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Postpone college until you are in a stable place.

Find a friend that needs a roommate or a cheap place to live.

Jobs arent really hard to get if you arent super picky. Ask friends on facebook wheres hiring and apply everywhere you wouldnt hate working at. I suggest, to get some money together, you find a job doing roofing for the summer. It pays well and will make you decide pretty quickly whether you want to do that kind of work for the rest of your life.

I suggest finding a friend or family member that can take you in, temporarily, while you get a first paycheck or two.

Where youre at, you need to not eat out and just cook. Much cheaper and youll eat healthier. Do not buy drinks at gas stations or new video games. If anything, watch stuff for free online, borrow games, or buy used for under $10.

Sell the things that you dont need. Youll have a lot of shit that youve accumulated over the past 19 years that really isnt necessary and you dont use anymore. You can even sell clothes that you dont wear/use anymore. List them on facebook or craigslist. Meet in a public location.

2/?

Dont pay for convenience if you have more time than money.

Apply to at least 1 job per day. You wont burn out like you will if you try to apply to 15/day for a week.

Really though, sell the shit you dont use/need. If you wont have a cell phone now, you need to go get a tracphone/pay as you go phone from ssmewhere. You just need calling, texting, and voicemail. This is so that employers can call you.

this is the time to make sure you have god friends
or that you are also a good friend. Hopefully someone will be willing to help you out. kinda what happened to me.
Also try applying for food stamps, you might be able to barter that with people in place of cash.
Donate plasma, that's a quick 50 bucks here and there.

Uni is overrated.

I'd recommend saving some money and getting a HGV job.

That's an American problem if I've ever seen one. I assume there's no possibility of hardship money or social safety nets. I've seen that communal camps have appeared for people like you, where they live in tents and cook together, they might be able to help best.

You can apply to places online like Lionbridge (which is online anywhere work with decent pay) but these places don't get back to you for months so the returns are very distant.

>>16995761
HGV?

In my country it is common to:
1: street name number/number
2: city name
3: post code

Your country can have it diferent do use brain,

It's like Pittsburgh directions.

16.
>Go up Wilson St past the third light

17.
>Turn left where the Pizza Hut used to be

18.
>Look for the blue house, I'm next door with the pickup truck in the driveway

>>16995768
I didn't know if they were asking for my adress though, it seemed weird that they were asking for landmarks.

>>16995594
Apologize.
Grovel.
Hope.
Don't count on it.

Don't be beta male, girlfriends are a waste of time. Get in 4 year relationship, she calls it off starts being bitchy, become alpha male, shag her best friend, she tried to exert pressure and dominance, shave her sister, she becomes aware decides to try to turn family against you, laugh as you are head of family. Bitches ain't nothing but Ho's n tricks, females will make you a beta male, do not be beta, do not be emotional, only ever be with a girl until she fulfils her usefulness, laugh at people that tell you other wise. You have potential to be an alpha male, SO be it.

Don't be beta male, girlfriends are a waste of time. Get in 4 year relationship, she calls it off starts being bitchy, become alpha male, shag her best friend, she tried to exert pressure and dominance, shag her sister, she becomes aware decides to try to turn family against you, laugh as you are head of family. Bitches ain't nothing but Ho's n tricks, females will make you a beta male, do not be beta, do not be emotional, only ever be with a girl until she fulfils her usefulness, laugh at people that tell you other wise. You have potential to be an alpha male, SO be it.

I wish I could hug you right now but I know you'd just pull away and turn away from me.

To defeat anxiety:
Drink water, eat healthy, excercise, get at least an hour of sun

Socialise, pickup a hobby, join a cause, join a club

Confront any pressing issues

If all else fails, see a psychologist.

>>16995514
>all i want is to be happy

That's a lot to ask for. Stop being so demanding and you won't be so disappointed with life. If you use some Reason to evaluate what you can realistically expect, you wont be so disillusioned.

Must hurt your pride constantly to want so many things and receive none of them. Doesn't God know who the fuck you are? I'd probably feel like shit too if I thought life just came with desires being fulfilled.

It's not as ridiculous as it seems. I used to have two friends in HS that learned sign language so they could exclusively chat away at each other during class.

If you're interested in exploring other foreign languages then you should do that but don't let perceived pressure from others influence you.

>>16995511
>don't let perceived pressure from others influence you
Pressure as in from who?

>>16995531
>>and will lead to assumptions from other people and I do not want that.
Who gives a fuck? You do you.

bumper

I wouldn't go. No matter what you say meeting up one on one gives him hope.

>>16995485

If you actually feel comfortable and open to the idea of dating a guy out of actual desire for him (or at least the actual idea of that in general and it's something you want), then do it. If you only want to because you're depressed that you have had bad luck with girls and you're still hurt from your recent experience, then I don't think you should. It isn't worth compromising your integrity like that just because you want to feel desired and cared about by somebody.

If you feel you really have to go on a date with that guy then you should outright state to him exactly how you feel about it and what has been happening with girls in your life. If he's actually a decent person then he should respect that and hell he might actually help you better than anyone on this board can. There's no substitute for having support IRL.

But, if you decide to do it, be careful. Ask yourself how well you actually know him and, jesus christ, make sure he isn't going to do something bad to you or something.

In my opinion, I wouldn't go out on a date with him. Not for the reasons you've listed. I strongly recommend you do not.

Anyway, I have an apocalypse-tier flu right now and lurking this board is serving to pass the time. I won't be making any further responses because I have important real-life things to do - The main one is not dying and the second is figuring out the mess I'm going to have to fix when I return to work.

Again, I wouldn't do this, man.

Don't know, OP, I love it too in a hedonistic way, ruined my reputation at college pretty much.

let the hate flow through you

>>16995471
You ran this identical query, with the identical picture, two days ago, and got plenty of good responses.

NO ONE BOTHER TO REPLY.

get an entry level job. do what you fucking can you fag.

care for you family.
I live the same life as you, i still care for my family and work for shit pay, but took what I could get. Look locally and do walk in applications, you can get an interview on the spot.

>>16995467

What do you do for your dad?

>>16995653
Don't listen to this guy on the walk ins, very few companies hire walk ins anymore because they have very little time to vet the applicant, and they all have online hiring, generally looking for specific skill sets. Walking in and handing out paper resumes mostly only works for fast food and mall jobs where just anyone can do it.

Anyways, the real answer is to get an internship. I know it sucks and most don't pay, but it's the only way to do this, and you should have been doing it in college. If possible, maybe you can find a low paying one, but that's not easy.

You need to tell your dad that helping him is causing you to not be able to develop your career. Unless he is dead set on you taking over the family business or whatever it is, he'll probably understand.

>>16995467
I work in HR, so take my word for this.

Job ads and descriptions are wish lists - the imaginary ideal person for the job. Such a person almost never exists, and employers take the best what does apply.

So, if the ad says "2 years experience" it really means "It would be great if you had any experience at all, but if everything else about you is good, we'll drop that."

And why don't you list your work for your father as experience? Give it a name and treat it as a real job - no one need know it was under the table.

I get sort of this way when I'm feeling particularly depressed.

When people look at me when I'm going through a period of depression/agoraphobia it makes me fucking miserable. I feel like they can sense how dysfunctional and sad I am and they're just gawking out of pity.

It's paranoia. Try to get to the root of what you're feeling. What about people looking at you makes you angry? Do you think they're judging you?

>>16995427
I think they're judging me and thinking that I'm ugly or weird or awkward or making some other generalization and I get mad because I think "fuck you, you're just like everybody else" which leads to me not wanting to be around other people and then not having friends, and then being lonely and wanting friends, and the cycle starts again.

At least this is how I can piece it together as of now.

>>16995443

The most liberating thing you can do is realize that people aren't focusing on you.

Think about it. Are you staring at people you walk by and making judgments about them? Or are you just looking at nothing in particular and they're just standing there? People are probably doing the same and just looking at you quickly and not thinking anything about you at all.

This is something a good counselor can help you out with very easily. You should look into your university's resources.

>>16995399 Tell your employer about your phobia. You never know, they may understand and Allow you to take your time.

>>16995399
What job do you do that has you surrounded by spiders? Are you a banana farmer in the condos or something?

>>16995616
it's all explained in OP

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>>16995382

Make something.
Provide a service to others.

What I want you to do, is find a problem your town is having. Something tangible, not something like your village not having jobs.
>Picking up litter
>refurbishing dilapidated buildings
>education reform
things like that

now come up with a plan to solve that problem. Start small. It doesn't have to save the world.

Assemble a team of people willing to help you. People who won't quit out because they need work too.

Try to find sponsors for your projects (this is the hardest part. which is why I said start small).

Get to work solving.

>>16995382 Prostitute yourself.

I can't answer your question because I don't know anything about these schools.

I will say this though, with education, you get back what you put in. So knowing that, which school has the "better" professors and environment for your learning experience?

>>16995376
UTAustin is typically thought of as having better professors and an overall better education, a lot of people call it the Ivy League of public schools. On the other hand, it is very much a party school: lots of drugs, free Iove, weird Austin stuff. It would also cost me about $25,000 to attend.

UTD has an environment that is a bit more academically focused, due to not having a football team and small Greek life presence. I visited both campuses and UTD has just as nice facilities, and better housing. No clue on the professors though, and graduates tend to make less that UT Austin graduates according to PayScale.

>>16995413
Is it possible to find out what professors teach at both schools and compare their credentials?

As far as how much money you make, that will be completely about networking and job opportunities. The other school probably has a better reputation, because at some point a lot of people said that it was a better school; which lead to a lot of other factors ("better" professors, increased budget due to higher influx of applicants etc. etc.)

If you're doing this major for the money, go to the school that will get you the better paying job. If you're doing this because you really like it and would like to make a living off of it, go to the school that will give you the better education.
If you're doing this because you live in a society that demands a degree, go to the school that is the cheapest.

How long ago were you mean to them?

If more than a year, let it be. Next time you see them just be friendlier.

If 6 months, do it by way of a friendly outing

If 3 months, do it by way of a apology

If 1 month or less, heartfelt apology TO THEIR FACE.

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>>16995332
All have been over a year. Maybe I'll just let it be. Thank you annon.

I've had people do this to me. There's a window of time where it's effective, and it's based on the severity of what you did.

I had former friends from high school apologize for talking inconsequential shit about me years after the fact. That was weird and pretty pointless, because I'd moved on. Six months after he cheated on me, my ex-boyfriend sent me a bunch of messages apologizing for what a dick he'd been to me, and that felt pretty good.

Ask yourself if you're apologizing for your own benefit or theirs. If by all reasonable standards they should have moved on, just keep quiet.

>>16995235
Why would it be?

>>16995235
Just explain why. Also, stress that you have more than one form of transportation and therefore will always be on time and at work. It's a selling point. Sell yourself OP. Sell yourself!

>>16995347
This!