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I've recently found my father on facebook after not seeing or hearing from him it probably 10-12 years.
Not sure how to go about contacting him. I think I am mostly afraid of him making excuses that I won't know how to respond to. Should I just add him and wait for a reply? I'm not the best at communicating and am usually anxious as fuck.
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>>16986772
You just gotta greet him like how you would greet any other individual. He chose not to be in your life, so he doesn't deserve the full father-son respect. Don't hate him or anything, and don't be afraid of what he'll say or what excuses will be heard. Just know that you're you, continue to be you. If you fear possible answers, you'll end up getting no answer at all. Add him and communicate with him.
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>>16986783
Thanks for the reply. It's helpful hearing someone else's input. Time to grow some balls and get this over with I guess haha..
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>>16986772
I'm a father myself, of unconventional circumstances. I am definitely in my child's life, he's sleeping down the hall right now, but I can understand how a guy would bail. Society and the courts make it pretty damn hard on men in custody battles and child support matters. I am paying 1100 child support and 550 day care a month. It is a huge financial strain on me, and I do it for my son, but a lot of guys can't cope with that shit. On top of that, you are under complete control of the woman in the situation. She gets to dictate most things.
Of course, some guys are just pieces of shit who don't care.
So, I guess it's important to figure out why. Either way, I promise it wasn't anything about you. I know it's impossible to not take it personally, but try to understand that there are a shit ton of factors that go into fatherhood in the US, and it's a broken ass system.
However, if you find that he just didn't care enough, be ruthless. Disown him and never speak to him again. Ignore him forever. Start your own family and pour your life into your children, through which you will find great fulfillment. I promise.
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So I just got off the phone and its been confirmed: something I did got two people killed last weekend. I've already spoken to my attorney and I'm in the clear legally, nobody really knows about my involvement so I'm not worried about this coming back on me in other ways.
I just...don't feel anything about it. Sat down with my therapist and talked about it, nothing. Its been days, nothing. I just feel kind of tense because I have this secret and kind of relieved that its over, but thats not really an emotional connection.
What the fuck is wrong with me?
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terminal case of faggotry
I'm sorry
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Kek what'd you do you dumbass
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>>16986688
Context: >>16962296
Long story short: I did some bad things when I was younger, cleaned up my life, and its been over a decade since I was involved in anything shady. Some guy came rolled into my life recently and wanted me to do him a favor, he strongly implied that he had information about something I did back in the day. I made a phone call, tipped the wrong someone off that the guy was doing something somewhere he shouldn't, now the guy and his partner are dead.
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I've hated my family all the time because they are such good people. All are very smart and accomplished, and I feel guilty for hating them and inferior.
I feel that my dad always knows what to do and what is best for me (a lot of his judgements have shown to be good and right) - and at the same time I feel guilty for hating them so much.
All my life I have deliberately tried to alieniate myself from my family and not be like them, but they still help me anyway.
What the fuck is wrong with me. I believe that I'm not as good as any of them, so my logic dictates that I must be a terrible person, and should just acknowledge that this is just who I am, and I am the failure of the family. Every family has to have a failure, so I guess I'm it and i just have to deal with it.
I see lots of people on the internet talking about how their dad is horrible for good reason (ie. drugs, cheating, alcoholic), but none that seem to be similar to my situation. If someone can point me to a resource that others have the same problem that would be good.
TL;DR my family are all great people, and I'm not. I feel like I have to be the bad person in the family. I hate myself for hating my family, but I also hate my family for being so good.
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bump
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Sounds like you're diagnosed with BeingaFaggotitis.
The treatment is a shot of Stop being such a lil bitch nigga
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How old are you?
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my boyfriend of 9 months isnt satisfying me in bed.
specifically his size just isnt. how do you say. its not enough. do those pills or pumps really make a size difference? even an inch or so will help
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>>16986274
no they don't. theres nothing he can do
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>>16986274
Is he a fat guy? Cause that might be the only way to grow his wee wee a tad bit.
Other than that. Nope sorry. Time to bring in toys or find a new dude.
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Can't he just finger you?
My dick is decent sized but I can still make my girl cum more consistently using my hands
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>not gonna lie I have a huge crush on youuuu
What did she mean by this?
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>>16986254
You got farther than 99percent of SJW 4chan
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>>16986254
I speak girl don't worry, it contexually translates as "I am not going to lie about this. I have a huge crush on you", but you can really read it as
FUCK YOU FAGIT
seriously tho, give context
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Imperial Arms Pegasus !!fuGth1sh1t
>tfw no Leone gf
She was really nice but I still love Akame
How to fake a resume?
What are some good things to put on there that are noteworthy and hard to verify, but also easy to bullshit if asked to elaborate?
I am a crippled recluse and can't work 99% of entry level minimum wage jobs. Have full use of my upper body, but I am confined to a wheelchair.
>I can't work in any restaurants, fast food or otherwise.
>I can't work in any manual labor.
>I am a disfigured eyesore and my personality is shit, so I can't work in stores or sell anything.
Literally all I can do is sit at a desk and type. But I can't even get an interview for even the most menial entry level positions that involve sitting at a desk.
I have a useless bachelor's degree, though I did get perfect grades and academic honors/distinction... I have absolutely no work experience though and nothing in the way of extra curricular stuff, volunteer stuff, etc.
Literally all I can put on my resume is that I went to school and did well, nothing else.
Thanks
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Don't have an answer OP, I'm interested too
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That's a really hard situation. May be you can try cultivating some skills like writing, drawing, modeling, music and/or programming. But you are advised it will take a lot of time until you hit the spot.
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Become a software engineer op
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Has anyone here been successful in losing a lot of weight? I'm trying to lose 40 lbs. Not putting this in /fit/, because not looking for advice on dieting, or bulking, that kind of thing. Just curious about the psychological side of it.
If you put on weight by lazing around and eating it would seem to reverse that you'd just move around more and eat less than you usually do, right? But how long until you're used to eating a certain amount of calories, like if you were consuming a daily 2200, would 1900 be too much of a decline?
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>>16986103
Move a lot and sweat.
Drink dat H20.
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I've bulked and cut for around 3 years. Losing weight is easy if you have a system and keep to it. In my case I count calories.
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No the decline you're describing probably wouldn't be a huge deal.
I gained about 70 pounds in two years because of a sedentary lifestyle and eating habits that are just shy of binge disorder.
When you first start out you'll feel hungry/food cravings all the time. It's natural and normal. Might stay that way forever, depends on you and your body. You body does have physiological reactions to losing fat that make you super hungry, but if you're like me, your eating problems are mostly psychological.
2200 to 1900 won't be too much of a decline, but you probably won't lose much either. If I ate 1900 kcal a day, I'd actually gain weight.
Muriel Garner
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Hi /adv/.
I'm in a bit of a pickle.
yesterday my gf opened snapchat to show me a mates story that was funny and when opening it opened up the "chat" part with someone called Brodyjay (I wont list full name). She quickly got out of it and went swiped left to the stories. Today I logged in on her snapchat to see if she is snapping this guy and noticed that the last person who snapped her was a week ago (her cousin). Strange... So I went through her friends, double clicked the guys name and it said "last snap received yesterday at 4:30pm". I was at work until 5 and she has obviously cleared the conversation so it doesnt appear.
Looking up this guy on Facebook and looking at a picture that says "post snapchat names below" she had posted her name there before we started dating and has also like a bunch of his stuff (prior to us dating).
Is this a bad sign or am i over thinking?
help...
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cuck'd
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>>16986013
if she did not cheat on you, she is quite interested in doing so
get out
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>deceptful
Raquel Harrington
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I have a calculus exam tomorrow I have procrastinated studying for (yes on a saturday) and just wanted to get any advice for last minute cramming. It is all of chapter 2, excluding 2.8.
> how much time per chapter should I commit?
>what's the minimum amount of sleep I should give myself?
> How fucked am I?
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My school uses the same book, hm.
How many hours do you have until your exam?
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>>16985996
Exam is 9:00 a.m Eastern time. So I basically only have tonight, unless I wake up very early.
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Pretty fucked. It's easy material but getting it down the first time around takes time and work. focus the most on learning up to related rates. I doubt you'll have the time to really learn how to solve related rate problems well enough to do you any good on the test if you really have no idea what's going on going into your studying
Leticia Holmes
My friend beat me up while drunk. 2016-04-02 00:08:05 Post No.16985972
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My friend beat me up while drunk.
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So last week after a party I said some shit to my friend and kept provoking her until she left my apartment. A little later the police came telling us to end our party since we got a noise complaint.
I while drunk called her accused her of calling the police on us and she started screaming at me on my phone and she came to my apartment and started to beat the living crap out of me.
I was badly injured, I called the police and they arrested me while doing nothing to her! Now i'm being charged with disorderly conduct and A&B. Yes I did hit her back, but she had very minor injures compared to what she gave me.
And to clear some things, she was sober and I'm a guy and admittedly I was REALLY drunk.
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>>16985972
You're fucked, familglia. Courts will NOT side in your favor. Get a kickass lawyer and hope for the best.
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you're a fucking idiot
why did you call the police? you were being a moron and she hit you. talk shit get hit m8
and while the charges are BS, they certainly won't side with you
you fucked yourself over
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>>16986018
>are BS, they certainly won't side with you
But she hit me first and she's bigger than me. Can I not claim self defense?
Wilma English
What does she mean by this? 2016-04-01 23:50:49 Post No.16985931
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What does she mean by this?
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Girl posts an eccentric status that says "Sorry, the ghost that follows me around doesn't like it when I go on dates. " a day before our date. Then after the day she posts "you're so cute it hurts". Hasent contacted me since, is there something she doesn't understand?
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>>16985931
Red flags, buddy
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>>16985931
Red flag, abandon. She's crazy
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So basically this is all my fault huh?
Ron Dillon
My constant nightmares are destroying my life 2016-04-01 23:15:16 Post No.16985871
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My constant nightmares are destroying my life
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every week, almost every single night I have at least one terrible nightmare. I can't get enough of this, it sometimes has me in a skyscraper trying not to fall, other times is my girlfriend cheating on me, other times I get killed
It is just awful, It ruins my mornings everyday
Does anyone know any way that can help me with this that does not include therapy? Because I'm going to the therapist for a week now, but nothing has really changed yet
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someone please I need help
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Getting therapy is the only thing that will help you. That said, living healthy will do wonders too. Exercise more and eat healthy. But therapy is important.
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>>16985877
>ealthy will do wonders too. Exercise more and eat healthy. But therapy is important.
I exercise 6 days of the week, i regularly have sex, i eat really well and don't take any drugs
my life was great untill this night terror streak got me
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Any Military out there?
What is the Military like? Do you guys also have to do Math, Science ect .... along side the physical parts of it?
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>>16985865
You clearly don't know anything about the military. The answer to that question depends greatly on what MOS a person is.
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Haha, you don't know shit, do you?
Go on the about.com page and read up.
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It all depends on what branch you choose and what job you do within it (mos/rate is the term for your job)
Assuming you're American it generally breaks down like this
Army-join if you want to be a soldier or drive colossal vehicles
Navy-join if you like ships, the sea, and lots of travel
Air force-join if you like planes, it also has the best living conditions
Marines-like the army but for people who take pride in doing things the hard way over the smart way
Coast guard-for people who actually want to defend America, you'll need to like being on the water.
Got any specific questions?
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I'm in nursing school. I have very bad test anxiety when it comes to the skills tests. Written tests I do fine on, usually get 85%+ and don't get anxious for them. But the skills tests, no matter how much I practice I get freaked the fuck out. I can't handle somebody scrutinizing every movement I take and word I say to a lifeless dummy. I know the material and everything I should do, but when I'm on the spot I freeze and forget everything. I'm fine with real patients, too. I don't freak out, and can talk to them pretty easily. I can't talk to these plastic people I get so embarrassed. How do I get better at this?
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You probably shouldn't be a nurse
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>>16985883
thanks for your thoughtful reply and helpful advice
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If you want this career badly enough, then you have to push through it and make it work. Find it within yourself to overcome your anxiety and just keep practicing.
Mercedes Frederick
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General chat thread
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Self-help chat and stuff. To keep it on topic I guess.
I want to talk to someone. Do trips still work?
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Trips do not work. Good to know.
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Talk me out of murdering my cats
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>>16985679
That literally looks like puke.
Are you offering advice, or looking for advice?