Now in the past 2 years, and much so today, have been having intermittent pain in my groin.
the past few days have held elevated pain for me. there seems to be some inflammation on the cord and pain when pushing on the region of the inguinal canal (not the surgery site where they went in which was farther up my body, was open not laproscopy)
sometimes it feels like something is shifting... yet nothing can be felt, no buldge. just some minor swelling of the cords. and pain of course.
what is going on? what can i do to reduce this? i know cannabis is a pretty good anti-inflammatory, can i use that?
if i don't feel a buldge, is it still possible i could be having a problem with it coming back?
there was one incident, where i felt severe tearing pain all the way up from my groin to my stomach, i imagine the inguinal canal. ever since then, when i do get pain it is slightly worse than what i was experiencing (i think/feel like) it has never been that bad again though.
>>16987014
Bait
>>16987016
what? how does this even remotely look like bait, was it the cannabis part?
Med student here.
Best case scenario: new hernia on the same spot. It can happen, however its uncommon if they used a prolene screen (I guess that's how they call it in english)
Worst case scenario: chronic inguinal pain is a possible complication from the surgery. There isn't much to do about it.
I suggest that you see a doctor so that they can physically examine you.
>After this summer coming up I'm leaving to Japan for a semester
>Have had a grill penpal there since forever, its been at least 3 years
>Going to be in the Osaka Prefecture, where she happens to live
>She sort of expressed this odd romantic interest in me
She IS Japanese, but she speaks English pretty well. She spends most of her time studying other languages, and she has an English instructor. Thing is, she is sort of getting obsessed with me, and we haven't even met face to face. We just write letters, and hang out on skype or snapchat from time to time.
Over time things have started to lean more and more towards her having some kind of interest. To the point where it is now just getting downright odd. She called me "husband" the other day, jokingly, but still weird. If she can't get a hold of me for a day because I'm busy, she panics, or if I don't respond in a timely matter, etc. She often stays up way into the early morning hours just to talk to me.
I'm kind of wondering. Do I continue contact with this girl, so I have a contact that I know when I get there? Or do I just slowly (or maybe abruptly?) fade things out with her? She knows I'm coming after my summer break, and is "already making preparations". What these preparations are, I have no idea. I feel like she may murder me.
I mean I like her well enough, or use to at least, before she started to get crazy. Cute as all hell, seems nice, but even after three years of speaking to her, its sort of hard to tell without actually meeting her.
help
bamp
she's not gonna fucking murder you, don't be so dramatic
just visit her at some point when you're over there and see what she's like
>>16986960
I think she may want to have sex with you. Maybe preperation's are her going to the store for a box of condom's and birth control.
Does anyone else need to pee after ejaculating? Is this normal, and if so, why?
I really, really need to know.
it's normal when you consider that you're stimulating the area that you pee out of. guys can still urinate when hard, but it's usually harder since your urethra gets blocked when you're about to come, so by the time you finally do come, you've got more urine that's built up.
almost every time i have sex i have to pee right afterwards. as long as it doesn't burn, you're fine.
i actually wait/force myself to pee after jizzing so I don't have any leftover cum staining my underwear
>>16986881
its normal. you dont get all the cum out of your cock, so pissing clears it out.
sup i need some advice be prepared this shit is long so hope yuo are i for a read
>be me in 8th grade
>developing normally for my age
>girls love me and im starting to get in with the popular croud
>have no problem talking to girls, shit is just coming naturally
>all in all its a good school year
>school year coming to a close
>start spending more time with my father
>one day he starts acting different
>says that he is depressed
>think nothing of it
>mother tells father that he should seek a professional and get help
>he says that he doesnt need it and that he will get over it (spoilers he doesnt)
>couple of months pass its summer vacation and im about to be entering highschool
>he is getting much worse
>starts swearing constantly and grabbing his head
>pulling at his hair constantly
>oookay wtf?
>ignore this
>mom says that instead of swearing that he should say things like "help me god"
>he starts saying this instead of swearing
>few weeks later it gets worse
>he is literally screaming "HELP ME GOD"
>like a fucking mad man
>literally screaming to the top of his lungs into a pillow
>this still hasnt phase me at this point
>>16986808
FRESHMAN YEAR
>things are going great at school for the most part
>imm soking weed everyday with this kid who later turns out to be a shithead but whatever
>talking to alot of kids, some would say i was "cool". i was just very social
>same shit as before confidence is really high, think i can take on anyone
>still getting the girls
>going out mad with firends getting drunk and doing stupid shit
>dicking around in class and not giving a fuck
>at home things another family crisis happens
>sister get sent to a mental instituion
>dont know what happened to her and still dont to this day
>again i am some how unphased
>forgot to mention at this point my father is working so i dont really see him going crazy all too often
>im home alone sometimes which i like can get some sleep and actually get my work done
>year ends and not to much happens
>>16986811
SOPHMORE YEAR
>16 year old me
>same shit as before getting girls getting in good with cool kids
>talking to real cute girl i know and feeling good
>she likes to hear me talk about getting fucked up and shit for some reason
>chill with childhood friend alot
>he is good, smart kid encourages me to do good in school
>dick around in shool
>about halfway thru the school year i decide to try hard in school
>this proves rather difficult with all the screaming and shit but like i said hes working so i dont hear him to often
>sister is back which is good i guess
>>16986814
JUNIOR YEAR
>things finally caught up to me
>stop talking to alot of kids going as far as to purposefully dodge them
>still put on a persona looking like everything is alright
>its not
>the constant screaming my father is doing is driving me insane
>he starts acting more irrational
> i start hearing his screams even when he is not there
>decide to just go hard as fuck in school so i can go to a goof college and everything will be alright
>endure
>spend alot of my time just doing school work and sports
>these eat up my time like crazy
>sit on my ass and play videogames on my free time
>dont talk to girls that often
>start to not give a fuck about my hygene
>skip days brushing teeth
>start getting cavities and teeth are yellowing
>start losing my hair at 17
> confidence is lowering
>cant really carry conversations with people
>fuck what happened to me man
>school is wrapping up but shit at least i pulled in some good grades
I feel like my life is over. I feel likethe experimental phase, and 'finding oneself' is long gone. Its all about the $$ now and 'getting ahead' of the next guy.
Worst of all I am a loser. I have always been the guy that could do everything but wasnt great at anything. Therefore I was transient, and shifted from clique to clique like a ghost but never was good enough to fit into their 'thing'. I loved video games and nerdery but the nerds thought i was too 'normal'. I skateboarded but the skaters wore cooler clothes and smoked dope. I loved metal and played guitar great but I didnt have long hair and had cool band tshirts. I liked normal people stuff, but the normal people thought i was 'too weird'(see previous examples). I fit in with the jocks but i wasnt good enough at the sports and i wasnt loud and obnoxious enough.
I never fit in anywhere...i was pretty much a loner except for my best friend. Turns out he never thought the same. He has other friends, and i guess he simply likes them more because he wont return my calls or texts and ive known this dude for 17 years. Hes told me i was his best friend...i dont know..
Im alone. Ive always been like this and i cant help but think even if i wasnt human and a wolf...id be that lone wolf that trails the pack and eats their scraps. Id be that wounded lion that roams the sahara alone eating leftovers.
Sometimes i wish i was just a nor.al regukar fucking idiot that had like 10-15 friends that goes to some shit chain restaurant every weekend laughing at dumb jokes. Atleast they seem to be happy.
Look up mark passio natural law on youtube
Take some comfort that your situation is not unique, at least. I can only speak for myself but I have it about the same as you. Last year I moved in with a friend and lived there for about a year making more friends, and as soon as times got tough for me they all moved on. I got dropped like yesterday's trash. I ended up moving to a new city, and nobody even bothered to say goodbye to me.
All I can say is learn to enjoy yourself. Find what makes you happy and do it. I'm currently working ridiculous hours at a job I hate at which I speak to almost nobody because they're all jabbering nonstop in Spanish, but you know what? When I have time I play the grindan games and relax, and it's not so bad. I look forward to the things I'll do with my paycheck, and the things I'm saving for in the future.
But really, life is what you make it. You can find yourself over and over again for your entire lifespan. Don't get boxed in by friend groups. Once you find people who understand you, never take them for granted.
Good luck anon. Hope things start looking better for you.
>>16986775
> I'm currently working ridiculous hours at a job I hate at which I speak to almost nobody because they're all jabbering nonstop in Spanish
Is it a factory/warehouse job?
>18/m
>virgin
>always been into bdsm
>make a fetlife account to learn more about it
>not really to meet up or post pictures
So now what? I have no idea what to do with this
Keep not posting pictures or meeting up? I mean, that's why you made the account..
>>16986751
google bdsm and find other sites than fetlife devoted to it. Some have forums where you can post and exchange ideas and questions. Some have group meetups where you can meet people without looking for a 1-to-1 hook up
We can't hand-hold you through your sex life, that just wont work.
(M) About to lose my virginity tomorrow, any tips or things I should know?
>>16986732
your virginity is not your entire sex life. whatever happens tomorrow is not what sex is going to be like for the rest of your life.
it will likely be awkward, sloppy, a little weird, a little anti climactic, but still insanely fun its own way. you will have millions of different kinds of sex, ranging from beautifully passionate to quickies just to get it out of your system, to regret sex, to randomly hot sluts gracing you with their vagina, to this and that and the third thing.
so just go in tomorrow wanting to have fun.
Use protection
>>16986738
Pretty much this.
Dont't try to perform. Just take it slow, and enjoy it.
Be mentally prepared for failure (finishing early, most likely) and plan in advance what to do if it happens.
>live in condo with mom for 3 years
>she moves out, I'm here alone
>had an ant problem in the past, she spilled something in the cupboard and they swarmed it
>noticed about 4 days ago that there's always like 3 or 4 ants in our kitchen floor, coming out from under the washer (which is in our kitchen)
>ants usually are coming in/out of our boiler room, across from the washer
I've set ant traps, keep killing them as they appear, am keeping an autistic eye on our food (and they're never in the cupboards/fridge), verified there's nothing of ant-worth in our boiler room or under the washer, cleaned the floors, put ant repellent around the perimeter, and these fuckers are still just on the ground. Asked my mom, she just said "oh put ant traps down, they'll be gone in a day or two."
Granted we've had rainy weather, and live on a slab of concrete, but why the hell are these things in my house, and not in my food? Should I be worried? How the hell do I get them out for good?
did you know that its estimated that there are over 100 trillion ants in the world
>>16986711
Yes, but is it normal for a consistent amount to be in someone's house, and should I be worried about it?
What color are they? What state are you in? Where do they usually appear?
first time shaving, I went with the grain, is that correct? it has left me with some small hairs. i didn't shave all the way, was too scared.
any dos/donts, tips and advice would be nice :)
that area of skin between your waist and your dick gets ingrown hairs RIDICULOUSLY easy, so be prepared for that in a few days, its very annoying and is the reason why I trim instead of shave, oddly enough the skin on the scrotum never gets ingrown hairs I wonder why.
>>16986693
Put lotion on before hand, use shaving cream during.
I suggest a good razor-not a cheapy dollar store on. Do small strokes, and push down on your skin as you stroke. It may seem scary, but pushing down will actually give you less razor burn because the hairs are thicker. It's basically how guys have to shave their beards-it's where I learned it actually.
Have a cup near by that you can dip and clean your razor after each stroke, the hair will build up pretty quickly and wear your razor out if you don't. Use lukewarm or cool water-hot water is going to heat the razor up and hurt ya. Also, always use a fresh or still good razor on the pubes-slightly worn just isn't going to cut it even though you may get away with it on your legs.
Use a mirror or feel with your fingers when getting the hair around your ass. Go SLOW when doing that too, because having a slice on your ass and having to walk around for a week while it heals is fucking hell.
>>16986699
i had always trimmed, but it was getting itchy for the past few days
18M here, i was just driving some friends home and i accidently side wiped a parked car and fucked up my side mirror. I panicked and booked it and didnt check for damage on their car. I have no clue where it happened so i cant go back or anything. Am i fucked? what kind of consequences can realistically happen insurance wise, etc.
Idk i just need some peace of mind and help figuring this out, ive never been in any kind of accident and im freaking the fuck out mainly because i comitted a hit and run.
There is no peace of mind to give. It's unlikely that you'd be caught, but if you are then it's as bad as you would expect.
>>16986659
damn, exactly what i expected i guess. Fuck me i hope nothing big comes of this
>>16986655
Some states have a minimum property damage value for an unreported accident for it to actually be a crime, and even if it is, it's probably a low-level misdemeanor. So if you just scratched their paint a bit, nbd, just be more careful/less of a dick next time.
If you collided more substantially idk.
Lads there is this girl in my uni who likes me, her friends tell me so, she hints at it herself but she pretends like she is taken to me
Her friends tell me she's single, she even says on Twitter all the time about how she's sad about being single
This is what i wanna send
"You sure you with somebody? Or did you say that bc you didn't know what to say because you like me, bc if you were with someone you wouldn't be getting all giggly and close to me in the hallways. I see it when you look at me then look down and smile discreetly. I mean it's the cutest thing but if you do like me tell me"
Is it good enough?
Give me the courage to do it
>she pretends like she is taken
Stop. Do grown ups play pretend?
You're in uni. You're not 12. Start dating women.
like >>16986596 said, you're in college now and you sending texts to girls saying shit like you're 12?
>>16986594
>>16986596 is right, this is some high-school shit.
>This is what i wanna send
Don't send that, dumbass.
Try imagining that you're a mature, grown man, and think about what you would do in this situation. Then do that.
Got this girl, likes me, don't really like her, she's in the lower classes at school. I figure she'd be an easy screw. Should I go for it?
>>16986526
if your looking at life in the short term, yes.
If your looking for a good life in the long term, no.
>>16986526
First off she is ugly
Second off
You are a Heretic contemplating premarital sex willing to kill an unborn life so you can self indulge.
I think you should go for it but you should make your intentions clear. Never lie, and if you havent anything polite to say just keep in quiet.
Basically tell her that you think she is alright, and youd be willing to screw but you arent interested in dating her. If she isnt interested who gives a shit? I used to play that card alot and while alot of highschool girls need to be in a relationship to fuck, just wait until you get to college. Its the opposite.
hey /b/ I'm here hoping if I could get some advice on how I can convince my mother to have sex with me on my 25th Birthday.
Over the years since my birth, we have both shared a wonderful and loving relationship together. My mother is always there for me whenever I need her and she’s always willing to go out of her way to show how much she loves me, I just hope she will accept my erotic love for her as both her son and (soon to be) lover. My desire for her started back when I was thirteen when one night, she came to my bedroom to give me “the talk”, she told me everything without holding back and I was in complete awe with all the new things I was learning from her. I had so many questions for her and I began asking her about sex and she was more than happy to answer them for me. With this newfound knowledge she shared with me, I began to see her not only as my sweet, carling mother but also my potential woman who can fulfill my newly found needs through her womanhood.
Ever since that day, I have had multiple dreams and fantasies about having my way with her and her with me. My mother is recently single and has been for the past three years, I feel that now is my chance to confront her and confess to her during her vulnerability of much needed physical and emotional attention. I have a little over mouth to plan this out properly and I’m going to visit her on my birthday. But I don’t intend take advantage of her in any way shape or form, I want my love for her to be genuine, I want her to love me back as both her caring son and her naughty lover.
I want to do this! I need to do this! Please, help me in my ultimate quest to reunite in my mother’s loving arms while I fuck her brains out and show her the true meaning of, motherfucker!
>>16986523
If you go ahead and do that, you'll ruin your relationship forever -- everything you like about having a mother will be gone, and because you'll be ostracized by society, a loving/girlfriend/wife relationship won't be possible.
>>16986523
Sorry I posted on /b/ before. But I can really use your advice.
>>16986523
Hot senpai. Super hot.
Admit it though, it'd tarnish your relationship until the day you died.
No one will ever love you like your mother, but I don't think fucking her hard and long is the correct or sensible thing to do.
Try talking to older women.
So a girl I was trying to get with called me a manwhore, is this bad?
I don't understand women
Yeah, it's meant to be an insult. Menwhores are immature guys who sleep around a lot with women that they care nothing about. Menwhores are not dating material.
Guess you ahould stick to the clubs
Manwhore means she might think you're sexy, but once it's known that a guy has fucked EVERYONE his value goes way down. A girl who fucks a manwhore will be looked down on not only by men but by other women.
>>16986546
Yep
It is not "one way only" it works both ways if you have so much fucking sex.
I don't have a natural calling. I'm anxious, depressed, and I lack motivation, but I don't want to become a bum. What are some good fields to major in? I live in the United States.
An easy degree to attain that will gurrantee you a job is a nursing degree. it pays well and doesnt require much academic work.
>>16986432
Unfortunately in a lot of places the workforce is flooded with Licensed Practical Nurses (LPNs) and Registered Nurses (RNs). Normally it's a pretty safe field, but in some places nurses have had their hours cut back if they are lucky, laid off if they are not.
Your beating a dead horse unless you get your attitude and goals right first. Ask yourself why don't you want to be a bum. Really think about it. What are the casual factors to how you feel? Good luck friend