Hi /adv/
I lost weight a few years ago and I was really proud of it. Now I got a bit fat again, and I'm going to start the same method this summer. I have a method, it's not the problem: I need advices to stop eating all day everyday, stop picking shit in the fridge at 2am. I know it sounds lazy, like "just don't do it", but seriously it's hard when you have that habit of picking something to eat really often.
Any advices?
>there is no such thing as ego death
what is ego death
I'min a very similar situation. I've lost a lot of weight in the past and gained it back again, up and down all the time. What i observe is that i eat more than i need when i'm overwhelmed and are avoiding something. Maybe try making a list of things you are procrastinating and tackle it.
try to avoid buying things that are easy snacks like chips/pretzels, nuts, cheese, frozen meals
if you have to actually cook something every time you want food you won't just graze. But why do you want to lose the weight?
Next week I'm having a threesome with my current girlfriend and my first grade school girlfriend
Is there anything I should know?
>>17096252
their names
>>17096252
the fact that this will open up a can of worms that could lead to your GF fucking another guy
>>17096252
Fucking first graders is highly illegal in most countries.
WTF IS WRONG WITH MY SISTERS CAT???
>>17096242
Aww poor cate ;_;, visit a vet doc definitely
Don't listen to that retard, they don't know what they're talking about.
Cats have 3 sets of scent glands;
In the nose to smell the air, in the mouth to smell other cats with, and also on the forehead between the eyes and ears, the Temporal glands.
They really enjoy rubbing things with those glands. They do it so much that they can start to lose hair there.
It's PERFECTLY NORMAL, and u don't need to see a vet.
You should have asked /an/, not the uneducated underage girls that post here.
RIP ops sisters cat
Goodnite sweet prince ;_;
1 (you) = 1 prayer
>Friday night chilling with my popular friend
>known her since 5th grade, best friends for years
>bored as fuck
>ask her if any parties are on
>says there's a gath at a friends house
>only person I know there is the owner, good lad
>drive over and walk in, look around to see 10 guys sitting around a table smoking weed
>me and best friend have smoked weed since year 11, I smoke almost every night
>me and friend join them
>have one cone, goes straight to my head
>start getting really nervous and start to feel angry
>hear guys around me talking about me
>saying stuff like I'm the guy that hangs out with my friend and still hasn't gotten a root from her
>start to get really pissed off start drinking the vodka I brought
>friend leans in to me
>"anon, do you wanna go?"
>start thinking if I go it'll make me look weak
>"nah only if you want to"
>keep drinking vodka
>walk out to the kitchen
>hear them calling me a faggot and a retard
>walk back in, they go quiet
>stare at one of the guys talking shit
>"anon, you wanna go?"
>"I'll go if you wanna go"
>one guy says that maybe my friend wants to go and is trying to make it look like I wanna go
>wtfdoisay.webm
>agree with the guy
>fuck did I do that for?
>friend gets up and walks to the door
>"well you can stay here if you want, I'll go back"
>get embarrassed as fuck
>leave
I walk my friend home and apologise, which is very hard for me as I've never been sympathetic or upset around her and I tell her that I'm depressed and an alcoholic and the only time I'm happy is if I'm drunk or with her, making sure to make it look like I wasnt hitting on her.
Do I just let her go? The problem is the only other friends I've got don't leave their houses and live off centrelink. But it's pre obvious that my friend is embarrassed around me as we have had sex and she's told someone there that we haven't.
>>17096233
are you from newcastle or melbourne
>>17096244
Adelaide
>>17096244
hahaha was about to say that, im from newcastle, classic
>at single blonde milf's house for work
>when I'm done, she shows me the door
>take a couple steps down the porch and I hear something behind me
>turn around, nearly face to face with her ass, and she is basically farting at me
>usually shy away from flirting, but I grab her ass
>we go inside, etc, she starts lowering herself onto my dick
>expecting to feel warmth, but instead just feel bedsheets, and wake up
>anyway my question is, why did I have a dream about a woman farting on me?
>>17096231
And why did I get turned on by it?
>>17096231
lmao
the problem with attempting to interpret dreams is that dreams are easily forgotten, misremembered, or warped by thoughts and desires rather than true vision.
If a girl asks you if you're at uni for no apparent reason what does that mean?
She wants to know if you're at uni
She's making conversation
Btw she sent me that first thing in the morning initiating a conversation
any tips on how to tan fast?
Don't. Dumb faggot.
just bee urself ;)
Spray tan I guess. Still not good for you, but it's at least not as unhealthy as an actual tan.
Need some advice from resident potheads, please.
I occasionally smoke weed every now and then, but I'm not a huge fan, I actually find it fucks me up worse than acid, MDMA, etc. Anyway, my friends and I smoked a really really strong strain the other day - I was actually worried it was laced it was that strong - and I think I almost had a panic attack, but I played it cool (somehow). However, in the days following this, the anxiety I felt has 'lingered', if you will. I feel on edge, and quite paranoid. For example, a random intrusive thought popped into my head the other day that my gf is cheating (very much not happening), usually I just ignore it, laugh at it, understand it's just a random thought, that me and my gf are happy, etc. This time, however, I hit paranoia central, stalking her internet accounts, thinking certain dudes are into her because they liked her Facebook picture, etc. I hit this paranoia-zone I've never been in before for like 20 minutes, it was crazy. Totally not like me at all, I'm usually chill.
Does this unreasonable paranoia and anxiety go away eventually? This weed has seriously fucked me up, in the short-term at least.
Some people are more susceptible to paranoia and mental breaks than other when it comes to drug use, sounds like you're one of them.
For starters, yes it will go away in time but if you continue to smoke it can come back/get worse/drive you to a point where you think the pyramids contain the secrets to life and aliens are poisoning your water source or some other bullshit.
Sounds like you have a choice, listen to your body or don't and risk a hell of a lot more than thinking your GF is cheating
>>17096158
I've smoked weed in the past and it's never been this bad, but I'm definitely laying off it now. I've always been an occasional smoker, one spliff and I'm good, but the stuff we bought was absolutely nuts. I can't get over how potent it was, it really caught me off guard.
My reaction to other drugs - even heavy psychedelics - is totally fine, though.
>>17096170
You think your reaction to other drugs is fine but actually whatever you're using in total combines and alters your brain and thus affects your marijuana experiences.
Lay off the fucking mind-bending drugs if smoking a bit of sativa strain weed is causing you such an issue. You don't know, you might have "dormant schizo-whatever" and you're about to unlock it.
All those drugs are so shitty, kids are so stupid chasing these petty little experiences and sensations from street drugs. The psychedelic movement in the 60s was a government psy-op to neutralize a generation of potential rebels by turning them into dopey hippies. And it worked!
OP, I actually am similarly sensitive to potent sativa strain weed like you. If you want to avoid these lapses into mini schizophrenia, I advise you with the obvious STOP SMOKING WEED.
It's the most insidious, deceptive drug around. Before you know it you'll be a 24/7 stoner saying "smoke moar" to paranoid newbies. Just watch one of the innumerable weed youtube channels to see how pathetic the drug is. Everyone thinks they're so fucking cool "oh bro this is og shit stain strain, got me super high".
Fuck weed and fuck the cannabis culture. What a glorious time it will be in 20-30 years when the famous weedtubers are all dying from emphysema and lung cancer.
So I got whipped for the first time this weekend and it was fucking fantastic. I mean, Jesus christ. I'd been wanting to be punished and dominated for a long time, but it was even better than I thought it'd be.
Unfortunately, this was just a ons, and I won't be seeing her again.
So, how do I into bdsm? There is a scene in my town, but I have no idea how to approach it. Preferably I'd find a girl outside the scene who'd be down for this, but that might be difficult. I'm a 29 year old guy, if that makes any difference.
>>17096142
There are plenty of BDSM sites with personals ads. Many also include calendars of in-person events in various cities.
The BDSM scene's social life is built on two levels. There are "parties" where actual deeds are done, and "munches" where people just get together to chat, meet and welcome newcomers. Look through the various websites for a munch near you - you'll be welcomed in a no-pressure setting.
Be aware, though, that of all varieties, submissive and masochistic single men are the most common, so there will be competition for the dom women around.
>>17096725
You seem to know things about this stuff. I have wanted to try bdsm for the longest time, i have a boyfriend, are there any signs I could look for in order to know if he'd be up for it? He seems inexperienced sexually, so I don't want to freak him out too early.
>>17096737
Depends on what you want. If you want to dom, try giving him a friendly swat on the ass and see how he responds. If you want to sub, just ask him to be a little rougher with his caresses.
Build from there if you get any response. Let it drop if you don't.
Or just have a "You tell me your wildest fantasy and I'll tell you mine" chat, and then let him know you're serious about yours.
I have no problem being social with people and bullshitting with people at work and when I'm outside, but I am absolutely incapable of connecting with people in any meaningful way, or keeping a long time friendship. The longest friend I had was for about 5-6 years and I stopped talking to him about a month ago, for reasons I'm not really sure about.
I don't really care for having really close friends offline as I enjoy my privacy but what us the best way of getting another online friend to waste time with, and who possibly shares all of my interests? The last guy and me were like peanut butter and jelly and I kind of miss the guy but can't bring my self to contact him again out of embarrassment.
How do you find online people who share your interests? Most people do not share my interests or hobbies generally. I also fear that I am losing interest in alot of things due to spending most of my time just going to work and reading/watching boring (but i think enjoyable) documentaries on various things.
Help would be appreciated. I'd like to find a few friends online to chat with chat from time to time like I used to.
I'm honestly not sure if I'm making a big deal out of anything and maybe I should continue on as I am now. Not too sure.
>>17096121
what are your interests?
>>17096127
general weeb shit, vidya, talking history, and politics or whatever.
A few other things but that was the gist of my interests I guess.
>>17096144
How far and deep are you in the weebshit rabbit hole?
You wont find anyone except /a/ with the same level as you after a certain point
So were at an impasse in our relationship, we’re both writing this as we still love each other but recent events are leading us further apart. We still want to be with each other, but were both too headstrong to come up with a good enough compromise. Couples therapy is too expensive so were asking you.
It’ll be written from both me (the boyfriend) at first and then her (the girlfriend), as were stumped.
>began with my friend offering ecstasy to me
>gf finds out by looking through my phone messages, we argue and it ends with me and her agreeing to message him asking him not to offer me anything anymore
>my friend gets pissy about it, but then later apologizes stating he’s been arguing with his gf
>this leads to gf getting upset (bad interactions with her and friend before all this), this ends with me promising I wouldn’t take anything with him
Skip and week or two
>I (boyfriend) break my promise, I get offered it ecstasy at the house party (3 friends over) at mine (girlfriend doesn’t like events like that so she doesn’t go to them)
>friend knew about situation offered anyway, I was also at fault for accepting it
>friend knew not to offer it since it caused an argument before, but did it anyways
Continued...
>>17096082
Continued...
Few days pass
>(boyfriend) I lied to her saying we only drank and smoked weed (she’s fine with that stuff but nothing harder), I felt guilty about it and didn’t want her to know so I kept it up.
>was offered ecstasy again by same friend, I agreed (I know it is childish to say but I was still salty. It was an immature move) for his birthday party next week on the 7th (it’s a rave)
>eventually she finds out as the same way before by looking through my phone, this begins a couple bad arguments leading to her putting out an ultimatum (she at this point was in rage mode, so we both said shit we didn’t mean) between her and my best friend (they’re both my best friends but it felt like ripping my heart in two)
>we argue for a bit, we both demand a compromise
>my best friend’s birthday party is next week on the 7th, like I said before I’d been offered ecstasy at that event
>her say is that my punishment/compromise is that I can still hang out with him but because I lied and planned it anyway again, to not go to the birthday party
>I feel slighted, she feels like it’s fairness for my actions
>I don’t want to miss my best friend’s birthday, she doesn’t want me going. I understand her view but I don’t want to have to choose between him and her
>worst case scenario of friend’s behalf: he gets pissed off for a week or more, but we both get on track with getting relationship back to normal (though this will cause both my gf and best friend to hate each other even more which will lead to more arguments down the road, in me the boyfriend opinion)
>worst case scenario on gf’s behalf: causes a rift in our relationship due to lack of trust, this could cause us to break up (we both don’t want that)
>>17096083
>>17096083
I will mention that we’ve got 5 months until University. During those 5 months I will be spending some time with my friend AND my gf, so not going to the birthday party is one day compared to 5 months. Although, after the 5 months I have another 3 years with my gf at University living with each other in the same student accommodation and no seeing my best friend as he’s going down south for University, though I’ll see him on half-term breaks from University (these range these range from a few weeks to 3 months.
>TD;LR: Me and my girlfriend and at an impasse in our relationship, friend offered me the boyfriend, ecstasy and it started this shitshow. I told him not to offer me anything like that again. I do the ecstasy anyway at my house party, I break my promise I wouldn’t do it. She finds out through my phone messages. As a compromise she wants me to miss my friend’s birthday party (agreed to do ecstasy at his b-day before she read my messages) this is my punishment. I’m not happy with this compromise and I don’t want to miss his b-day.
>>17096086
Hey. Hey bro. Do you want a friend you can trip balls with, or do you want a girlfriend?
Cause I mean it sounds like you're gonna choose one or the other but you're pretty stubborn and want to do drugs, so I guess if you like pissing your girlfriend off some more, do whatever you want.
Cause you've already broken the promise twice. It's not like you care all that much.
Hey dudes
I have a problem. Last night I was out at the pub and met a girl I had met there before. I was planning to make out with her. The only reason she wouldn't because my female friend got all mad and upset the last time I was talking go her. I have never felt so pissed off. I know what this means. My female friend either likes me or wants to control me. Help.
>>17096063
>help
how? confront her. or dont. your call
>>17096063
Just bee urself man
>>17096070
Kek
I need advice in figuring out what the hell to do with my life
I'm 20 and studying electrical engineering, in my second year. I have a 3.4 GPA but frankly don't seem to care much for what I'm learning. My peers all seem pretty excited by engineering stuff but I am sort of ambivalent to the whole thing. This obviously is probably not the best attitude to have if I want to do this for a living
If I could start college over, I'd do accounting. But I feel like to switch now would be to have wasted two years. I also think that I lack the social skills needed for accounting and since I haven't gotten an internship I'd be really far behind
I'd like to get adv's thoughts on my situation. I tried talking to someone about this in person and they think I am just depressed since I seem in their eyes to have an ambivalent attitude towards everything and that most folks in my situation would be happy. If it matters at all I go to a top 2 UC school
There are people in their mid 20s and older only just starting. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life hating what you do because you don't want to have wasted two measly years?
>>17096034
you're depressed, figure out how to get a handle on it then you'll be fine. whatever originally got you into engineering will come back
Same here. Wanna talk?
Is it possible to build a social life in your early twenties?
I'm almost 21, have zero friends anymore, don't go to school but work with people in their 40s and 50s. By now it seems that everyone has their friendship groups and is making good memories, whereas the last few years have been a blur for me. I don't know where to go from here. Was anyone else in this position?
>>17096028
you are not the first. you will not be the last. you are not even rare. you dont notice people being alone because why would you? when you see someone alone you just assume they are on an errand or whatever. even if people have their 'social groups' there are always htose looking to open up and explore.
the following advice was intended for meeting girls, so please disregard the 'hitting on' specific aspects. the rest should really be what you need.
>>17096036
how do you make friends?
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17096039
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
Ok, so this is fucking tearing me apart and it hurts my every time I think of it. I don't understand why this is happening.
I'm not going to get into details, but there's this girl I've "known" for around 5 years. We've never really talked up in person, but we're aware of each other's existence. I'm 18 and I'm a senior in high school.
So I first became aware her in band class when I was in 8th grade. I didn't really even think much of her. I thought she was kind of cute, but it wasn't something that I would go home and think about. She was in 7th grade at the time.
About 5 months into the school year I started developing an extremely strong crush for her. I felt really connected to her for whatever reason, and she just seemed beautiful to me. It wasn't even her facial features, it was just something about her and I still can't figure it out. But being the awkward 14 year old I was, I didn't have the courage to talk to this girl, or any girl for that matter.
Facebook was starting to become the thing, so I decided to look her up and I was able to find her. I said fuck it and sent her a message saying "You're beautiful". She replied saying thank you or something but she didn't know who I was. So I told her who I was and that I was in her band class and she replied "Oh yeah, I know who you are." After that she never replied. I sent her a message every few weeks trying to say high, but I'm pretty sure that she blocked me. I was pretty depressed after that.
For the rest of the year I stalk her Facebook and shit, and every time I see her in class my attraction to her builds up incredibly. Anytime we'd walk past, she'd quickly point her eyes the other way. I began to realize that she may be scared of me. But I felt a feeling for her I have never felt for anybody before.
So let's fast forward to my 10th grade year. By this time I wasn't as obsessed but I was still stalked her everyonce and a while. The school year had just began. (cont.)
>>17096017
(Cont.) since she was a grade below me, she was going to be entering the high school I was already going to.
I was pretty hyped about this. I started sending her anonymous messages on that "ask.fm" app saying that I think she's really cute and that I'm a grade above her and super excited to see her. Surprisingly she didn't know who I was, even though I said I used to know her in middle school, but I'm sure she had long forgotten. Plus, I didn't give her my name or what class I was in.
I see her on the first day of school, and I'm flipping out. She was so much more beautiful than I remembered. That night I ended up giving her the username to one of my messaging apps because she was desperate to know who I was because she thought my little messages were really cute. She messages me and says something like "bro just send me a photo of you so I can see who you are". So I do. She messages "oh yeah I remember". I never got a message after that. I'm pretty sure she had blocked me after, regardless of sending 3 additional messages.
I should also add that at this time I had really bad psychotic bipolar that was unmediated. So I start freaking the fuck out. I start sending her messages on the ask.fm app telling her that she's important significance to me and that I don't even like her but I need her because I work for the government (this was all part of my psychotic delusions). I went on this for days, threatening her and start telling her she's a spoiled bitch. About the 4th day of school I start getting really heavy hallucinations. (Cont.)
>>17096031
(Cont.) I then tell my mom that I'm having extreme delusions and hallucinations, so I get on heavy medication and start homeschooling. I homeschooled for about 3 years, until I went back my senior year. After my first week I apologize to her on the ask.fm
app and tell her that I have a mental illness.
My condition got better and I basically forgot about her. I get back to school. We end up crossing paths again. I feel like I had just fallen in love all over again. Every time I see her I feel like we're married and I haven't seen her in 20 years. It's such a strong emotion that I can't control and can't figure out.
At this point, I'm not as socially anxious. I have plenty of friends and talk to plenty of girls. I even have a 10/10 girlfriend that I love very much.
But the dilemma is, I feel like I'm in love with the other girl even more. It fucks me up because I have a girlfriend who I'm in a very intimate relationship with, yet I feel like I'm in deep love with this other girl who I've never even had an actual conversation with, and is honestly not even a 10/10.
I just don't know what it is. I should already be over this. Whenever I think of her, I start feeling really emotional and empty inside that I don't have her and that she hates me.
This shouldn't be happening. There is no reason that I should feel this way towards her. What is wrong with me, /adv/?
>>17096017
I guess you just need to be more urself