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Banter him back

>he can't take the bantz

Some of the most common ways that he disrespects me is by interrupting me in the middle of when I'm speaking, before I make my point, and assuming my point before I make it (usually he gets the point wrong) he "responds".

Another thing he does is wait until I'm done speaking, then change the topic completely before anyone has a chance to respond to what I just said.

Sometimes, he will interrupt me and just change the topic completely.

He also likes to sometimes position himself in front of me in "circles" so that I am blocked out. He does it unconsciously, but it says a lot about what he's thinking.

>>17094351
Depending on your ages, beat the shit out of him.

You should call him out on his shit in front of people. In front of your friends, when he disrespects you, say it out loud, and tell him how much he is acting like a child.

What exactly is he doing?

You sound like you have a lot of pent up stress. I used to be like this because I was avoiding working on the major stressors in my life. Do you have anything like that?

There are professional people out there that are only solely to help you with this kind of issue.

A therapist isn't just for crazy people, and even the most normal of people need a little help in their life every once in a while.

A professional therapist would find the best options in helping you with this little anger management issue you have and help you live a better life in the process. It is a win-win!

>>17094337
Can't hold a job because of my stutter, haven't been remotely attracted to anyone in a couple of years (maybe because my last girlfriend treated me like trash) and have a shit relationship with my parents who I still live with because I'm 18 & can't hold a job because of the stutter. That's probably it but I can't really fix any of that.

Energy drink give you a caffeine boost and a sugar rush while alcohol lowers your inabisions, a good combo since alcohol can often make you tired as well <3

Hard Liquor + Energy Drink = Fun

They make you energetic and feel less drunk, but in reality you'll be very drunk. It's hard on your heart and might make you go crazy

She a bible thumper?

Does she have another man?

Can't make bricks without clay, man.

>>17094309
She's not in a relationship and she's not christian. She was seeing a guy since february but it wasn't serious and they barely meet.

It could be a peer group issue. Is she a popular girl/are you a popular guy?

DONT FALL IN LOVE WITH A GIRL YOUVE NEVER MET

Online dating is often a numbers game man, sorry to break it to you but she's probs got 100's of guys messaging her and your not the only one being ignored

You'll probably need to lower your standards or meet a girl in real.

>>17094355
Thanks for the advice. I completely understand that on a rational level but it's not so easy to do ahaha. I was hoping letting it out would help that.

>>17094285
Check 100000 girls online, message 10000, get 1000 replies get good with 100 of them, fuck 10 of them and get one of them to be your girlfriend. This technique is known as "fishing with a large net". It works really well even if you have high standards. If you don't get replies you need to git gud at your profile and at messages. You will, eventually.

it'll grow out in like a week, who gives a shit

Dude do whatever. Go bald, use a wig who fucking cares you pencil.

>>17094234
I'm gonna shave my head after this semester of college. I hate dealing with my hair. Go for it OP. Try something new.

no, and you wouldn't pass such a test anyways. what there is an essay or two and going to the admissions office to talk to them.

>>17094230
Look into a transfer degree from an acceptable community college. If you get a 2 year degree from a 2 year school and then transfer into university, they won't even look at your high school grades. Just be sure you do well at the 2 year school.

Community College and regionally accredited online universities are both options, and you can transfer from either one.

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>>17094176
I unfortunately have to leave the following day for work-related reasons. We talk a bit that morning/about the weather etc, she's super busy with her studies (we have finals coming up) and so we part ways. Again, in public it's like nothing happened, although she did give me a look and a smile at one point.

Next day, I'm busy all day working, but I text her at like 8pm to ask her about some band she told me about the other day. She texts the next morning (i.e. this morning), a one-line answer kind of thing, and I texted back but didn't hear from her till this evening - she apologises, she was working since 11am and had to do overtime, we talk a bit about that, I ask her when she's heading back to the college and she says it's weather dependent.

I won't see her until either tomorrow evening or Monday. We'll be there Monday/Tuesday most likely, although she could stay longer, I don't know. I'm conscious that we've been in this kind of weird limbo for nearly a week now, only speaking every so often via text - and she doesn't text like instant answers, nor do I, we kind of text and get answers back to one another every 15/20 minutes or even an hour.

I haven't even had a proper conversation with her in person yet about things. I feel like we should go on a date, should I just text her tomorrow about this and just ask her if she wants to do something Monday or Tuesday? I'm worried I'm going to come on too strong, or text her too much or something, I don't want to scare her off because she's obviously very shy/awkward and she's also very busy. We both are, in fact.

Just offer to hang out with her, but you need to find out where to do it and what you are going to do based on what she likes.

The texting is your friend for now. Use it.

>>17094188
Ok, things are kind of complicated by the fact that our college is in a very rural and isolated area and there's nothing to do in the immediate vicinity, apart from hang out in the dorm common room - hence my suggestion of TV or something. The weather is also going to be terrible Monday and Tuesday.

I don't have a car yet unfortunately, but I'm planning on sorting that issue very soon. She, on the other hand, does have a car. It feels a bit shitty asking her to drive us but I could pay for whatever we do. I know she likes movies, but the nearest cinema is like 30-40 miles away, and she'd have to drive that.

We could go to the nearest town for dinner or something, she did that with her friend the day she asked me out (they were working together or something I think, like I said she's shy). That's one possibility, I suppose.

> get very angry and trash talk him like shit
> then i guess day twos booze kicks in
> end up forgiving him because I wanna get back to how things were
> kind of takes advantage of me being drunk and we do the sexting
> wake up next day and we talk but no instant responds like before
> he tells me he wants to meet me
> then after a bit he says one day before that he can’t go to meet me anymore
> and says he would rather be with me than him (before he said the opposite thing)
> i kind of change the topic
> he starts seening me on facebook (basically just reading my messages and not messaging back)
> Feel so fucking confused if i should even bother with him anymore
> notice i have mixed feelings about him like i like him 50% but i hate him 50%
> and now i guess I’m here venting out my feelings please help me I don’t know what to do

>>17094163
Just move on. What else can you do?

>>17094163
>>17094161

That was a terrifyingly strange and dysfunctional story. You're both weirdos and I don't know what else to say.

No. Stay on 7.

Definitely keep 7. It's the pinnacle of Windows performance and style, in my opinion.

Don't upgrade from 7 straight to 10 unless you want a fresh reinstall. There are so many glitches and problems from going from 7 to 10.

>Continued


Decide i want to become a doctor or a pharmacist. FOR MY OWN SAKE and because it's what would give me the most satisfaction
>Decide to aim for medschool and pharmschool, i'll just build my work ethic during the summer. As soon as i have a good work ethic,if i can concentrate normally,i know i can make it
>I got in some shitty program in university some people i know used as a bridge to get in med or pharm. I just need to pull straight A's and straight A+'s for 3 semester and i'm pretty assured to get in
>Mom and eldest bro don't believe in me and believe i'll fail miserably.
>I ignore them

>Spend my whole fucking summer gradually radically changing myself. A first i was no different than your typical 4channer NEETwith a crippling social anxiety and non-existant self-esteem.
>But from the moment i got up to the moment i went to bed, 100% of my efforts were dedicated into changing the person i am in every fucking aspects of life
>Gradually changed values,mindset,habits,way of thinking,way of reacting to situations,way of seeing the world,way of interacting with others,EVERY FUCKING THING
>I knew i was gonna have an anatomy class during the first semester of university, i asked for the 500 page pdf to someone who used the shitty program bridge to get in dentist school

>I couldn't concentrate for shit but every single day,i spent 4 hours non-stop with no break trying to read, i didn't allow myself to be distracted by ANYTHING,even when it was friends asking me to come out or wanting to take me on a double date, Nothing came before the building of my discipline
>Continued next post

>>17094170

>Continued

>While i'm radically changing myself. For the first time of my entire life, i truly feel alive, for the first time,i truly feel happy. For the first time,i'm becoming someone and i'm loving the person i am and the person i'm becoming
>By the time university started, i could study 8 hours straight with no break. My discipline was good enough. I has stopped browsing ALL , spent 2 hours max on internet per day and i'd often spend less than an hour a day. I wouldn't touch to internet before 8pm,i'd always stop by 10 pm
>My ridiculous social anxiety kinda disappeared,i work so fucking hard on myself, it was fucking useful
>University starts, i start the adhd medication, now i can actually concentrate while being disciplined
>I stand out easily, get a 6 A+'s and a perfect gpa
>Life never felt so great, just 2 more semesters to go,i'm so glad i didn't go in nursing school,i'd be miserable.Thanks to my goals of pharm and med school i was able to change from a mediocre person to a person with plenty of potential skyrocketing
>. Mom says she always supported me, i tell her that she's lying because she was always against the idea of going into shit program and never believed in me but it's alright.-->she gets mad
>2nd semester starts
>I'm not even worried about grades anymore,i know i'll ace everything with my work ethic.I'm only focused on building mental/emotional skills + plenty of other skills i'll need. The med interviews are 1.5 year away,need to be sure i'll have changed enough to ace them so i'm working on myself full time,grades are not a concern anymore
>As expected,i ace the first half with ease stress-free
>But from march, i start getting insane fucked up symptoms similiar to a neurological disease/brain tumor.
>Continued next post

>>17094180
>The symptoms are so fucking numerous,they make my life a fucking living hell.To this day i'm amazed i was able to endure these worsening symptoms for 3 months straight
>What used to take 1 hour to do now takes 4-6 hours
>The more i study,the worse the symptoms get.
(MAJOR cognitive problems, "at worst i would hace to spend like 10 seconds on a sign saying "Don't cross this line" and reread it slowly 3 times to get it, it was like being super drunk ALL the time)
>Feels like someone is squeezing my whole brain and skull with his hands, feels like the ground is shaking,see white flashes in a COMPLETE dark room,the list goes on)
>Doctors diagnoses plenty of different things,it's never accurate
>Now,after 3 hours of low quality studying, i have to take a 5 hours break to study for an additional hour
>After a while, after 10 mins for studying,my brain is dead for the whole day
>Even tho it feels like absolute hell,even if i'm on the point of breaking down, i keep going nonstop,i was a fucking warrior from the moment i wake up to the moment i pass out
>symptoms gradually went away during the last 2 weeks of the semester but i was fucking broken. (Dealing with that shit all alone+ family drama that fucked me up)
>Still manage to stand out from the rest even in these horrible conditions (i was just a fucking warrior)
>My gpa lowers of 0.13 points. I believe it is 100% the end
>Continued next post

*Also i know its SOMETHING else! I know im a hater and thats really annoying*

Also i feel isolated by many people..

That could be the problem for me to be against him.

Have you talked to this friend at any point? Talking to the is different than seeing them. If you talk to this friend, it will either end with nothing happening and you still hate the person, OR you will settle this little debacle and you can move on with your life.

Either way, you can't be much worse off if you try it.

>>17094091

>How to deal with an angry boyfriend who says really hurtful things and cusses when he's mad?

Break up with him. He treats you like shit and the longer you stay with him the more you teach him its okay.

>>17094091

You break up.

It's very easy to say, because the kind of guy who pulls that kind of shit will do much worse as your relationship progresses

>>17094095
This.
Tell him to fuck off before it turns physical. He's a bully.

>>17094085
Sudden last moments? Pray for forgiveness.

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>Laugh
I know that death is going to get me one day. And I'd also say sorry that I can't stay longer to the ones that want me around.

sob uncontrollably while refusing to accept it to the very last moment

>>17094013
just stay calm, confidence and people skills are typically what they're looking for. it also usually helps to appear to be someone who is pleasant to spend time around because they're working with you so an interview is how they figure out if you're professional and not uncomfortable to be around

It depends on what you are trying to apply to.

What did you try to apply for the first time around?

>>17094013
as long as you avoid talking to fast. just talk as if you're talking to a family member you'll do well.

also when asked why you want that position a good answer would be that you want work experience