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start planning your suicide

>>17009907
I had a boyfriend once who described himself like you did.

He literally had to say "but I'm not arrogant tho" all the time.
And guess what?
He was increadibly arrogant.

If you've really got all those things going for you then you must have some repulsive personality trait (like being arrogant, entitled, childish, etc) that drives women away. Not saying it's any of those in particular- but there has to be a turnoff or else women would have approached you by now.

Are you ugly? Post a pic if you don't know and I'll tell you

Well, I can say I am not arrogant because I only admit my own virtues in order to describe my self, like in this case. Actually most of my friends have said to my that I am "to modest" in most cases.

>>17009880
Hide

I'm a cunt at heart, so no.

>>17009880
I'm always myself, but I show more of certain parts of myself to certain people.

For example, if I'm at a party, I'm going to show the fun party side of myself, not the quiet focused side of myself.
If I'm at a job interview, I show the respectful leader side of myself, not the silly jokester side of myself.

These are all components who add to who I am as a person, but I show more and less of certain characteristics depending on the situation, as most people do.

Never try to be someone you're not- but developing certain aspects of your personallity that you have yet to fully realize is not a bad idea. For example, if you're introverted and shy, you can still become a confident leader and be "yourself" if you focus on developing that side of yourself.

When people say "be yourself"- they don't mean "don't filter your actions and thoughts"- they mean "don't limit yourself by pretending to be something fake that you arnt happy with"

>>17009872
I hate talking on the phone and bothering people. I also hate being a shill.

I'd rather clean toilets than be a telemarketer.

>>17009927
>>17009927

i feel you but it seems telemarketer is a very easy field to get in with a high turnover right. my craigslist is just filled with telemarketing job ads.

Don't.

Seriously. Don't.

>if i get the job,
You will, because no one else will take it other than people like yourself who don't know better yet.

>what can i expect?
Your boss will fire you at best, and berate you daily for not scamming enough people and threaten you at worst.

>i heard it's mindnumbing.
Calling telemarketing "mind numbing" is like calling prison time a "vacation".

>is the job worth the money?
Unless it's literally the difference between eating that day, no it is not.

>most likely gonna get paid min wage plus commisions or bonuses or whatever.
You will get no bonuses, ever.

Get a job at a fast food place or even walmart if you need some experience or money. Even those are leagues better and not very hard to get.

Any guy she likes instead of me.

>>17009856
The dude fucking ur wife/GF cuz his dick is bigger than urs and ur wife is unsatisfied with ur needle dick. Ur mate get enjoyment seeing ur ass get rammed by chad

>>17009859
>betas literally on suicide watch

I think that's probably just the way you are. Some people aren't straight. Some people aren't monogamous. I don't think you can change it.

>>17009861

This. You can't force yourself to be something you aren't. You're going to slip eventually and break this guy's heart. This isn't going to make either of you happy.

It's too late, you've already embraced hedonism and you can't turn back. I bet you haven't even told him the things you've done right?

You need to find another swinger/cuckold and stop dating normal men. You will always want the taboo and wildness back, denying it will just make make things worse.

I should also mention that I even after masturbating, I can still be aroused, and if I am still horny enough I just masturbate straight through the refractory period up to 5-6 times.

Go do something else and forget your boner is popping,go find other simulation that isn't your penis.

>>17009938
stimulation*

>>17009830

Wait, why are they "shallow" just because they already have a boyfriend that isn't you?

The answer to your question: You're attracted to "the good ones." Attractive, levelheaded, not stupid. Problem is, you're never going to be the only guy who noticed she's great. If she's worth having, there'll be competition. So either compete, or "settle"

>>17009830
It's not that surprising that most quality women have boyfriends. If they're desirable, nice people, then it makes sense that there are others who want to be with them.

however, many relationships this early on end. So it's still very possible to find a great girl right after she's been broken up with/broke up with her BF. Obviously you don't want to rush things at this state, but deff start courting her so that when she's ready, she knows you're an option.

A lot of boys stay friends with the girls they like while they're dating someone else. This way, when the girl breaks up with her BF, she already knows what a great guy you are. You don't want to be like up her butt though or you'll get friend zoned. But keeping a casual friendship where you occasionally run in to her and chat is a good method of keeping your options open.
You wanna have multiple fish on the line. Don't put too much effort in to any one relationship, and don't catch oneitis for some chick

walking on hair

>>17009810
I mean, I have a problem doing regular relationship maintenance even with people that I really respect. I guess its a collage of my apprehension as well as my experience from the past that makes me wary of even being friendly to him.

Anyway, he has stopped getting tutor lessons by me even though his grades are slipping, and Im worried that it was because he felt I didn't know enough or that he wasn't learning anything, but sometimes I think these are irrational and he just doesn't want to do it, as last time I went over, he said he had nothing to do but didnt call me, so we ended up just talking, and I gave him some math exercises to do for the next time we met. He chose not to ask for a second time.

The really strange thing is that when his family and me do get together, he always wants to sit next to me.

I'm just confused. Is my intuition that he's kind of manipulative and underhanded and fake, probably due to his past life, correct? Is he just playing a part? Is it possible I offended him or made him think less of me because I would sometimes have to work to find answers for math questions, or when he'd want to talk "serious" with me and I'd show that there's a lot of things I don't know about life even though I'm older?

>>17009810
>>17009823

At one point I repeated a story he told me to someone else and he said that he never said that. He also said that he knew I didnt like tutoring so I didnt have to do it.

What do you think about this problem ?

>>17009656
Good job senpai
put bitches in their place.
Let them know your won't let them use you as their emotional tampon for free.
I'm proud of you.

If you do that and see these girls on the regular it makes you look like a thirsty tool. Women want to believe that they're special and unique and you're interested in them specifically, even if it's not true. You fucked up by letting them know you were only talking to them at all for the pussy, while probably making no moves or not being very attractive. If you don't know how to play the game, start by being friends with women. Every woman has other friends they can hook you up with. Each woman is a gateway to ten more.

Good, only normies have friends.

>>17009645
You cucked yourself kid.
Best thing you can do is cuck contact and let her had her happiness.

>>17009676
cut* contact.
kek

>>17009680
Lol that's what I was thinking. Fuck.
Should I say goodbye or should I just block her? Definitely not ready for the pain but it's probably the best move

>>17009614

is she being active in these sexual encounters?

>>17009614
Why does everyone think sex has to stop just because you came?
Keep fooling around with her until you get hard again, faggot

Yeah she's active too, usually makes it worse actually.

Come on man yuh need women pumpum not likkle gyal yah need a box pon ya headtop!

Basically you aren't a pedo until you actuallly have sex with a kid.
That said, having CP in your possession isn't a good idea.

>>17009605
Why do you think I have XP
CP? I'm not a pedo..

>>17009541
She has poor personal boundaries. Just continue to strengthen yours and don't feel responsible for her feelings. If you want a good talk would help you guys sort out what you are but she's probably too much of a mess to be able to articulate anything. If anything talking would at least help you to establish your boundaries with her.

She sounds lonely but at least comfortable with you. I felt the same thing with someone, though mostly internalised it since he didn't talk about it much either. However it was awkward when either of us saw someone we knew and we knew we had to explain why we were holding hands or whatever. Because everyone will automatically assume we're an established couple. Since we weren't confirmed between each other, it was difficult to say anything to someone because we obviously didn't want to say something we ourselves didn't agree on. I.e. "yeah we're dating" etc.

In the end we agreed to consider us partners but I kind of wish I didn't. Doesn't mean your girl might feel like me though, just felt like I needed to make a decision right away so just said yes thanks to hormones.

>>17009541
>she didn't want to ruin what we had going
What is it that you have going? How often are you going out, hooking up, etc?

Or you know, anything i can do with my life that wont make me feel like ive fucked everything up already. I've spent most of my time after high school watching videos on youtube and on /v/ and i have no real life skills.

Yesterday i shit blood, like alot, and thought i was gonna die. I wasnt scared i was just happy it might be over. I'm fine now...

I'm not entirely sure what to do with my life, i never realised what my passion is because ive never tried anything.

Somethings been wrong with me since i was young that makes me cripplingly lazy and just extremely unmotivated. one of my ball strings is much thinner than the other and i was worried that that might be not giving me testosterone or some shit because the level of laziness i have is just horrific and i dont know what to do.

I know this is alot to read, im sorry if im bothering anyone with this.

It's up to you, it depends how much it effects you.
I recommend you leave him a written note telling him he smells and you didn't want to embarrass him, and do so anonymously.
Good luck

If he looks like that he might be getting mental health treatment. I wouldn't say anything unless you're friends.

Unless you're lecture hall is the size of a meeting room the other side should be more than far enough away.

I wouldn't bother. There's a guy in one of my classes that smell like a monkey's cage too. But I just try to sit as far away as possible from him. I think he does know that he stinks. It's impossible not to notice it. So what's the point of saying anyway? It's just awkward