My ex gf broke up with me almost a year ago, we no longer speak and I've been with plenty of hotter girls since. But it still haunts me that she was so easily able to delete me from her life and forget about all the good times we had. She refused to speak with me and appears happier than she ever was with me. I've made great strides in improving my life and acomplishing goals since she left, but I still have this sadness that she has moved on. How do I complete the task of leaving the past behind?
>>16996333
Find someone who you'll love as much as her, it'll fill the void.
>>16996333
you never really do. every emotional incident sits with you for your entire life. it stops being such a heavy burden as time goes on of course. but its always gonna be there. i still have thoughts about my first 'loves' back in fucking highschool.
as for her,
>it haunts me that she was able to delete me from her life and forget all the tgood times we had
>shes happier than she ever was with me
you are contradicting yourself a bit here. if shes way happier now then its really no surprise that she moved on so easily.
that being said, you said she refuses to speak to you, how could you possibly know what her internal monologue is? how would she know what yours is? the relationship probably isnt as heavy a burden it is to her as it is to you, but she didnt just magically forget about it. shes just living her life and you cant really see it from where you are.
>>16996333
stop thinking about her. yes its that simple. if you have a job lose yourself in your work
My girlfriend isn't sexy. I find her attractive, but I don't think I could ever find her sexy. I don't interact or look at her and want to ravage her.
You know how there are some girls who are just really good at banter and flirting and non verbal stuff? She's not like that. It almost feels like I'm talking to a 14 year old boy sometimes. But this seems to be the case with many girls, the ones that are sexy are sluts, and the "good girls" are kind of dull or spergy. is there something I'm missing?
yeah, you're missing your own projections and conveniently categorizing women to feed those projections. Dump you girlfriend dip shit.
No, some girls just aren't like that. There's nothing wrong with it really. Plenty of sexy girls aren't slutty and plenty of "good girls" act like total cunts. If your girlfriend's only disappointing quality is her lack of sexiness, I think you should count your blessings and just get her liquored up one night. That might help.
>>16996291
I think he's just out of the honeymoon phase now to be honest. He needs to either dump her or if he loves her then their love will mature into something deeper. If it doesn't then they probably just aren't meant to be.
Everyone I have in my life I pretty much met through "natural" means. You know, I just kinda went about my life and our paths just crossed. I didn't have to go out of my way to meet any of these people. I expected college to be crazy for this. I expected to meet so many new people, make so many new friends, but my first year is finishing up and that's just... not happening. I've made maybe 2 friends, barely anyone in my class even knows who I am, girls pretty much don't know I exist.
How do I get myself out there and... well... live? Life has been crazy boring and unfulfilling lately and I think working on my social life/social skills might be a good first step.
>>16996217
you gotta put yourself out there. friends wont gravitate to you. even in college you have to be the one to make the plans. go talk to them. ask them to hang out. make a specific time and day and thing. if they like you tehy will think 'oh this guys serious' and go from there.
I've made friends at the gym. ive made friends on the bus. just by saying 'hi whatsup'. but it doesnt ALWAYS have to lead to a friendship. so keep putting yourself out there. anyone who says 'WHO IS THAT WEIRD GUY WHO KEEPS ASKING PEOPLE HOW THEIR DAY IS GOING WHY WOULD HE DO THAT ITS SO STUPID GAWEDDDD' isnt worth worrying about, if anything you should be the one laughing at them.
that being said, the best way to make friends is to externalize your hobbies, enjoy them in ways that social
>BUT ANON IM AN INTROVERY ITS IMPOSSIBLE TO SOMEHOW FIND A WAY TO TALK TO EPOPLE ABOUT BOOKS
no. list whatever your hobbies are and i guarantee you there is a way to go meet strangers with it.
mostly its
>hanging out at shops that cater (or even just aisles) and striking up conversations with people who frequent there.
>asking said shops about events they host. most places dont make enough money on sales alone so have events that people attend, anything from classes, to a low key famous person, to just a group participating. if they dont host an event, offer to host one through them. its more money for them and all they have to do is put a sign up in their store advertising the when and wehre
>and of course, meetup.com no matter what your interests, there is a group there, and if not YOU CAN MAKE ONE.
if your first thought is
'UGH THAT DOESNT SOUND LIKE IT WOULD WORK' then you dont actually want advice you just want to talk about how hard life is.
also, college clubs duh
>>16996223
There really isn't a lot to me, I play vidya, I'm into music more than your average joe but definately less so than your typical /mu/tant....... thats pretty much it, I've never really considered myself all that interesting. I never have much to talk about.
>>16996217
Honestly dude, you already have one of the better environments for this which is class. You have a reason to bullshit and small talk with pretty much everyone in there without them thinking much of it. Just ask someone that you're interested in talking to about last night's homework or what something meant, stuff like that and branch from there. This is a learned skill and one which I didn't have the first time around but no pain no gain.
The secondary thing is, of course, clubs. It might be a little embarrassing but honestly everyone there is there because they want to and usually are accepting of others. Just go with an open mind and expect nothing other than a few hours of your time to kill.
It really doesn't get better than college senpai. Adult social life in my experience is basically the same randomness of bumping into people at work or at a store or something. Unless you're a degenerate who goes to bars and clubs but all you'll find there are trashy whores and braindead bros.
There are a few clubs but usually for adult sports and the like. Much harder.
Here's everything I know about it:
-Alienware M18x(AM18XR2-8728BK)
-Intel Core i7-3610QM 3.3GHz/4.1GHz turbo
-8GB DDR3 RAM (1600 MHz)
-1TB Hard Disk Drive (10,000 rpm)
-2GB GDDR5 NVIDIA GeForce GTX 660M Vid-Card
Dell sticker; everything else = alienware
It has an admin pass word set and a lock on bios screen. Other than that the computer should be in perfect working condition. Is there anything I can do to get it working again or do I have to throw it in the trash? I talked to a couple people who said it was a really good computer, but they couldn't get it working. Is it
possible to reset the whole thing, like reformat and reinstall windows or whatever's on there. I think it was some version of linux before.
Does anyone know how I can delete them and still keep the computer in working condition? I just want the computer, but I'll post most of them pics here if I can access them. She's upset about the pussy pics, but I dk why, it's nice. I'll delete them pics and post the tits and ass; she doesn't mind them getting out. [pic related: it's her]
Let me explain:
>Broke up with my GF last week. She left stuff at my house, came got it, and told me to throw the rest out. I called her and asked her if she realized she left a laptop here. She said yes, but it isn't any good because she forgot the passwords, so I should donate it. To who, I don't know, I didn't ask; I'm keeping it.
>She said she got the computer for Christmas-2013 from another ex-boyfriend for, but she hardly used it since she had another computer. He bought it for her so they could play games; she said it was expensive. I looked it up and it's supposed to be good. They broke up a year later and she hasn't used it since. She set passwords for it back in 2014, and she can't remember now because she used a password generator.
>She called me back the next day asking if I got rid of it yet and I told her "yea"&she freaked out,told me there were pics on there that she didn't want anyone to see(vag)CONT
>>16996035
Who is that smoking hot bitch in the pic?
BIOS password might be a pain in the ass, but you can Google it to figure out how to reset it.
Hard drive is easy. Buy a USB 2.5" SATA drive caddy online for like $5. Unscrew panel on laptop, remove hard drive, insert into caddy, plug caddy into your computer. Then format it so you can install a fresh OS.
Don't dig around for her pics. However jilted you might feel about the breakup, you're getting a legitimately nice laptop for free out of the deal. I call that even. Just wipe the drive.
>>16996043
my ex
If I think about breaking up with my gf sometimes, do I just need to man up and do it? She's great, and only wants to make me happy, and when I think about being without her I'm sad but also not totally torn up.
Does the mere fact that I have considered ending it multiple times mean I should just do it already?
If I have to ask these questions does that make it obvious?
All her friends are also my friends...there's like this social pressure to keep this thing going so it's not awkward.
I'm also probably moving to another city (5+ hours away) in a couple months and have always hated the idea of a long distance relationship
Sounds like you want to do it but are afraid of social repercussions, being alone, and hurting your gf's feeling. You seem like a good dude and nice people feel conflicted about this stuff
You don't need a reason to end it, if a relationship isn't vibing with you anymore than that's enough, but doing what you want is seen as selfish and rude so it's harder to just act on your emotions, you know?
How old are you OP?
>>16996011
I'm 22, and it's not like it's my first relationship.
I feel pressured to at least keep it going until I move away, which I know is selfish. It's not like I can't stand being with her, we always have fun together.
However there are frequent arguments, she can get pissed just from me saying something the wrong way. Tbh, she just seems kind of immature. She's pretty conservative, but a bit dirty in the bedroom. I was her first time, but before me she had dated a guy 10 years older than her and others so it's not like I'm the first guy she's been in a relationship with her
>>16996022
Hey OP, was having the same ruminations as you. Broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. I figured that if I'd been thinking about it that many times, it would have been unfair to continue the relationship and string her along. She was also in a place of her life where she needs to do something and I'm more established and looking to travel, so there was that too (she's 20, I'm 26).
Basically, I'd get it out of the way as soon as you can. I had to wait until the end of a holiday we'd booked months ago but I managed that long and simply had to pull the pin because I felt so guilty about continuing it.
God speed friend.
Today me and my girlfriend almost got mugged.
Two guys came over to us and asked for the time. Told them the time and wanted to move away, but then they asked for some spare change and we declined. Tried moving away again, but they blocked our path and insisted we give them our wallets and everything else in our pockets. One was going in to grab me, but I panicked and punched him in the nose and hit the other guy in the neck as hard as I could. Then we ran from them.
Should I report this to the police? should we be afraid to go through the place in fear of retribution? It happened during the day, but in an alleyway of sorts, but they did get a good look at our faces. We both go through there every day, since it's the shortest path back home after uni.
>>16995928
Yes, go to the police.
Luckily from the sound of it, it was probably their first time trying to rob someone like that.
>>16995935
They seemed to be intoxicated, since it was hard to understand what they were saying and they reeked of alcohol. Since i'm almost sure I would of gotten shanked if they were "pros".
>>16995939
Believe it or not, most people aren't willing to severely hurt someone (and risk killing them) for an unknown amount of money. Honestly if they were "pros", they wouldn't do it during the day either way, let alone targeting 2 people.
If you do go to the police, include that they seemed to be intoxicated.
How do I build discipline?
I can't help you OP but I'm just bumping because I'm in the same boat.
I've worn down what discipline I had to the point where even being productive for half an hour a day is an immense struggle.
>>16995846
Same boat here,
Its hard but most important part is yourself.
There are audio books about this or other informatioin. Altouh i havent had the disicpline to do it ;p
>>16995846
I built discipline by hating myself.
Who here has majored in math? How has it worked out for you employment wise?
I switched over to math late in the game and got really tired of being in school at 25. So I put it on hold and now I am in the goddamn Navy.
Bretty cool
>>16995739
How do you like the Navy? Could an ex-stoner get in? I heard they pretty much turn down anyone who has smoked more than once.
>>16995836
It's pretty cool so far can't beat the benefits and traveland all that shit. Sure you can as long as you don't have that shit on your criminal record. Just tell em yoube never done the stuff
>Broke up with exgf 2 months ago
>Toxic relationship, she was manipulative, didn't had time for me, just friends and shit, she didn't cared if we continued or not
>Ended it to not fight anymore and cool things down
>Ex go to a trip, gives me her house keys and asks me to take care of her dog.
>"My parents say that it's OK, they trust you"
>Lie, her parents didn't knew
So I went to her house, gave the keys to her parents, explained them and then I apologized for the situation, didn't stole anything and I did what I was suppossed to.
I got super mad, I hate lies. But she explained to me that she lied so I would take care of her dog and that
>"I was going to tell my parents anyways"
I asked her to stop using me and playing with me, because I know she also likes other guy. She denied everything but finally accepted since I know the truth. After all she said "yes, I fucked up for lying and playing, sorry, I still love you".
Right now I don't know if I can trust anymore, she used me and then lied to me. But I don't know if i'm being a douche or if i'm overreacting for this.
What do you think?
She's your ex. Why are you even still talking to her? You owe her nothing. You're done with her. She doesn't need to be in your life. Tell her to fuck off and never talk to you again.
Stop being a pussy ass bitch and drop her like you should've done before.
>>16995595
Yeah man, you're fucking right. I stopped talking to her when we broke up but she talked to me and we agreed to be friends, since that's what we really liked.
I never expected her to flirt again with me, I clearly said "friends" and she agreed. Or even use me for something as big as this.
Thank you, i'll do that, luckily nothing bad happened, so i'm not responsible of anything. But I don't want something else to happen, this girl is acting weird.
>>16995586
You probably ae an asshole. Most of us are at one time or another. But not for this.
She used you. If you want to be generous you can choose to think that she felt you were still friends and this was just a small favor. Or you can be annoyed.
Still, though, in the cosmic scale of Things To Be Pissed Off About, this ranks pretty low. Just write it off as her being her usual self and have nothing more to do with her.
>Work really hard on important project in programming class
>Hand it in
>Teacher takes forever to mark it
>Finally get mark back today
>12%
>Check files I handed in
>Handed in an incomplete version by accident
Is there anything I can do at this point? The teacher took her damn time with marking so it's been well over a month since I handed it in.
My mark is pretty much fucked in this class because of this, so I'm pretty much panicking trying to figure out if there's anything I can do at this point.
>>16995506
You could talk to the teacher? Explain what happened. That's the only option you really have.
>>16995535
Yeah, I sent her an e-mail. Waiting back now. I'm just bitter because I did so much work and it was all for nothing I guess.
>>16995506
feel so sorry for u :( <3
Ummm you can talk to the teacher and say that you'd like to have something like a second chance
[spoiler]Not sure if this is supposed to be on /g/ (or /v/) or not but[/spoiler]
hey /adv/, I'm finally able to up my mustard rice game and have a few questions:
Where do I start in picking the right parts? obv the criteria is something like budget vs performance (also how well part a works with part b) but I don't really have a point of reference.
How can I git gud at this down the line?
Other practical advice?
My mate got his tower (built by his mate) for $1,295 AUD - specs in pic related
How is it?
>>16995486
Nothing wrong with that PC in your pic, though it would be much better for gaming with a 4GB 970 instead of a 2GB 960.
Also skip the gaming keyboard and gaming mouse, get a proper keyboard and mouse, I suggest a logitech mx800 combo.
>>16995486
And if you don't want to build your own, try pccasegear.com and have a look at the systems on there - they're about the best value you'll find for your dollar in a prebuilt in australia.
>>16995537
Thanks but its ok. I'm really interested in learning about my machine and the PC hardware biz in general.
Hmm, how did you get into it yourself?
I'm not sure about this.
>straight female aged 20
>Have been seeing a gorgeous guy for a while
>he's quite literally model status and easily the best looking guy I've been with
>we go on a mini holiday and of course we fuck a bit
>he's pretty good with it, I enjoy the sex mostly
>he starts getting kinkier, wants me to finger his asshole while I suck him off
>don't think too much of it, I've heard of males enjoying this before
>he starts to talk about how he's fantasised about me having a dick
>wants me to fuck him with a strap-on
>feel a bit weird about it but don't tell him that
>we don't have one at the time so I'm saved for the moment
Long story short, is this guy gay? Or at the very least bisexual? I'm not necessarily troubled by this, but I just wonder a bit. He could just be totally confident in his sexuality. He's never had trouble getting it up.
Thoughts?
>>16995433
Hmm he might just be into being dominated, maybe try and dig in that direction a bit further. But you're right he could also be bi or gay, try testing the waters about whether he's thought about being with a guy ever.
He's not gay. Most men enjoy prostate stimulation, despite it being taboo.
Get a realdoe. It's a strapless strap-on that you hold in your pussy, looks pretty realistic. Only issue is that once you're well-lubricated, it gets harder to hold in, and if you enjoy it too much you can accidentally push it out. Still, it's good for the futa illusion.
A lot of guys are into futa, and into having their prostates stimulated. I wouldn't be too worried about it unless he starts asking you to dress like a man during sex, or only puts it in your butt.
My mouth has been insanely dry for the past 4 days. I have not changed my diet at all or at least not much. I know I'm not dehydrated because my pee is a healthy color and I drink 2+ liters of water every day.
What's going on? What can I do. I can't really afford to see a doctor right now and I'm hoping it's just a quick Easy fix
Anyone?
>>16995367
Check if you have any other symptoms of type 2 diabetes, even if you aren't fat.
>>16995367
Not a medfag but drink only water,a sweet drink can make you more thrsty
>>16995367 let me make this clear, you need to give some head and swallow every last drop. That'll do it.
I don't come to this board very often, so I'm not sure what my general structure should be, as far as my question. I also almost never ask for help. My problem is:
>I can't stay with a girl for more than a few months.
>Things in their eyes are usually perfect. I treat them with respect and dignity, I maintain the relationship well.
>Seemsgreatman.jpg
>I leave them.
I have a hard time describing why I do thing. For lack of a better word I find them boring.
The relationship begins great, the sex is great, we hang out, they come over, we talk alot. Everything is great.
After a few months, can't stand them, need a lot of space, start looking at other girls, I break it off.
Another 2 weeks or so the cycle repeats.
>I'm 27 now. This has been going on for about 6 years.
Are my standards to high or low?
How does this end?
How fucked am I?
Is my brain broken?
Bumping for someone similar to OP
OP here, bumping with planes.
~Tower please respond~ I don't have many airplane jokes.
so I found out that my boyfriend has been masturbating to nudes a mutual friend sends him. like he's gone so far as to pass up sex for masturbating so I did something I'm really not proud off and snooped in his computer and found them
what do I do? I feel like I'm in the wrong for snooping and god I really wish this wasn't happening because I love him so much but it's totally shattered my trust in him
is breaking up the only option? am I being a stuck-up controlling bitch for getting so upset at him jerking off to another woman?
It is completely reasonable to be upset about this. Dump him. You did the wrong thing though. Fess up and then dump him. This relationship isnt healthy on both sides.
Usually when men take up jacking off instead of sex it's one of these reasons:
You aren't attractive to him any more, and he doesn't have a desire to have sex
He feels like you with hold sex or reward him with sex so he'd rather just jack off
Hes unhappy with the relationship and is staying with you because you love him and he knows it but he doesn't love you.
Instead of breaking up, try to be as sexy as possible and get him riled up, try lingerie and shit like that. Just remind him how good and ready you are, and he will probably want you and you only again. And if he doesn't you might as well admit you were snooping, because you could at least bring it up and his reasoning instead of breaking up on the spot.
>>16995279
Agreed. You shouldn't have snooped, and he shouldn't have cheated. Neither side has clean hands anymore, but that means this relationship has gone mutually toxic. I am sorry, but for both your sakes, it is time to end it.
It is good that you understand your mistake, though. Learn from it, and resolve to do things more cleanly next time.