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Ever since I was a kid about 5-6 years old, I've have had thoughts of killing people. I've always been an introvert, even though I have/had friends I've always liked being alone. But being alone seems to make me think of killing people, because I always think of the mistakes myself and others have done. I always get anxiety and nervousness with people, including friends and family members, so therefore I always want to avoid them. And whenever I'm around them(or people in general), my anxiety turns to anger, and angry thoughts I have repeat in my head. It seems as though I can't find peace whether I'm alone or with others. I don't think human life is precious, so therefore I feel no guilt in my actions. However, when I start thinking about killing my friends or hurting my family members, I know I've cross the line and something is wrong. My anxiety and anger cause these thoughts, and it seems as though I have no control over what I think or do. Who here has the same problem, or at least had this problem?

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So I'm talking to my ex again. She had recently broken up with her ex boyfriend. They have been fighting for quite some time. He is mad because they broke up because it wasn't working out. He misses her greatly and he lives in ny while my ex lives in ma. He has thoughts of suicide. He has contemplated this by saying "oh I hate work so much and all and when I'm driving I sometimes wanna just swerve over to the other side and kill myself " I suggested to my ex calling the police and getting him mental help. When my ex trues to tell him that he has emotional problems, he just gets mad and cries. He's 22 years old.
When she did, they didn't do anything. She doesn't wanna drive all the way to ny to help him

She doesn't want to leave him because she is worried that he might kill himself. And by leave I mean never talk to him again.

She really doesn't know what to do. She told his mom and she is completely oblivious and said "oh everything's fine. He just needs positive friends"

Also, he goes out drinking also every night to cope with the pain of it all. He has also hung out with his ex recently which pissed off my ex. But he was pissed that she was hanging out with me so it's double standards

I just wanna know what you guys would do if you were in her situation.

All they do is talk and he gets emotional and it's just a huge problem.

I'm kinda and kinda not the mediator.

What should she do?

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Hey guys

What do you think? is this a scam or is it true...

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I know this is a bit random but what exactly is this harness thing this guy wears around his chest?

I've seen so many gay men wear them but what actually are they? What do they do? And why do they all look the same?

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do you guys like sandlewood?

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Guys I need help (don't we all),

I'm clearing out 20 years worth of stuff from my loft and apart from the usual junk, I've come across literally 100s of exercise books from school.

I've been burning most of them in a metal waste bin out-back but just throwing the book into the flames doesn't always burn through. So I'm now having to rip individual pages out but this is now going to take days to do.

Shredding isn't an option since I only have a domestic shredder which does 1 page at a time plus has a thermal cut-out, plus I'm not going to pay for one.

Since it's kinda personal stuff I'm reluctant in taking it to the paper waste bins at the dump.

What other options are out there?

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Alright, so I'm graduating in May with CS degree, 3.4 gpa, from run of the mill state uni. My first job offer was for 40k, but according to google, entry level gets ~61k average. Given that this could easily vary based on area, I double checked salary.com for my area, which was only a few thou off with salary for software developer 1 around 59k average (bottoming out at 46k for the lowest 10%). Now, I'm no hotshot, otherwise I'd know I'd be worth average at least. That being said, while 40k is much more than I've ever made in my life, they are clearly lowballing me as a fresh grad.

Of course, this is my first offer, and I know my degree is in demand, but I can't help but like the company and the experience I know I'd get there (also it's hard to wrap my head around refusing the first, highest amount of money I've ever been offered in my life). I’ve never done this kind of thing before. My friend (who has more experience and a higher GPA than I do) told me I shouldn’t even give them the time of day with so low an offer—but of course he is allowed to be so demanding, given he’s a better candidate. My mother, on the other hand, isn't used to such high numbers on entry, and thinks I should take it without negotiation!

Either way, it's my first real offer and I've never negotiated a salary before, let alone +10k or more of salary. I have to give them my answer on Monday. What should I do?

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hey there /adv/ hope you’re all doing good!

I hope this will become kind of an general useful advice thread on how to become a better version of yourself because maybe some other people can find some good advice here as well...

>recently met ex girlfriend after not seeing her for over 3 years
>haven’t been in a relationship since then, of course its bothering me a little, but I’m ok with it cause I’m just waiting for the right one
>she has a boyfriend for about 3 years now, about to move in together, I am happy for her I guess?
>noticed that I apparently have no more feelings for her, wich is very good cause it took me quite a while to come over it
>still, few days after meeting her stupid thoughts started to rise

these thoughts showed me that I really have some confidence problems, because I questioned myself why our relationship failed but why she’s happy with another one… Here are some examples:

>I am just 21, her new boyfriend is 26 (she’s 21 as well), I am so childish while he or others are already way more grown up
>I still look to young (I actually do, a lot of people guess my age about 18 or 19), probably it’s because of things like my beard is not growing really well (sounds stupid but I actually think that
>Almost every girl in my age are together with older boyfriends, I’ll probably never find a girlfriend
>other guys are way more interesting/confident … than me

These thoughts are killing me, I know thinking in that way won’t bring you anywhere, but still I can’t switch my mind… This lack of confidence is accompanied with my growing lack of motivation, sluggishness and tiredness, so I don’t doing good at all in other parts of my life, I really suck in University and that needs to change cause otherwise I won’t be able to make my bachelor and wasted almost 3 years.

will continue soon

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how do you get tested for stds in the uk? I am gay and had unprotected sex with another man

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So, I need some help, big time.

>Me and sister live together
>A year between us, her being the older one, I'm 21, she is 22
>Grew up as best friends, always stayed that way, pretty inseparable, even through high school/early college
>Decided to split the cost of a place and move in together
>That was 6 months ago
>She has been doing stuff like cuddling me on the couch when we watch movies together
>Her hand just happened to lay on my crotch the whole time
>Walks around in her underwear (nothing I haven't seen but its like she is showing off now)
>She told me last night, the more time she spends with me, the more she "forgets I'm her brother, and the more she falls in love with me"

So I was sort of baffled she said that. And she apologized but said she had to put it out there, and hoped that it wouldn't ruin things between us. I'm slightly weirded out, but interested at the same time. Its an odd feel.

What am I supposed to do at this point? I know it isn't quite right, but I don't know how long I'll be able to put her off. My sister is quite attractive. In high school, and in college, guys were practically begging to get with her most of the time. And I've seen her in her underwear enough times recently to know she has a pretty fucking great body.

Is it so wrong that I should leave if I feel like something may come of this, or do I stick around and see where it goes?

God this shit is confusing.

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I'm trying to re-invent myself /adv/

I've been in a bad way the past few years, and decided to put my foot down over the winter and fix myself. I bought new, better fitting clothes, I'm going to be buying a new car, and I've been working out about 2-3 times a week since December.

That's where I need help. As you can see, I'm a skinny guy. I'm not trying to get huge or anything, I just want more muscles definition. I can tell that my arms have gotten stronger since December. When I touch them they feel more "full" and I can see some shape to them. But what's bothering me a lot is my chest. I have a naturally fatty chest. And it really embarrasses me. I workout at home, doing body weight excerises (pull ups, chin ups, push-ups, planks, sit ups, leg lifts.. Ect). I also have 2 35lbs dumbells I use too. But I'm just not seeing enough results in my chest. Like I can definitely feel the muscles after I workout, but my chest is just so fatty.

Any advice or am I on the right path but it's just too early for enough results?

*note- I WOULD go to a actual gym but I live in a rich area, and don't want to pay $99/m for membership. Fuck that

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I'm like this guy, but it's been maybe 5 years I've lived like this also I shut down all social media
What do i do

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Hey /adv/, I'm feeling really shitty right now... I have a bad GPA (like 2.0) and I need advice on how I can possibly get a job.

Can you guys give me some pointers? I feel like a fucking failure and no one will ever let me get a job with my grades.

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See ex high school gf last week at the grocery store. Chat her up for a bit. She still looks good. Friends with her on FB for a while now.
Should I message her and try to bang her again, or let it be?
My sex life is pretty shitty right now.If you say yes message her how long should I wait to do it? Been over a week already. I was hoping she would have messaged me.

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I've had 2 girlfriends before. One of them became pregnant without knowing who the father was. I should've banged her, but I didn't. What do virgin men feel like in their 20's? Do you guys feel like you're being left out?