How come people keep asking me why no gf or why dont you want to be married?
Im about to finish college, im not 35 lol.
It's my mom or relatives, but the thing is it's people my age too.
Today some classmate I semi know was talking to me today. Different things and then I was like im not too concerned with making a lot of money I want to ski and live in an area with great skiing. Im not going to be married or have a family.
Then he just jumped in and was like blah blah blah i thought the same thing and i got a gf. Im just sitting there like well im not you.
I was about to fucking explode on him(i didn't though, just dropped it).
I dont understand why people keep bringing this up to me im not good looking at all, id rank myself below average. Ive never had a gf and ive never been on a date in my life, women never talk to me. Well one crazy girl asked me for help in math last week, but she's like legit crzy oh my god i need straight As for med school type.
How do i explain this to people? Like i just want to tell them ive never been on a date, im fucking ugly, and women dont find me attractive, now fuck off and stop making me depressed.
Im not sure who these people think i am? Im a kid who fucking played video games 15 hours a day, i set up a network bridge when i was 13 and was using ip sniffers auto standby programs to win games on xbox live. I had a runescape account that was almost max combat level and last summer I was ranked 136th in the world on an xbox live game called destiny in the most competitive game mode. Im a fucking computer science major, im a nerd who watches too many documentaries and will learn a new programming language in his free time. I can't make small talk with people but ask me about ancient rome and you'll get a lecture.
when people my own age start bringing this up depression kicks in bad. I had a bunch of work to do today and i was trying to learn a new programming language and i just got depressed
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>>17009093
don't stress about it?
Relative are always like that. Hardwired to encourage genetic spread.
Maybe you should not freak out so much about idle small talk. because that's all it was.
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The dude was actually gay or bi and was dropping hints that he liked you
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>>17009115
yeah my relatives dont bother me, i guess its like my mom says im good looking.
>>17009156
lol, I know him he isn't. He was pissing me off an awful lot this morning.
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how do I make money fast? I'll be homeless in two months if I don't make at least $500 saved up before then.
what do I do?
please help
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>>17009043
>500 dollars over 60 days
>this poor soul is so far gone that earning nine dollars a day is fast money
apply to retail at a home improvement store, they'll be hiring since most consumers buy their shit in the warmer months
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>>17009043
2 months is more than enough time to print out some resumes and find regular work.
In the interim, find a nearby temp agency and they can find you short bouts of work (8-12 hours at a factory)
And no there is no easy website to make that money just by clicking you gotta work.
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>>17009054
yeah, killing myself is also another option, but that's a last resort kind of thing
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I hate everything about college culture yet I just agreed to attend one for 4 years
How do I make the best of it
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>>17009024
Move off Campus.
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There is no single overarching "college culture". I don't mean to deny that there's somethung you hate, but it all but certainly applies to only one group out of many. All you have to do is avoid falling in with that group, and you're golden.
Tell us more. What is it about "college culture" that you hate so much? We may be able to identify what groups to avoid.
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join a frat
I am a young man who is successful in every since of the word except I have not had a gf since I was 16. I have friends and can talk to people no problem.
I get really bummed out being rejected by girls. Some of my closest friends are already married or in LTRs. Pithy advice about chin up etc doesn't help change the fact that I can't get a gf to save my life, and especially when it seems like every single person my age is in a relationship literally 24/7. How do I not feel like a failure or that I'm being left behind? How do I end this? I just want a nice relationship, why is this so hard to get?
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You are a lot less whiney than most of the guys here and also didn't say you're "better looking than average" so you're off to a good start. In some ways you might be the victim of your own success, working hard but also isolating yourself. You still have a social life so someone has to know someone. If you feel hopeless I'd say avoid online dating or apps. Actual advice is I'd say go out more.
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>>17008986
anything worth having takes work. thats why its worth having
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>>17009036
Basically everyone my friends/family has set me up with wasn't interested or I wasn't. Online dating is worthless, I might have zero game but chicks give you two messages and stop replying.
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Hey /adv/
I broke up with my gf of 8 years in December 2014 after I found out she cheated on me multiple times. It really fucked me up for a while because I thought I would marry this bitch and spend my life with her.
Since then, I've met a new chick who I'm quite fond of and we've been dating for several months. The problem is that I can't get my old gf out of my head. I think about her a couple of times per day. What's she doing? Is she enjoying life? Does she miss me? Shit like that.
To make matters worse, a year and a half since I last spoke to her I still have terrible nightmares about her almost night. I've accepted that it's over between me and her but I can't seem to shake her memory. Any tips?
I'll hang up and listen.
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>>17008965
mental discipline time.
Ex does not miss you . Stop letting her live in your head. make a conscious effort to think about something else when it comes up.Hate her for what she did to you.
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She was part of your life for almost a decade so don't be ashamed to get some theraphy or something
New chick might be like "you still have feelings for her" and you might but this is not a movie and really you just got well fucked up by the decade girl
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>>17008965
How did you find out?
Is it possible to learn to like sex just by having enough of it?
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>>17008910
yes.
If you are a girl or a boy it takes time to get used to it physically and mentally. Then you can find your special buttons that work.
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>>17008926
How long do I have to keep doing it?
I first had sex at 18 and I'm 22 and I still don't like it.
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pls respond.
Normie scum is to de
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This fucking normie says he has depression
Normie scum is to de
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What should i tell him?
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>>17008891
That you're sorry to hear he's hurting?
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his "depression" is not your business.
just leave him alone.
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"YOU CAN'T HAVE DEPRESSION IF YOU AREN'T A VICTIM OF OPPRESSION!"
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I have the power to ruin the relationship of someone who really hurt me. Should I do it?
Bitch cheated on me, and left me for him, and then completely cut me off from her life on a whim cause she's bipolar. I really feel like I should, because it genuinely hurts when I think of how much time I devoted to helping her with her problems, and just being there for her, only for her not leave me, but to block me from her life and pretend I don't exist.
I have his email, and I can contact him. But then another part of me feels bad for wanting to bully a bipolar girl with a drug addiction who'll never amount to anything by ruining her relationship.
She's gonna sabotage her own relationship anyway, she'll cheat on him like she did with me, and the partners before me, she play victim and make excuses, she'll binge and get hospitalized again and again... I don't know what to /adv/
Part of me still cares a lot about her, but a different part really wants to hurt her to make her feel how she made me feel.
Pic unrelated btw, just the first on my drive.
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>>17008852
Revenge is what most people strive for, but end up regretting after.
OP, either do what most people don't and let it go and find happiness within or be the majority.
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>>17008852
>a bipolar girl with a drug addiction
you sure know how to pick em :)
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Just move on with your life, man. Don't dig yourself further down the rabbit hole. You're better off without her, and you know it, so just keep out of each others' lives.
Shit like this just makes you look bad, and it'll make you feel bad about yourself when it's done. It's not going to provide you with the sense of closure you're looking for.
How can one overcome a massive, irrational fear of men without getting dangerously close?
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Therapy.
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>>17008845
What am I supposed to tell them?
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>>17008859
>How can one overcome a massive, irrational fear of men without getting dangerously close
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Hey /adv/, how can I get my coworkers to shut up and fuck off? I've been working my first professional job since January. They have a dogshit "open office" floorplan which means there are no walls and there is no privacy. Some of my coworkers act like it's a junior high; they slack off, talk loudly, run around, throw things, act crude, etc. Normally I'd just get on with my life but when I'm on a conference call I shouldn't have to tell these grown adults to pipe down about crossfit.
How can I get them to fuck off while I'm trying to work? I normally say, "Hey, keep it down while I'm on the phone, alright?" or something like that but it doesn't last.
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>>17008822
You don't. Unless you become the boss and turn the open office into open totality it is impossible.
You have few options left:
>Change job. But open office is spreading all over big companies like fire.
>Learn how to work less. If your coworkers can slack off, then maybe you should ask yourself if they pay you enough.
>Learn how to ignore your surroundings.
I work in open office too, but I like it. But it highly depends on people you share space with...
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>>17008862
>but I like it
Why? I feel like someone is perpetually over my shoulder and the constant noise and commotion is distracting. Not only is the loud talking difficult to ignore, people think I'm "accessible" while I'm focusing on something and don't hesitate to bother me while I'm in the zone.
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>>17008822
That's how crossfitters are, they must talk about it 24/7 to everyone. Be thankful you don't work with vegans!
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Right. So. Really need some advice.
Here's the situation
this is my first day on 4chan, been reading funny greentext posts on iFunny for ages though.
Thought I'd check this place out.
Went to Random /b forum thing. Mistake.
Having fun there for a while, shitload of porn. Loli stuff is a bit creepy but I put up with it.
This thread of some guy asking for "naughty Dropbox links" appears
I venture in and see a load a few links. I click one expecting to see some sort of porn. I don't really know what I was expecting.
I certainly wasn't expecting stolen child porn videos from the police.
I freak out. Delete everything including drop box.
Feeling sick now, still shaking. I'm pretty scared some of that stuff got downloaded on my phone idk...
Halp
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>>17008817
Don't worry. Nobody cares about 1 image.
You can delete browser history or throw your device into furnace to delete all evidence :-D
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>>17008817
Oh man, you're fucked. You know the FBI tracks you through your IP right. Everyone one /b/ is using .tor for a reason.
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>>17008850
That won't help.
>>17008857
This.
You shouldn't be going on 4chan without an onion browser. FBIs got snoops lurking 4chan and other sites in order to crack down on cp rings on the web. Dude, you are so fucked. There's a record on your ISP that you partook in the viewing of child pornography. No matter how minor, an offense is an offense. You better pray they didn't notice.
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Someone please help me. I can't stop the cycle of self-hatred that goes on in my brain. I'm 25, live on my own, have a decent job; but for the past 10 years or so, I've developed a mentality of hating myself with a passion. It stems from being bullied ever since I was a little kid all the way up until high school when I basically went a little crazy and started trying to fight everyone.
I'm falling in love with someone at my work, but every time this happens I begin to come up with excuses in my own brain as to why they don't deserve me and why I'm a piece of garbage or not good enough, this in turn tears me up inside and I begin to despise my entire life and want to die because I feel I can never be with anyone. I have very few people I care about in this world and hate a LOT of people. It is so rare for me to feel like I'm falling in love (and I know the difference between a crush and love, I'm falling in love really bad) and I don't know what to do. I can't take anymore rejection, I feel like I could never live up to being with her because I self-sabotage myself. I don't feel good about myself. I barely have any hobbies anymore because I hate everything.
I don't come off this way irl because I'm very good at faking things and appearing normal/friendly, but deep inside I'm hurting and want to die. The only thing I live for anymore is trying to stay sober and alive for my family who love me very much. But now I see someone I want to be with, which is rare, and it tears me up so badly. I am scared as hell because I feel if I'm rejected again I'll go back into that hole of self-hell; but at the same time I keep putting myself there and can't stop.
end pt 1
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>>17008808
pt 2
So with that being said:
How do I love myself? How do I be happy/confident in who I am? Because I'm not. I've been told I'm handsome by a lot of people and I regularly get girls hit on me, but I'm not confident at all. I feel like I'm just this walking, negative, self-hating black hole that can't make any friends and the times I ever do find love I destroy it for myself.
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last bump
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>>17008808
Therapy. Important thing is to find the right therapist.
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Hey /adv/, I was just gonna ask something which is probably really retarded and teenagerish, I'm 18 in case you wonder.
I've been finding this one girl in a couple of courses really cute, but never really talked to her outside of class except for one time. I as the retard I am hesitated to ask her out until the last day of school (Just got out of a relationship, unconfident fucktard, wanted a better moment than when she was busy etc.) and turns out for some reason she didn't show up and I couldn't ask her out.
I was suggested by my friend to ask her out through facebook by adding her and messaging something like
"Hey, I was thinking of doing this in person but I can't anymore, but I think you're cute and I was wondering if you'd like to grab coffee sometime?"
Me and her have no mutual friends on facebook but I keep thinking to myself this is creepy and weird. I understand a "Don't give a fuck" attitude is what gets girls but this just seems way too much. What do
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>>17008757
is that Dr Dick?
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>>17008757
I'm somewhat in the same situation with someone in my courses. I also waited a while to talk to her in private one on one. The girl and I have confessed feelings. But now it seems like were really out of sync
I'm contemplating the i dont give a fuck attitude now and sending her a text.
I get so nervous with these things I don't know whats the right choice or not
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>>17008797
That is indeed Doctor Dick
Hey guys. I don't want to sound like an edge master here, but I think I hate everyone.
I'm what most of 4chan would consider a normie. I have a good relationship with my family, girlfriend and friends. Despite that I just feel like I want to be alone. I'm 22 and all my whole life I've been a bit of an introvert. I am good in social situations, but deep down I just want to be by myself. Sometimes I want to hang out with someone but after an hour or two I usually just want to be alone again.
What the fucks wrong with me?
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>>17008752
I was told that if you had this kind of attitude that it meant you didn't deserve a girlfriend etc. And people should stay away from you. Funny that.
Anyways, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone sometimes. I wish I could feel like you do (well, minus the hate) and not feel so inadequate, or that my girlfriend will leave me for a more "social" guy.
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>>17008752
I'd do the whole back-and-forth with you OP but too tired now, did it 3 times today already.
Long story short, you have schizoid traits/tendencies. Don't worry about it unless you start having serious problems, just work on your empathy, emotional understanding/communication, and expression of feelings towards/about others.
>I think I hate everyone.
Do you really? What would you do to them if you had the chance?
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>>17008871
>Do you really? What would you do to them if you had the chance?
Not see them as often.
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i'm what people consider a "career woman" i guess. i'm proud and love what i do and i only keep growing from the industry i work in. i'd still like to raise a family someday though.
i think i'd like to have a house husband.
my boyfriend's career/job isn't really going anywhere and he really doesn't know what he wants to do (currently works at a bar/restaurant as a server), plus he suffers from anxiety. he's also very considerate, hard working, responsible, and knows how to cook and clean... it's also a bonus that he has experience with handling kids from babysitting his nephew so often.
i just wonder if being a house husband would be emasculating or something? would this not work out? are there any house husbands out there that can give their opinions?
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Not a house husband, but I don't see the problem. If you can make due with only one income, anyway. If you weren't already with him, then I'd say you should find someone more on your level, but It's good to see that you're willing to stick with him.
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I'd give up a server job in five fucking seconds to be a stay at home dad. Fuck working in restaurants.
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>>17008764
the thing is, if i find someone on my level, i'm pretty sure they'll make me their house wife because it's the conventional method of raising a family... i really want to keep my career going though, as much as i'd want kids.
but yeah, he's definitely worth it.
>>17008768
yeah i figured... i remember working as a hostess at a higher end restaurant and it was atrocious. i can't even begin to imagine what being a server is like at an everyday kind of restaurant.... my boyfriend often complains about it.