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>>17008319
this is probably a troll, but in case someone takes it seriously...

>Should I cheat?
no. cheating is scummy. the only time it's even remotely non-scummy is if you're married and your controlling dickhead spouse won't sign the divorce papers even though the marriage is clearly over and you've already moved on. even then I wouldn't advise it, in case they find out and decide that using it to fuck you over in the divorce is more fun than withholding the divorce.

if you think that's too white-knight-y, here's and alternate answer: if you like lots of drama and screaming (the bad kind), and if you think it's okay to renege on promises you made to someone just because you think they *might* have reneged on promises they made to you...then go for it.

anyway there are other reasons people forget to reply to texts, even from a partner:
>they forgot
>they're mad at you
>the text you sent didn't sound important enough to warrant a reply
>they didn't get the text
without knowing what the text said, or how things were between you two the last time you spoke, who knows.

>>17008319

if its worth cheating over, its worth breaking up over.

>>17008319
>bike trips for work so she leaves town for weeks
so, she's the bike and they are all riding her

>weeks
damn..

>>17008310
she wants your dick bro 100% sure.

>>17008310
I wouldn't even think twice about it.

probably a shittest

ignore

>>17008299
>he has a daughter

you realize he might end up doing it to his kid, right? if you being his cousin didn't stop him from getting his shit on, who's to say that she might not end up being abused too? i think you'd be doing the little girl a favor, desu.

Whats the age difference? Between you 2 that is and im sorry to have to ask but what kind of stuff went on?

>>17008299

... Because I know he has a daughter and maybe will think twice, ya know? Because now he'd know what it'd feel like to have your daughter be molested and it'll hold him back. So I let it be.

It's been seven years since that, and my mother tells me that he's been in jail since October of last year and she's been holding this information from me for Lord knows what reason until she mentions talking to my cousin who told her that this could help with her legal status. Well. That explains it.

Thing is though, he's in jail FOR THE EXACT SAME CHARGE. Like. He just did it again. So now I'm hella mad because dude. You had a chance and ya blew it. Now I just don't want him in the outside world anymore.

So I go to the police department to get the report that I filed back then and... It's all full of bull crap. From the very beginning. It starts off with "Victim doesn't know the assaultant's name nor birth date or where it happened" Even though I remember clearly stating that I knew his first name and second last name (Heaven bless mexican culture what with the paternal and maternal last names).

So I'm like what.

And obviously, when he was questioned he gave out all this false information to cover his ass.

Now we go to the point. What do I do!? I mean, if I go to the police and tell them of the previous charges and they see all that crap, will they even take me seriously? Just.. Damn. Nobody ever deserves to have this happen to them, and I know I was dumb for not following through but he just doesn't deserve to walk the streets ever again.

>>17008287

>I don't know if I should set up a camera, because I don't know what her circumstances are that led her to steal. I can only guess that it's for selfish reasons, since it seems she's taking things she likes for herself. But what if she's forced to be doing it? Or is struggling somehow? Should I leave her alone and overlook her stealing? I am also worried about retaliation if she's in a gang.

Theft is not acceptable, regardless of circumstance. It's not an act of charity to allow someone to rob you. And you're not the only one being affected, as you said, she's robbing your neighbors too. Set up a camera and report her. Also, tell your landlord about the problem and demand that he come up with a better system to protect the mail.

>>17008300
My landlord couldn't care less. The neighbor I spoke to didn't seem to care very much either. It would be up to me to install the camera and report her. Even though I'm mad, I feel sorry for her because turning her in could mess up her life more than she's messed up mine.

>>17008300
Not OP, but while I generally agree with you, I would like to add that in situations where someone is stealing just to survive, I think the best thing to do is leave food/water/etc. for them and otherwise protect your stuff. That way they still get what they need but are (hopefully) no longer stealing from you. But yea, I wouldn't just let them continue stealing from me because they need it.

>>17008234
>"All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others"

>>17008234

neither is entirely correct. your female friend is more accurate. people arent equal. someone looks at two people and automatically knows which one is hotter. he talks to them and immediately finds one to be more fun.

its just the way bonding works. that being said, everyone is equal in the sense that you have the same opportunities to change. no one judges you on 'social skills' really, but rather the type of person you are. if you are a good person, and a fun person, it shines through despite social awkwardness.

i think the issue here is you are using 'inferior and superior and equal' as opposed to just different. people are different. people like certain differences.

and 'social skills' can be developed. to insist they wont is just giving up. its like saying 'no one will ever love me cuz im fat'. someone will. they will just also have some major default. but you an also just lose weight. the minute you say you 'cant' lose weight, you have given up.

Of course people aren't "equal." Some people have many talents, some people have very few. Some people are widely considered attractive, some are widely considered ugly. Some people are rich, some people are poor. Some people are smart, some are stupid. And all grey areas in between.

Nobody's "equal," that's a ridiculous concept. When people talk about equality, they're speaking in a LEGAL sense, they're talking about giving everyone equal OPPORTUNITIES to live and love and succeed. That doesn't mean everyone WILL succeed, it just means you're not shutting down talent or intelligence just because the person comes from the wrong family, or ethnic group, or whatever.

>>17008182

thatsj ust being sad. you are mixing it up with crying. yes you are close to crying but its not like oyu got some psychological block preventing it.

>tfw no qt3.14 anon to cry on my shoulder over a beer and some mario kart

makes me wanna cry myself

>>17008191
I'm absolutely shit at mario cart and I'm not gay

>>17008213

its not gay to cry bro.

Lol exchange? Wtf is this? Theres a reason no one is responding

>>17008180
Like a student exchange

>>17008187
Yea idk go to the zoo or some shit, why did you swich in the first place

When do you have to take it? I recommend niacin and 120 oz of water a day. Do not take niacin day of test, drink at least 64 oz of water before taking the test day of. Make sure you are peeing clear

>>17008189
Not any time soon, i havent triex to get a job yet because i know my piss is dirty, i just cant stop wanting to smoke, but it has to be clean asap so i can be sure ill pass a test

>>17008166
What kind of job are you trying to get? Most places don't test. Shit, I worked at a youth detention facility, and I didn't even get tested.

>>17008131
The military will take care of all your needs. it isn't for everyone though i did 9 years in the air force and got out. some situiations the military will put you through are completly unfair and you will have to suck your shit up and deal with it because they pay you good money for it.

>>17008131
No 12 an hour is enough to live on your own you're just being a bitch

Why are they kicking you out? Most parents say that as a threat and then when you begin to rage in a fit about how they ruined your like etc bla bla bla they stop threatening you.

Anyone?

I have an Asus. I think it's pretty good. I use it for work and mostly browsing the net, but it can run games fairly well.

>>17008231
Seconded. Asus is great quality vs. price.

>>17008000

I might ad that I live in Sweden, yes I know, land of the "equal sex". So I don't expect anyone to understand who lives in a country with the mentality that "well, whats the problem, just smack her around a bit" or "What? You mean your woman is educated?!?" or "You need to man up, and make her do the woman stuff, while you stretch out on the couch!".
Its thinking like that that has made Sweden the nr1 top divorce country in the world. Because the females living here hast he exact same right as the men, and they damn well know it. They know they don't need no man to support them, they know they have just as much a free will and so on. So that just doesn't work. But how the hell do I make her respect me? I have tried just about anything to get her to stop focusing on everything I do bad, but it just wont help it seems, its seriously in her nature to just nag on me day in and day out. And I'm seriously starting to feel like a no good person, like I am less than everyone else, and all I do is try to fix this relationship by being the nice guy. Hell, I have said several times, that if I where to treat her, the way she treats me, Id be kicked out the door in less than a day, and I think she agrees on this!

>>17008000
>8 years
>3 year old child
>finished college and all that shit
>not married

Of course she's going to be a bitch to you

how has it been in the beginning of the relationship? what changed?
i get that quiet alot. the woman runs the family. they are like mini-dictators, commanding their husbands around.
i don't really know where this is coming from. probably from her being threated like a princess all her life, having the whole world revolving around HER. may i ask what her family background is? has she EVER faced ANY difficulties in life?

>>17007993
I hate to break it to you OP, but these things are ridiculously hard to win. There is one piece in every set that is essentially impossible to find. The people that have the piece you need will also have the pieces you have. So they wouldn't really be inclined to make a deal. I tried for years when I was a teenager and the most I won was $20.

>>17008012

they actually tend to break them up geographically from what I heard, so the best way to get them is to do what OP does, collaborate online to see who gets what pieces and flil in the blanks.

>>17008059
>they actually tend to break them up geographically
Actually for about a decade they weren't "broken up" at all. Some higher up at the company which prints the pieces would pull all of the high value ones and give them away to people as he saw fit. None of the big winners from that time period were random people who pulled the pieces off of a french fry carton.

It's really foolish to trust things like this. As another example, did you really think that most (or any) of the people who call into radio station contests are real? They pay people to act out a script and record it in advance.

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Bumping fo shit's and giggles

I like the one where trump is the "last american president"

anyways, you have a fallback option of living with your dad if things go wrong, so take a change. You'll probably need to find a second job, yes, income is crucial. But if you find a place with roommates it'll be a lot cheaper to live, and you can get by pretty okay if you're willing to cut down on expenses for awhile - cheap food can be found if you cook for yourself, alternate transportation if you don't have any, etc.

There's no time like the present to become self-sufficient, give it a shot.

I'm a 21 year old male in a college/tourist town thats a wageslave, making around 1400/month and I can't afford moving out yet.

So yeah, you'll definitely want another job at the very least.

depends on what your goals are and the context is, how insecure you are, etc.

generally though you're going to want to take the high road at all times, keep your smugness at the fact that you've won under the surface. If you cause conflict or drama, your BF will probably be mad at you, regardless of her role in it (I know I would be). If you let any b.s. from the ex just wash over you and let it go (like a mature adult would), then you'll be fine.

exes should be seen as opportunities, not threats. In reality it's hard to do, but in the right circumstances high quality friendships can emerge and if you play it right, resource flow can go like this:

Carl -> SJW -> your bf -> you

>>17007952
What good could come of meeting up with his ex? It seems like a rather pointless endeavor.

>>17007976
This

You're not compatible with him. Best to talk to him about breaking it off.

>>17007909
You don't meet a standard that he has, and it's hard for him because he likes you.
He sees sex/slutty behavior/cheating as a bad thing. Even if you don't, there's nothing you can do to change his opinion on that.

Think about it this way- what if you were in love with a boy and you found out that he had murdered someone before you met? You would be upset because that past action reflects a part of his character that you have not seen for yourself, and that you dislike.

Now obviously sex and murder are not on the same level- but cheating and sleeping around is still seen as a "negetive" thing by most people.
it's true that you cannot change it because it is in the past, but you still have to live with the consequences of your actions.

Your old hope of salvaging this relationship is to demonstrate that you've changed, and that you are not the same person that you were before. But in order to do that, you need to acknowledge that what you did before was wrong. If you don't think that what you did was wrong, then you and him are not compatible.

>>17007909
How can he know that you are not just in a "slump" in your cheating ways? I'm not saying what you have done in the past is wrong in any objective sense, but my personal feelings about cheating is that it can be the most emotionally damaging thing to do to a person. You may very well love him and will never cheat again, but just the thought that my wife could do that to me would be grounds to ruin my day and the entire relationship, too.

I sort of hope he breaks up with you so that you can both find other people with more "similar opinions on sex". If you had an open relationship and were both okay fucking other people, more power to you. But cheating is devastating to someone. Get your shit together.

Tl;dr he's not in a " slump" of he feels that way and you will likely break up because of it. My condolences.