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Can you afford a sugar baby? Look on seekingarrangement.

You get your life sorted out and find people that won't judge you for not having previous relationships. The only validation you need is your own.

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>>17007222

>bro trust me a gf ain't all that great
>just love le single life mang

Fucking Normies I swear

>>17007205
OP Clarifying some shit: She's told me about two guys she's been interested in before. Gone on dates with before. I take this is a strong fucking friendzone sign. She's also never really had a boyfriend, but any girl should fucking know not to tell a guy she's interested in that she's into another guy... right? That's where I'm getting the mixed signals.

Also, there are a lot of differences between us like we have very starkly different views on things. She's vegetarian. I love to eat and hence, am not vegetarian (I don't like to call myself a foodie but I'm a bit of a fanatic). She wants to save the world through grassroots movements and power to the people and all that jazz. I don't even know if I believe in democracy. We're pretty much opposite ends of the spectrum on a lot of things but we're both very passionate people I guess. We get along very well somehow, but will have ridiculously big fights sometimes too - over seemingly insignificant things that basically boil down to clashes in ideology.

I'm 33 and 'getting your life together' is fucking all over the place at this age range for friends and relationships.

I've friends with two children who are married. I've friends with children who are divorced and remarried. I've friends who moved countries. Who moved back again. Friends trying to buy a house. Friends with houses. Friends with multiple houses. Friends living at home. Friends living in large house shares. Friends still trying to get a job. Friends with cars. Friends without.

You make it sound like the decision to date is a fixed deal. What happened to spending time with someone and seeing if mutual attraction develops then making a move? You don't have to declare it and be like "whelp, I knew you'd reject me anyway so at least that is out of the way".

Sounds like you are insecure because you still live at home, but you admit that plenty of others are in a similar situation at your age in that city?

I was homeless from 17 until 22. I went to university at 23. I got married at 24. I dropped out of university and eventually got divorced at 26. I got a steady job at 28. I lived in a house share with single guys until I was about 29. I bought a house at 30. I bought a car at 30. I finished my degree at 31. I got my first 'real' job at 31.

My girlfriend is 25 and has just finished her MA, she is just learning to drive.

Seriously it is a cluster fuck. I'm only highlighting this because it seems to be the root of an insecurity which is encouraging you to try and shoot this down with a declaration right at the start instead of letting things develop.

I know a girl who is stunning. She is so far out of the league of everyone I could think of. She is on a fast track career program to becoming a senior academy manager. For the last 10 years she has basically been sleeping on her average boyfriends sofa who works part time in music/arts production and she loves him more than anything. He is completely average, poor and bald.

>>17007217

Thanks dude. That's how I feel too - and honestly I feel like I'm not sure if there's mutual attraction there. For once I'm not looking for whether she's staring at me - I just have a really good time when I'm with her. We went out a few days ago after work for drinks/bar food and we just really enjoyed each other's company. I don't like to put a label on things. And you're right - getting your life together isn't a one-and-done thing. It's an ongoing thing that really never fucking ends. The real reason I feel insecure is because I'm a fucking cynical pessimistic and depressed fuckwit.

Bumping for my sad soft dick

Surely some input..

Pills. It doesn't mean you need to use them forever. Use them as temporary aid until your anxiety is gone. Speak to a doctor.

>>17007162

I had friends. Then I got a gf and spent all my time with her so I lost my friends. Then my gf got sick of me and dumped me.

Now I have no gf and no friends

Your friends will most likely steal your gf

Friends are friends, friends could be your best friend, friends can turn into family, or your worst enemy and gfs are girls that should be friends first, then you date, then you start a relationship, hopefully become lovers and possibly start a family.
Its your choice because, eventually you will have to choose

Craigslist

Are you serious??

>Apply for job in foreign country.
>Phone interview stage one, phone interview stage two.
>Job offer.
>Pack bag and leave country behind.

That was 3 years ago and I never looked back

>>17007196
Are you American? Not OP but I'd love to work in Vancouver but I would never be able to afford US income tax on top of whatever Canada takes.

>>17007145
baby is black, for once.

>>17007145
If you've never heard about it, say goodbye to your sleep for the first few months. Other than that, enjoy. It is great. It will change you for the better.

>>17007150
yeah that'd be a shock, but no. its definitely mine. what's some stuff i can't predict through common sense, gonna run at me
for the next 37 weeks?

>>17007133
Did you drink anything before the ejaculation? I had this problem a while back... It was because after ejaculation, urination is difficult for your urethra or some shit... I forgot.

>>17007133
>What do you reckon?
A Urologist

>>17007133
It could be Amata.

>>17007081
Kill yourself faggot, or apologies for your sins and i dont mean to god

>>17007083

but wouldn't you think that you can apologize so much before people doubt your sincerity

Embrace the evil within. Destroy what you hate and build what you love. disconnect yourself from morality, that illusion will only hold you back. Manipulate and control everything around you into a perfect chaos and learn to enjoy it.
Why stop if you can power through and build upon your dominant trait even if its being a bad person

Well, it's hard to tell what made her feel like she "can't do this". Maybe you where too depressed? What do you think are her reasons? It's a shity way to end a relationship though.

Ps: did you save that image from /adv/ a while ago?

>>17007079
I'm not outwardly depressed, I've gotten very good at coping with shit over the years, this particular event is just hitting me hard.
She kind of rambled on about not seeing a future with me, being scared, wanting to sort her own life out and still missing her ex. The usual bullshit, but none of it was an specific reason. I think she just didn't have it in her to tell me she didn't want me, which would have been a whole lot easier.

And no, I believe I saved it from a gallery somewhere

>>17007082
Thats just how women are, they rather help themselves then help others, she saw no future with you because you couldnt accomplish what she desired, just move on and forget about her anon

Dick size--something that really doesn't matter.

Girls aren't fucking you for your dick. They're fucking you because they want to fuck you. And, considering you're here, you're probably not attracting girls who want to fuck you just to fuck.

Get in a relationship. Your dick size doesn't matter. Learn to use other things. Get her off. She'll be fine.

You'll be fine.

there's no way in this earth you can get it any bigger. you have what you have

you just have to play with the cards you got dealt with

>I'm just not interested in Fiction writing
That's not a real degree and nobody will hire you after you're done with it.
Drop it immediately and move back in with mum and dad then figure out something else to do.

Or maybe just become NEET. Whatever.

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>>17007031
What's NEET lol

My major is writing but I might switch to comm or sociology cause I will graduate sooner

If you want to work with the environment, they have classes for that. Meet with your advisor.

>Thefuck do i do if she turns to be pregnant?

If she gets more collaborative, then you can see what you do.

Otherwise, a paternity test. No matter how pissed off she gets, you get a paternity test. As a man, that´s pretty much the only thing the law allows you to do to protect yourself in this kind of situation.

And if it turns out to be mine? I really really dont like the idea of an abortion but my life would be shit with this lil soul in it. I am in the second year of college. This birth means that i would have to work to pay her ass.

>>17007036
What you think about an abortion is completely irrelevant because you can´t force her to get it unless you go full villain and put something on her coffee. If she wants the baby, she´s having it, and you´re paying. Get a lawyer and go over the laws and stuff, because it changes from place to place, but in most of the world and most of the USA you can´t do anything but to follow whatever path she wants.

I know getting a child now has a huge potential to ruin you. That´s why you should get a paternity test. It´s, I repeat, THE ONLY THING you can do, unless you´re in one of the few places where you actually have any choice.

If the child´s yours, then you´ve gotta pay. I´d suggest pulling family favor here. See if you can go back to live with your parents, work as little as possible just to get as much money as you need to pay monthly, and dedicate the next couple years to your studies. Your goal is to finish college ASAP, because you never know what life might bring or how you might get fucked over. If that child´s yours and she doen´t want you in her life, then you study like there´s nothing else in your life. You NEED that paper if you want any guaranties of a decent future, and every year you take is another year where something could go wrong and make it impossible for you to keep studying.

Also, don´t let the poor thing grow up without a father. Some lone mothers do a good job, but most fuck up many things, or just can´t teach certain things. A child needs a paternal figure. And you´ll probably change your mind after some time, or after you´re more settled, and want to spend some time together. Keep that in mind before doing like so many and abandoning all claims and rights to the child.

And in any case, try to improve your relationship with her, because if it´s yours you´re gonna be tied together for a long time.

>>17006965
Thats just general human nature my friend.
Our life is an endless struggle. We set our goals and are rewarded with a brief moment of relief or bliss or whatever you want to call it. But we will never achieve a permanent state of happiness...

>>17006965
It's the "what now?" syndrome.

You devote all your energies to achieving some goal(s) and when you get there it's a letdown because the striving and anticipation were a big part of the fun.

Set new goals. They don't have to be financial. Decide to lose weight or learn Chinese or play the piano or help the less fortunate or anything. The striving will be the fun.

Take a deep breath.
You know the 'je ne sais quoi", wich not everyone gets.
Maybe this is that "chemical depression".
I would suggest seeing a phychologist, speaking to him/her, and then maybe seeing a psychiatrist.
The first will give advice, the second will give drugs. A drug free life is always better, but some times necessary.
This sounds like depression. You are aware to the goods in you life, but still struggle with feeling it.
It's not bad. Just maybe necessary of help.
Or try: volunteering. (sounds stupid, but why not try it? What will it hurt????). Soup kitchen - delivering foods, clothing - working in those sad/bad areas with an organization to help the less fortunate. Try 2 hours a week. Really. Something so small can do so big, for you and for them.
What is there to lose?!

I know that feeling man. It was the first time I ever felt like that before. I've gone through heartbreak but that was the first time I couldn't cry even though I wanted to. You feel like crap but your emotions won't come out and show it neither will your body let you.

To move on, as many would say. Delete her and everytbiing about her. Number, pics, everything remove her completely so you don't have things reminding you of her

Time.
Just because you don't cry and know that it is for the best doesn't mean there isn't a loss. It just means that you didnt react the way you see on TV. And that is normal. But it is still a loss. Take the time to think about it. Accept it properly. And LEARN. It is always about learning.
It's okay

>>17007038
Thank's anon, i'm just so busy thinking about her and are losing sleep etc..
Not sure how to put it, but I wanna move on as fast as I can - So I can enjoy life as I used to, but this without her.

It really doesn't matter what you do, because your relationship is fucked either way

It is a hard situation when you're a larger girl. Going to the gym, scarier than jumping out of a plane.
Maybe try cooking for the both of you. Become a great cook for the healthy foods. That can help. And ask her to do things with you, like going for nice walks, jogs. Tell her you want her to be part of YOUR fitness. But the gym, that's a scary place. For a big reason of all of those hot girls.
Try that first.
And try doing other things, like movies and those walks.
If she is reminded all of the time that you love her, maybe she will feel more motivated.

But try doing things together. That's my advice.
Through that, start choosing things that will be more fit: swimming, walking, cooking great healthy foods.

Maybe you could encourage her by working out with her in less public places, then segueing to the gym when she builds her confidence. It's worth talking about