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Seriously, I don't wanna become this guy

>>17093391
then don't?
i dont understand why you think it's some unconscious choice you fucking dumbass

my advice is learn to manage your anxiety. consistently remind yourself that college is place that is enjoyable, everyone is in college to better themselves (and the world subsequently). its a place you are able to fuck around and make mistakes and no body is really going to make a big deal. I dont know what your parents were like growing up, but the anxiety mindset is what you should focus on fixing.

oh and there are usually classes the first year that tell you how to do academic research / the teachers also tell you

Again dont worry B+)

You're not at college to get laid.

>>17093356
But anon, I am.

>>17093356
Yeah, you're there for that ”""""""quality""""""" education.

>>17093336
This guy isn't "a homeless man." This guy is a family member. Grow the fuck up.

>>17093337
But he's placing an undue burden on our family, instead of going off to pester someone in his own family. It's fucking bullshit.

>>17093341
>someone in his own family
Your family IS his family.

The only one who is bullshit here is you.

Gaybar/gayclub.

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Craigslist m4m. Depending on how populated the area u live in is u can get it going relatively quickly. From my experiences it's pretty safe and discreet

>>17093340

Tell me about your experiences

if you can get it in writing, or record it, that she is threatening herself with suicide, you can then take it to the police and get her committed. that, and your friends / family testimonial of her stalking you earlier.

godspeed nonner; I couldn't imagine that kind of torture. just don't feel at all guilty; you are NOT responsible for her mental illness and you do NOT owe her anything

>>17093264
You aren't responsible for her if she kills herself. That's pretty common for manipulative people to do that.

Just disappear and do what you did before.

"if" she does kill herself please do not feel responsible, she is literally ruining your life at the point and this will get worse.

Bail now and ditch all of your social media accounts and change your phone number and I'd suggest a restraining order.

Srsly m8 this shit can be dangerous.

people who 'threaten' you with suicide are fucking pathetic and will never go through with it anyway, dump her and stop talking to her this time

call her over a phone card. Acts like a proxy if I'm not mistaken. If she picks up your call just keep her on the phone. If she tell you to fuck off you're a loser and she's going to off herself mane.

>>17093237
Nice cat m9

>She says there's no money for her to see someone and get medicine
Right, she's probably just trying to hit you up for some cash then. Also, it must be horrible living in a third world hellhole where only the rich white people can get medical attention. Perhaps you should move to a civilised country instead.

>>17093315
America and Canada actually. The free health care is bad apparently and I don't really believe her that there's no money

hahaha I stopped playing now once the hats phenomenon took off

But when I played: just be a team player, heal heavies, soldiers and demos.

Go engy and help engies on your team build their gear before round start.

>>17093238
Spy is the best player to start of with right?

>>17093281
Absolutely not. You have to be good and get gud as Spy in order to play Spy correctly. Medic is usually regarded as a good beginner character, but it's been ages since I've played.

A hotel like pic related?

expensive as fuark

>>17093224

why do you want to live in a hotel?

Look for an apartment building with a hotel aesthetic/ view and furnish it accordingly, then hire a maid. Otherwise be rich as fuck because you'll potentially be spending $200 a night depending on how nice the hotel is and the area you want to 'live'. And you probably won't have a full kitchen or other necessary amenities so you're also going to have to eat out most every night.

>>17093209

sit her down after you collect her next rent payment (assuming one exists) and then say that you are giving her the 30 days notice. say that 'by XX law (wherein XX is your state) wherein no contract exists, the landlord can evict as long as there is 30 days notice.'

gauge her reaction from there. can be just a sad but accepting or she could put up a fight. i had one roommate say 'WELLL ILL TRY BUT NO PROMISE'

so i said that he has only 30 days cuz i need to fill his spot and cannot do so at a moments notice. if he does not leave within 30 days he will come home to all his belongings on the curb.

that usually scares them. if she does seem 'crazy' to any degree make sure you find a copy of your lease agreement (or if you are the owner, proof you own the deed to the house) and send her an email also confirming 30 days notice (so that when you show a lawyer, a cop, whatever they will see that you did give her 30 days notice)

>>17093263
She's legit crazy, she thinks/acts like we're in a relationship

it started with her cleaning
then she started offering to get my groceries and other small errands for me

before i knew it she was sleeping on my couch and it went from there

>>17093276

yeah kick her out hard. if she still happens to legally own a place, then congrats, she isnt a tenant, shes a guest, and you can kick her out immediately.

Just keep fucking them until you get good at it or get a girl you don't think is insanely hot who you think will put up with bad sex for a while.

Remember, penis goes in vagina.

It's easy man. Get her whipped up with plenty of foreplay, make her basically beg for it. Then take control and put either her legs over your shoulders and pump away. Or feet on chest to start. Gets in nice and deep. Never fails for me.

I'm seeing tons of red flags. Drop her.

Dump that how she might be cheating on you and "Dave " may be letting you know by doing those things. Its a power play

He is showing you he has taken what was once yours. Fuck that bitch for leading you on and kick Dave's ass for disrespecting you

>>17093188
Ya I work with a guy like that.

Nobody likes him because everything he says is bullshit.

>>17093196
lol
Is he just a bad liar? Or does he say outrageous stuff?

I have a similar issue, not the same but similar. The solution is to basically talk less and develop an interest in something that you can have compelling conversations, you are basically lying to keep people interested in you...try to find a means to keep them actually interested in you.

>>17093074

define 'alone'. im guessing you are edgy and claiming that the universe has magically decided that you will be single, so im going to write out assuming that.

the things you need for a happy life are
>a job you can stand
>'productive' hobbies
>meaningful relationsihps

lets start with
>a job you can stand

not everyone gets their dream jobs and most dream jobs are not what they are cracked up to be. however if work is something you hate or get sad at the thought of, then your job isnt right for you. try to find a career field you can stand.

my best friend loves working at a restaurant cuz its social. he just has to take orders, make small talk, and deliver plates. it keeps him on his feet and burning calories. I cant stand wokring at a restaurant. i enjoy the exercise but after that it makes me feel like im dead inside. I prefer working in a small business cuz i enjoy wearing suits, relaxing, doing math etc.

dont be afraid to try new jobs. it may take up extra time until you find the right one (what iwth working one job and applying for another) but its an important sacrifice to make until you find one that works for you.

>>17093074
>>17093083

>'productive' hobbies

i put productive in quotes cuz the actual definition of productive is hazy here. my advice is generally to take something you enjoy doing in your down time and reverse engineer it. for instance,

>do you like playing video games? learn how to design one
>like reading comics? draw one!
>reading books? write one!
>watching TV? film a web series!
>watching movies? write / produce one!
>sitting in chairs? build one!
>listening to music? learn an instrument!
>like cars? start remodeling them.
>any other subject? consider a podcast! or managing a meetup!

some hobbies can be a little expensive but a LOT of hobbies are getting cheaper and cheaper by the day. even filmmaking is REALLY cheap after the initial investment. i even learned visual effects to make it even easier for me to tell the badass stories i want.

whatever your interest, reverse engineer it. dont be afraid to try multiple things you do not need to have one hobby for the rest of your life or even the rest of your year.

write a book, then a comic, then radio play, then learn to build shit, then make a video game. do anything you want. just make sure its the kind of hobby that has a sort of 'end game' and mile stones.

just 'drawing' doesn't have much reward cuz there isnt much you can do with a drawing when its done except post it. no matter how bad your comic book is some people will want to read it.

most people avoid productive hobbies cuz they have a weird fantasy of only doing this when tehy magically get a huge budget and it becomes their careers. dont bother. just produce something for the fun of it.

>>17093083
This guy nailed it honestly.

But honestly hobbies can do alot to help. I don't have any hobbies as of recently and it can be pretty depressing as I don't really have many friends as well. I spend my time working and attempt to keep myself fed and healthy.

I honestly can't complain though, I am not homeless, and I am relatively healthy aside for some poor nutrition as I can't afford to buy alot of food to sustain my body, but I still can eat at least once a day.

It's not too bad.

when you're fucking your dick gets wet and goes numb and it makes it take longer to cum than you yanking yourself off

having said that, if they are tight you will probably come quick if you've had no drinks/have blown your load all day

>>17093084
haven't blown*

>>17093084
Fucking. Shit.
Any tips on lasting longer?

>inb4 fleshlight

>>17093044
Keep trying until she yells at you.

>>17093044
>>17093239

>unreasonable

dont play dumb anon

>>17093244
Well, I take two perspectives. The one that's about her being interested and then having me giving her the cold shoulder all that time ago, and the one where she's annoyed by the fact I keep asking her out but she's not willing to just say no.