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>>16987436
don't apologize. you apologize now and you'll start apologizing your whole life for how you feel. girls will always gossip about their ex's in life and make you out to be the bad guy. that's a part of life man. I could tell you more about not apologizing for your beliefs, but just stand up for what you believe, don't apologize, and if people have a problem with it, too bad. It's your life, you have the right to believe what you believe. They have the right to be upset, but you should never apologize. You're in the perfect right now..

Don't apologize. If they can't hear your side of the story without making assumptions or still be cool with you even though they have different opinions, that's their problem.

OP, I'm afraid you haven't given us enough information to make a sound moral judgment. We could judge based on purity, but not on morality, and purity judgments are indeed for assholes. Was this all the information you had?

To make a moral judgment, we'd have to know how she feels now. People can and do change over time: indeed, going from pro-choice to pro-life after having an abortion isn't all that uncommon. The woman at the center of Roe v. Wade did so herself. So for all we know, your ex may have realized the error of her ways (from your perspective), and if that were to be the case, then it would be grossly unfair to hold it against her.

So my questions are about the present, not the past. Does she still think she did nothing wrong (if, in fact, she ever thought that at all)?

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>>16987384
> she began dominating me outside the bedroom and it turned abusive really fast.
I just also want to make it clear, she abused me. She began hitting me every time we got into an argument and refused to ever listen to my opinion on anything. I felt like a piece of crap but I still loved her. Part of me still does for some weird reason, but it was very unhealthy and had to have my family intervene to help me get away. I don't want that to happen again.

>>16987384
Anon, I wish I could find a guy like you. Someone to treat as a peer in everyday life, someone who would let me be the most affectionate and caring and loving girlfriend, but that'd be fine with me being in charge in the bedroom. I meet either doormats or guys who want to dominate me.
I have no solutions for you, because I can't find him either.
But girls like me exist. I hope you find them. Good luck!

>>16987397
thanks! sorry if this seems like a hook-up thread because it's not, but do you have an email or something? I'd like to get to know you more because it seems like these kinds of people are rare. if not that's fine, but I'm interested.

>>16987353
Do a bodyweight routine.
Learn to program.
Learn to write.
Learn to cook.
Go outside.

>>16987353
I was like that for years. I started lifting weights, reading 2-3 books a week, learning to programme, work as a freelance writer, learning Spanish.

In short: get skills and hobbies.

>>16987353
Just be yourself, bro.
Works for me.

>implying Victorians weren't totally freaky
>implying you wouldn't get cucked by your wife's doctor

Anyway I'm a pretty frigid woman, but I also don't want kids. Can't help you anon.

>>16987357
Some of them could have been freaky, but the general social attitude was very accommodating to what I would prefer in my married life.

Find yourself a religious girl. Go to a liberal church so the girl won't be too disappointed that you don't love Jesus

Try open universities

Study more fag

>>16987333
Withdraw if you're failing. If at some point you actually want to take college seriously, having any F's weighing your transcript down would be very bad.

What year are you in? Why don't you take a break instead of wasting your parents' money and time?

>>16987342
first.

Already tried that, my parents responded basically saying go to college or get out.

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>>16987314
Just bee yourself.

>>16987314
So, if you're applying to be CEO of Walmart, it's going to be pretty tough. But applying to be a cashier at Walmart is drop-dead easy.

What jobs are you applying for?

>>16987314

That's pretty much all you can do. The job market is shit right now.

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>>16987216
Other way around for me desu senpai, I can only fap if I don't have any worries, it's like my mind subconsciously marks sex as low priority. Pretty annoying

>>16987216
Opposite for me.
Faps just remind me of my shitty life.
Unless I'm fapping to a really good manga/vn everything else is just a shitty experience.
>>>/r9k/

>>16987216
Is im@s any good? I tried watching love live and it made me want to hurl, especially the cg.

And what the fuck is precure?

>>16987177
It'll be easier when you're actually near him. It sounds like you've just gotten bored of the simple masturbation-over-cam, and need more. Talk to him about it, toss around some ideas for new things to do. Get a high-res cam with a good mic and tell him to do the same if you haven't already.

Could try remote controlled vibrators (each of you controls the other's), that's usually a lot of fun. Feels like you're directly connected no matter how far away you are, plus you can use them for... naughtier things if you're both game.

> have a hard time imagining everything when we haven't even touched before
>In the beginning we fucked like rabbits
What?

You know full well why you are in this situation.
Go there or dump him (or keep on pretending you still find your "sex" fun like a little bitch).
I hope now you realize why people shit on LDR. Your having sex with a dildo, not a man. It's only normal to grow tired of that dildo.

I'll give you all 300 dollars if you cut off your left pinkie and ship it to me.

Before I donate, I have a few questions for you:
What are you majoring in?
What's your GPA?
Have you got a job lined up?
Are you a productive member of society?
Are you physically unhealthy or ill?
Are you mentally unhealthy or ill?
Describe your good traits, and your bad
Why do you have no friends?

>>16987128
Thanks
>I am majoring in Software Engineering
>Current GPA 2.97 (4.0 is the highest, 3.5 to get scholarship)
>IBM and Pointwest offered me a job
>Not sure if I'm productive but I do help some people in need of my help
>I am physically healthy but I am mentally unhealthy(depression)
>I don't know what's bad and what's good anymore.
>I decided not to have one(very bad at handling sepanx and I feel so sad everytime they're not around)

>>16987006

>opressively unhappy

you dont need to add adjectives before your emotions to make them moer valid than all the other whiners.

job hunts suck but thats life right now. its discouraging, but if you make a checklist and force yourself to check things off that list as you do them, it will stop you from slipping into not applying for jobs anymore. keep it up, and in the meantime maybe settle for a non degree job just to bring money in.

>unstable woman

leave her. its not your job to heal her and you know you cant. if she kills herself, that is on her, but she wont, otherwise she woudl have done it already. shes one of the many that martyr themselves by saying 'i want to kill myself but i couldnt do that to the people around me, im so fucking noble'. be careful though OP, you are on a slippery slope to that. dont become your girlfriend. vagina not included.

>i have no friends

easily the most easily fixed thing on this list. hobby shops, meetup.com, and the craigslist discussion section are your friends. no matter how introverted your hobbies there are people out there who want to meet up in person and talk about them.

>im tragically lonely

no, you are just normal lonely, and adding in extra adjectives to make it seem like you are one step more depressed than everyone else. dont do this. you are trying to intensify your emotions to make people take you more seriously, but all it will do is give you a complex where you NEED to be the saddest person in the room and will do anything to be that sad.

>i dislike my body

work out.

>>16987006
Job hunting is the single most depressing, soul-destroying experience known to man.

Once you get a job - and you will eventually, even if it isn't a dream job - everything else will lighten up.

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>>16987006
> you pretty much explained ME perfectly (except the bad body part and suicidal girl friend [but she is bipolar])
> post a picture of what I LOVE most on a woman; meaty, white thighs! <3 I love biting my girlfriend's thighs because they look JUST like pic related

I've been in this situation before years ago. Felt like shit because I didn't have a job, didn't want to talk to any family or reconnect with old friends because I was too afraid they'd judge me as some loser.
Just start ignoring your girlfriend, and she'll begin to shape up. It might take a LONG time, but once she realizes her "cry for help" doesn't work anymore, she'll change her tune.
Walk around the area you live, get lots of fresh air. It does WONDERS for your mood.
Also, you got out of college, right? When I got out of college, I ended up working shit jobs in a factory for 3 years, but I eventually became a supervisor there after surviving the change in ownership and massive layoffs. I've learned that employers don't fucking give a shit about fancy degrees. The old fucks that have worked at these offices/where ever for years would rather swallow razors than have a 20-something college twerp working as their equal.
I had to ditch my entitlement, swallow my pride, and work from the shitty grunt work to finally a somewhat managerial job.
My advice is to remember that just because you got a college degree, does NOT mean you have experience (with the exception of internships).
You're already in that low-down state of mind, I know this feel, Anon. But there's only one way to go from there, and that's UP. You got to build your confidence slowly, make lots of very small daily goals. It can be anything, as long as it's improving your situation somehow, like "drink an extra glass of water a day", or "wake up 30 minutes earlier than yesterday", etc.
When you achieve these small goals, you get tiny boosts of confidence. Trust me, these add up! Life is about being happy!

Then find something to do. Its that simple.

>>16986830

Like what? I have a career I like and hobbies I like but I don't know...still disappointed with it all. It all seems unimportant and boring.

>>16986829
You don't need to be an action hero to find happiness. Find a goal to work towards that may seem virtually impossible, and work towards it anyway. You think movie stars or successful entrepreneurs got to where they are today by "knowing" their dreams wouldn't come true?

>>16986791
Have sex with her
But seriously, this shit sounds like my ex. Nothing besides making her go to therapy and telling to grow the fuck up will help. Honestly, people like this need to learn that no one is gonna put up with their shit.

>>16986791
Just from your description it seems like you yourself are kind of an asshole with the whole "redpill", "I'm not a nigger", "coal burner", "I've yelled at her" stuff.
You might not be an asshole to your family and direct that arrogance at other people, but she's still looking to you as an example and if you (and other members of your family) are acting arrogantly, even to other people, she sees that behavior/attitude and copies it/makes it her own.

It sounds like you guys need some family counseling. I'm not really sure if you are your parents are mature enough to handle correcting her properly, so I'd involve a professional

>>16986800
I don't think OP is really being an asshole. If you put up with this much shit from a girl like this, you would feel the same way. It gets old really quick and even the most patient of people end up telling a girl like OP's sister to just fuck off.

>>16986782
So after the bar starts closing, we start up in the parking lot. Real handsy shit.

I have to leave to so I go home and they do. That was yesterday.

Tonight, the first girl is keeping her distance and isnt as flirty as usual. The second one was also keeping her distance, but we still had friendly talk.

I left early and the first one did the usual side hug she has always done, and the second did a full hug.

The whole thing is confusing as fuck. Did I screw up? is it just because theyre more sober and it has nothing to do with me?

stop over analyzing everything, holy shit.

when girls, or people in general, get drunk, they get a lot more handsy and outgoing. that's most likely what happened if they were drinking, which means to some extent they were attracted to you but now that they're sober they're probably not as apt to show it. when i get drunk, if i find a guy decently attractive, i'll get handsy. when i get sober though, i revert back to my normal self.

i doubt either is pissed off, they were probably both more flirty than usual that night, it's a confident boost for some girls to get attention that way.

but there's no way to know for sure unless you do something about it.

>>16986843
Yeah I overanalyze a lot mostly because i fear being the creep or weirdo.

sorry will do better

>>16986781
>Interests are limited to anime and vidya
lel

>>16986794
Where do you think we are?

That fits most people on this site.

>>16986810
>Where do you think we are?
Google Plus.