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>>16991756
You can't really get someone to like you. It's kind of a meaningless phrase. They either will or they won't. That's it. Just don't be a dick, and turn up the flirt, but respect her boundaries. Being funny helps too.

>>16991756
>get her to like me

That isn't how it works, real life isn't a romantic comedy.

Try to get over her, she's not into you. "Probably" was her being nice.

>>16991769
Sigh, I know. I know exactly. Well, worth a try I gues.

Anger is attention

>>16991878
this, hate is not the opposite of love

>>16991731
It beats being ignored.

I moved to Japan and married a Japanese girl

>>16991693

Look bro fuck the settleing down bullshit.

You clearly have not seen the bs women bring.

I say you slay pussy to no end then settle down.

50 bitches minimum then settle.

After 30 bitches youll see most of them are problems, you'll learn to stand your ground, then will you be ready to settle.

So my fine friend go slay pussy left and right unlike all these faggots.

If you're not in a serious relationship by the end of 25 you're probably screwed to be honest.

Most people will tell you otherwise but if you have your shit together, the prime time for finding a quality long term relationship is right out of college or near the end of it. It's much easier to make plans, move in together, find a place to live together, etc. After 25, you'll be in a busy life phase where you'll be trying to balance your new lifestyle while being poor and at the bottom of everything. Sure later on you'll have more money and a higher quality of living, but the quality of women goes way the fuck down past 25.

Not to put a damper on you OP but you missed one of the easiest times to date and meet a bunch of quality females, so things are stacked against you

>>16991654
Learn to talk to people. Talk to girls like they're just regular people that you aren't trying to fuck.
If you're still in high school, be aloof but not creepy.
Develop SOME sense of style or fashion. Learn what hairstyles look good on you.
Make occasional banter, jokes, teases, and such.
Be nice, but still be devoted to yourself and independent. Act mature.

>>16991667
I talk to people, despite having weird interests I have a lot of friends. I don't know why I can't talk to most girls. My humour is non existent when girls are around. I have done a lot of effort into these things, I believe I am highly mature.
Saying these things is very easy but how do I actually talk to girls? Plese Suggest some lines, excuses or any way to begin a conversation and to keep going

>>16991702
Okay okay okay. Picture any conversation you might have with a guy that isn't anything more than an acquaintance. Now just change that guy to a girl.
You have to stop looking at girls like they are another race and simply start talking to them as they are just people. Your mindset is a mindset that most high schoolers have, honestly. It's why I never got laid in high school.
Just stop hyping them up as something you need to be so careful around or something you need to conquer or whatever it is.

Do you know how to make small talk? Just do that and evolve from there.
Maybe just start by casually asking how they are doing or how their day is going.

Is it a girl you already know?
>yes
Ask about something they're interested in and how that is going.
>Susie likes art and is always seen drawing.
Ask what she likes to draw the most and just be interested in what she has to say.
>Emily plays volleyball
Ask how the fuck volleyball is going.

Is it a girl you don't know that well?
>nope barely know her name
Ask how it's going and all that jazz I said before.
Then just casually point out something you like about her.
"Hey that's a cool looking bag."
"Not gonna lie, that hat looks pretty cute on you."
With a girl you don't know so well, maybe just end the convo there and start a new conversation another time.

One, if you don't want attention brought to the fact she was black, you wouldn't have mentioned it. Not that there's shame in being black, but you have established with your words that it matters to you. Therefore, prepare to be ridiculed.

Two, no - she probably is uninterested. It was a party. She was probably just looking for some fun at the party.

Three, this is /adv/, not /b/.

Four, I can't stand when otherwise attractive black girls style their hair like that. Just an opinion though.

>>16991551
Really? This hairstyle is literally the best thing about black girls. It's breathtaking.

Maybe you shouldn't talk to her if it's just about sex. She obviously isn't that kind of person when she didn't even let you kiss her.

>>16991534
Do something productive. Doesn't even have to be schoolwork. Go meet people like you say you want to. Start doing something creative that you enjoy, like making music, art, cooking, anything. Work out. Improving your health is never a bad idea.
Start learning a language or just some subject you were always curious about.
If you must meet new people then go out and do it. Go and see a random concert at a local venue. Go to a bar that looks populated and buy someone a drink. Chat with people and see what they're up to. What they're dealing with.

If you are talking to a potential date, don't think of them as a potential date. Just think of them as another person with their own aspirations and motives. Be interested in them and what they have to say, but still be devoted to yourself. Maybe flirt a little or make some jokes. Literally just have fun and don't stress over small details and things will come naturally.

>>16991559
>If you must meet new people then go out and do it. Go and see a random concert at a local venue. Go to a bar that looks populated and buy someone a drink. Chat with people and see what they're up to. What they're dealing with.

I keep reading stuff like this but to me life doesn't seem to work that way. Like, I read this and I believe it's bullshit, don't take it as an offense. I'm pretty awkward, I can't just get into someone's conversation or table, I feel it's absurd.

I'm thinking of just taking a long walk. I want to start the "couch to 5k" running thingy, but I'm unfit as fuck and I think it'd be better to spend a few days walking a lot first, as the last time I tried the program I felt like I was going to die or something.

I'll pass around a zone of my city which is always populated with geeky people, I usually don't want to meddle with them because they tend to fall too far into the weeaboo spectrum and so on, but I might even talk to some of them, I don't know.

>>16991590
>I keep reading stuff like this but to me life doesn't seem to work that way. Like, I read this and I believe it's bullshit, don't take it as an offense. I'm pretty awkward, I can't just get into someone's conversation or table, I feel it's absurd.
That sounds like it's more of a problem with you. When it comes to small talk, yeah people generally aren't that interested. But when you are actually getting to know someone, this is what it takes.
>I'm thinking of just taking a long walk. I want to start the "couch to 5k" running thingy, but I'm unfit as fuck and I think it'd be better to spend a few days walking a lot first, as the last time I tried the program I felt like I was going to die or something.
Not a bad idea at all.
>I'll pass around a zone of my city which is always populated with geeky people, I usually don't want to meddle with them because they tend to fall too far into the weeaboo spectrum and so on, but I might even talk to some of them, I don't know.
Not a bad idea either. I always have to contain my cringe when I'm "among fellow gamers" or weebs or something, but once you get passed that it can be nice.

Teaching is a rather daunting prospect my man. You're spot on with accusations or concerns of pedophilia directed at male teachers and males in schools. Depending on the level you would teach, the children are either assholes on purposes or assholes because that's what kids are. It's pays fairly well if you manage money properly. Female teachers vastly outnumber male teachers which does somewhat work in your favor as in my experience good male teachers are rather sought after, which could improve your job prospects.


If you're interested in teaching I would suggest trying to find some work in a school as a teacher aide or volunteer to get the feel for how things would operate, being spending money on any degree.

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Could do both law and teaching. Become a law teacher to unis or year 11 and 12 students.

But hey, congrats anon. At least you have some idea what you want to do for your career.

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>>16991476

first off, you should always go with something you actually enjoy
do you really want to spend the majority of your life doing something you don't like? sounds like a soul crushing existence

I work in post production and good 3D modelers are always in demand. the fact that you're in Australia doesn't matter because you can freelance remotely from anywhere really. sometimes we hire people who live in Brazil or India
my advice is switch to a more practical 3D software like Maya or C4D and start building a portfolio

Just use an alias

>>16991395
>The thing I'm wondering about though, is will I have to keep some record of my old name?
Yes. Even if you legally change your name, there will be times when you have to list names you've previously used. You don't have to go around offering this information to people who don't ask for it, but you can't lie.

>If I did change my name, would I be able to shed my past completely?
Define "completely".

>>16991406
Common thing for artists to do OP. I agree with this.

Sounds a lot like me. Half the reason I don't talk to people is that I'm too lazy.

>>16991393
My issue is every time a "moment' comes up, I don't really know what to say and then I overthink things. Then have doubts. Then I be a wuss and not do it. Goddamit.

>>16991332
Did that for three years.
Deep rooted problems led me to be avoidant.
After a point you just get so ashamed of what you've become that you force yourself to change

For the love of god yes.

>>16991328
Yes, why do you need to ask

>>16991328
If you're trying to grow a beard, no. Otherwise, yes.

>>16991293
be strong, be assertive, be independent, follow your path. never put your happiness in somebody else's hands, don't lose your mind, be respected with the least amount of violence and respect others who deserve it. when you find yourself lost, just stop to think about what you really need and what you really want.

Try to find role models in your surroundings now. It takes time and you really have to search well, but it´s doable.

Maybe ask family stories about the guys (if they were any good)

>>16991293
How old are you anon? This advice will vary in mileage based on your age. I didn't have a stable male role model either (they all died), but this is what I could pick up from them along the way.

Don't put your tongue in a hooker's vagina (it's bad manners), and don't touch strippers- just let them do the touching of you and keep your hands off. Not only is doing either thing unsanitary, but it will get you kicked out of the brothel/strip club. Also, be careful, those sneaky succubi really know how to get as much money as possible out of you.

If you're buying a used car, make sure to look along the side. If you can notice slight dents in the metalwork, that may mean it's had panelbeating work done to cover up the fact it was in a crash. Be careful with buying used cars, a cheap shitheap can end up costing you more in repairs than just getting a new one.

Try and make yourself a well-rounded, self-sufficient man. Know a little bit about cooking, a little bit about survival, a little bit about house hardware jobs.

Keep well dressed if possible. Make sure you have a good-looking suit, and go to the tailor if necessary and if you can afford it to get one fitted for you.

When you're refueling a lawnmower or motorbike, the petrol canister of fuel might have a long funnel inside the lid. You can remove it from the lid, swap it around, and screw it onto the petrol can in order to reduce spillage.

If you're ever in a survival situation and need clean water, you can make a transpiration bag by wrapping a plastic bag around a branch. The heat of the sun will make the moisture rise up out of the leaves, and it will go to the top of the bag then drip down to the bottom. You can drink this. Or, if you have some way of boiling water, you can get river water.

Pick at least one sport and make sure you know the rules of it, and follow a team on the side. This will help you blend in with Manly Men

You become a Modern Man officially when you are self-reliant.

She's young and foolish. That being said you likely won't change her mind.

My ex said she'd keep it but would give it away..

I really wish there was a birth control for men. (Besides condoms)

>>16991291
We've never had "unprotected sex" but obviously condoms still have a fail rate. It's a chance I'd rather wasn't there.

>>16991296
If look up the stats for pregnancy even trying to get pregnant takes time.

That being said I feel your concerns, it would completely fuck up your life. Likewise another girl could say she would get rid of it (if/when) and then end up keeping it.

>>16991253
>How can I trust this chick to be quiet?
You can't.

General rule of thumb: Don't trust people you don't know.

Bump. When I call her today should I say we should go to her place? Would that imply I want to have sex?

Maybe just dont be a cheating cunt? Sounds like you two are made for eachother tho. Disgusting human beings.

I should add that I have a VERY slight underbite. Had the option of doing something about it but I actually thought it looked kinda handsome, but if it's causing my lisp it has to go.

>>16991252
The underbite might actually be it. I tried it out and I've got a bit of a harder time with J's when I put my jaw forward.

Otherwise you could try speaking while biting onto a pencil. It's a trick my French teacher made us so to help get rid of our accents. Irs supposed to make the mouth and tongue shapes easier since you end up over-pronouncing everything with the pencil in your mouth.

>>16991276
damn. I'll have to start wearing a retainer again I guess. Thanks for the reply.

Does the printer actually belong to you or your department?
Is it the reality of working there that other people need to use the printer too?

If you answered no and yes respectively, then you're just being a whiny little shit and she was within her right to take it to use.

>>16991190
The units themselves don't belong to any one person, but I need them at all times (just like the photo center). If other people need a printer or whatever they need to ninja it from someone that isn't me.


Plus she never brought it back.

>>16991192
So you're being a whiny little shit and she was within her right to take it to use.

It's not yours and she needed to use it too, get over it.