femanon. I'm not going to go with the cliché 'things get better' saying, because without you trying - it won't get better. Finding a boyfriend should wait right now. I believe you saying you want a boyfriend is a mask for all the real problems happening in your life at this moment.

Who have you spoken to face to face about this? Have you reached out to your school psychiatrist yet? I really believe there is some other underlying problem here that you are not sharing or don't understand yourself

Go to prom with her and don't engage in degenerate behavior you absolute imbecile.
Being a retard is also degenerate you absolute faggot.

>>16994139
How do I respectfully refuse to copulate with this young lady?

>>16994144
"Sorry Im waiting till marriage."

>>16994101
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH

>>16994101
Google for some samples of neat (male) handwriting, find some that you like and print them out. Write the message on the print out over and over and over and over again, practicing how all of the letters look. You'll have to do this a ton of times until it becomes natural. Just like when kids were taught cursive in 2nd grade. They had that lined paper and had to write individual letters over and over. That's what it takes--skill building.

Staet with Arrighi's Operina, the earliest known textbook on penmanship in the Roman alphabet. The book is in Italian, but that doesn't matter too much: the idea isn't to read it, but to copy it. Practice here will give tou a basic chancery hand, but you can build your own style off of it when you're done.

>>16993997
Real quick snippets of what I think might be things that got me to feeling the way I am today. Any help on "getting through this" would be appreciated.

>I had a crush on my best friend in high school and she ended up ditching me at prom for another guy who I couldn't compete with
>When we finally had a shot at real dating it didn't work out and we both got embarrassed
>She wanted sex anyway and I turned her down even though I really wanted it too out of fear it would mess us up
>That same friend came back years later to tell me I was a loser for not fighting for her and refuses to speak to me still 10 years later

>Most of my college crushes never bore fruit as I kept getting friendzoned
>My first college gf tried to commit suicide and was kicked out of the school a weekend I wasn't around, and this was pre-cell phones so it took me a few days to figure out if she was okay
>She told me that I was part of the reason she attempted it
>I scummed around dating and sleeping with random women, treating them like absolute shit
>My longest relationship in college was with a total bombshell who started to regret dating me, but kept up appearances -- we fought constantly but neither of us would just end it
>She began to refuse sex to a point that she became violent toward me over anything sexual, including punching me in the dick and locking me out of dorm room in the snow more than once -- I never laid a hand on her the entire time
>I was too scared to leave her because I didn't know what the "other side" would be like
>She would go on to accuse me of rape toward the end of my senior year and threatened to go to her family to press charges after we had a pregnancy scare
>Finally ended it cold turkey but she continued to harass me over the phone, through the internet, and using her friends for a good year
>Called a job I applied for and had them reject my application through her connections
>She's now happily married and has everything she ever wanted

>>16993997
Post pic?

>>16994031
>after our breakup I developed some form of ED that lasted two years, both after college
>I dated anything and everything that moved, fell into online dating hardcore
>Began clubbing and going to bars to meet women and realized I was going bald and had zero skill compared to my more attractive, virulent friends
>Fell into a deep depression and tried to kill myself two separate times

>Moved out of state and continued random dating, but met a girl a few hours away
>She never visited me and I was always driving out to see her
>Cured my ED
>She really had no emotional connection to me and made it clear as crystal from day one
>Felt abandoned in a strange state as she randomly called me one day and said she was "done"
>We met up some time later and she told me about how much better her life was without me around, said that I was the kick in the ass she needed to fix her life
>After that she never spoke to me ever again
>She's married now and happy as a clam

>Random dating again, fall even harder into online dating
>Move to a new state, new job, and meet the "perfect girl"
>We have a Hollywood relationship and it's perfect, she even postpones a dream job across country so she can get more time with me and let me figure my shit out so we can both move together
>She starts to become depressed and angry a lot out of the blue, sort of related to that decision, and it creates a rift in the relationship
>Breakup is long and drawn out, she advertises her "healing process" of fucking random guys (and girls) to me and becomes a real bitch
>I end up rebounding with a coworker and knock her up by mistake
>We get the abortion and wonder if we should "stick it out" because we genuinely liked each other
>It ends as horribly as you'd expect and along comes a new suicide attempt as she ending of that relationship goes nuclear and I start to wonder wtf I'm doing with my life, begin realized I was almost a father...

I was in this situation for like 2 years. I dated a girl for 3 years then we went on "break" but kept secretly seeing each other and fucking. Every time I asked her if we could be in a relationship again she would say no. Best advice I can give? GTFO. She will keep playing this game. She is manipulating you. Its not fair to you and this is a hard cycle to get out of. You sound young and I know fooling around is hard to break, but for your future and yourself you just gotta let go man.

OP back. See with her theres this cycle. She sits there leads me on then when i think i get somewhere i get slammed right back into the friendzone. There was a point where she started drama so i kinda backed out from talking to her and i only spoke to her when i could but then she said that she missed talking to me. >>16994020 i dont know weather to keep trying with her or to just drift away from her.
I love being with her and i kinda dont wanna leave her but on the same token i want whats best for me

>>16994043
Dont get wrapped around her finger OP. Sounds like she has some real issues and shes using you without having to commit. I was a lot like that and its a shitty feeling. Gotta be your own man, man. If shes leading you on this hard Id basically tell her to make a choice because you obviously cant stay like this forever.

to add. I'm currently working a job making $54,000/yr. and I have $72,000 in savings. So yes, my job isn't total shit. But I do not enjoy it at all, and I don't have any advancement opportunities

No one can convince you of something that you have already decided to deny.

That said. I'm not here to convince you. I'm just here to state my opinion since you are clearly asking for it.

What is the one thing that causes most people to be unhappy? Want. Unhappy humans are those that are never satisfied. They rather focus on negatives than the many positives that fill their lifes.
Everyday, there is always something to be grateful for and, this, happy about.

A wise man once said, "Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us be thankful."

>>16994009

I am thankful that I have a decent paying job, and I'm not having a terrible quality of life.


It's just difficult when you look up at the sky everyday and just watch airplanes take off and land. Wishing everyday I could be up there but can't because I'm not intelligent.

It just seems like it's easy for people to settle when they have a purpose, such as a wife and kids. Because all they care about them is providing.

But for someone like me, who will never have a family. It's hell because I have no purpose.

Here to listen and advise.

I'm listening

>>16993966
Me three

You ran from issues instead of facing them
All you can do now is tell him what you discovered and hope he wasn't looking to end it

>>16993620
>>16993563
>I broke up with him because we were hurting each other, and suggested we try something new about a week ago. He didn't want to, suggested we try again in a year or two.

i cant stop crying

>>16993543
How about you just don't go?

Step 1: Sit at home
Step 2: Unless you live in a church, success is yours

>>16993547
>>16993549
These. OP, are you forced to go or something? Kind of weird at 18+. I was forced, but I stopped being forced when I was 13 or so.

The exact formula? For you anon, it involves drinking Drain-O.
Have fun.

Vote FN and get the attention of Marion by slaughtering some non français de souche.

Explain your situation, OP.

Sorry to samefag, but it's strange. She's the kind of person who gets on my fucking nerves but I can't get over. I've been able to drop way less toxic people with no problem but she makes me feel different. It's been 4 years since we started dating, and there's never been any infidelity.

But goddamn, it is even possible to come back from that? We're both fucking stubborn, but if I confronted her would that even work out? And I mean work out well, I don't wanna be a fucking cuckold.

Self-bump of desperation.

>>16993393
>Doesn't show affection anymore
>Says things that she knows will get a reaction out of me
>When I try to talk about the relationship she just lets out a sigh and acts like I'm physically hurting her

These are some big-ass red flags anon, want to elaborate?

Yes you should end it. Maybe next time look for a guy who doesn't drink :/

He was drunk. Let is slide once, but only once.

I never understand doing rational things like this when drinking. When Im wasted I never even consider making really really stupid or rash decisions. Then again, I only drink once a month. If hes an alcoholic Id consider either dumping him or trying to get him help if you really love him.

Girls: what is your preferred name for male genitalia ex. penis, cock, dick, etc.?

>>16992985
The boloney pony.

Gf and I are both older virgins (22 23) and she's really tight. Like, one finger makes her eyes water.

This really really turns me on and I know honesty is the best policy but I'm not sure how to word this or should I just drop it because it'll send off too many creepy vibes. Honestly, I want to be super rough with her the first time even if it hurts her because when will I ever have another shot to beat up a virgin right? I want to tell her how turned on it makes me, how I've had dom/sub fantasies and 'let's agree on a safety word in case, but if you can take it just this once then from now on I'll be as slow and gentle as you want'

(but I mean don't all girls like it rough, it's just the first time kind of hurts?)

Then from there on like I said I'll be easier on her and really work on pleasuring her (been watching instructions on eating pussy lol)

So would you go for this or is it too rapey? I know it's deviant but I just wanna make her cry lol it's hot. But I don't want her to be turned off from sex forever either so maybe i should let it go.

Some members of male species are no longer entitled to be called men.

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grass eaters aren't lonely, they have other interests. that's the whole meaning of the phrase.
foreveralones are at historic lows and are simply more vocal and visible due to modern technologies
hikkis are a product of the weird overlap of low cost of living and declining real wages, so that it's shockingly common for older people to be able to support someone young easier than it is for a young person to support themselves. Blame the neoliberals and conservatives running the first world.
>And why does it only effect women?
what
>There is no female counterpart to millions of lonely young men despite what white knights may claim.
women are socialized not to endlessly blame their personal shortcomings on others while men are not. also pic related.

Because with women's liberation the top 20% of men now get 80% of women. You can either complain about it or work your way up.

>>16992778
>some women do, some women don't
You're fucking retarded if you think this isn't a valid answer

>>16992778
That guy isn't chubby. He's obese.

On average, girls like athletic guys.
I honestly do not really like muscles, and I prefer skinny/slightly chubby guys.

>>16992789
Completely ignoring what OP said

WEW
LADS