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Pack YOUR BAGS

If MY boyfriend texted me that, I know I'd be in for a good gossip. In your situation, I'd prepare to be dumped

Walk away and never look back

>>17095955

if ur claiming anyone of value isn't single then you arent looking very hard. you cant have that mentality cuz first and foremost, its wrong. yes a lot of people are in relationships. a lot of people arent. if you insist they are you are hoping for that to be the reason you can't get a gf. that being said, here is my general gf getting advice:

advice

>dont just hit on a woman

its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.

give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.

doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.

>>17095963
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.

dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in

so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.

they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.

if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.

you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.

it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.

>>17095963
Yeah but I barely get fucking opportunities to actually strike up conversations with girls that seem single

Like scenarios where me talking to them would make sense. Also I don't go up and instantly say u wun fuk, I try to talk to them for a bit and get a feel for how they are, but once again it's rare.

Me neither

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>>17095953

why cant you sleep?

Read walls of text

Like creepypasta or some shit, I think it's all garbage but it's intriguing enough to keep me reading until I get tired

Oh no, your sister has a fucking boyfriend. The horror!

Grow up OP. You aren't even close to being justified in feeling this way. You can't tell your sister what to do, she's an adult, and she isn't even your daughter, just your fucking sister.

You are justified. But some people are fucking retarded when it comes to relationships. If they break up she'll open her eyes to all the bridges she burned and be better for it. If not, well, I guess that's that

>being this bitter your younger sister is happy in a relationship and you're not

depends. why and how did you two break up?

>>17095842

I mostly focus on living my regular life. if you built your life around your gf its hard i imagine, but i spent more time trying to avoid my relationships so i can focus on the things i actually like to do.

if you find yourself wiht lots of free time its time to pick up a productive hobby of sorts. also asking for extended hang out time with friends can help

>>17095842
Time.

Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world, but it DOES pass.

Immerse yourself in everyday life. Make yourself carry on. One day you'll surprise yourself by realizing you haven't thought about her for hours. Then for days.

Meanwhile, there is some small comfort to take in this - the fact that your heart is broken is proof that you have a heart. That you feel this pain is evidence of the depths of feelings you're capable of. If you ever wondered if you had it in you to really love, you now know.

>>17095792

if you cant leave him, then be up front about it.

explain it and say you want to meet half way. you will 'paly along' but you also want him to appreciate your boundaries. show him this post, proving that you dont want to leave him and thats not what its about. you just want to be comfortable while also making sure he is comfortable.

try to never cancel any solid plans made, but dont be afraid to say 'i need alone time' when he tries to make new plans (spontaneous or otherwise).

i was seeing a guy and he was clingy as fucked. lived right down the street so he wanted to hang out almost every day. i had to tell him we had to limit ourselves to twice a week cuz otherwise id never get anything done, and im a project oritented person.

>>17095803
>i was seeing a guy and he was clingy as fucked. lived right down the street so he wanted to hang out almost every day. i had to tell him we had to limit ourselves to twice a week

Mine fits this as well. If we see each other today adn then tomorrow again, he'll tell me how much he missed me in between.

Did try confronting him and being honest about it and he got sad, like his love wasn't reciprocated. He doesn't react well, makes me feel bad about it...at best he compromised ONE DAY per MONTH when he keeps his hands off of me, lol and not even then is he capable of restraining himself...

He says he'd be more open and understanding of this if we lived together. Like really

>>17095826

not sure what you are asking for then. right now you are saying
>i refuse to break up with him
>he refuses to understand

not much else you can do. either give in or give up. theres no magic third option. you can keep talking and hope he changes but its like you said, people love differently. he cant see it from your way. you cant see it from his.

Never answer messages until a couple of days later. If you agree to meeting them, call them right before the agreed time that you cant make it this time. Repeat and theyll stop contacting you eventually.

>>17095790

the easy way is to just always say 'sorry im busy'. if they call you out on it just say what you're busy with. even if its 'playing xbox tonight' it will tell them that you care more about oyur alone time than you do about them.

they will take the hint. on the off chance they dont they will be the ones escalating into assholery, and you can just use that as a reason to 'end it' on the spot.

>>17095806

in addition to 'sorryi m busy' you can mix that in with progressively fewer responses.

>>17095723
let it go.

>>17095723

>dont know how to tell her she is hot as fuck and out of my league

if she is out of your league why bother telling her? you are insisting she wont be with you so why tel lher this?

that being said,
>how to tell her?

by telling her. sometimes you take them somewhere cool or nice. even just up on a hill to look at clouds or stars or what have you. have a serious talk adn admit your feelings. dont do it in a beta way, by which i mean the wording. act as if you are sure she is interested and arent afraid of rejection

let it go is dick advice

i know i risk the chance of ruining our freindship sometimes i get this vibe like maybe she likes me but i can't tell

Should probably hypothetically kill themselves

>>17095707
water under bridge, man. Live and let live.

>>17095719
Two completely different pieces of advice

Its fine. I was banging an 18 year old at the same age. Good times.

>>17095700

>socially acceptable

OH NOES SOME STRANGER MIGHT ASK YOU YOUR AGES, COUNT THE DIFFERENCE AND THEN SAY THEY DONT APPROVE.

stop worrying about something is socially acceptable if its
1) legal and
2) both parties are consenting and willing

you can do something that is entirely socially acceptable and someone will give you a hard time for it. faggots get shit on every day just for holding hands with a dude, you'll be fine.

>what issues ami likely to face at work or otherwise

depends on what your work policy is. some dont care. some do. if the girl responds negatively you can be seen as an aggressor and chastised or even fired. if shes totes in to you then you dont have to worry until your inevitable break up. if its temporary work on iether side i wouldnt worry about it too much. but if you've been there more than a year and plan to be there for at least one more, you risk having a break up that makes working there not only awkward but dramatic and tahts when a manager gets involved and tends to side with the pretty girl crying unless she did something absolutely batshit crazy .

again, find out what your companies policy is. shes 18 so im guessing you are entry level peoples and there shouldnt be any restrictions.

>>17095700

Don't mix work with fucks.

Yes tell him it hurts. Those damn circumsized mutants

>>17095691
It's not his fault, it's his stupid parent's :( we both agreed that if we have a son someday he will not be cut and break their family tradition. They're not even Jewish, it's so retarded.

>>17095680
>foreskin restoration
Is that a thing that actually exists? Jesus Christ.

Anyway mutilating his penis further probably isn't the answer. Yes talk to him about it. I don't see how lube doesn't help. Maybe try better lube.

Actually the more shitty my life has been, the funnier I feel I am. Better at observational humour and stuff anyway

I just get sarcastic af.

>>17095683
Well, what about as you matured and had to pick up responsibilities or people feel out of your life?

>>17095668
Of course not, what the fuck is wrong with you?

>>17095668
what would happen is he would drug him and fuck him in the ass

>>17095668
OP here let us make this more specific. Say the gay guy can discern between lust and attraction and he knows he is feeling attraction. The other guy also seems to look like he has took notice of him. What is going on and what would happen?

>>17095659
No. Everyone does it. Also weed isn't a choice

Weed is barely degenerate. As the other guy said, everyone does it. Not literally everyone, but fucking loads of people. It's 2016. Middle aged housewives smoke weed and do stoned bible study.

In my, drug using opinion, he real degenerate drugs are hard drugs (opiates/opioids, stimulants, downers, etc.). Weed is just mild, and psychedelics are their own weird thing.

>>17095659
more lives have been ruined by alcohol than mariajuana, yet society says drink up johnny! it's fun!

that being said, if all you do is smoke pot all day and eat cheetos, you're no better than the bum with a cardboard sign on the street corner looking for "bus fare"

>>17095631
Nigger this is /adv/ not /math/

You can look that shit up yourself and use a calculator.

>>17095631
>2 years
>paypal
Why?

>>17095631

if you have any sort of business license is considered a work expense and therefore doesn't factor in with taxes. taxes are for profit.

as for your artist, it depends. most artists are independently contracted and they should fill out a specific form (i forget its name) but essentially it makes them responsible for reporting their earned income. most artists getting paid this small an amount are more comfortable just not reporting it, unless they actively do this for all their money.

talk to your artist and see if he wnats it under the table or not.