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>>16991159
Just responding to bump this post, want to give advice, but don't want to turn you to the wrong direction for this issue.

>>16991178
Thanks i like that you take it serious enough

don't tell your family man

they'll probably just accuse you of trying to rob your sister of attention

everyone has compassion for sweet little girls, you're a man now. You're disposable.

How is your dad going to help you anyway? Tell your therapist, if anyone.

>>16991088
"Looking someone in the eye" is just a phrase, not much of reality. It really means talking face-to-face rather than looking away. In fact, we spend most of our conversations looking people in the mouth, because we all lip-read more than we realize.

You don't have to maintain eye-to-eye contact more than occasionally and briefly. In fact many people find it eerie to have someone stare into their eyes.

>>16991298
Alright, thanks for your help.

But is eye contact ever used outside of conversation? If so, what for?

Eye contact is a complex matter. It is interpreted differently depending on culture and social context. It can mean asserting dominance or being disrespect and it can also mean showing honesty and friendliness. It can be playful or it can be creepy. It can mean mental instability or a desire to romance someone. Humans are weird.

>>16991083
oy, bump.
I don't want my dad to die

He probably has some problems with the hormones that are responsible for satiety. Try to bring it up as the matter of health,maybe he will take it more seriously then.

Don't be overtly nasty about it, that only gives him an excuse to shield himself from the truth in what you say. I'd sit him down, if possible with family members present who support you, and say you're sorry for being rude about it but in essence you are sincerely very worried about his health and life span. Stress that obesity is a huge factor in some of the most common death causes. If he brushes this off like it does not affect him, try to get him to at least go to the doctor then so he can confirm that your dad is healthy and has nothing to worry about. The doctor will tear him a new one if he's any good.

Just buy a mask........??????

I cut rebar just for 2 days after the first day I used a shirt to cover my face up and later bought masks , but I still have a sore throat , I'm just curious if it'll go away or wtf ?

See a doctor, get a mask, then sue for improper health safety.
You should under no circumstance be grinding or cutting metal without proper respiratory protection.

Prostitution comes to my mind

taxi driver

>>16990915
factory work
gas stations
hospitals
anywhere thats open 24/7, really

>>16990835
Sounds like you want to do good things and succeed at pulling through, so keep on doing 'em. The problem you cite is that no one wants to get together to hang when you want to. Is this a frequent problem? How frequent? Are you asking the right people who would normally want to get out and get social? In regards to seeking people to console you, are you looking to the right people? Some folks are downright stinkers at listening to other people's problems, which is typically the foundation of consolation.

i am not as generous as you seem to be, but i know what you are going through. The hard part is that you are naturally generous, compassionate and thoughtful. No matter what the answers to your questions, you are still going to naturally want to help people. You may be able to find balance (which is what i think you need if you want to stop feeling hurt or disappointed), but that takes so much work because you have to fight your natural tendencies.

>>16990857

I suppose that's the crux of my issue, that people I associate with are generally not the compassionate sort. A side effect of everything I posted in the OP is that I feel I don't have any deep bonds with people because more often than not I'm just a shoulder to cry on, or just that funny eccentric guy. I've also been used in the past by manipulative people, and I always walk right into them because I tend to believe the best in them at the outset. It's never gotten to me in the past but a series of recent events have left me questioning myself.

>>16990749
Your dick is slowly transitioning into a vagina

>>16990749
see a doctor

>>16990752
no it's not
>>16990753
ok, but in the meantime wtf man

Could it be creatine or beta alanine? I take them for lifting but if its either its probs the alanine. inb4 im retarded for taking supplements. I'm gonna not take any for a few days then put creatine back and then alanine back to see if either was the problem (if the swelling goes away when I stop taking, if it doesn't then its insta doctor)

I have no one to talk to about this who understands and I feel so alone.

I'm diagnosed with it but I don't believe I have it really - the past is over its ancient history and you cannot change it. Look to the here and now and not worrying about the future (don't go full tard). Nothing matters anyway it'll all be over and you'll die before you know it. When it comes down to it why give a huge shit, everyone gives too much of a shit and just fills their lives with misery.

When people mock me it reminds me that I'm a freak and I'll never be normal and I'll never be able to relate to other people and no one will ever understand me. And nobody gives a shit about me.

>>16990638
Easy, tell him you like him. There's no fucking reason to figure out if he loves you unless you want him back. Go after your dreams faggot.

>>16990645
he knows, i told him when we started talking to each other again

we've been trying to be friends for about four months now after not talking to each other for six months (which was excruciating for both of us)

What is the point of being your friend? He gets to see you date another dude?
He gets to listen to your dumb inane bullshit "feelings"?

I guess it works now?

Why do you need one? You're on an anonymous imageboard, there is literally no need for one except for identification purposes, which you then drop the name and trip when you're done with the thread.

If you want a name and trip, there are plenty of other sites that want and encourage that. The whole point of this site is to be anonymous, you just end up looking like a rude jackass when you take on a trip for no reason.

Bump for interest

Text
"I'm Batman"
Problem solved.

>>16990600

yeah id cut it off. sometimes we wanna say things to get em out, but its pointless.

id cut off and affirm your new beginning.

You're not over her you stupid faggot.
>hurrdurr I'm over this chick
>I'm just gonna text her just cuz lol
>I want to get back with her
>I'm going to make a thread about her
>hurt I'm totally over her lol
Drop her and kill yourself

bumpe

is Bring broken?

>>16990588
Yes, I know a few things about it. You can get in by having some music knowledge. At least have a keyboard usb or midi whatever.

I don't know if two and a half years is long enough (though we have known each other five), but I'll answer anyway
>Do you ever have true fun anymore?
Sure we do
>What are you doing to have this fun?
Idk, we just enjoy each other's company. We're always finding new inside jokes, new games to play, playing old games, reminiscing about things. We're each other's best friend.

They don't know how to adapt to stagnated living. On top of that, they haven't accepted the fact that there are some things you're going to sacrifice for the sake of being committed to a long-term relationship. Communication and adaptation is a fucking big part of keeping a relationship enjoyable as it goes on. Both parties have to be open and receptive to either trying new things or putting effort in prolonging the facets that made the initial stages of the relationship enjoyable.

>>16990531
Exactly. Every marriage I've seen has been one of complacency that sounds exactly like this:
>What are you doing to have this fun?
Idk, we just enjoy each other's company.
That sounds like code word for watch a few tv shows, smoke some weed, and go to sleep frankly. That I'm dissing that because I've been there too, it can be very nice.

But... Is that truly "new" or "fun"? Is it really enjoyable to have yet another inside joke?

seems like a black hole of yet another night of staying in and having inside jokes
>some things you're going to sacrifice for the sake of being committed to a long-term relationship

>doesn't tell us what's wrong with you, or even what these girls said
>expects us to fix your life

>>16990497

No anon the problem is 100% you put women on pedestals. You try to befriend them, you think you're too forward if you ask them out, whatever. The point is you instantly idealize this fake world where these girls are perfect. The odds that they are shitty people is massive.

The solution for you anon is to go out on dates, lots of them. You'll learn from experience just how shitty, boring, bland, and cunty women can REALLY be and how most of them are.

>>16990505

What do you mean what they said?

Its all just friend zoning so its all essentially the same. Basically, "I am not ready for a boyfriend right now."

>>16990513
I try not to put them on pedestals but its very hard to deal with women when you are dealing with them from a position of... weakness. I feel like I am at a disadvantage in every situation when dealing with women.

"I think you may have an alcohol problem and it's been making me worried for not only you but our relationship with each other. I'm not mad but I'm really concerned."

She's gonna get super defensive. Throw out thousands of excuses

Stand your ground.

"I don't think we can be friends if you keep behaving like this"

Probably a fuck you, and no I don't have a problem excuse.

Don't budge.

She'll cry.

Don't budge.

"I'm here for you and I love you as a friend. I'm jsut really concerned. Please understand that you might have a problem"

>>16990423
Put her in an environment where she's super comfortable and relaxed, then talk to her like an adult and tell her you're worried. Tell her that people were talking about how fuckballs drunk she was, and how this is a regular thing with her when she does get drunk, and how it isn't good to get to that point of sloppy-drunk. Ask her why she gets so fucked up. Be prepared for her to get defensive, accusatory, and possibly even antagonistic.

>doesn't drink often
it's not an alcoholism thing then. Maybe she just likes to drink the pain away sometimes.