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Trying to post this again, posted a bit late yesternight.
I come to you for advice regarding my girlfriend. We've been together for almost a year and a half, which had its ups and downs. We're pretty intimate, both in terms of feels and physical stuff. We've yet to have proper sex, as my thing doesn't fit. No, I'm not well endowed.
Over time it seems she's mostly been the one to be getting hurt or getting insulted over things I don't notice I do. I rarely get bothered by her behavior, but she has admitted to me that many a time she builds up expectations in her head and when I fail to live up to them she bitches out. Usually this resolves with me saying how it's unfair and she agrees.
Regardless, these sort of fights happen a lot; me somehow not living up to her standards or her misinterpreting what I'm doing and flipping on me ahead of time. Now, we always talk through these things, but it gets tiring.
The issue I come to you lot for isn't about this though, but I felt it's a necessary background for what I'm about to ask.
Recently my soldier has been cooperating less and less when things get dirty in the sheets, and to make sure I stiffen up I try and space the sexual encounters out some more. For some reason he stands up better if he has more recovery time.
Surely she'll notice sooner or later though. I feel as though all the fights somehow killed - or rather, made it harder to achieve - any emotional boners.
Wat do, /adv/?
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bump :>
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Maybe you should get out of this dysfunctional shitshow that you call a relationship.
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Perhaps you could speak to your girlfriend about how her constant bitching is starting to effect your confidence and try and work out what steps you need to take to make both of you happier in the relationship.
What is my problem /adv/ ? I'm a straight male, good looking, athletic body, successful and shit, but I hate relationships, marriage and children. In fact, pregnant women disgust me and I look at people with kids as to some subhumans who reproduce like wild animals. I feel like I'm alone in this; all of my friends are getting married and have kids, while I find it disgusting. I do have sexual libido but I'm tired of meeting women. I don't drool over some hotties nor look at them. I'm not asexual I know that. I'm 26 years old and my parents think I will have kids one day but I know I never will. Tbh, everyone who has kids in my eyes looks like a failure. Pregnant women make me sick to my stomache because as I've said, it is like some animal reproduction where you just have to inject semen to produce a creature. I know this sounds harsh but I can't help myself. What is my problem ?
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It's no problem, imo and I'm femanon with kids. This is your opinion and you're entitled to it. However, I wouldn't be surprised if you'll change your mind when you meet the right girl, or when you're childless and 40. Because childless 40 year old men are sad.
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You're too self-centered to allow that kind of responsibility into your life. That could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on whether you're actually doing something productive and beneficial to society with all your free time.
It's not really a problem that you don't want to have kids, but your hyper-judgmental attitude towards anyone who keeps the human race alive is pretty weird. Maybe you should see a shrink if it's starting to affect your social/professional interactions.
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>>17008719
>Because childless 40 year old men are sad.
Not necessarily. A 40-year-old man can still start a family if he wants to. A 40-year-old woman can't. Not to mention, men tend to hit peak attractiveness in their 30s/40s. A healthy bachelor in his 40s with a stable career can pretty much fuck everything that moves. Being a single middle-aged man is like being a single young woman.
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Is it a good idea to travel while NEET?
Or will employers look down on it?
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If you have the time and money to travel, you have the time and money to climb out of NEETdom.
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>>17008707
You're asking if your employer will look down on you traveling while unemployed?
What the fuck are you talking about?
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>>17008727
He's talking about future employers, who will invariably ask what he was doing during this gap in his CV. He wants to know if employers will look down on the answer "Oh you know, traveled a bit, Shagaluf m8."
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Ideally I would wanna have a gf, someone to cuddle and kiss with and yeah I am attracted to grills.
but I would no way in hell wanna have sex, grills is my country and known for being notorious sluts, everyone probably wouldnt wanna be with a guy that dosent wanna fuck.
what do?
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>>17008623
what country?
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>>17008635
yeah, your entire country isnt known for women needing dick every 5 minutes. you guys actually have guys checking out of relationships because they are too impossible to get into, let alone get laid.
there are plenty of normal women who arent upset by a lack of sex, if you refuse to get it up at all then just go online and look for asexual girls or girls who want to sleep around but a steady date.
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ok /adv/ my question has two parts:
1.
> start of a new term
> going to class
> bump into a girl that was in one of my classes first term
> we start talking and it turns out we're going to the same class
> sit next to each other, things are going well
> the first day of class was basically spent introducing yourself
> I got to share the magic number of 3 really interesting stories about myself
> we're getting along really well
> after class we go get something to eat
> spend like an hour talking and eating
> she ended up not liking the food
> it was from some random middle eastern food cart
> we kinda agreed to be in the same group for a project that would be assigned next week
> all in all though I was able to stay charming, interesting, and charismatic
> next week I go to class again
> all charisma is gone
> stuttering, can't really think of things to progress a conversation
> she seemed a little more flustered too, but I might just be imagining that
> were told to walk around and explore for different group members even though I was content with her
> end up throwing my spaghetti across the room to get into a group with her
> end up walking home with her after class
I always make a good first impression. ALWAYS.
After that though, I lose all my charisma and confidence and I can't carry on a conversation!
Am I just a one trick pony? How can I fix this?
2. I got her number cause we're in a group. Every friday the rec center on campus has a movie night in the pool where it shows finding nemo. Should I ask her if she would want to go with me to that? We're meeting up on sunday for a presentation, would it be weird if I asked her out for friday?
> pic related looks like her kinda
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>>17008597
be honest. why is that so hard?
ask her out and if she asks about the stuttering just be honest and tell her you were blown away by her. she will be charmed.
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>>17008597
Wait until you finish the project and then ask her out.
Don't ask her out before becuase it might effect your performance on the project.
If she says no you've lost nothing you still have no gf.
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>>17008625
... but the group is supposed to stick together for the entire term + no group divorces
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Need advice on re-initiating a relationship.
Bf and I broke up a month ago, he moved out a week ago now lives 2 hours away. We broke up because of communication problems, we were inadvertently hurting one another. After some learning and self-examination I found a way to make it work, asked him to stay (this was a week before he left) and he said 'I need to be strong and do this for myself', presumably not believing it could be different. Now it's been 5 days since he left and he's texted me saying that he wants to get together when we've had time to be alone and work on ourselves, go to therapy, break bad habits and be more productive. He says that though he keeps thinking about coming back he's not sure that he isn't deluding himself.
I want him back and am certain our interactions will be more positive. Most of the issues were with me, and my lack of empathy/emotional intelligence. He lives 2 hours away and I have a sick cat so I can't go visit him, I can only text or invite him here. He wants to limit contact so he can focus on himself more, but would obviously be overjoyed if I texted him. I'm worried anything I do will make him miss me less and therefore be less likely to get back together. What would be your next move?
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>>17008569
I should probably add that I was the one who originally ended the relationship.
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You should seriously give this some more time. You're compounding your old relationship mistakes with a new one: thinking that it's a good idea to pursue someone who isn't enthusiastic about you. This is how people end up in miserable situations.
Wait until "thinking about" becomes "enthusiastic about." And if he stops missing you and moves on in the meantime, there could be no clearer proof that his enthusiasm was missing all along.
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>>17008586
I think you're correct.
I'm anxious to get back together, but I think that contacting him now will make him less interested (you want what you can't have). If I give him time, he's likely to think about me more in terms of when we first met, rather than the sadness and hurt when he left 5 days ago.
>>17008586
>Wait until "thinking about" becomes "enthusiastic about."
How will I know? When should I contact him? Ideally he should be the one texting me, but if he doesn't, how long until I text him with a "hey! do you remember the name of xxxxx" and feel out the situation?
He plans to come up sometime to see me, maybe stay over, or at the least pick up his things he left. When he does, what do I do?
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Can somebbody help me???
A black hat is phising me!!!
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>>17008544
shut down all network connection.
log into network on different computer
update security and change passwords on EVERYTHING
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Its not a worm is it??
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>>17008544
Wear a different colored hat.
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i'm a recovering neet. i have zero professional references and an empty resume.
i've been at my security guard job for 3 months. i hate it, and desperately want to quit and find another security guard company.
but i want to use my current job as a reference so i have a better chance of getting hired for a next job.
how long do i have to stay with this job before i can use them as a solid reference?
4 months? 5 months? a year?
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>>17008505
who in the pic bruv?
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With no other references and an empty resume? At least a year
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a year
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Hey /adv/, first time poster here, so bare with me.
I have always had a passion for video gaming (like most people here I'm sure) and I have a steady group of interesting guys to play with often. I'd love to stream/record our games because I genuinely think it would be fun and possibly others might find it entertaining as well.
However, I tend to become blinded by my passions so I'm seeking an outside perspective.
Is this going to be worth my time? (Busy college student so don't have a lot of down time) is YouTube/twitch too flooded for this idea to go anywhere? And other general advice or comments, please.
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You're not going to have enough time, and every kid and his dog does this nowadays. Plus, it might turn playing video games into a chore. I wouldn't bother.
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Nope! It's really this simple: you need to have a passion for streaming and entertaining if you want those activities to be worth your time.
If you have a passion for games, spend all of that time playing games. Don't spend it on streaming/recording/editing and so on because you'll be very let down by the result of your effort.
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>>17008490
Thanks guys, I had my doubts about the whole thing. Your advice is appreciated.
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Feeling lonely but not alone?
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I've been feeling really alone and isolated recently. The thing is I have friends and people to do things with. I just don't feel happy? I think it's primarily I haven't had anyone I can be really close with in a while. And I'm not strictly talking about a relationship. I mean as in a really good friend where I can be myself around, I guess?
Does any of this make sense? I think I might be depressed, but I don't really know what to do.
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>>17008413
Also I think it's fair to say that maybe breaking up with gf might have made me feel like this a lot more recently. But the break up happened three months ago. It was a mutual break up since she was a foreign exchange girl and there was a very low chance of us seeing each other much.
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>>17008413
Being happy is directly related to how much shit you have dealt with.
suffering in some way make everything else seem so much better. If you are not changing your life regularly then everything will start to go grey.
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>>17008447
I think this is true. I have been feeling like I'm living day to day life on repeat.
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How difficult is it to move to/live in Canada?
I ask as a skilled white female college graduate, not looking for a liberal paradise, but for a country where my health condition doesn't mean that I risk death from losing my job.
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>>17008395
depends on how you go about it. marriage is easiest. just trying to become a citizen is a bit harder.
either way 'how difficult' shouldn't be of worry. lets pretend its a scale. would you stop trying if it was a 6 on the difficult scale? a 7/10? an 8?
how easy do you want it to be? i mean its your fucking life, so why not apply and find out.
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>>17008395
Canada doesn't accept American health care refugees.
But you can easily sneak over, it's not like they got a fucking wall with armed guards up there.
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I'm American and went to school in Montreal for a few years. Due to some personal mental health issues I had to leave school but I really liked living up there so I went to an immigration lawyer to see if it was possible to change my status. The short of it was that the easiest way to get residence if you have no family connections is to marry a canadian, but that takes years. The other route is to get a work visa but for that you'd need to have a post graduate degree and years of experience in your field, additionally your employer would need to show that they attempted a job search and were incapable of finding a qualified canadian for this job, which is pretty much impossible.
I still have her card here though so I suppose you could call her office and have a phone consultation about this, because this was back in 2009 so I may be misremembering or the laws may have changed.
Her name is Andrea De Rocquigny website is goimmigrationcanada.com
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yeah but you wont be able to work above the table or get any of the healthcare benefits OP wants, additionally if the police catch wind of you (which they will eventually) you'll get deported and blacklisted so you wont ever be able to visit canada again, even as a tourist.
This is really embarrassing but I got scammed by some dude in the Phillipines pretending to be a cam girl. Basically got me to pull my dick out on camera and threatened to send the video to family and stuff. I already sent money, but I'm hoping for some advice here.
Should I tell my bank I lost my card? I haven't made any purchases since I took cash out and sent it. I could say I left it at the last restaurant I was at and someone picked it up.
Also I have the dude's name. Neonel Refil; Manilla Phillipines. If someone wants to fuck this guy over feel free. Piece of shit human.
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Pic unrelated
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>>17008380
Why would you be afraid of your family seeing your dick? It's just your dick.
Do they not know that you're a straight male without a gf? That you get lonely and watch porn? They'd understand, and laugh at you for falling for this, and that's probably it. But now you're throwing money at this, too.
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Yeah I tried to think like that, but they were gonna send it to my mom. If they ask for more I already said I don't give a fuck, it is just my dick.
It was a moment of panic desu
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Older guys of /adv/, when did you start getting fat? As in starting to grow a gut and getting softer in everything? I'm 23 and still have a youthful tight thin body. wanna know how much longer I have left like this.
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>>17008361
One doesn't magically become fat. It's a combination of poor diet, lack of activity, genetics. Generally speaking as you get older you require less calories. Just don't overeat or become lazy.
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when I got a gf who wanted me to get fatter as a fetish thing
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When I was 12 I started getting really fat, because I quit going to school and played WoW all day.
I then lost over 100 pounds, and have maintained a nice healthy chubby body with little to no effort for the past 5 years or so.
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How do i tell a girl i like her
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>>17008348
>"hey wanna go out sometime? ive been wanting to go to [resturaunt], but it'd be lame to go alone"
>"o-oh. okay."
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>>17008348
context is key faggot, how do you know her?
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>>17008348
>hey you want to hang out?
Yea/no
>Ok
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So, my laptop is kinda fucked. I need to send it away to have it fixed. Two part question...
1. How do I ensure that the repair people don't see the weird hentai I've browsed?
2. What kind of laptop should I buy, if I need a new one?
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>>17008330
1. Remove your hard-drive
2. Alienware
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They are used to seeing weird shit, honestly don't worry about it
Asus 100%, couldn't reccomend them more m8
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go with a macbook pro, but wait for the new ones to come out in a couple months. better processors.