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>>16981974
Hand him a note that says, "Date this weekend?"

Try caressing his balls

Try asking him out nicely, try to pay attention to how he treats others while you are around (specially waiters) if there's nothing out of the ordinary then give it a go (oh an be on the look out for what makes him mad specifically)

>>16981649
I don't think there's any other way than just telling him. It's probably better in the long run. Most likely nothing bad will happen if you do it.

>>16981649

by telling him 'no' then explaining when you stopped and why you lied.

this isnt rocket science. there isnt some trick to this. its literally answering the question

Just lie like a normal person.

Did the name really need to be an acronym?

Heads up, you should probably leave the title as ask "Ask the Opposite Gender Anything " at the very least.

It makes it way harder to search the archives for the thread if you change the title.

>>17004439
>>17004443
Meh, i'm on my phone and was feeling lazy. Sorry guys. Should i delete and make a new one?

Books don't make you smarter. Reading a single book doesn't, either.

Habits do that. If you read anything regularly, you'll develop a larger vocabulary. Reading books, in a subject you're interested in, will translate into intelligence.

The cursory books that are self help or philosophy don't actually make you more intelligent. If you read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle maintenance and then try to have a conversation with a Philosopher about them, you'll probably never know that they shook their head and laughed once you parted.

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Of course, it's all just my opinion. I've read more than many, but I don't believe my knowledge of WWI naval history makes me a more intelligent person. It has gotten me a job, though. You never know who will be interested in the nuance of life that you are.

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Also, Goodreads.

Also, scholar.google.com for specific topics. If you find a paper on a subject, your public library or university may have it in the databases that they're subscribed to. For example, "learning techniques note taking" has interesting articles. For most up to date research, click since 2016.

Enjoy.

An unrelentingly tedious book that can be summed up as follows. We are irrationally prone to jump to conclusions based on rule-of-thumb shortcuts to actual reasoning, and in reliance on bad evidence, even though we have the capacity to think our way to better conclusions. But we're lazy, so we don't. We don't understand statistics, and if we did, we'd be more cautious in our judgments, and less prone to think highly of our own skill at judging probabilities and outcomes. Life not only is uncertain, we cannot understand it systemically, and luck has just as much to do with what happens to us -- maybe even more -- than we care to admit. When in doubt, rely on an algorithm, because it's more accurate than your best guess or some expert's opinion. Above all, determine the baseline before you come to any decisions.

If you like endless -- and I mean endless -- algebraic word problems and circuitous anecdotes about everything from the author's dead friend Amos to his stint with the Israeli Air Defense Force, if you like slow-paced, rambling explanations that rarely summarize a conclusion, if your idea of a hot date is to talk Bayesian theory with a clinical psychologist or an economist, then this book is for you, who are likely a highly specialized academically-inclined person. Perhaps you are even a blast at parties, I don't know.

But if you're like me and you prefer authors to cut to the chase, make their point, and then leave you with a whopping big appendix if you're interested in the regression analysis of how many freshmen would watch a guy choke to death because they think someone else will come to the rescue, then this book is not for you.

If you want to take the Reader's Digest pass through the book, then Chapter 1 and Section 3 are probably the most accessible and can be read in less than an hour, and still leave you with a fair understanding of the author's thesis.

>>17004324
Good advice, especially the scholar.google.com part. People act like studies aren't there for us or you need a degree to read them. No, lol, they're simpler, more informative, and easier to read than wikipedia a lot of the time. You can find the full study free a lot of the time too, or just use a pirate site

>>16999097
Thx anon, u da real mvp

I'm beginning to not want to be around you or let you touch me. You say you're not doing things anymore but I can't trust that. And you make it obvious that I can't trust it. There are so many things that I am keeping to myself right now to protect your feelings but I'm getting to the point that I just don't give a fuck anymore. I understand now why you have been fucked over so many times. All that said I do love you and I don't want to hate you. But you're starting to leave me no choice.

I manscaped.

Will you be my GF?

>>17007665
probably. what's your annual income?

>>17007669
kek

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>>17007403

Are you two the last descendants of a dying race and this child your only hope to keep your species going ?

I have a friend (male, 20 years older than me) who raised his daughter alone, didn't end well.

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unfortunately you have no control over what she does with her body. accept the fact that if she doesn't want to keep the baby she is not going to.

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Yeah, it's hard, but it's the right thing to do. I know a couple of guys who have ended up taking sole custody. My brother went to court to get his ex out of the picture and has raised his son alone since my nephew was 2-3 months old. Support networks are important, as is keeping yourself from slipping into depression because that shit is difficult. Difficult but worthwhile.

OP, you don't owe your soon to be ex anything, but if she's leaning towards abortion, you're going to have to work hard to stop that. In most countries, you're at her mercy. Be clear about doing this singlehanded if necessary. DO NOT TALK ABOUT FINANCIAL MATTERS. If she's deeply selfish, she may abort just out of fear that you'll go after her for support money later. If you refuse to discuss the matter, and just say "Don't worry about that. I've got this, and I'm not going to force you to be a part of the baby's life if you don't want."
Plus, if you refuse to take support, it weakens any future attempts on her part to fuck with you and the kid. AND, if you need to come after her later on for financial assistance, you always can.

>>17006082
Girls don't fix your life they just multiply your liabilities exponentially

>>17006095
This right here.

All human beings are selfish, anon. The sooner you realize this the better. Even when people act out of "out of the good of their hearts", they're still elevating themselves socially/morally, and getting some warm fuzzies. People only do things if it makes them feel good (physically or mentally), or benefits them.

Upon realizing this, the question switches from
>What can other people offer me in relationships?
to
>What can other people gain by being in a relationship with me?

If the answer to the second question is nothing, then you have your answer as to why you're alone. Improve yourself by gaining useful skills and knowledge. Make yourself beneficial and interesting to be around, and the rest will follow.

>>17006082
I'm hopefully going to get my Girlfriend tomorrow.
Wish me luck guys.

>>17006001
You should commit yourself to a mental hospital/ get a therapist
Stop dating people

>>17006029
yes because you know it's not like i haven't been in a hospital before. you get to a point after a while where the shit just does not help.
cannot afford a therapist, not everyone has money.
you're so helpful thanks mate.

>>17006001
You're not meant for relationships, at least with the mentality that you have now. You sound like you're playing the victim, but your outwardly actions do nothing but harm others, whether it be emotionally or mentally.

I know what it's like to have depression, and I was actually diagnosed with it when I was 15. I still struggle with it regularly, but have learned to deal with it on my own and come out a better person in the end.

Make a conscious effort to improve yourself and your habits, and fix them as well. Also, see a shrink. If you feel that these things are too hard, time consuming, pointless, or whatever else, then feel free to continue being worthless.

What advice were you looking for exactly?

Guy here

>What is it like rejecting [women]?
If she's a bitch, it's awesome. Shuts down her game and opens up all those juicy insecurities, and it makes her want you more. If she's nice but homely, inexperienced or just not what I'm after I'll let her down gently - there's no need to hurt feelings unnecessarily. If she's hot as fuck sometimes it's just a great ego trip to say no thanks. tl,dr: it depends on the girl

> What is it like knowing that the very fact you are a [man amongst boys] means youre attractive to the opposite sex, no strings attached?
Pretty cool but frustrating at watching other men struggle with women and not see the blatant errors/mistakes/fuck ups. It's also a hassle when your very air attracts women and you're just trying to do something simple like get groceries.

>As a man I can't even imagine what it's like to be the selector sex
There is no selector sex. Don't lump yourself in with my gender and blame your problems on being a man. Attractive people get to choose,period. It doesn't matter what gender you are, being a male isn't the problem. The problem is that you're a very shitty male and there are better ones like me out there.

>>17001036

4/10

>Imagine my face when Im sitting there with some of her old college friends hearing stories about her being passed around.

I bet it's not even that bad you over-reacting faggot

Okay need to say this quickly.

/adv/ is mostly populated by women and SJWs who will tell you what a sexist pig you are and then compare sluttiness to cereal choices.

YOU ARE RIGHT. You are 100% right. Do not let them convince you otherwise. Break up with her and don't look back.

>>16993030

I would be repulsed and most likely end it.

Disgusting.

>>17002964
You have to choose.

Satan tempts us in many ways. If you truely believe that Christ died to that you may one day ascend to heaven, then your choice should be clear. Sex in a situation like this where she has clearly stated that she is not interested in commitment goes against the "do not commit adultery" commandment.

Here is my advice, as a Christian who committed adultery when I was younger-
It's not worth it. It's about 10 minutes of total pleasure, and then as soon as you finish you feel overwhelmed with regret and guilt. That guilt lasts for a very long time, and for some people it shatters their image of themself and hurts their relationship with God.

To be honest, you might not even enjoy the sex. My sex was with a girl who loved me and whom I loved, but it was before I married her so I still felt the guilt. Sex with someone you don't love is missing a large component of what makes sex so amazing. The emotional connection is what it's all about.

I'm happily married now, and my current wife and I waited until marriage to have sex with eachother and it was a lot better for our relationship with eachother and with god

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>>17002964
realize that your views of chastity are archaic and brought on by how you were raised.
Then, proceed to fuck the shit out of her.
No disrespect to your beliefs, but seriously something that might be true shouldn't get in the way of pleasures

>>17002983
This dude, fuck morals embrace hedonism. Rules are made to be broken, fuck what our ancestors thought, they were old bigots. It's 2016 after all, enough following old desert fairy tails. #Feelthebern

>>17002076

It's viewed as selfish precisely for the reason you outlined, in the context of circumstances you described.

People are inherently selfish so that advice is also selfish.

It's your life, do what you want with it.

As someone who's been where you are though I'd advise you to get a few second opinions before you do anything rash. And read some articles about how suicides have effected family members and friends.

Besides that, your life, do with it what you want. Make sure your suicide method is flawless though, you don't want to end up dying painfully, or becoming disabled or whatever.

>>17002089
I know how it would effect some family members. I know my mom would probably be devastated at first, but would accept it after a few weeks. I already fucked up my sucide. I don't think things through ( I'm not very intelligent at all) and I was brought to the hospital . They are keeping me in a special ward so they can make sure I don't try to kill myself. How is this even legal?

Why do women wear makeup all the time, especially fake eyelashes ?

>>17000639
Because I want to and it's fun. That's honestly it. A couple of weeks ago I wasn't really doing anything so I didn't need to wear it, and by the time I actually had a reason to wear it I was so excited to put it on

>>17000639
some women wear makeup all the time, some do sometimes, and some never do.
some wear it because it helps hide what they don't like about their face. others do it to try and make people think they're more attractive. still others wear it because it makes them feel pretty

>>16999210
>Is this like a common thing now with guys, they just do it without even asking? What an asshole thing to do.


Once people get to the point where they are permitting each other to do stuff like
- see each other naked
- touch each other's naked bodies
- fuck each other
- stick their dicks in the other person's mouth

then yes, it's pretty common that they start to do all sorts of things without asking for permission first, because they have developed a pretty high comfort level. Your boyfriend might be a bit of a dick, but it's not apeshit insane for him to think that if he can stick his cock inside your mouth that he can get his sperm on your face. He's not going to walk up to a girl at the bus stop and cream her face, but come on, his dick was in your mouth.

>It was just completely degrading and humiliating.
Why's that? Was it necessarily so, or was it the way he did it?

>>16999210
It's what happens when you don't have the common goddamn courtesy to either swallow or spit.

It is a violation of trust if he meant to do it, could be he just didn't realize how close he was.

Could also be he doesn't give a fuck what you think and has decided to do the stuff he always wanted to before dumping you for someone who fulfills his needs sexually.

You should have talked beforehand and set your boundaries, nobody is the clear wrong doer here.

In today's modern age, its not that big of a deal to ask for facial permission beforehand or to forbid it from happening without asking. But you both are equally responsible from now on to communicate what acts are acceptable and what's not.