I'm dating someone who a little chubby and ugly.
She's the one who wanted to go out with me, and I don't have any plan so I just went with it. I found her adorable when asking me out, she's still adorable in the way that she's doing everything to please me, and I notice it and I love it.
I'm so doing my best at ignoring that fact to see the more beautiful aspect of her person, but I don't like it. She's cool, she's a little unconfident about it and I will never embarrass her on that but yet... My mind always goes back to that one problem, she's still ugly.
How do you deal being with someone ugly ? How honest, relaxed can you be when the looks of that person doesn't please you ?
She loves you, she takes care of you and that's makinging you love her.
You're golden OP.
Looks fade, every beautiful girl becomes an old crone. Let it go. Besides, you aren't getting attention from better looking girls are you? No, you're not as handsome as you thought. And that's ok.
This is why people say lower your expectations. enjoy what you have.
>>16997276
I don't feel like the problem is already dealt with, but you're quite right.
But I am well more liked by girls than she is with guys, she even admitted that some girls spoke about me before she knew me. So you were wrong about that.
I guess she deserves a try but I know that I'm more severe with her because she's ugly, if her personality isn't perfect i'll just be a total bitch about it. I know it, I don't even pretend to hide it.
Some couples are each others stylists. Maybe if you start asking her opinions on your visage, she will do the same, giving you possibility of hinting on some changes. The trick is being sensitive enough (not an ass or a jerk) about it.
Most people aren´t really ugly, just unkept or without sense of style. Change of haircut or a makeup choice with some new clothes really might do the trick ;)
(If the hints don´t work, you can try giving her a makeover gift coupon or something)
Anyway she seems like a lovely girl, try working it out. It´s hard to find someone good.
Posting some advice for women because apparently being a decent human being is too hard.
"Hurr durr why wont he talk to me"
"Hurr durr why does he like her over me"
"Hurr durr bla bla bla"
You only need to follow these simple rules
1) Don't do fucking drugs and if you do do fucking drugs keep that shit quite or something
2) Don't dress like a complete slut, honestly what the fuck is wrong with you? I get some nice clothes and shit but girls are taking this shit way too far
3) Don't talk/hang out with niggers, especially males do you have any idea how shit it makes you look to a dude? You might even be crushing on a Hispanic or Asian or something and think this makes you look good like a fucking retard, that is not how it fucking works
4) Please don't be a weebo or use the internet too much, I guess gamer girls are alright for some people
5) Please don't be a actual slut and if you are for gods sake keep it quiet
Follow that and you have most of it covered.
You are a fucking woman you have it easy, you are worth more than men because of your fucking cunt in between your legs and you fucking idiots still manage to fuck it up
At the very least put yourself in the guys shoes and see how you look to an outside perspective
This is advice for women who don't want to end up with a total loser
It's up to you whether you end up with Jamals brother who will make your life shit or some decent dude who has his shit together
Honestly what the fuck is so hard about this?
>INB4 feminatzy "how about I live my life the way I want' This is fucking ADVICE, i'm not forcing anything on to you, just some simple advice, this is for you not me.
Have you considered helping organize a TrumpYouth chapter in your city?
>>16997179
>CATER TO MY PREFERENCES WOMEN
is this thread supposed to be ironic?
>>16997364
>Implying there are not already tons of kids who want to create/join "TrumpYouth"
WEW
How do I start having sexual fantasies about ACTUAL SEX and nor just the weirdest fucking nonsexual shit?
Try it and if it doesn´t work, who cares. It´s fantasies.
Problem would be if you weren´t able to have actual sex.
after a dry spell these thoughts come naturally to me. ive been fantasizing about a petite 42 year old lately that i seen in the grocery store.
>>16997029
>Try it and if it doesn´t work, who cares. It´s fantasies.
I want to be strangled to death by an uncontrollably sobbing Adam Driver.
I can't tolerate sex at all. I thought I'd start with masturbating and figuring how to have happy thoughts about sex but It has turned out to be harder than I thought.
Do ladies find this hairstyle attractive?
or this one
Jesus christ...
no. thisa one
So, I've got a bit of a convoluted story and if someone actually takes interest in giving me some advice, I'll tell the long version.
Here's the short version:
In short. I want to be this girl's friend in a way where she sees me as more than a co-worker and as someone she may eventually date. I've never had a girlfriend before (or any real female friends for that matter), am a virgin and don't know how to properly deal with these feelings I have for her. She knows I like her, we get along pretty well and I feel as though she walked out of my goddamn dreams (she's physically attractive, but to all of my personal tastes). I'm 23 and she's 19. I don't just want to have sex with her. I enjoy her personality more than anything else.
I've gotten to know her pretty decently, we text each other, have good conversations at work and the like. The issue here is, she had a relationship end badly for her around two months ago, the time I really started talking to her and getting to know her. That's not the problem for me. She's told me that she's not interested in any relationships right now, but wants to be my friend, which, out of respect for her, I'm okay with.
The real problem is: I don't drive a car and she always has family obligations during the same times of day she'd be able to see me outside of work. She's comfortable with seeing me outside of work and doesn't seem to not want to spend time with me, but she has a friend who she said she sees "every day". I didn't really get an answer when I suggested she maybe switch up who she hangs out with, but she smiled.
My question is: How do I turn myself into the type of friend she wants to see outside of work often and how do I turn that friendship into a serious relationship? I've resigned myself to not bothering her much outside of work until I know for a fact that she actually wants to hang out and makes an effort to do so.
for all as i can see the only problem is to find right time and day when she's free .
>>16996971
That's the problem. She works the same days and shifts as me, the overnight shift. Her wake up times are sporadic, where as mine are more consistent. By the time I wake up she's either sleeping (she's forgetful and doesn't usually reply to texts unless she's there to see them) or already occupied with something.
To go along with her forgetfulness, she also forgets to take her phone with her when she leaves the house.
Just ask her out to hang out with a few times. If she finds the time, good for you. If she doesn´t (after some time), tell her to tell you if and when she wants to hang out herself.
Other possibility: find a nice event and invite her there.
Anyways if she doesn´t find the time, start looking elsewhere. Friends or partners, this applies to both
Hi /adv/,
My recently jobless boyfriend wants to move in with me and I’m silently freaking out.
We have been dating for 4 months, he’s 28 and still living at home, I’m 21, currently a student and living alone. We have both visited each other’s places, but definitely spend more time at my place because of the privacy. I’m pretty independent as I’ve had my own place since I was 18.
I met his mother and she seems nice, he has told me he still lives with her because it’s more cost-efficient. This makes me think if he moved in with me, he wouldn’t pay my apartment’s costs either. At first, it was cozy to spend Friday-Sunday together with him and cooking for him, but lately he has been starting to hint at moving in (the most obvious one was him suggesting to bring some of his furniture over here). This freaks me out in multiple ways:
- he is anti-marriage
- at first he would take me out and sometimes paid, but lately it’s been either 50/50 or me paying for both of us
- he’s jobless- and my student’s budget doesn’t always allow fancy food and drinks, which he sometimes gets whiny about.
He doesn’t cook, or offer to clean up. The things he does do for me are driving me around town and joining me in chores or a shared hobby we have. I have however made clear that I don’t need to be driven around and I actually prefer taking the tube, however I guess this is his way of being nice? His dating history is also a bit shady but I wont go into detail unless relevant.
So all these things coupled make me think if he were to move in there’d be nothing in it for me- apart from his company and the sex we have, and a false sense of having something more ‘serious’.
TL;DR jobless bf hints at moving together, but would provide no money, help around the house or eventual marriage.
Am I being the unreasonable, crazy one here or is there a way I could make him forget about living together for now?
>>16996787
Don't do it. Also dump his pathetic manchild ass.
Tell him he can move in once he gets a job, then it becomes a win/win situation for you.
>>16996795
That's not going to solve the problem, there's no guarantee that he'll contribute to the bills and rent. Especially considering he lives with his mother because it's 'more cost-efficient'. And there's also the fact that he doesn't clean up or cook and I suspect it'd get worse if OP let him move in.
How do I deal with this situation.
I haven't watched PewDiePie in over two years and I am pretty sure most adults don't watch him
I clicked on His videos because I was bored and I am actually really enjoying his videos
Would it be fucking weird for a fucking 19 year old to be watching PewDiePie?
I don't know guys... should I just walk away now or what?
Just be you.
Troll thread. Hide and move on.
>watching pewdiepie unironically
Keep watching and try to figure out what you like about it. Maybe it keeps you company, that happens to me with gamegrumps.
Anyone else here "leak" after they pee?
I can strain my penis out for minutes afterwards from the taint up and wipe with tp, but sometimes even then some more comes out later.
Ive had this for over 4 years now and Im sick of it, anyone else have this experience?
If you push on the gap between your balls and asshole it will force the excess pee out. Do this once you are done with your initial urination.
ye mang. just jam yuor thumb into your taint
>>16996745
I do do this and it doesnt get it out.
How to tell if a guy genuinely wants to talk to me? I'm oblivious. He says he's busy a lot and promises to hang out when things get in-busy ... or is that just a cop out.
>>16996597
He's not into you. Sorry.
If someone is interested in you they can make time in most cases.
People will make time for things that matter, dating is no exception to this. If a girl was talking to me, and I legitimately liked her and wanted to get to know her, I'd find a way to make that happen. Sounds like he's blowing you off hoping you'll take the hint to avoid the awkward convo of him saying he's not interested.
Hey adv,
When I was a HS girl I was sometimes shy/sometimes overly confident with guys and the people I was interested in weren't interested in me that way.
When I got to college I must not have been appearing available enough for people to show interest. Or maybe I wasn't interesting. Unknown. Anyway...
I will now explain a scenario that has repeated several times...
The guy is a little shy/nerdy, and if I complemented them, made them feel comfortable being themselves, they fell for me fast and hard.
The issue was that he didn't measure up to the guy I'd always dreamed of, he was the low hanging fruit, and I'd start to pull away.
It would break him, he'd back off one way or another, and I'd start looking for a new guy.
It almost feels like I'm some kind of social vampire, who brings to the surface all of these raw emotions for the guy, and then I leve them there to deal with it.
I had a long and rocky relationship with one guy.
I feel like the only people that give me attention are the ones that I can't be 100% with, and the ones that ignore me I can't be with at all.
I do this both with real life relationships and online ones. I love the part where I turn the guy on like no one has before, make him the happiest he's been in years, but once he's there...my work is done, he doesn't need me because he has more confidence and I can't rely on them to adore me the same way as before.
The lack of attention when I was younger also scarred me, making me feel like I wasn't worthy of having a person I was really interested in.
Also there was the issue where I felt ugly/unattractive. Having a guy dote over me does make me feel attractive and does make me feel more powerful. When we start getting comfortable those emotions go away though.
I feel existentially lost. I feel like there's no room for me to be who I am, I'm just a mold of what other people want. And there's also no way to make me happy, even if you gave me everything I said I wanted, it wouldn't be enough because I don't know what I want.
When my ex told me he loved me, I didn't even know how to love him.
I'm lost. It was my excuse for everything I did that he didn't like. It was the reason I couldn't commit and the reason I could never be his perfect girlfriend.
I also have an exceedingly hard time letting go of people; even when they hurt me (like my ex did: raping me, holding me down to get answers, and yet I still stayed with him).
I collect relationships basically. When one person lets me down, I have someone to turn to, someone else. When someone stops appreciating my body, I have someone to admire me. When they stop seeing how sweet I am, I have someone to appreciate my gestures. I have many online friends and frankly many male friends who would be interested in me if the timing was right.
I want to break out of the cycle, but I don't even know where to start.
Think about what you really want in a relationship. Then go find it.
I thought you guys liked giving advice...
Hi /adv/ I haven't been on this board awhile and I'm currently in a predicament.
I don't want to be a piece of shit anymore.
I graduated College with a degree in the Humanities (SFSU) (I know pretty fucked) but I'm currently trying to find a job. What do?
Are there resources that I can use to help me craft a good resume?
I haven't had a real job in a year. So my experience is limited. My skills are a bit hard to quantify but I'm looking to add more value to myself to be more appealing to employers. Any advice on how to do that?
Lastly, I'm looking at job postings in advertising/marketing as I feel I have a higher likely chance of being employed there because of my skills in written/oral communication and writing in general. Are there other places I should be looking at instead?
>inb4 burger king
Thanks /adv/
If you want a basic job (Retail/burger king) don't tell them you have a degree. Your degree may be useless, but your dumbfuck employer at whatever dumbfuck job you're applying to will see that you're "overqualified" for the position you're applying to.
I got my shitty retail job by making myself look like a friendly but enthusiastic retard. I omitted my Comp Sci degree and extracurricular work.
Getting a good job is much easier if you're already working. Nobody wants to employ someone if they're unemployed.
>>16996516
I really want to emphasise that having any shitty job is better than being unemployed. Its not even about the money its about proving your work ethic. What sort of advertising/marketing company wants to employ a lazy fuck that's been unemployed for the last year?
If you're good for money and have wealthy parents try charity work, be active and try to advertise and market the charity. If you make an effort opportunities will start to appear for you.
sitting at home thinking you're too good for "normal" work will result in a downward spiral.
this is completely unrelated anon, but how is SFSU? I got accepted to transfer but have seen mixed reviews about the school
My wife has been attempting to learn about politics for a few weeks. She keeps telling me about how great Hillary is... I told her to leave politics to more qualified people.
What do you do to teach your wives/women how to vote? I could just tell her to vote Trump but I want to teach her about Trump so she has a chance in intellectual debates/conversations amongst other women.
gr8 b8 m8
>I told her to leave politics to more qualified people
Grave mistake, remember that women are like children and that they will attempt to rebel in order to establish "dominance".
All you have to do is show her Trumps videos or videos like this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WeGTeFT8AHY&t=13m16s
where liberals are BTFO and ask her serious questions like if she would house a potentially rapist/violent migrant? if she would enjoy her daughters wearing hijab's or being told "not to incite rape" like in sweden.
Loved but desired.
I'll try to keep my explination brief. I've been married for 8 years now, seriously committed to my wife for 10 (dated on and off before that). My wife admitted to me recently that she's never really lusted after me, or anyone for that matter. She claims that she just doesn't really want sex herself. Which is not to say we don't have sex, it's just I always have to initiate or ask for it (and I'd say I get it 60-70% of the time). I know she loves me, we've been through a lot and she's supported me. She's also usually pretty willing to try things I ask for (pegging, crossdressing). But it's started to bug me, because I know she doesn't "desire" me. Is that weird or bad? It makes me not want to be with her, which then makes me feel bad because I know she cares.
Most people want to be desired, so I completely understand your feelings. If your wife feels that way, I'm wondering: how much does she enjoy the sex you're actually having? I mean, if she doesn't "really want" sex, could it help if somehow it would be more pleasurable for her?
This means she really trusts you saying such thing or she believe you won't leave her anyway. Which is good news for you.
>Is that weird or bad?
IMHO after 8 years of marriage you are lucky to have only this problem. Maybe she is the mystical asexual being the internet sometimes talks about. Don't worry about this much and keep doing what you do.
>>16996446
ahh its the 7 year itch. you need to romance her again and again to keep the spark alive.
remember how and what made you two fall in love with each other.
she doesnt desire you is a bad thing because you arent making you "want" her sure she loves you but she wants to know that after 8+ years you still find her sexy and will still find her sexy
What do I do about a clingy gf
>>16996377
Pass her off to a more deserving guy?
Most guys would kill for a gf and moreso for a clingy one id reckon
There, i solved your problem. Do i get a reward?
enjoy having a gf in the first place you piece of shit and stop complaining
Let her take care of you, it's what she wants to do.
Have her over to cook and vent all your emotions to her and enjoy your bang-maid
How do I keep things warm with a girl who is not on social media and can only rarely go out because she's busy? Or is the "I don't have time" just a bullshit excuse? How do I close the deal?
Go out when you have time? FYI social media keeps nothing warm, if you don't meet physically it's not real.
also here's a little tip: if she can't come, she'll propose a different date
Interested:
>hey wanna hang on friday?
>Uh I'm kinda busy because bla bla bla, let's do saturday!
Not interested:
>Hey wanna hang on friday?
>Uh no I can't there's <insert anything>
"I don't have time" is an excuse.
Time is a precious thing.
Only "important people" can alter how someone spends their time.
You just aren't as important to her.
I'm sorry. I feel for you.
>can only rarely go out because she's busy
You're a grown-ass man. What the fuck are you doing chasing after women who you openly admit cannot offer you jack shit?
Imagine if you had a job which rarely cut you a paycheck because the boss is too busy.