How do i deal with the guilt of breaking a woman's heart
In what way? Breaking up with her or telling her you aren't interested? Need more info.
>>16994299
Being a douchebag and making her go away.
Apologize.
hey /adv/.
How do I start talking to a girl who I used to have a connection and we used to talk everyday without seeming beta?
You could do it slowly via being her friend and then slowly hitting on her or giving her signals that you are interested in her or talk to her and be straight up with her your interest with her.
Worst thing that can happen? You lose the connection and you move on. Life is too short thinking this complicated asking a girl out.
>>16994279
Bump
mention her to her friend.
then contact her a few days later casually. or don't, wait for her
or just say hi to her
Okay, so at the risk of getting made fun of I figured I'd ask random people on the internet about this. The long and short of it is: I wanna ask this chick out, but I quite literally have zero experience with women. Some context
I used to work with this girl, and I really liked her. Never worked up the courage to ask her out. On friday out of the blue I see her and we have a short conversation. She SEEMS into me (She approached me, I didn't even see her).
Like I'm almost sure if I asked her out she would say yes, but the thing that scares me is 1) I really like this girl, like I could see myself marrying this chick 2)I cannot stress enough that I have zero experience. I am a 29 year old virgin who hasnt even kissed a girl let alone had a girlfriend. So even if she does go out with me, I'm pretty sure I would either weird her out because I have no social skills or scare her off because I'm kinda boring and don't really know how to hold a conversation.
All of the beta virgins always get this chick that it's into them magically, dude if you don't even have friends, no social experience...why would you want a girlfriend, even if you magically convince her, she is going to get bored.
Like I've hung out with her before when we used to work together. Well not really. We've given each other lifts before (we both borrow cars from our parents on occasion). I was kind of surprised by how easy she was to talk to, but I don't think I can stretch that out to an entire evening.
>>16994142
Huh. You know I'm not sure. I'm getting old now and I do want to settle down and have a family and some kids and all that good stuff. Plus I feel like a damn weirdo having no friends and close to no social experience.
My hair is dry as fuck
Can you just regularly condition it more than once a day or something to fix this shit?
I'm a dude so I have no idea what I am doing.
Over conditioning causes greasy hair.. It's time you get a new product..
Try something else most of the time it's your hair product that causes all that. Try hair treatment!
Lurking this thread because I have dry hair too. What kind of hair so you have? Curly, wavey, wirey?
>>16994112
Wavey
>>16994062
Egh maybe I need some 'greasy' hair
/adv/, I need to ask you something:
How do you know if someone is quoiromantic if they are in a mutual romantic relationship? I need to write an essay on this...
Anons in /Pol/ aren't helping.
Plz help
Especially if you are psych student.
Okay /adv PLEASE help!
Is it unreasonable to get upset at your GF for not wanting to film a sex tape with you
She doesn't send me nude pics of her either. I like having stuff to look at about her when she's not here.
>>16993995
just use nudes of other girls then geez, at least you asked your gf. I couldn't be bothered to ask mine.
Op, you are childish. YES, it is unreasonable to get upset. Try looking at it from her perspective.
>>16994019
I didn't mean upset in that way.
I mean upset like kind of let down you know.
Is it a bad idea to try to pick up a mcjob right before I become homeless?
>>16993968
Bump
Why the fuck would it be a bad idea? Because it's beneath you? Try begging and sleeping in a box.
>>16993968
Of course not. Take the job, moron. Would you rather end up prostituting to fat old men?
help! any way to slow it down...my dad is bald so in know im doomed, but i don't want to be bald in my twenties.
any advice,home remedy...
here are some pics
People keep catching me talking to myself which I do involuntarily, usually short phrases like "how are you"
Tell me what to do you insufferable cunts
>>16993904
Go see a psych to treat your schizophrenia.
>>16993904
stick a phone or one of those blue tooth earphones to your ear. people will judge you less.
>>16993921
Personally I'd judge him more (desu)
Being an absolute cockmongler with the stupid bluetooth peice is worse than being a nutcase
I have to see the chick that rejected me and wanted to stay friends tomorrow for the first time, what do? I'm honestly just feeling done with her, but don't want to be rude.
>>16993891
Dont let feminazis tell you otherwise.
If being her friend causes you trouble, you can't be friends. Friendship is a two way street.
Youll kind of be a dick for backing out, totally, because she does care about you and value you, but we all do shitty things and hurt people sometimes.
The ideal situation is you become fine with it, accept it, and stay her friend, because nothing wrong with friends, and then you dont have to hurt her.
But you come first, Friendio.
Shamelessly self calling /thread because this is as direct and grounded in reality as it gets.
>>16993914
I agree, but what should I do as I immediatelly see her tomorrow? I still feel a sense if defeat and shame because of it. I feel like she's giving me a false sense if hope as well, simce she said to "leave it at that for now".
>>16993923
>I still feel a sense if defeat and shame because of it.
Thats your own baggage, man. Her not being romantically interested in you is no more her fault than it is yours. You went for an opportunity and it didn't pan out. Big fucking deal. That's life.
Pick up your shit and move on to the next one. Not to mention the fact that nothing is more unattractive then a dude throwing himself a pity party.
>I feel like she's giving me a false sense if hope as well, simce she said to "leave it at that for now".
Maybe she is putting you on the back burner. Its a real possibility but you can't let that affect the way you handle this. If you're ok with being the toy on her shelf she can pick up whenever she decides she wants to play with you then do it but don't be surprised if it feels shitty and shameful.
If you really don't think you're ready to be smiley and friendly with her then back out. There's no shame in that. You're making an executive decision for the sake of your own sanity and well being.
You had feelings but she didn't and getting that thrown back in your face hurts but the point is you have no control over that, the only thing you have control over is whether or not you're ready to be just friends with her.
Obviously you're not.
Yeah it's another suicidal post among the many others please be patient with me. So last year I was doing pretty good, I had a miserable abusive childhood that I'd started dealing with I found lots of people suffered like I did and still muddled through life, I came to terms with my sexuality and I was doing okay. I had a job I didn't hate, reconnected with my friends after a depressive slump and I was hitting the gym thanks to /fit/. Then on new year's I was sexually assaulted by a friend. January 1st he found me while I was passing out on a bed after the party. There was no penetration Andi got away but I was violated. I went to the hotline for it they helped me come to terms with it, helped me forget the guilt and urged me to file a police report. I told someone I thought was my friend and they said if I didn't press charges they would tell everyone what happened. So I told her I would and instead I cut off ties with her I couldn't bear the thought of people finding out about this I stopped talking to that whole group of friends and when I reached out to someone I thought I could trust again they were more concerned with their own social problems and just didn't seem to care about me. I blocked the guy who did it from everything erased his number he did apologize came at me with a bunch of excuses and the people at the hotline told me to save the texts to use as evidence but I couldn't. I couldn't even go to therapy at the local support group like they said to. I wanted to wash that whole day away and now I'm more depressed than ever. I don't know what to do. Shame keeps me quiet and self loathing makes me want to kill myself. He's out there still drinking with our friends and having a great time. I'm so sacred that if they find out that they'll all say it was my fault that they'll think less of me. I just want to die and I'm scared and unhappy. How do I live?
>>16993865
first of all i'm so, so sorry this happened to you. i wish i knew how to make it better and give you proper advice but i don't, i don't know how to fix it. however i want you to know that you did nothing wrong, it's not your fault, and other people acting shitty about it is not a reflection on you, it's on them. find better friends, if you can. i would forget about them
>>16993930
>however i want you to know that you did nothing wrong
besides getting blackout drunk.
op, was he drunk too? if he was, you should accept his apology. you dont want to held accountable for getting wasted in a setting that was not your home, which is an irresponsible and immature thing to do. he shouldnt be held accountable for his drunk actions either, especially since there was no penetration.
Look, I understand. It hurts, but in some situations, it is better to let is go.
See, I was molested as a child; there was nothing that I could've done. By the time that I acknowledged this fact though, the guy who did it was a changed man who wouldnt dare do it again. There would be no point in me bringing it up or feeling hurt by it. So, I accepted the past and let it go.
>>16993961
It was our friends house I was in the bed minding my own business I went over my case with the woman at the hotline it's solid don't try to justify his actions to me. Please don't try and take away my dignity here. He wasnt black out drunk he apologized for what he did because he knew what he was trying to do and I stopped him. I fought him. I'll never forgive him either. I'm not looking for help with sending him to jail I'm trying to get back to normal.
i just drank bleach what should I do i drank about one cup and I fell bad
Throw up. Seek medical attention.
Purge. Call 911 if in the United States.
chase it down with some ammonia and presto you have chlorine gas inside you.
That will finish the job.
How do i stop being fat
eat less
Figure out your BMR, eat less than that. There are about 3500 kcal in a pound of fat, so...
Cardio is great if you care about your cardiovascular health, but an extra 300 or so kcal a day isn't really worth the effort of super hard cardio to many who just want to lose weight. You should still do it, absolutely, but don't make it the end-all-be-all of your fitness routine.
Lift. Seriously. Muscle burns calories and you can increase your BMR in this way that cardio can't. It's also way fucking easier to push yourself through than calisthenics.
So my girl in a sorority and at first it was weird but it made her happy and I got into it so it's okay. She gave most of her time to these people, i've stayed by her while she was making so many damn banners or posters or things like that.
but then they elected this new bitch (I'll call her Shitsputin) as head of Internal Affairs (not the actual title, but it's the role.) SO Shitsputin has a big inferiority complex I guess and my gf is a tall hot blonde but she's also high functioning autist, so she makes an easy target. Shitsputin, as soon as she gets an ounce of power, makes her life hell. Making her pull extra shifts, dragging her in front of tribunal for rumors every other week, humiliating her in public, breaking like every sorority rule there is to make my gf's life hell.
BUT Shitsputin is bffies with all the dictators of the sorority, so not only do they make all sorts of excuses for Shitsputin, defend and vouch for her when my gf tried to do something about it (once she realized she was being targeted and hazed). They also spoke to the campus officers first and made themselves out to be angels, so now the administration just thinks my gf is dramatic and whiny. The national organization won't do anything about it either cause of the bad press.
Meanwhile, my gf is getting nasty anon texts like, "you're tearing this apart for attention bitch" and "it's good you're dropping no one likes you". She's getting bodychecked by bitches on the way to classes who then act all sweet to her when me or someone else is around.
She's leaving the organization but that's not enough. No justice has been done here. Shitsputin needs some recompense for making the situation that my gf cries to me almost nightly for. What can I do that won't trace back to me or my gf? How can I get justice for my bitch and make Shitsputin regret ever abusing her power and being an asshole?
pic unrelated, sort of. my gf sent it to me for my birthday.
Well, your only real recourse is to wait until she has children and then secretly slaughter her first-born and feed him to her.
>>16993774
>No justice has been done here. Shitsputin needs some recompense for making the situation that my gf cries to me almost nightly for.
Shit that happens in high school and college doesn't matter. People suck and young people suck even more. Try to avoid being childish about this.
You're not seeking justice, you're seeking revenge, and its a waste of time and energy. In your adult life you'll encounter tons of people who "deserve" retribution for their shitty behavior but if you make it your personal duty to enact revenge against every dysfunctional person you cross paths with you'll waste your life on a task that accomplishes essentially nothing.
Revenge won't change this person and there is a good chance it will come back to bite you in the ass so at the end of the day you'll be slapped with consequences for your revenge and the person you did this to will wake up in the morning exactly the same person as they were before.
You stand up to people when they treat you like shit. You confront them for their behavior and you be the "bigger person". I know it sounds like some grade school shit but people will know what kind of person you are if you elevate yourself above petty things.
If they refuse to stop, you get them out of your life. This is the proper way to conduct yourself as a functional adult.
Get practice now because it'll save you a lot of headaches when you grow up.
>>16993816
>shit that happens in college doesnt matter
Getting a degree, job connections, friends don't matter? kek
Tp, OP. Tp and paint.
When I hook up with new girls I don't know how much I should tell them. Perfect example? Well, I like eating ass it's one of my favorite things. This is not something a lot of girls like having done to them. Ideally I'd like to say something along the lines of "have you ever had your ass eaten? Did you like it? Ima eat your ass."
For what ever reason this is a big step sexually for a lot of people. So I always feel weird about asking. So in reality I only ever eat ass WHEN I have a steady girlfriend IF she lets me... So almost never:,(
Now I've talked to dudes about this and the advice they give me is just not to ask, one because girls don't like it when dudes ask, and two she won't be able to say no. That seems like really retarded advice to me. What do you think about it?
Also ladies should I feel weird about telling one night stands little things like "sit like this" "bend over the bed" "arch your back" " suck my cock" or kinker things like asking them if they'd like to be tied up?
I feel like I'm limiting myself sexually because I'm scared i might make a girl uncomfortable or have a bad time by asking too much. Is this as big of a deal as in making it? Should i just take the lead and expect them to tell me if they don't like it?
Usually, people like to keep things simple until they've achieved a level of familiarity with each other so as to be comfortable. Mostly any girl who would do anything with you the first night you met her must be so sexually liberated and shameless that she'd make a pornstar blush.
You bring it up to your steady GF when you think it's appropriate. Like maybe you do I little "I do your weird thing you like, you do mine thing."
Trying to filter girls early by asking if they like their bootyholes licked isn't going to go well. You'll scare off girls who might have eventually tried it in a different context.
Repeat after me, "Consent is sexy."