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desu i'm not just worried what my brother might think if i took over cleaning the apartment, but i'm also worried about being too much of a degenerate/weirdo/whatever else you want to call it. i'm also the one who loves to cook and i cook meals for my brother. i know how weird it would be for me to be responsible for both cooking and cleaning while my brother works. desu that might be an outright unhealthy dynamic for siblings to have.

is there any way i can approach him about this without making it weird?

You dun goof'ed by accepting a roommate that won't let yo pick up after him. The problem is him it seems. He seems set on living in a pigsty and won't accept anything else.

Wait wtf. Why does he not want you to clean?

I don't get the last three greentexts.

You need to get the funds from mom and dad?

Can't tell them it's for a Ps4?

If you don't get one in a week /v/ will have consoles and you won't? messing things up for you?

>>17092588
No, an anime game is out for ps4, if his parents find out then they might think he's a complete nerd, and if he doesnt get it in timd, /v/ might spoil the game for him.

>>17092588
I have the money
They'll just react extremely negatively when they find out what I bought

Sounds clutch why kill yourself?

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>>17092549
Why would you kill yourself when your life finally approaches its prime ?

i hope not.

i want to go back to school and i'm 25.

i asked this on another board but i don't have the prerequisites to get in and am wondering how. at least you are almost done. I've been working since i graduated high school and now have to go from not paying attention to not going for 7 years to going into medical.

>>17092548
You're absolutely right. It's also hit and miss with what you say when you first start dating somebody.


If you're socially awkward, movies or restaurant with table games are a good way to go until she gets to know you and that you're quiet.

If that's out, just ask questions about her. And say wow or that's impressive

>>17092548

Like all dealings with women, she's really in it for her own feelings. If you can make her feel good, about being with you, she'll follow you around no matter where you want to go. Rather than making some specific plan that doesn't account for her mood in the moment (the only thing that really matters to a woman) it's better to learn to read the situation, and adjust the date on the fly based on her mood.

Is she annoyed because she wants to talk but the venue is too loud/sticky/skeevy? Have a quieter, high-class place in your back pocket to take her to.

Is she bored just sitting in a bar or coffee shop? Know about some live music or dance club to take her to, to let her get ramped up a bit.

Date planning isn't about specific times and places so much as knowing what's around so you can tune the date as you go. You don't have to change venues every hour if things are going well, you're just trying to keep her entertained until she's getting in the mood to advance the relationship.

>>17092865

After doing this for a while, you'll start to learn how to advance a date, and how to read women, and pick ones that you actually like spending time with. If you're a couch-potato but you're always taking out girls who want to party, you'll either bore them, or bore yourself grinding in noisy clubs for hours.

Similarly, some girls are really into shows or movies, so a good date for them might be going to see something, then having a place afterward to talk about it. If her idea of a date was grinding in a club then dancing around a beach fire in the nude, this kindof date will be boring for her, and it will fail for you if you can't keep up the energy with her.

I find that for the shy/reserved types, day-dates are the best. You can usually find something on the weekends to go walk around and see, like an art festival or fair or garden or someshit. It takes some of the pressure off you, because there'll be a lot of interesting things to talk about. All you'll have to do is talk about how she feels about the things you see, then play off that.

Day-dates for high-energy girls can be outdoorsy or sporty, just be sure you can show up.

At night, you're doing something that's a stereotypical date, and the onus to perform will be placed heavily on you. You'll either be taking her somewhere where interaction is hard (dark, noisy, a live show) or where other men will be fishing for pussy and you'll be unwittingly putting yourself into direct competition.

I'm second year Uni of Aberdeen and I hate uni. That's mostly because I feel like I chose the wrong degree and as a result I feel like I'm wasting my life and now have no choice but to waste the rest of my life as well never being able to do any work i actually find fulfilling. I thought about not going to uni, but I was too afraid of the uncertainty, I would say If you know or think you know what you want to do then just do it, uni is fucking retarded a lot of the time dude and it really doesn't make you a more intelligent person. That said be realistic and mature about you ambitions, the reason for your decision, whatever it is, should not be based on expectations or assumptions about anything. Don't "choose to do something you enjoy" as a lot of people tell you, that is how I edned up where I am, you should instead choose to do something you feel is important and you will be much happier in the end.

Also don't do fucking classics and philosophy, just don't. Unless you're a hardcore autist, after 1/2 years you will be like me - sick of your degree and depressed

It might be different for Britcucks because I don't think you guys need to take out tens of thousands of dollars worth of loans to get your degree, but what I generally tell Ameribros is that they shouldn't go to college if they don't know what they want to do and how to get there.

>>17092529

Isn't University free in Middle East 2.0? Might as well go if it is, who cares that it may take you 6 years.

>unironically using the word nerd

>>17092489
You're wording is a bit off. Are you seeing to girls or one? I'll take it as two and say that...

The one you go jogging with is only in it for the money. She's looking for security, not romance. She'll seek romance elsewhere in the long run.

With the shy one you're going to have to communicate your needs straight forward. Tell her you're not feeling loved and you feel the romance is one sided. Try not to make it seem like a business deal or an ultimatum, but like its coming from the heart. Don't put her down, just put your needs out there.

>>17092560
im OP, yes there are two different girls

The girl A I date (hottie)

the girl B I jogg with (not my taste and niveau) and dont date, and never have.

yeah i also think that Girl B isnt my type and she is also a bit damaged, should I just friendzone her and treat her like a friend? Nothing is official with Girl A so far, but should I tell girl B so she stops trying to win me?


Yeah, i think I should tell that A directly, how do I word it the best?
do I say "Men have needs aswell",
do I say I suspect she would be very cappable of beeing more sexy/sexual but might not be secure about what and how to do it b/c of her lack of experience.
or something else?

Groomsmen just stand there dude, you don't do shit.

But a lot of people are dicks and make you pay for your own tux rental. Because like, I guess it's the least you could do for this over exuberant display in addition to your expensive gift on their registry.

Fuck, weddings piss me the fuck off. What a waste of time and money.

>>17092497
>Groomsmen just stand there dude, you don't do shit.
You may also be charged with ushering people to their seats, but this is generally pretty easy. As you stand in the doorway facing the altar, friends of the bride go on the left, friends of the groom go on the right, and close family sits up front.

If there are an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, you may be asked to walk one of the bridesmaids down the aisle. Again, easy stuff.

Question: where is the wedding going to be? No need for specifics: the country and general region is enough.

>>17092527
>Question: where is the wedding going to be? No need for specifics: the country and general region is enough
Southern England, I'm from Canada though my sister moved there

Your girl friend is a childish cunt. Leave her.

>>17092432
I mean like she's fucked in the head honestly. "Hey wanna do something just about 95% of straight men want to?" "Sure" "HA I LIED IT WAS A TEST YOU DONT LOVE ME >:("

>>17092432
had a chick do this to me on multiple things. RUN.

Or overcome it to not be awkward around her?

>>17092564
yes

>>17092408
you need to think of it from a different perspective m8

people ask people out to shit all the time, most the time you ask girls 'out' it should really be seen as 'hey come hang out, no expectations just I think you're cool'. The fact they are female doesn't matter.

So just be cool. You've done what you need to do, so that's good. She will make the next move if she is interested, it might be subtle so be ready. If nothing happens then at least you know she would say to other girls that you're a cool guy because after nothing happened with you 2 you didn't turn into a weird cunt.

I'm 100% straight and no. We find gay sex instinctively physically revolting.

No, there really isn't. They might be bi, though; you can always ask.

I'm 100% straight, not a homophobic like other anon, my best friend is a lesbian, my childhood friend is gay, I go to gay clubs/bars pretty regularly:

Nope.

If you're gay, you should know better than anyone that some things just feel... right, and other things don't. You can't force anyone to feel anything they don't.

>>17092391
Where does it come from?

>>17092400
It's of Indian origin!!

>>17092391
Doesn't sound bad, maybe a little hard to pronounce after reading. People with unique names tend to be more successful though

No.

What could they possibly gain from this? Wouldn't your piety be recognised as fake?

I wouldn't do it. I barely stayed sane going to church every Sunday with my wife's family for a couple years even though they knew I was an athiest.

>>17092383
They'd gain peace of mind that their son isn't marrying someone of whom they knowingly disapprove.

We'll be living on the other side of the country to them, so it's not like they'd know I don't go to church.

>>17092237
bump

That's nice of you to be honest OP with what you want.

Here's the main issue: She broke up with you because right now you're boring and a downer. She wanted to break up with you more than two months ago, the fact that she was asking for a break was already the breaking point...she gave you two months and all you did was convince her nothing will change.

So basically she had 5+ months of being sick of you. Who is their right mind is going to willing go back to that?

That doesn't mean you're completely fucked, she still loved you at one point. But that does mean you're going to have to improve your image and play a little hard to get.

Improve yourself physically and mentally. Show that you're moving on with your life, meeting new people, be interesting again, make it seem like you are back to being the person she fell in love with. Mind you, don't just fake it, you need to BECOME IT, or else she'll just leave you again. Fix your problems in your life, make yourself look better than you were before she fell for you and she's going to want you back.

Anything less is hopeless.

Good luck.

>>17092314

Sheesh sorry for the lack of proof reading, i am very shit at typing

Six months later things start getting weird, his friends are acting really strangely around me to the point where I'm scared to hang out in social circles because it's making me seriously uncomfortable and my female friends are ‘warning me’ but are too fucking weak to actually tell me what the fuck is going on. I finally discover why when I'm at an Australia day party and I go off with a mate I went to primary and high school with to get more booze. Out of the blue he asks me why I'm with Ben. I say I love him and he proceeds to tell me how Ben is telling EVERYONE that he wants to break up with me, has been sleeping with other women for months and is only with me for convenience. I confront him, don’t believe his whinny bullshit excuse but like a full spaz, I let it go and things die down again.
We have a quite phase for about 6 months, where I’m actually giving him a lot of attitude and essentially telling him to ‘fuck off if you don’t like it’ daily. He sticks around, I’m sick of being in a relationship where I know I can’t trust my partner but I just don’t leave. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it, it’s not healthy and I’m aware of that but I just don’t leave.
The last year of our relationship I felt kind of trapped, he would get quite mouthy when he was drunk, once throwing a MAJOR tantrum in a supermarket and literally screaming at me, I left, hailed a taxi to which he came running up to, pulled the door open and dragged me by the arm out of the cab.

About a month before we break up he tells me his parents are selling their house and moving to the country. Within days the house was up for auction and sold and they were planning the move. He hadn’t told me they purchased a new house, hadn’t told me when they were in the planning stages of selling. Generally selling and buying houses takes a few months so learning about this just weeks before it was all finalised was a shock. The little slime ball had been hiding this from me and also had his family hiding it from me.
I was at his house a few nights after the auction, he’d been drinking and was being a ... I dunno, I’d call him a cunt but he lacks depth and warmth. I was sitting in his room at the end of his bed and I could hear voices talking but I’d zoned out in to the land of thinking about how I was going to get away from him that night when I hear his sister stomp in to the kitchen and declare very loudly that she can hear exactly what they are saying and so can other people in the house. Everyone went quiet and I was suddenly aware that they were talking shit about me while I sat in another room.

Finally the maggot declares that he is moving to Newcastle. I pretend to be sad. He says I can go with him, I make excuses about how I don’t want to leave mum who has health issues and we agree to split. Couple nights before he leaves he shows up, tells me he loves me, starts crying about how he’s scared to go on his own. I stonewall the fucker because I am NOT falling for that shit and have finally found my feet and grown a pair of balls.
Ben moves to Newcastle, I discover that dating actually can be really fun and life is not this horrible endless pit of bullshit, I’m happy, everything is perfect and I’m free.
Within a year he has met a girl, got her pregnant and had a baby, within a year of having the baby they have broken up and he is fucking messaging me again. Between the point of meeting Ben and receiving his first message after we have broken up I have aged 6 years and learnt A LOT about who I am. I am prepared for this fucker, I can feel something is building and I am ready for it. I take the bait.

Still having periods? That's the stuff the baby needs to live but i dont know. Definitely go to a doctor just in case you want to abort.

>>17092220
Really could she be pregnant? If it is the stuff the baby needs to survive, isn't it more likely that she is not?

>>17092225
I'm sure there is some medical exception to it. But my guess is there is no baby, but get that checked.