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>>16987565
Yeah this is common. You put her on a pedestal all this time, hoping for the chance to be with her. But now that you got her, the reality has set in and you see that she's a real person just like anyone else. She's got flaws, contrary to the perfect ideal you had conjured in your head.

So, you can either spare yourselves the trouble, break up, and attempt to salvage the friendship (even though that's really awkward and most likely won't work out) or you can realize that nobody is perfect and see if that makes a difference.

>>16987565
>I start dreading our time together
>Every minor display of affection makes my stomach drop
Going to have to expand on this, OP
What exactly is wrong, is it that you discovered you really, really don't actually like her? Are you excessively worried/anxious about fucking it up? Do you not know how to express your deep affection? What's the problem?

>>16987586
I see. Never thought about it that way, actually. Thanks for replying, I'll consider my options carefully.
>>16987626
>What exactly is wrong, is it that you discovered you really, really don't actually like her? Are you excessively worried/anxious about fucking it up? Do you not know how to express your deep affection? What's the problem?
I wish I could tell for sure. I do like her, but everything affectionate between us just sounds... wrong, I don't know. Every time she says something sweet/romantic my chest tightens but not in a good way, and now every time she invites me to come over to her house I sigh as if I'm going to have to fulfill some sort of terrible obligation.

But I AM also excessively anxious about fucking it up though, at all times. Maybe that's got something to do with it... Whatever the case, it seriously makes me wonder if I should just run away and end it so I'll at least stop feeling so bad

In all likelihood, you are planning on going to America, but you studied the England version

>>16987554
Can not I speak English version in America?
Generally, for start, I want learn English for reading books, watching films and playing video game that do not have localization on my language.

Try to find sites with fast flowing English speaking chat rooms.

>>16987371
mental health is important too OP. unless a suit is absolutely necessary for your job, get the PS4. otherwise you will feel like you're going insane at your job. I know because I work at a company and every once in a while I need to just buy something fun or I don't feel human anymore.

>>16987393
Agreed that morale is important.

If you really do need better clothes for work, is it possible to split the difference, getting somewhat less expensive clothing AND something that would be fun for you but cost less (or put that money away towards a PS4 a bit later)? Or does it really have to be a suit?

>>16987406
holy shit why do you need me to answer this? yes that is possible, unless of course your job demands you need a suit ASAP.

>>16987294
Tell us some things that she does that annoys you/makes you love her

>>16987294
nobody's perfect

Are you in a relationship?

No - so many times no.

a) There are so many things that you can spend your money on instead of buying a plane ticket.
b) Lying to parents - because of a girl... i don't even...

Best advice - do the hard yards and meet up some girls offline. Yes its very hard to do that, but will do you a lot of good in the long run.

I would urge others to give a more in-depth explanation of how much of a bad idea this is.

>>16987260
>Met a girl online last week
>Want to go across the country for her.
Hi OP.

Let me just say, as someone who literally DID cross the U.S. for a girl when he was a teenager: No.

You met her a week ago. In all actuality, you barely know her. If you had known her for years, it would be one thing. But you met this chick a week ago.

Why not?
I mean, Life's all about a good experience.
If it works it will be a valuable experience, something you enjoy.
I did the same, went to germany from easter europe for the same reason, for 2 weeks. and it was REALLLYY GOOD, it wasnt even about sex only or w/e, the experience is just amazing.

she was super excited, and we really hit things off. she visited me after 3 months in my country.

so tl'dr, yeah go for it, dont be that one jew that thinks he shouldnt spend money for something he actually enjoys ;b

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>>16987251
>I'm going through this right now
How the fuck are you just now realizing that you're going to die one day?

>>16987264
op is 5 years of age

>>16987264
Everyone knows thy are going to die one day, But It only just really hit me the full blown facet of death itself. When we are young we don't think about it, but as time moves forward the notion of ones own death fully sinks in.

First of all, the lines on that tattoo look like shit.

>>16987205
Just an example, also not the question

Why not just ask a tattoo artist?

ask them why at the Intel museum in silicon valley, you are not allowed to type AMD on one of their computers.

>>16987189
You're going to have to be more specific, what's the job description

>>16987189
prepare to get your ass handed to you on the whiteboard

but they'll still hire you anyways regardless of how much they murdered your ass if they are serious about evaluating you

Let. Her. Go.
She is not worth your time, and your relationship will never be the same again.
Sometimes you just gotta be a dick, and only think about what's best for yourself.
There are plenty of other girls out there, and I'm 100% sure you will find another girl that will make you happier.

Good luck OP.

If everyone close to you is telling you to end it, then I would definitely say end it.

But if you won't listen to them, its highly unlikely what we will say will make any difference.

Don't end it, give her an ultimatum. Date her on like a probation and if she really cares about you after a month talk to her about any issues you have and THEN if there is problems end it with her so it's not a doubt in either of your minds that you could have been.

>I just don't want to end up like one of those guys who regrets never chasing after the girl of their dreams.
Just fucking do it faggot. Talk to her about this, not us.

>>16987107
Just don't out right confess your feelings, that will makes things awkward for the both of you and you will most certainly get the "let's just be friends" speech.

First, has she shown any signs of interest in you? This is the most important because if she shows no signs you pretty much have no chance. For example, does she like to be alone with you over others, does she change the tonality of her voice when around you, etc.

>>16987181
but how? if it was in person it would be easy, i would ask her if she wanted to go do something sometime and let the relationship develop from there. but online we are already doing something together i cant really suggest a date, what would the equivalent be for that even?

It means you're comfortable around each other, be happy with that.

>>16987146
Yeah but I forgot to add that we don't really rely on ourselves. We are enjoying each others company but we wouldn't really mind if we dissapeared from our lives.

It's seriously strange, I never experienced anything like this before...

>>16987175
You just want one of us to tell you she likes you cause you like her, just make a move you pussy. Hurr durr wuts it meen

>>16987047
idk man I think left is cute. But hey at least you feel better right ?

>>16987050

I dig the name, but I don't particularly feel that much better... the compliment on fat me is appreciated, though.

Question - why do you like the pic on the left?

>>16987054
Not that anon, but you look happier on the left. Maybe it's just the picture, maybe not.

>>16987044

This isn't therapy Anon
I'm sorry that you're going through whatever you're going through but if you have so much to say, then take it up to a Therapist or a professional
Your odds of solving your problems there are much higher than here
No one is gonna read this wall of text

I did. Keep it up anon.

dealing with grief too

just found out my girlfriend of a year has cheated on 4 multiples times in the past month with my best friend. quick fucks

i was in a deep depression and she read my depression that i was breaking up with her soon.

we would be out a show for example and they snuck out for a quick fuck shit like that

she tells me she was blackout drunk everytime, she was sad and he initiated enabled and led her
he'd buy her shots and get her piss drunk

she's begging me to stay
she's threating to hurt herself if i leave
i don't know what to do
everyone knows
even our parents
her mom is sweet and supportive with me

the dude won;t even reach out to me. i keep calling him and ignores me.
he claims hes either at work or asleep

what should i do with her, him, everthing?

i've never been through something like this

>>16987038
Why would it be? Are you afraid this teacher isn't interested in talking to you?

>>16987041
Yes, I don't know of he is replying purely out of politeness when he actually thinks I am annoying.

>>16987038
This exact query was posted a couple of weeks ago and got good responses, including from teachers.

There is no reason to reply to this repeat posting.

>>16987030
go back to sleep

Procrastination is lack of desire
You'll never procrastinate a good fuck because of how good it feels

Whatever you're procrastinating, try to make it somehow ddesirable
Assign yourself a reward for finishing the task

>>16987030
I'll tell you tomorrow