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You can try:
-Food. Something cooked or baked by you.
-Show interest in what he does or enjoys. Try to ask him to teach you something.
-Compliments do work.

>>17097992
Touch his penis

>>17098004
Thanks anon!

>>17098006
without sexual stuff dude....

They get CRAZY when off their meds

>>17097977

>my "friend" has BPD
>I want to get under her skin and cause a feud

You clearly have not done your research. Do not engage. I repeat DO NOT ENGAGE. This will go further than you want it to, it will drag on for longer than you want it to, it's just not worth it.

just stop being her friend.

Dude they make medications for general anxiety disorders. They work REALLY well. They are called SSRI also used for anti depression. They take about two weeks to really start working and there is a risk of suicidal thoughts when first starting (especially in teens/young adults) so tell your doctor if you have these feelings. After 2-3 weeks you'll feel real good man. Hang in there and don't give up. If the first medication doesn't work try another. Just tell your doctor girlie symptoms. You got this bro

Dude they make medications for general anxiety disorders. They work REALLY well. They are called SSRI also used for anti depression. They take about two weeks to really start working and there is a risk of suicidal thoughts when first starting (especially in teens/young adults) so tell your doctor if you have these feelings. After 2-3 weeks you'll feel real good man. Hang in there and don't give up. If the first medication doesn't work try another. Just tell your doctor your* symptoms. You got this bro

Tell the doctor your* symptoms (correction)

I don't get ANYTHING about what you just said.

Like at ALL.

More detail, autismo.

>>17097883
Get the fuck off your computer autist

Just move on.

>friends don't invite me out because i'm too depressing to them

Jesus man, I get being stuck on a girl far away, but if its effecting your life this bad you need to distance yourself

>>17097839

>how can i deal with this.

your life is exactly the same as it was an hour ago. this girl wasnt in your life, she still isn't. nothignto deal with you just keep living your life, but perhaps iwth the focus of other girls

>>17097832
>so I should just get over it?

she said she's not interested. what are you going to do, pull some huge romantic gesture? You gotta get over it

just play it cool and focus on being her friend and maybe MAYBE she'll come around later but not for a while and only if you don't make it worse by pursuing it even further

>>17097869
Would it hurt to ask her best friend about it when I see her (in a few days)? (About what they were talking about on that festival for example, or if she knows anything). They are bff's (also just came back from vacation with her), so whatever I tell her might also reach her, but if it's over anyways then there shouldn't be a problem to casually bring it up, right? She might already know about that I asked her on a date anyways.

>>17097888
honestly? yeah, it would. you know that if you asked her friend that shit would make it back to her crush.
it's won't come off as "romantic" it would come off as clingy and insecure that you asked this girl out and now you're badgering her friend. you just gotta relax homie :^)

expect to be there all day.

What kind of questions will they ask me?

bump

I'm nervous.

>>17097787

being a recovering addict is all about second chances. youd want one. give her one. this isnt to say you should date her. id maybe leave that where its at. but its okay to talk and get closure. ask a friend to be your 'self destruct' button and prevent you from getting into deep

i don't think just talking to your ex is a bad idea in itself. it could be a worthy risk to take, and like you said, you're curious about how they ended up.

i think what the other anon said is a good idea. have a friend know the situation and tell them to look out for you if it looks like you're getting into addiction/an unhealthy relationship again. good luck OP!

This part of your greentext concerns me:
>leave ex because they're a fucking horrible person
You don't owe your ex anything. Nothing at all. I'm not telling you not to get back in touch with them, but if you do, it should be because you want to have closure and catch up, not because you feel you owe it to them.

>Translation: I'm jealous of this girl and I don't want her to get more attention than me
Don't even try to deny it. We're not stupid here

sheena oum

>>17097776

if ur all in agreement you just stop hanging otu with her and doing your own thing. never invite her. when at a social event and she comes up, disperse and re group. or just tell her.

>>17097770

we get 30 thousand posts a day about how people dont know what they do. and despite college attendance adn graduates at an all time high, theres still a large majority if people who cant even consider hte possibility of secondary education.

i knew what i wanted to do since i ws about 8 years old. i had two very strict rules
>i wanted to do something paranormal
>i wanted to make movies

i do both, though the latter independently.

I don't see what you expect us to say. You have to decide what you want to do on your own. We can't do it for you.

However, one thing I want to point out:

>Family company
You should take a moment to be grateful for the fact that you have a family situation which is strong enough to actually guarantee you a job. You say you "don't like it," but millions of people in the U.S alone would kill for that kind of stability. You probably get paid relatively well too.

>>17097770
>getting married before 30

why

It's not your interests. It's the fact that you're a fucking bore.

>>17097747
That's what I meant.

>>17097745

its a complex issue because you arent giving us much information to go on. the major issue is essentially that you are dating the wrong kind of people. you are apparently attractive enough to get dates, but would you mind posting a picture of yourself? and if possible a recent girl you were seeing? if not that just a picture of yourself and some of your known hobbies and itnerests would help. describe how you spend the average weekendi f you can. also job?

its a complex issue so the more information the better.

>>17097717
>Obviously i'm not going to be able to study for the subject a few hours before.
What?

>>17097717
Dude the IB exam are pretty fucking easy. Chill. Just go back over the material. If you've been paying any attention in class at all then you'll get a passing score

>>17097719

Not OP, but IB exams, similar to AP exams, can be very, very specific in their questions. You have to exhibit a lot of mastery about the subject in question to be able to answer the very narrowly focused topics they're asking you about. Depending on the topic, it could be an essay prompt asking about something that is the equivalent of about four paragraphs in a textbook that you used the entire year.

That said OP, I have nothing for you but a good luck message. Don't panic - you've been working on this for two years presumably, and you'll knock it out of the park.

Who says work is supposed to be fun?

>>17097697
and stand up you fucking pussy.

>>17097684
Get a standing desk.

And yes, a job will burn you out and you won't enjoy it.

>>17097673

you shouldnt really model your career around your boyfriend. he is something to consider, but you shoudl also consider yourself obviously. you will always need a job. but you can't guarantee your boyfriend will always be there for you.

my suggestions is to talk to him. you're doing a lot of gymnastics before even asking his opinion it seems. show him your offers. show him where you want to go, then suggest some locations that have jobs in his field. say you want to go together and make this big adventure and start your lives.

then just react to his reaction. he might just jump at the idea and say hell yeah to live in one of the more interesting places. he may say 'i dont want to move'.

my fianl advice is dont stay, even if he does. staying in your bfs hometown but not yours is a mistake. you are building your entire life around a boy and when hes not there you're going to regret not going places you could have.

>>17097673
Personally it took moving a few times to realize that moving wouldn't fix my issues. I have to fix them myself. Also I learned that I wanted to be closer to home.

So while it might be a good opportunity for positive change, he needs to take advantage of it, it's not a panacea.

>>17097673
What's your job OP?

27 here with the same problem. Although I'm even worse off and don't have any real close friends anymore, due to me moving around lots like a nomad over the years. My closest relationships had been with girls online in long distance relationships. I mean I'm not a virgin, I've had girlfriends I've lived with, but the closest connection was online. Actually, most of my best friends are online.

>>17097618
>>17097618

>how did you meet your significant other

i met my most recent girlfriend at the 'no pants' train ride. she was wearing some nerdy looking shit tucked into her panties. i was just wearing really plain boxers. we checked each other out the whole ride. went to the same bar for the after parties and i was working up the nerve to talk to her, started by nodding at her from across the room. she came right up to me and introduced herself (brazilians are apparently upfront abotu this sort of thing) soi asked her to dance. we saw each other casually for a month, then i took her out to dinner and asked to make it official.


>have a ton of stories and interests

literally no one cares about this. having interests does not equal being interesting, and being interesting is a pretty varied thing unless you 'game' situations and that tends to lead to rather shallow shit. that being said, having stories and interests doesn't hurt.

>i never seem to click

theres your problem. you are picky. and htats okay. its good to be picky in my opinion. so many people date for the sake of dating. the only real requirement they have to fall in love with someone is for someone to take interest in them. its pathetic. that being said, you can't play the 'chemistry' card and then whine about it. if you only 'click' with certain people, you ahve to be willing to wait it out.

co workers arent a horrible option depending on the circumstance. most women consider the work place to be their hunting ground. waittresses arent bad either cuz its REALLY easy to flirt with them.

the reason people dated a lot in school is cuz we were forced to interact so its easy to meet. these two situations emulate that to a degree. however it sounds to me that 'clicking' isn't the issue, cuz you admit that you are only interested in women who are forced to interact with you. ergo, interact with more women in the wild and you'll catch some sparks.

>>17097618
>>17097638

>dont just hit on a woman

its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.

give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.

doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.